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Random thoughts on life, and death

Blogs > SweeTLemonS[TPR]
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SweeTLemonS[TPR]
Profile Blog Joined June 2003
11739 Posts
March 21 2008 05:02 GMT
#1
My dad's friend killed himself by ODing on something. I don't know what he ODed on, the guy that called my dad said Tylenol, but they weren't exactly sure. At any rate, I've been thinking about this stuff for the past hour or so..

I didn't particularly care for this guy, he was a nice man, but I had no particular affection for him; it's so strange, though, to me, the concept of death; it's like I'm unable to fully understand it. Yesterday he was, and today he is not, and that is how we all will be. I've been to, probably, five or six funerals, and seeing the lifeless body is always so odd to me. I remember them as they were--alive--and I don't fully recognize the body that's in the casket. I suppose it's because it's not the body which I get attached to, but the personality that body once carried, and now that personality is no more.

I'm not sad in the sense that I'm going to miss this man, as though he were a big part of my life (not like my grandmother was, or my great-grandmother, both of whom I knew very well, and loved greatly); rather, I'm sad in the sense that he saw life in such a way that he no longer wished to take part in it. I can't comprehend that at all. He must have been rather lonely; and his professional life wasn't what he wanted it to be, I know that much. His mother died recently, and he was either divorced or his wife died. I know he had a daughter, she is not a child anymore, so he didn't really leave anyone behind, in a sense (not like a single father that commits suicide when the kid is like 4). He didn't really have anybody, I guess, and that, in and of itself, is sad. He preferred to spend his days in the dark, and alone. I only wish that he hadn't taken this road, not for himself, but for the people that cared about him. I wish he would have talked to someone, and maybe found a greater purpose in his life. I can only hope that he's happier now, dead, than he was alive.

He was a photographer, mainly a wedding photographer, and a rather good one at that, but most of his customers were cheap, and didn't buy many prints. I don't think he was in massive debt, or anything, but I do think that he probably felt under appreciated for his work. He had a lot of work coming, too, so even if he was struggling a bit, he had nine or ten weddings booked for the future, so things would have begun to look up. It just doesn't make sense to me.

I hardly ever think about death, when I do, it's a fleeting thought, but things like this seem to force one to think of it. I suppose I never really think of it because I live my life so "in the moment." I'm not entirely sure that's the right way to live, not planning at all for the future, but I always have this really bizarre feeling that I'm going to die really young, so I had better enjoy the fruits of life while I'm lucky enough to be here.

As I was thinking about this earlier, I was reminded of "The Death of Ivan Ilych", which I had to read for my English class this semester. I didn't understand the philosophical side of the story until earlier today. I wonder if that's how he felt before he decided to kill himself. He certainly wasn't a young man anymore, he must have been in his sixties, maybe into his seventies; more than likely he was going to be afflicted with the same disease that struck his mother--Parkinson's disease--and he knew this. I wonder how big of a role that played in his decision. But what I really wonder, is what he thought of his life as a whole. On the outside (a not-so-distant outside, but distant enough that I didn't know him on too-personal a level) it seems as though his life was almost without meaning. I hate to say that, but it doesn't seem he accomplished a whole lot in life. Yes, he was an excellent photographer, but he didn't really use his talents in the way they could have been used. He owned his own studio, and for a while made some okay money, I suppose. Times were probably hard recently. He lived his life day by day, and probably never did what he really wanted to do. That's so saddening. I'm still trying to imagine what he must have felt like to be able to actually kill himself--the depression must have been unbearable. I keep thinking of this, but I don't want to comprehend that deep level of sadness that he underwent: no one should have to. It all keeps coming back to the exact same thing, I wish he would have just talked to somebody. And here I sit, in tears for this man I hardly knew, and didn't love, because of how sad his life must have been. I guess I cared for him a bit more than I thought.

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I'm never gonna know you now \ But I'm gonna love you anyhow.
Raithed
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
China7078 Posts
March 21 2008 05:47 GMT
#2
im sorry.
Aurious
Profile Blog Joined April 2006
Canada1772 Posts
March 21 2008 06:37 GMT
#3
Currently I am the same way, my reasoning being that my GF and my daughter are gone and I can't see them. Imagine the pain that a man that loves his daughter to death has no clue of where she is, or can no hold her.

Really depressing, anyways RIP.
o3.power91
Profile Blog Joined November 2007
Bahrain5288 Posts
March 21 2008 07:43 GMT
#4
I'm very sorry
RIP
KrAzYfoOL
Profile Blog Joined September 2005
Australia3037 Posts
Last Edited: 2008-03-21 11:11:07
March 21 2008 11:10 GMT
#5
sorry? didn't you read his post? the loss didn't affect him greatly other than making him contemplate life and the motives behind people choosing to end their lives.
It's better to burn out than to fade away
niteReloaded
Profile Blog Joined February 2007
Croatia5281 Posts
March 21 2008 12:39 GMT
#6
i can totally relate to that...
when people die, i cant seem to process it... I know they are dead, but somehow i feel they're still alive. Something cant just cease to exist like that, at least not in our minds. We keep live memories of people in our heads, we remember them talking, laughing, working etc. death is weird. and our minds even more...
Ack1027
Profile Blog Joined January 2004
United States7873 Posts
March 21 2008 12:52 GMT
#7
This was a good read, thanks for sharing.
suxN
Profile Blog Joined March 2004
Finland1167 Posts
March 21 2008 13:20 GMT
#8
When my brother died it took a while to understand that i wont be able to help him anymore, it took me alot of time to start crying, hours atleast.. I quess the cracking point was when my mother called with broken voice and told me what i allready knew. She tried to tell it as softly as she could, starting with random chatting and then asking me to sit down, after that she broke down totally and father took the phone and told what he had to tell. It was horrible, propably most horrible moments of my life.

Even today i get really emotional when i hear the song that i happened to listen when the call came.
I dont want to be totally out :3
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