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Warning: This is mostly a rant/sob story blog because I have some things I really need to get off my chest.
So, where to begin... Well, to start, my girlfriend of 2+ years and I broke up a few days ago. Things just got bad because we both let our jobs stress us out to the point where we ruined our relationship with stupid nothing fights. Problem is, I fucking love her and I don't know how to handle it. She's honestly one of the most caring people I've ever met. Yeah, of course she had some issues, but who doesn't? I can honestly say I've never loved another person more or tried harder to make something work.
Next, I had to move out of our shared apartment because she has a pet cat and the only other place she could go was back to her parents. One of her younger brothers is severely allergic to cats, so her parents told her she'd have to get rid of the cat if she stayed there. I wasn't going to let that happen, so I packed up all my stuff and moved out. Now I'm staying back at my step mother's house (dad is gone for months at a time on business), and it's out on the middle of nowhere (compared to the apartment, which was right in the middle of downtown).
And then... I also have a sweet little kitty named Optimus. I brought him back to my parents house with me, but he just hid for hours and he won't eat anything. He's super stressed because this is all so new for him, so I've decided to take him back to the apartment and let my ex look after him until I find another apartment of my own. It's not what I want, but I know it's what's best for Optimus, and that's what matters most to me. And finally... I can't even play Starcraft because my laptop got broken about a week ago.
So, in the last week, I've lost the love of my life, my home, my computer, and soon, my cat will be gone too (for a while, at least). All in all... I've never felt so empty before. And I don't know how to handle it. I've gone through breakups before and been fine, but Jesus, I never would've imagined that so many huge things could go wrong in such a short amount of time. I just... I feel so fucking lost.
Thanks for reading my rant, yo.
 
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My brother tried to do exactly what your probably gonna and it failed miserably.
My best advice: Don't go all Superman trying to get her back. You have an ace in the hole; Optimus. That means every time she looks at the cat she will in turn think about you (If indirectly). Just give her time to sort things out (you should too) and THEN try to get back together. If you hound her all day every day that you want to get back together that will just push her away, so you can only pursue her once the emotional turmoil has cooled down.
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United States24807 Posts
I feel very bad for you. The emotional trauma associated with losing your computer is known by all, but only a forum like this will truly appreciate your anguish.
One good thing in all this: two of your problems are linked: losing your home just means you have to find a new home, and when you do, you get your cat back.
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United States10890 Posts
The kitten optimus prime will surely secure your destiny in the long run if you let him, as Snypah has suggested.
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Don't get yourself down man, just focus on getting your shit back together. Strive for self improvement and do things that you've always wanted to do but couldn't because you were in a relationship.
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Keep you head up, sir. Strive for improvement and you will find it.
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I wish you the best of luck man, please keep us updated... I hope for good news.
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Having gone through a somewhat similar situation (def not the exactly same) I can only warn you that your natural tendency will probably be to withdraw from things. To stay alone more and to avoid others. Do not trust yourself on this! Sometimes (ok, lots of times) we don't know what's best for us, and we do the opposite of what we should. This is one of those times. Go do things! Don't pretend things don't hurt, and don't try to bury your feelings, but don't wallow in them either. It's okay to feel other things, happier things for a while, the sadness will still be there and you aren't being unfaithful to those feelings by feeling other things for a while. It's okay to talk to other people about what's going on, and it's okay to not want to talk about things, but talk to other people! Just don't isolate yourself.
(This is what I would tell a younger me, hopefully you can do better than I did.)
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