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This is a follow up to my last blog, which you can read here
So, last saturday girl B had a birthday party to go and I stayed at home watching movies and what not. All of sudden, in the middle of night I receive a message from her telling me that she is bored as hell. I offer to go pick her up and have some fun but she declines... says she is with her friends and it would be awkward for them if she leaves in the middle of the party... what a lame party huh?
Then yesterday we talked the whole day about going out, and i just listened her fears, saying I would be there for her, would never do anything she didn't want to. Then we decided to go out.
I picked her up and went to eat something. So I asked her if she wanted to go to my house, she said yes. Getting there we just fool around having fun talking and making jokes, until we're in bed, and then she asks:
- Can I lay here?
- Sure you can. - I replied
The she started taking off her shoes and suddenly she goes:
- Oh no! You can'`t see my foot, it's so ugly!
I leaned over her to see her foot, trying to hold her legs and take her shoes off but she pulled me:
- No! Don't do that, come here!
She pulled me with strength towards herself and then we kissed for the first time. We stayed like this for like.. eternity, it was awesome. Our lips and tongue movements synced perfectly, it was incredible. And then, we had sex. It wasn't perfect, we were nervous. All we've been doing was sexting, we never had seen each other body. It was an innocent yet we enjoyed it so much.
After it, she said she still had fears, not because girl A anymore, but because she had bad experiences with previous relationships. She was afraid of changes in our friendship. I said it was okay. That I wouldn't change. We were both happy, satisfied yet yearning for more.
Now, honestly, I do like her and want to see where this can go... I'm not in love but it is possible that someday I fall in love by her, the problem is that all of my previous relationships ended being troublesome and i don't know how to make this one be a safe and secure thing... any tips?
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Just be yourself. Don't do anything stupid, and it will happen it if does.
There's really not much you can force in love.
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Okay, randomly spotted this and then read your previous blog. Some weird fucking comments on your last blog. Anyway.
You guys seem to enjoy each other and provide something good for each other. If you want it to become more than that but you're not sure how much, just let it play out, you don't have to force anything. You seem to be a nice and genuine person who is willing to accept people's vulnerabilities, and that is probably -really great- for this girl B right now. Her conflict about being friends with girl A is totally understandable. Without pushing too hard about it, and if you agree with this, you should talk to her about how you two being together is not about spiting or harming girl A in any way, it's about you and girl B. It is completely okay for two people who like each other to be together. If girl B is talking to girl A all the time, that might be weird at first but it's something you can get used to. Suggest that A and B talk openly about it so they can move forward without any misunderstandings or bad feelings between them, and continue to be friends.
Okay I guess that was more about last blog. If she had relationship problems before that is also understandable and can be really scary to risk good things you have going. She seems to be capable of telling you what she wants and what she's uncomfortable about, so I would continue to give her reassurance and support as long as that is also what you want. If she needs time and this relationship is important to you, I think it's worth it. If it's not love, that's okay too. Sometimes love can also grow slowly, and it's always worth giving that a chance with good people who make you happy. Or rather I should say, there are different kinds of love and that is okay too, and sometimes it deepens over time.
This is really all about what you and B really want, and about open communication between the necessary parties. You seem to be doing that already. I would just say don't pretend about anything and don't force anything.
p.s. Having a nice kiss is great, good for you!
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On April 29 2014 09:29 kushm4sta wrote:
ugly feet = dealbreaker
i got to look at her feet, its not ugly at all  She just doesn't like them...
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all feet are ugly, she is right.
(some people dont like feets, not even their own ^^)
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Just strive for happiness without hurting anyone. Take a deep breathe. You can do this. You're capable and worthy of love.
Enjoy it.
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On April 29 2014 11:44 MysteryMeat1 wrote:
doesn't matter had sex
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On April 29 2014 17:34 Pandemona wrote:
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On April 29 2014 19:20 MarlieChurphy wrote:Show nested quote +On April 29 2014 17:34 Pandemona wrote:On April 29 2014 11:44 MysteryMeat1 wrote:
doesn't matter had sex
also feet are gross, its just some people have issues with that (and some have certain other issues with feet)
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I don't get why people are so into "doesn't matter, had sex"... the music is cool and all but I've long left behind this thought that if I got to have sex with a girl, everything else was fine... haha
On April 29 2014 08:39 EatThePath wrote:
Okay, randomly spotted this and then read your previous blog. Some weird fucking comments on your last blog. Anyway.
You guys seem to enjoy each other and provide something good for each other. If you want it to become more than that but you're not sure how much, just let it play out, you don't have to force anything. You seem to be a nice and genuine person who is willing to accept people's vulnerabilities, and that is probably -really great- for this girl B right now. Her conflict about being friends with girl A is totally understandable. Without pushing too hard about it, and if you agree with this, you should talk to her about how you two being together is not about spiting or harming girl A in any way, it's about you and girl B. It is completely okay for two people who like each other to be together. If girl B is talking to girl A all the time, that might be weird at first but it's something you can get used to. Suggest that A and B talk openly about it so they can move forward without any misunderstandings or bad feelings between them, and continue to be friends.
Okay I guess that was more about last blog. If she had relationship problems before that is also understandable and can be really scary to risk good things you have going. She seems to be capable of telling you what she wants and what she's uncomfortable about, so I would continue to give her reassurance and support as long as that is also what you want. If she needs time and this relationship is important to you, I think it's worth it. If it's not love, that's okay too. Sometimes love can also grow slowly, and it's always worth giving that a chance with good people who make you happy. Or rather I should say, there are different kinds of love and that is okay too, and sometimes it deepens over time.
This is really all about what you and B really want, and about open communication between the necessary parties. You seem to be doing that already. I would just say don't pretend about anything and don't force anything.
p.s. Having a nice kiss is great, good for you!
Yeah, we talk about everything, sometimes is hard for us to talk about our own feelings when it comes down to "relationship" but we're calm and taking things slowly.
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