some people look down on working co-op universities, but this is a prime situation where they are of great help. in my university you switch between 4 months of full time school to 4 months of full time work with approximately a 1 week break in between terms. no 4 month vacations.
going from university to a full time job resulted in a lower work load so there was no adjustment there. during university i studied or worked for 4.66 years and had virtually ZERO screwing around time.
my biggest adjustment in terms of work load occurred from high school to university. i went from doing virtually nothing except half paying attention during 25 hours per week of classes to a brutally competitive tech school. in high school i probably did 10 hours of real work. in university it was about 60 hours per week of real work. it was rough... but it made a man outta me.
it took me about 8 months to adjust and not be homesick and not miss my mom.
until i was about 24 i could not openly admit to people that i missed my mom when i was 18. Bottling it up of course made my homesick problem even worse while i was going through it... so it prolly would've taken less than 8 months if i'd been more authentic about what i was going through.
On July 07 2015 04:39 MoonfireSpam wrote: That's how work is.
Do a few 60 hour weeks and everything else is easy from then on. Oh yeah and disposable income is the most awesome thing ever.
Hard-countered by kids, though. So scout properly!
You funny! (and I know funny when I see it!) Made me smile, thank you _fool !
I'm sorry, but you made me laugh and so I posted, and so I must elaborate on the subject at hand.
Dear Esoterikk, when you ask: "Do people get over it?" "How?" I am obliged to point out that this feeling you have has stemmed from your present stance. If I may be so bold, it is not the proper question. "Proper" questions would be "what am I doing with my life".. "what do I want to do with my life" and finally "what do I think the lesser of two evil is"?
If you start your introspection (which seems to be what you are doing typing in this blog), be wary of who will come out from it (you will be changed forever). "I hate this job because it is digging a hole for myself" ... "The money is good"
These two statements define you for now, but (no offense meant) you are a kid.
You want to think (like most people, indeed myself included) that you are the most special snowflake, and feel disappointingly cornered and pushed into this previously "depicted" disconcerting and depressing lull.
That is a lie.
You are that special snowflake, you can do better, don't wallow in self pity, the world needs you to rise up and be all you can be. Again, hang in there, and to sum up my advice with an example using this very social platform which we are typing on: Have and make a good tl!
it's honestly a lot like highschool, you'll start to notice different cliques and that kinda stuff and you'll make friends.. work is like 50% of what actually happens when you're at work, from my experience anyways
On July 08 2015 00:10 Endymion wrote: it's honestly a lot like highschool, you'll start to notice different cliques and that kinda stuff and you'll make friends.. work is like 50% of what actually happens when you're at work, from my experience anyways
Sounds like corporate to me
I find manual labor intensive jobs have less "buddy-buddy" time onsite, but a LOT more of it off-site. Office buddies don't usually translate as well after work hours as non-corporate work buddies.
On July 08 2015 00:10 Endymion wrote: it's honestly a lot like highschool, you'll start to notice different cliques and that kinda stuff and you'll make friends.. work is like 50% of what actually happens when you're at work, from my experience anyways
Sounds like corporate to me
I find manual labor intensive jobs have less "buddy-buddy" time onsite, but a LOT more of it off-site. Office buddies don't usually translate as well after work hours as non-corporate work buddies.
yeah, it's a lot like telltale's games where it'll say "so and so will remember that," except in real life you see them getting pissed at you and you just imagine the "your boss will remember that" notification (other than him frowning at you), but you get reminded by it when you get passed up for sick promotions :p
I do construction 10 hours / 4 days a week during the summer for internship(architecture), you just get used to it especially the heat. Don't complain about AC or a fan, just shade is adequate for me to escape the full blast of UV rays. Although I do learn a lot and get more hands-on training than I ever will just learning details in a classroom. One of the things that keeps your mind engaged is interaction between your peers during work, unless you're not allowed... That really sucks
edit: I mean 10 hours a day / 4 days a week, sometimes 5 days a week on Saturday.
I graduated from college with a BS in computer science a little over a year ago now. I got a job as a software engineer at a large DoD contractor near me before graduating and I started working 2 weeks after graduation. It's been quite an adjustment for me, there are a lot of pros and cons transitioning from college to working so I try to enjoy the positive things like the money and independence.
I worked 40/hrs a week during the summers throughout college so working longer hours didn't bother me too much, but I still struggle with the feeling that the time I spend at work is time wasted. In college I was motivated to work hard on my school work because I was learning and I felt like I was working towards improving myself. I always thought that it would only get easier once I was being paid for my hard work, but it didn't really.
Now that I've been at my job for a year my role in the company is growing which makes it feel a little better. Feeling like you are important to the company and that the work you do is important makes it feel more worthwhile, but it still isn't fully satisfying.
Some day I think I would like to be self-employed or work for a small company because the best motivation for me is feeling like I am directly benefiting from my work. But for now I just keep on doing what I'm doing because I am still learning and gaining experience which will only help me in future endeavors.
I think feeling the way you feel is pretty normal and probably just means you aren't really satisfied with the work you're doing. Finding a job that is fulfilling is difficult but not impossible, and I don't think you'd be doing yourself justice to give up on that. In my opinion, "getting used to" working really just means finding a job that is fulfilling, or giving up on trying to find one.
Or you may not give in to the bullshit that is most of the today's world and realize that you don't really need that much money to have a happy life and never ever work 8 hours a day after seeing how absurdly terrible that is.
Something that really helped me was developing a solid "morning routine". For example, I get up at 7.30, showered and ready by 8.10, out of the door by 8.30. Almost like a build order
Getting enough sleep is the hardest thing for me. After being a student, I was used to going to sleep at ~1am or later every night. In a full time job, this isn't sustainable. Even if it feels uncomfortable/boring, going to sleep earlier will make your work day more productive, faster, and BONUS + Show Spoiler +
you'll often have much more energy by the time you finish, meaning you can enjoy your evening
If sleep isn't a problem for you, then I recommend you try Akasha's idea
On July 07 2015 12:00 Akasha wrote: What makes it somewhat easier if your prioritize what your duties are for that day. You will sort of have that structure back and be organized.
Depends if you like what you do, like the people you work with, have enough to do, and aren't super micro managed.
Basically what I'm getting at is the 40 hour part isn't the problem, it's whether you like the way you spend that 40 hours. Being idle all week is even more soul crushing. A job that pays you to be basically idle isn't only a hair better.
Sometimes it takes a bit of effort to be positive about your work and to interact with the people you work with, I think. But it's certainly possible to be stuck in a job you just do to pay the bills even though you hate it.
Try not to be a person who hates work just because it's called 'work' though.
Also, much like gaming, the problem with the 40hour work week is not that its hard, but that it feels unrewarding.
In games people like their hats, and badges, and portraits, etc... yes they also like winning and competition and the "game" itself--but without those fluffy personalization stuff things just become a grind. Its the same with work. Unless you're working towards something specific "I need to save ____ to make a downpayment on the house of my dreams" as opposed to something merely practical "I need to save ____ to make my car payments" there just won't be any passion. And doing something daily you don't have passion for just saps the life out of you.
Like everyone I know is 8 am or earlier. Then different places have different variations on lunch or what is actually expected of you, alternate schedules (9 days/80 hours, 4 days/10 hr/day, etc)
Anyways, as someone whose soul is crushed 9.5 hours/day sitting in a cubicle, you get used to it
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