Ok.. this is a weird story and I've never been in this type of situation before :
Its about 12:04 right now as I'm writing this, I called my friends at 10:00 so I come over & play x-box 360. He says he has to take a shower and he'll call me when hes ready. I was like w/e, I'll just get an early start. Ok, so about now I'm half way there listing to some music from my i-pod, when I get a text saying you can start coming in 10 minutes. I was like " whoa I'm gonna surprise him when I get there " because I'm going to be there really early. Now I just start running and before I know it I'm there in front of his door, I open it up which I thought was weird because he always has it locked so I go in silently because I thought something was goin down lol. Well, I open the door to his room and guess what I fucking find : He is getting pussy from one of my other best friends girl. I was just like " wtf dude, and Hannah, you know what your doin is REALLY fucked up right " They give me some stares, and then my other friends girl was just like " Your not going to tell Ryan, are you? " and I was just like " *sigh* no, no I'm not... " I was just like " ... well I think I'm going to leave now, I've seen enough... "
Ok, now I need TL's opinion what do I do, do I tell one of my best friends that my other best friend was fucking his girl-friend or do I just keep quiet.. I really think this is fucked up because if your going to commit to someone in a relationship you shouldn't be doing this type of shit.
Poll: Should I tell my friend? (Vote): Yay (Vote): Nay
lol its none of your buisness but at the same time who doesnt love drama o.o tell him EDIT: what do you think your friends would do if this happend to you? if they try to pull any guilt traps like oh man were buds you cant do that, then there just gonna make you feel bad for some fucked up shit they did .
On June 26 2009 14:23 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: He's no fucking friend and she is a slut. Tell your friend if you don't your no friend either.
I'm just thinking it's not my problem.
But yeah I think I may tell him, it's really fucked up doing this type of stuff, might as well just dump your other bf because you don't know, he probably doesn't want to fuck something that has other dicks in it daily.
& also, I'm a good friend, I do good friend stuff lol, I'm just thinkin, its not my business.
On June 26 2009 14:23 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: He's no fucking friend and she is a slut. Tell your friend if you don't your no friend either.
I'm just thinking it's not my problem.
But yeah I think I may tell him, it's really fucked up doing this type of stuff, might as well just dump your other bf because you don't know, he probably doesn't want to fuck something that has other dicks in it daily.
& also, I'm a good friend, I do good friend stuff lol, I'm just thinkin, its not my business.
You would honestly let this 'friend' literally fuck over your other friend? Man the standards that qualify one to be a friend really have dropped.
Why would you try to rush to your friend's house when he said he was taking a shower and won't be able to open the door when you got there early? The hunch from out of nowhere doesn't make sense either.
Is it common to open another person's door before knocking?
On June 26 2009 14:27 Kurosaki wrote: Why would you try to rush to your friend's house when he said he was taking a shower and won't be able to open the door when you got there early? The hunch from out of nowhere doesn't make sense either.
Is it common to open another person's door before knocking?
Story sounds made up.
Its not.
edit:
That's just my personality I guess.. I do this a lot of times lol, I like sneakin up on people. & the only reason I opened it is because I suspected something was goin down.
On June 26 2009 14:28 So no fek wrote: Give them a day or two to tell him. If they don't, link him to this blog.
tell ryan to dump the bitch and keep pushing that until he tells u to go to hell (fuck him for not listenin to his best friend =P) and make another friend or he dumps her lol
and if he wants reasons why, just tell him you think shes a whore and you just dont like her because she gives off a very bad vibe, idk, just say anything for this
and if hannah montana and/or ur gf borrowin friend try interrogating you about this just tell them the truth (that u were telling ryan to get rid of the bitch but never told them about the fucking just like you said when u caught them)
or just get new friends and ignore them pretty much lol thats what i would do >.<
You are a wuss if you don't tell your friend. What kind of friend are you if you don't tell him? And they opposite isn't true about telling on your xbox friend since who is he if he is f-ing a friend's gf.
If he is going to believe you, then tell him, if telling him would ruin your friendship, then don't. A lot of times people will refuse to believe they are being cheated on despite massive evidence for it.
Don't think it's not your business. Friendships aren't about obligations, they're about going beyond what is necessary because you want to be there for them.
Example: If your GF was cheating on you, and your friend caught her, would you want your friend to tell you? Of course you would - so do the same for him. If the other two get mad, that's not your fault. Any problems caused were a result of their actions, not your involvement. Don't give them the sanction to victimize you by blaming you. If someone blames you for the mess they caused, they're not worth the friendship anyway. The only thing you did wrong was saying "I won't tell him," but I can't blame you for not wanting to start an argument.
Don't wait and try and convince them to speak up for themselves... you don't know what the girl's actual BF might be doing right now. Say your friend kept something like this from you for a week, and then you found out he knew the whole time. Wouldn't you be a bit disgusted knowing you could have found out earlier and not given the girl any more of your trust and time than necessary?
Just ask yourself "Would would I want me to do if I were in his shoes?" And then man up and do it. Let the assholes lie in the bed they made for themselves.
On June 26 2009 15:44 Jonoman92 wrote: Oh just read his update and I don't live in TX, phew. I mean Hannah is a pretty rare name.
