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So, after my last relationship blew up in my face (religion barriers, sigh), I've been a useless slob who sits at his computer all day, doing nothing but losing countless games on ICCup T_T. I'm taking a class on C++ but I'm not really keeping up with it very well, and I'm supposed to be reading about Organic Chemistry but haven't been doing much of that either >_<
So... I feel so empty now. It's been a long time since I was last single for an extended period. Something about not having somebody to always count on makes me emo, and losing games on ICCup doesn't help. I've been healthy recently, going to the climbing gym 3-4 times a week and running often, but that doesn't seem to improve my mood.
Ok... why am I posting this you ask? Well, on Friday I'm going hiking with a female character who I'm kinda interested in (henceforth known as S), but I've only seen her once since I've gotten back from college so I wonder if it would be too forward to ask her out. I want to, but I'm not sure if it's the best idea for getting over my previous relationship. If it does happen we'd have to break up in about 6 weeks when we both head back to college again. Advice needed, and I'll answer any clarifying questions you might have.
Fix me TL.
tl;dr: I feel like crap b/c I broke up with my girlfriend, so should I get a short-term girlfriend before term starts or just deal with it myself?
+ Show Spoiler [pics] +haha no
ok maybe when I figure out what I'm going to do. But my decision shouldn't have anything to do with what she looks like
 
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Nothing gets you over the last one like the next one?
Just ask her out  Life's about exploring, not mulling.
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On July 07 2009 15:27 Chef wrote:Nothing gets you over the last one like the next one? Just eat her out Life's about exploring, not mulling.
fixed
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yeah but there's this 'rebound factor' that I don't quite understand but it's supposed to be bad
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dayv, quit being emo and just bang this chick
Serious advice: It might be nice to have a rebound relationship, but you'd have to be upfront that this relationship is a casual summer thing for funsies. Otherwise she might think it's more serious than it is, and you have to be careful about how serious you make it as well.
You're probably gonna feel like crap for a while. I still do - I'll tell you about what happened with my relationship/aftermath sometime, and it's been more than 6 months. Just focus on what you love, and don't be by yourself. I know getting owned at SC over and over (goddamnit CSL) isn't the funnest thing in the world, but it really helped me last semester in getting on with my life simply because we were playing together with the team. Maybe we should get in contact with people again and start playing together.
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just remember, its all about the tits
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Bosnia-Herzegovina1437 Posts
On July 07 2009 15:28 BloodyC0bbler wrote:Show nested quote +On July 07 2009 15:27 Chef wrote:Nothing gets you over the last one like the next one? Just eat her out Life's about exploring, not mulling. fixed
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You need to put focus on something else.
Make a goal and divert your full attention to it.
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Try not to get too worked up over the break up. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years and it was hard at first, but it gets easier. Just remember you are unique and will have many adventures in the future. Its not the end of the world.
anyway this reality is only an illusion, since we are all one consciousness experiencing this 'holographic' world subjectively. So don't get too worked up, have fun and enjoy this experience
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Mind if I ask you to expand upon the religion barriers that existed with your ex? That sounds like an interesting topic. I find religion to be so weird because in one way it's a total imaginary non-existent thing but it has the power to tear otherwise rational people apart.
Also, of course what she looks like matters, let's be serious now... I'm not sure if it's healthy to feel as though you always need a gf.
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On July 07 2009 15:50 Jonoman92 wrote:
Mind if I ask you to expand upon the religion barriers that existed with your ex? That sounds like an interesting topic. I find religion to be so weird because in one way it's a total imaginary non-existent thing but it has the power to tear otherwise rational people apart.
Also, of course what she looks like matters, let's be serious now... I'm not sure if it's healthy to feel as though you always need a gf.
my experience is when people debate religion on TL, things get ugly.
So I'd much rather stay away from that
yeah I don't think it's healthy either >_<
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United States23849 Posts
It's never too forward to ask a girl out.
But will the relationship be healthy for you? Only you know the answer to that.
Figure out what you want. Be realistic and honest with your self.
You feel bad because you turn your focus to things that make you feel bad. You can't feel bad if you turn your focus to something outside of yourself.
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Generally this is what we call a "hit it and quit it" situation, if you want to get laid but dont feel like emotionally committing to a relationship.
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no real good advice, but i like how you noted that the girl would be henceforth known as S, and then never referred to her as such
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