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Yesterday was a totally horrible day for me. I've recieved a series of phonecalls informing me of really terrible things. It resulted in me getting wasted and eventually passing out. Right now I've just come back from the funeral and I don't feel any better 
First I'd like to apologize for my friend who used the fact that I was so drunk and posted a blog on this site using my account (here it is) and I'd like to thank the mods for closing it.
Now back to what exactly happened yesterday, which ensured me that life is not fair, led to emotional breakdown (and usually I'm a pretty stoic guy and don't react to such things emotionally) and heavy drinking later on.
Over the timespan of one hour I've been informed that:
1. My wife's grandfather has died. I didn't know him for long but you seldom meet old people who are so joyful and full of life and I absolutely loved the guy.
2. My friend has died from a disease that wasn't supposed to be lethal (meningitis). A month ago she celebrated her 24th birthday.
3. Another of the friends I know has been diagnosed with uncurable cancer. She is only 19.
4. My friend had a car accident (he was a passenger) and will spend at least 3 months in the hospital before they'll let him out...
Four horrible things to learn in such a short notice has literally make my heart break and my mind go numb
I just wish the days like that won't happen to any of you.
  
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Damn man, thats insane... My hat goes off to you and yours...Honestly these are all pretty terrible..
If I were you, I would definatly knock on wood and invest in a 4 leaf clover... You need it right now.
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That's awful man..
Consider yourself fortunate that you have a (presumably?) happy marriage and in that someone who can help you get through it.
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Sometimes life isnt fair. My sinceres condolences for your loses and i hope you can find solace with the people you love.
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Thanks for all the good words. I think I'm in some kind of emotional shock or something because I still can't believe it all actually happened and whenever I think about it I feel like sulking in the corner and crying This sucks.
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Germany / USA16648 Posts
Sounds bad My condolences, despite how meaningless they might be over the internet.
Anyway, just noticed this
On March 06 2009 01:07 Manit0u wrote:
2. My friend has died from a disease that wasn't supposed to be lethal (meningitis). A month ago she celebrated her 24th birthday.
Define "not supposed to be lethal". At least untreated bacterial meningitis is very often lethal and even when it's treated it has a pretty significant mortality rate (permanent damage of various degrees is not rare either even when treated properly). I had one myself when I was a kid, spent several days in intensive care and another 5 or so weeks in the hospital :<
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Damn... that's just unbelievable, sorry to hear that. Best of luck to you in the future, hope things turn up.
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Northern Ireland22208 Posts
It's bad enough hearing any of those, but four in such quick succession, my condolences go out to you :/
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My year hasn't been all that great either with people dying all around, so I know how you feel
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United States6700 Posts
Aww. Only number 3 happened to me and I feel terrible.
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Oh shit. I'm sorry to hear this.
That list makes my problems seem pretty insignificant. Good luck man.
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Sucks but i dont get why you should be all depressed and drinking about this.
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On March 06 2009 02:47 Exteray wrote:
My condolences. )=
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On March 06 2009 04:03 ambit!ous1 wrote:
That and my best wishes for you. Good luck mate.
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United States24698 Posts
This is a reminder that no matter how bad you have it, somebody always has it worse. Right now just about all of us can realize how insignificant our problems are. Try to take comfort in the knowledge that things will get better. There is no reason to believe that the way you feel right now is the way you will feel for a long time to come.
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That's harsh - sometimes life's a bitch, I guess. My condolences: noone should experience that much pain in such a short span of time.
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On March 06 2009 02:06 Carnac wrote:Sounds bad My condolences, despite how meaningless they might be over the internet. Anyway, just noticed this Show nested quote +On March 06 2009 01:07 Manit0u wrote:
2. My friend has died from a disease that wasn't supposed to be lethal (meningitis). A month ago she celebrated her 24th birthday.
Define "not supposed to be lethal". At least untreated bacterial meningitis is very often lethal and even when it's treated it has a pretty significant mortality rate (permanent damage of various degrees is not rare either even when treated properly). I had one myself when I was a kid, spent several days in intensive care and another 5 or so weeks in the hospital :<
Well, there's really 2/3 kinds of meningitis out there. I'm not a native english speaker so it can be hard to explain but I'll try nonetheless:
1st kind is when you get "after-flu" complications and meningitis is virus based. It's the most rapid/savage type but the most "stable" at the same time, it's easiest to treat. That's the most common type and what I first heard that was the case here. What I know now is that was the next kind.
2/3 is the bacterial/protozoan(?) type. It's not as rapid/visible but if you get it your're more or less screwed. It's quite rare nowadays. (the type you described)
P. S.
How many people you know had some form of meningitis/died of it?
It's 5/1 now for me.
On March 06 2009 03:02 Cloud wrote:
Sucks but i dont get why you should be all depressed and drinking about this.
I'd really like to have fun. I desperately need it right now. But whenever I want to have fun I keep thinking about all this stuff and I just can't get myself to do anything that could entertain me.
My wife completely falling apart about her grandfather and feeling guilty that she didn't visit him more often in the hospital (she visited him for several hours a day except one day when she was ill) and thinking that if she perhaps visited him one more time he would still live etc.
Seriously, I'm not gonna go alcoholic over this, but I've got a bunch of a very good friends (who are also friends of the people mentioned in the OP) and they feel the same. We just get together, drink and share some bad experiences/feelings with each other because it's easier that way. And next week I believe we'll all get back to normal.
P. S.
Please don't give me advice like "please tell your wife that she shouldn't be feeling guilty and all, because she didn't have any influence on that" etc.
I tried it all and I know well enough that she just needs to cry it out and then it's gonna be ok.
Once again thanks for your sympathy.
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This is terrible, I'm so sorry for everyone involved.
Grief is a part of life, I think it's better to try to accept that and let it run it's course. Don't run from it, the pain will fade in time and transform into maturity. Please stay strong for those that need you to be there for them. Be a shoulder to cry on for your wife, be there for your friends, they need your friendship now more than ever.
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