Most Popular Names of the 1990s Male Female Rank Name Number Percent Name Number Percent 1 Michael 462,139 2.2506 Jessica 302,976 1.5434 2 Christopher 361,270 1.7593 Ashley 301,723 1.5371 3 Matthew 351,506 1.7118 Emily 237,157 1.2081 4 Joshua 328,989 1.6021 Sarah 224,032 1.1413 5 Jacob 298,067 1.4515 Samantha 223,935 1.1408 6 Nicholas 275,240 1.3404 Amanda 190,920 0.9726 7 Andrew 272,639 1.3277 Brittany 190,789 0.9719 8 Daniel 271,825 1.3238 Elizabeth 172,425 0.8784 9 Tyler 262,233 1.2770 Taylor 168,987 0.8609 10 Joseph 260,408 1.2682 Megan 160,319 0.8167 11 Brandon 259,321 1.2629 Hannah 158,670 0.8083
On June 26 2009 16:20 MuffiN wrote: What position were they.... Nvm
Clasic is at 7 o' clock, his oblivious friend is at 2, his oblivious friend's girlfriend is at 8 and his SOB friend is at 1.
Battle report: Clasic is playing zerg, he sends his ovie straight to 8. The SOB friend is Terran... he sends a scouting SCV to 8 o' clock immediately.
Oh my, it look like they've started "making an expansion" together.
They're timing it so that an overlord scout won't see them before they finish. But wait! Clasic is hacking, he has overlord speed! He sees the expansion attempt!
I don't know what you're expecting to happen by telling him off the bat, but it's probably not what you want. Try to get the other friend to do it first and if he won't man up, then say something. At least give him a chance to fess up on his own, and don't be the whiny messenger who gets destroyed by both friends.
If you dont tell, when it comes out, your friend is going to find out that his girlfriend was cheating on him with his friend and that another of his friends knew about it but was keeping it a secret.
If you dont tell, youll be pulled down into the shitstorm when it happens.
Not sure if i buy it but grow a spine and tell your friend what happened. If your best friend knew your girlfriend was banging other dudes, wouldn't you want him to tell you so you could move on with your life?
And maybe I didn't understand very clear, he texted you to get there in 10 mins and by the time you were there he was still fucking the girl ? It's either a missunderstanding or your friend is quite an idiot. I guess you should either get your friend to confess or tell your other friend yourself. Would you like not to be told that your girlfriend is a slut ?
tell ur friend but only do it after getting ur other friend (the one who was getting it on) to talk to him w/ u... the only sure way to keep urself totally out of trouble
but if you can't make this happen then just ignore it and if he finds out act oblivious
Realise if you directly intervene, it'll backfire on you. If you tell the boyfriend his girlfriend's been cheating, the girl and the guy she was cheating with will hate you. On the other hand, if you don't tell, you'll get hell once the boyfriend gets to know what happened, and that you knew.
Thing is, this isn't your problem, so you shouldn't have to deal with it - you didn't cheat on any boyfriends or sleep with your pal's girlfriends. Tell the girl to come clean to her boyfriend, and have them work it out. If you go directly to the boyfriend yourself, you'll just be a cunt, but if you keep quiet, you'll be just as bad.
On June 26 2009 16:20 MuffiN wrote: What position were they.... Nvm
Clasic is at 7 o' clock, his oblivious friend is at 2, his oblivious friend's girlfriend is at 8 and his SOB friend is at 1.
Battle report: Clasic is playing zerg, he sends his ovie straight to 8. The SOB friend is Terran... he sends a scouting SCV to 8 o' clock immediately.
Oh my, it look like they've started "making an expansion" together.
They're timing it so that an overlord scout won't see them before they finish. But wait! Clasic is hacking, he has overlord speed! He sees the expansion attempt!
change the OP so that you put a name instead. John was listening to music, etc. Then have one of your friends send a message to "ryan" and tell them to go on TL and to read this blog and ask if it sounds familiar.
I mean if you don't want the "why the fuck didn't you tell me when you knew about it, i thought we were friends" spiel from your friend, and the obvious shit that you are suppose do what is best for your friend, why wouldn't you tell?
I can't believe so many people are telling you to rat out your friend. Even if it is for another friend. My advice to you (based on personal experience mind you): DO NOT GET INVOLVED AT ALL. Act like it didn't happen and if they ever try to bring it up like you knew just deny everything.
CM: You would really deny everything - lie - to your friend? Personally, I would rather have friends would would 'rat me out' than friends who wouldn't. As soon as the right thing to do becomes dependent on if someone's your friend or not, you're liable to get screwed over by the same subjectivity that was convenient to you previously. It's not so bad, really, as long as you're okay taking responsibility for your actions and not placing blame on those who shine a light on them.
I mean if I was looking for the best way to defend against a 5-pool, I can see why you'd come here. But relationship advice? Just why?
I don't mean that in an "you're all nerds with no life that don't know shit about people" way, but come on. All you're gonna get is half-assed advice from people who don't give a flying fuck about your situation because they're half a world away from you and semi-funny flames from people who probably didn't even read the question.
I heard talking to people helps. But what do I know, I'm just a nerd with no life.
Your response should have been " I'm not sure, he is my friend afterall" Tell your friend, and if they ask why you told them even though you "promised" not to tell, direct link them to this thread
On July 04 2009 05:58 CharlieMurphy wrote: I can't believe so many people are telling you to rat out your friend. Even if it is for another friend. My advice to you (based on personal experience mind you): DO NOT GET INVOLVED AT ALL. Act like it didn't happen and if they ever try to bring it up like you knew just deny everything.
After all it is none of your business right?
It absolutely is your business if they didn't even bother to lock the fucking door.
If the topic came up, I wouldn't hesitate to tell what I saw.
Actually, I'd probably tell the cheating guy that I am gonna tell the boyfriend what I saw, unless he does it himself. I might not actually follow through on that threat though. But I absolutely wouldn't hide the truth if asked.
try to force the people who did the wrong to admit it. I personally would have trouble ratting out a good friend even if it was to another good friend.
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