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iNcontroL
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On November 07 2008 04:57 Klockan3 wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2008 03:01 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
same actually hehe
I was thinking "Man, guys are fucking creepos."
SHE DANCED WITH EVERYONE IN THAT CLASS.
She probably didn't want to make a fucking love connection in a ballroom class where she has to dance with everyone. I took ballroom dancing 1-3 and I saw so many fucking creepos like you that it made my head spin. You conjured up all these emotions with 0 conversation/connection with her (aside from you getting stiff while dancing with her) and then BAM you happen to be walking out at the same time and you tell her "I like you cuz wee dansed hur hur." That silence? It was uncomfortable. It was gross. If it was too dark for you to see her fucking face then it was even more creepy. You are the reason why I am going to be cleaning my shotgun everytime I meet my future daughter's prospective boyfriends.
stay out of malibu lebowski
PS: "CEREMONIUS HAND WAVE"? WHAT THE FLYING FUCK? Tell me that you wouldn't do the same if you thought you had a chance to do her?
When I think I have a chance to "do" a girl I base it on some kind of indication. He is basing it off of a purely independent feeling he had with a girl in his ballroom dance. Did she instigate the feeling? Absolutely not. He liked the way she fit in his arms.. wow nevermind the cliche of every romance film since 1920 it is also a god damn creepy thing to drop on a girl as you walk out of class.
Have the fucking balls to dance with a pretty girl and have it be just that. If you want to pursue a relationship don't start with "I like you cause we had class together." That is common sense 101. Have a fucking conversation first christ.
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On November 05 2008 19:41 FakeSteve[TPR] wrote:
i mean it definitely sounds like you caught her completely offguard, she had no idea you were interested
i dunno what you expected to accomplish but you made her uncomfortable and basically killed any chance you would have if she got rid of her boyfriend for whatever reason
this is pretty much always a bad idea
I agree with not telling, if the girl is in a relationship. But it is not always possible to keep it to yourself. Sometimes you start to feel like youre going to blow a fuse if you don't. It is hard to keep your cool if you have a crush. (excuse my mediocre English)
If u want something u have to fight for it - don't worry about her boyfriend, she will be delighted to know that she has a choice between u and another guy (who wouldn't be?).
Fighting for her. This isn't the karatekid movie. It doesn't work that way. Not even in a anology/symbolic way. Drop the knight in shinning armour crap.
Delighted to know she has a choice. Only if she is really insecure. They know how to wrap you around their finger. These words maybe intended to encourage but they are not true.
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Listen guys this supposed to be an experience, whether good or bad, right or wrong, fruitful or not, it is a good experience to have, and it's things like this that makes life interesting. I don't particular agree with all the "logical analysis" on this situation, you're not supposed to analyze love. I felt it, how it come to be, who cares. I felt it, so I had to say it because I've never been able to say things like that and it made me feel terrible afterwards. But now that I said it, I'm very happy of what I did.
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Am I trying to aquire her? Would be nice if I do, but I know it's unlikely. But am I fond of her? Yes I am, so I should be honest about it. Cooping feelings inside all the time is not healthy, and I'm confident she's mature enough to handle it.
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
You just said you felt love..not fondness.
Listen either you are young and thus have an excuse to be creepy or you are a creepo.
Stop throwing around the word "love" like you know what that is. Nobody would claim love then fondness with 2 minutes of seperation. Jesus get consistant.
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Does anyone else here not wave to girls unless they wave first?
I usually just do the head nod. Waving is just weird for dudes.
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On November 07 2008 11:21 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
You just said you felt love..not fondness.
Listen either you are young and thus have an excuse to be creepy or you are a creepo.
Stop throwing around the word "love" like you know what that is. Nobody would claim love then fondness with 2 minutes of seperation. Jesus get consistant.
Yawwwwn...
This is not debate here, please keep that to your other threads. Here is I share a story, you hear a story. That's that.
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United States22883 Posts
People who have been in love and have been loved back, and then have had their heart annihilated (as I believe Inc and myself have) are touchy about the word being misused by the likes of Scorpion, etc. when they just feel infatuation.
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I could not for the life of me understand why you did what you did. If you really, really, did like her, you would have just left it as it was: she seemed to be in a (hopefully) healthy and good relationship with her boyfriend and adding yourself into the equation only invites drama.
Sure, she definitely might be mature enough to handle it. But you can't argue that you're placing a stress on her by confessing your feelings. I don't agree with the majority of the posts in this blog: I think that you would have been much more of a man if you decided not to say anything, looked forward, and realized that although you desperately want her to know how you feel, that it would be better for her if you just let it go.
I mean, you can put yourself in her shoes, no? If you were in a good relationship with another girl, and suddenly, this girl that you know briefly from various activities confesses to you, wouldn’t you feel discomfort? How do you respond to this girl, who already knows you have a good thing going with another girl? The relationship has been changed; the two of you can’t just be friends anymore after a confession like that. So what do you do when you see her again?
Like I said, I cannot for the life of me understand why you did what you did.
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wait wtf, youre proposing we ignore logics and reasoning and not analyze things? Thats always bad no matter the context.
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
actually its good when you are basing strong emotions on empty logic.. that way you feel less retarded when you blindly assume it is love and everyone should be applauding your every action consequently.
love isnt some kinda of super fucking pass where you pull it out and announce you will from that point forward behave illogically.
you had no basis with this girl. Dancing in a ballroom class and feeling "right" doesn't constitute love. I wish to God you would have said on that dark (literally) day when you told her you liked her that you would have used the word love. Then she would have REALLY freaked out and you would have been totally "honest" (hard to call it that when you yourself are confused). At least that way you would have learned your fucking lesson.
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"Why are you here then? Isn't it so far to walk from where you live?" She asked me. I cannot dodge, I probably planned this conversation 12321321 times inside my brain, what I should tell her, what information I should get across, and how I might feel, and always sporting an embarrassing smile when I thought of it. There was no smile then, only a self-bemusing grimace and a chuckle, "I suppose, because I want to see you."
I almost cried over here =(
that's soooo sweet, man
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Maybe it was a mistake to be seeing her if there's no real reason to be doing it besides "I likes you LOL what will you do now sense u got a bf?" Maybe that was the mistake, not to decide what to do when you are called on it. By then maybe it's too late. I don't see how honesty is a good thing here. Obviously sometimes you have to not follow through on every attraction or tell people about it.
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Glad you got it off your chest, and props for having the guts to go through with that confrontation.
Without the job, did you have any contact with her? It possibly would have swung another way if you were close enough outside of the job with her as opposed to inside. Her mindset, if not, could have just been that you were a friendly co-worker.
Apart from that, what's done is done, and you got your outcome. No use regretting it from here on out, neglecting what others are saying about you being in the wrong.
Congrats on being a romantic.
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That's really terrible you got fired. I admire your optimistic outlook in this situation, as I always have.
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be happy and learn
things will end up working out just fine
you have the right attitude
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It's never a bad idea to confess your feelings as long as you don't do it at a bad time. What you did was fine, it would've been worse to keep it cooped up for a long time. This should not have too much of a negative effect if she was in a happy relationship with her current guy.
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just an update, 3 years later.
After 3 years, and a great relationship past me (had awesome time while at it, sad it has to end), this is still a great experience I will never forget. The girl in this blog is engaged to her boyfriend, and has remained one of my good friends.
Was just re-reading this entry and man, fun times...
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