EPTOn December 06 2008 15:29 Raithed wrote:
meet them on iccup? duh!
meet them on iccup? duh!
hahhaa, imagine explaining that one to your parents "so where'd you meet?" "uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh"
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hahhaa, imagine explaining that one to your parents "so where'd you meet?" "uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh" | ||
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SmoKing2012
United States385 Posts
If you need to explicitly say you aren't 'that quiet kid' you probably are, sorry. I'm really not, I just assumed that people would see "somewhat anti-social" and assume I was the kid who never talks and is awkward to be around, which isn't the case. I'm chill hangin w friends male or female, it's just that I'm not the type of kid who can easily start up conversations w strangers.. that's more the part where the awkwardness/timidness creeps in. Joining a frat isn't really an option at this point.. I'm more of a pothead than a drinker anyways. | ||
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United States385 Posts
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CharlieMurphy
United States22895 Posts
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GHOSTCLAW
United States17042 Posts
http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=3398 | ||
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Klockan3
Sweden2866 Posts
On December 06 2008 14:43 CaptainMurphy wrote: go to class: I dunno about you but most classes are tough to meet girls in since the professor is usually just talking the whole time and everyone else is silent. Sometimes if you're in a big lecture hall and you're sitting in the back you can talk to the person next to you, but it's not easy to strike up a conversation with someone you don't know when there isn't a whole lot to talk about since you're both just sititng there bored as shit. You got no breaks? You can always talk about the lecture in the breaks, then ask them what other courses they take etc, and from there it is easy to go just about anywhere without it feeling awkward. | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
Does your university have a bar, that would be a good place. Try bars AROUND your university. | ||
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KlaCkoN
Sweden1661 Posts
I meet alot of people via societies and stuff, as well as just trying to be as open as possible all the time. Whats wrong with sitting down and talking to random people in dining hall? Sitting with brief aquantices and talking to their friends works too. Met my ex by just saying hi and striking random conversation. Recently met a girl who's become quite special by just saying hi as well, I think she was holding the door open for me or whatever. It's all about not beeing too consumed with yourself as you are walking around other people but rather beeing open to the situations that arise. | ||
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SmoKing2012
United States385 Posts
On December 07 2008 00:04 KlaCkoN wrote: I meet alot of people via societies and stuff, as well as just trying to be as open as possible all the time. Whats wrong with sitting down and talking to random people in dining hall? Sitting with brief aquantices and talking to their friends works too. Met my ex by just saying hi and striking random conversation. Recently met a girl who's become quite special by just saying hi as well, I think she was holding the door open for me or whatever. It's all about not beeing too consumed with yourself as you are walking around other people but rather beeing open to the situations that arise. Ya I think I just gotta work on this, and this You got no breaks? You can always talk about the lecture in the breaks, then ask them what other courses they take etc, and from there it is easy to go just about anywhere without it feeling awkward. I'm usually just too timid to break the ice, getting past the barrier of stranger to someone you know and can have casual convos with is the toughest part.. meh. Clubs would probably be a good idea, just gotta find one I'm interested in :/ Maybe I should start an SC club, meet a couple korean girls.. >< | ||
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Klockan3
Sweden2866 Posts
On December 07 2008 04:52 CaptainMurphy wrote: I'm usually just too timid to break the ice, getting past the barrier of stranger to someone you know and can have casual convos with is the toughest part.. meh. You got to move past that or you will not get a girlfriend in a painless amount of time. The first step is to feel that it is natural to talk to them, try to approach them just to talk first rather than trying to hit on them, that way you most likely wont get rejected since just talking is harmless and even if they do it do not hurt as much since you did not really do it to get close to them anyway. After a while everything will feel natural and by that time it is much easier to approach a woman, break the ice and ask her out, since you have already done the approach/break ice before. Edit: Anyhow, women are also just humans after all. | ||
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Durak
Canada3685 Posts
On December 06 2008 15:41 Freaky[x] wrote: go take salsa and meringue classes... it's fun, you get to move around and well obviously you get to meet LOTS and LOTS of hot girls. They should have a beginner class in your university and such... Not true. A lot of girls who do ballroom dancing are ugly. Sure, there are hot girls, but I'd say that it's less than 30% of the dancers. | ||
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SmoKing2012
United States385 Posts
On December 07 2008 10:30 Klockan3 wrote: You got to move past that or you will not get a girlfriend in a painless amount of time. The first step is to feel that it is natural to talk to them, try to approach them just to talk first rather than trying to hit on them, that way you most likely wont get rejected since just talking is harmless and even if they do it do not hurt as much since you did not really do it to get close to them anyway. Thanks man, I know you're right.. I always think that girls would be like 'who is this random guy trying to talk to me" but yea I should be more open to opportunities. From my point of view it's like a whole mindset shift since I'm so used bein how I am. Gotta work on that. | ||
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Vivi57
United States6599 Posts
After the first couple weeks of college, meeting people in general just didn't really happen. Hell, I don't even know everyone on my floor. | ||
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Jonoman92
United States9104 Posts
On December 06 2008 14:55 thedeadhaji wrote: woah i thought you were charlie | ||
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SmoKing2012
United States385 Posts
On December 07 2008 14:21 Vivi57 wrote: I'm kinda noticing the same thing, just in general. After the first couple weeks of college, meeting people in general just didn't really happen. Hell, I don't even know everyone on my floor. Yea it's like you assume it's just gonna happen naturally but it doesn't. Nice to know there are ppl feelin the same way, but ya it sucks :/. Gotta actually work at it.. | ||
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Klockan3
Sweden2866 Posts
On December 08 2008 05:57 CaptainMurphy wrote: Gotta actually work at it.. A lot kinda like quantum physics, it do not just come to you naturally. Actually, women are a lot like quantum physics: No man really understands any of them. They are both all about uncertainty and probabilities. It costs a lot of money to delve deeper into them. To get anywhere the only working approach is to first assume that you don't know anything. Many talks about them but few gets a lot of them. Both are all about curves! | ||
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