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WolfintheSheep
Canada14127 Posts
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Frits
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Anyway good luck being a jerk to people OP, let me know how that works out. | ||
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mAKiTO
Colombia4171 Posts
The topic is about "game" and the art of seduction. so the term nice guy applies to this subject only. Im not advocating to go be a jerk to your mom, brothers or family members or friends. Im talking specifically about behavior with woman you have interest in sleeping with/ dating/ etc only. if you truly just want to be friends with a female, go for it be the nice guy , bff best buddy gay friend etc, but know that wont ever get you laid with said female. and I speak for me mostly, but I think a lot of guys might agree with me , I don't want to just be friends with girls. the long friendships I have had with females, all started with me having somewhat sexual attraction to them, which either went somewhere, or it didn't but in the process the chick was really cool and became a woman bro friend, type of deal | ||
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IronManSC
United States2119 Posts
On November 16 2013 08:04 mAKiTO wrote: Again, people you are taking this out of context. The topic is about "game" and the art of seduction. so the term nice guy applies to this subject only. Im not advocating to go be a jerk to your mom, brothers or family members or friends. Im talking specifically about behavior with woman you have interest in sleeping with/ dating/ etc only. if you truly just want to be friends with a female, go for it be the nice guy , bff best buddy gay friend etc, but know that wont ever get you laid with said female. and I speak for me mostly, but I think a lot of guys might agree with me , I don't want to just be friends with girls. the long friendships I have had with females, all started with me having somewhat sexual attraction to them, which either went somewhere, or it didn't but in the process the chick was really cool and became a woman bro friend, type of deal You became sexually attracted to all the girls you've encountered in a friendship? That's why you don't have ANY lady friends? I understand, as a man, that our minds are sexual and that it's easy to fall into that way of thinking, but have some self-control dude... not every female you meet has to be more than a friend. It sounds like you try and chase every girl you allow in your friend circle. | ||
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mAKiTO
Colombia4171 Posts
Most of the females I have met in the last 2 years, has been because I approached them with the intention of either dating, sleeping with her or something along those lines. not because I was like oh this chick probably has a good personality I would like to be friends with her | ||
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ninazerg
United States7291 Posts
That is all I truly want. Why is this so hard for men to get? | ||
dravernor
Netherlands6190 Posts
On November 16 2013 08:15 mAKiTO wrote: well, mostly Im not really a type of person that goes out of his way to meet new friends. especially females( for just being friends wise). so yeah I guess kinda, Im not really interested in being friends with a chick that's not attracting, unless some different circumstance happens, like co workers where you deal with each other all day, or back in the day with university having to do team projects etc... Most of the females I have met in the last 2 years, has been because I approached them with the intention of either dating, sleeping with her or something along those lines. not because I was like oh this chick probably has a good personality I would like to be friends with her Your honesty is refreshing. I know people like you who wouldn't admit it. | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
On November 16 2013 08:16 ninazerg wrote: I just need to find me a jerk guy who will treat me like shit... but all the guys I keep meeting are just so damn nice, it's disappointing. Come on, grow some balls and call me the c-word or something. Make me pay for dinner. Smash a vase over my head. Lock me out of my own house in the cold as a practical joke. Go all Chris Brown on me if I talk to a guy other than yourself, but be sure to cheat on me at least once a week and say "If you were prettier, I wouldn't have to cheat." That is all I truly want. Why is this so hard for men to get? Go burn in purgatory you dirty catholic! | ||
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NeuroticPsychosis
United States322 Posts
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Autofire2
Pakistan290 Posts
"Nice guys" are full of it. You can be a stand up kind of guy without abasing yourself, without putting someone on a pedestal. Why would anyone like/respect you if you don't like/respect yourself? If you do things like wait for the chick a half hour and she says sorry and you're like oh, don't worry about it, it REEKS of desperation and low self esteem. No one is saying throw a fit over things like that but a frown, a "girl, seriously? Uncool." shows you at least value your time and you're not afraid to show that you don't appreciate being disrespected like that. Just one example. There's a lot of guys out there who are genuinely nice that I know who won't treat women like they're their overlords, and they have much better success with them. | ||
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Chocolate
United States2350 Posts
To be honest OP I agree with you. | ||
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Fumanchu
Canada669 Posts
Next time let's talk about what it means when a girl says, "I really like spending time with you". | ||
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AnachronisticAnarchy
United States2957 Posts
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254 Posts
On November 16 2013 10:10 Fumanchu wrote: Does this really need to be clarified again? There are no new points here, nothing groundbreaking that's been brought to the table. If you've ever had trouble meeting/keeping women, and researched why, you have no doubt come across the "nice guy" tagline before. Yeah, this blog feels like mixed copypasta of all those "'nice guy' is a euphemism for boring" rants that have been around for over a decade now. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
I'm a super nice guy and I haven't had any of the issues that are brought up in this thread. The idea that you should "stop being a nice guy" amuses me. Just be a douche, it ensures you'll catch a douchette. Good work boi you da man. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
I'm a super nice guy and I haven't had any of the issues that are brought up in this thread. The idea that you should "stop being a nice guy" amuses me. Just be a douche, it ensures you'll catch a douchette. Good work boi you da man! Don't stop being nice. You just need to be at least mildly interesting. | ||
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Chocolate
United States2350 Posts
On November 16 2013 12:33 Djzapz wrote: OP was a painful read... I'm a super nice guy and I haven't had any of the issues that are brought up in this thread. The idea that you should "stop being a nice guy" amuses me. Just be a douche, it ensures you'll catch a douchette. Good work boi you da man! Don't stop being nice. You just need to be at least mildly interesting. The problem is one of communication, I think. A "nice guy," the phrase, has come to mean something other than a guy who has a pleasant disposition. There's nothing wrong with being nice, but the guys complaining about being too nice that can't find girls are the topic of discussion here, as far as I can tell. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On November 16 2013 12:58 Chocolate wrote: The problem is one of communication, I think. A "nice guy," the phrase, has come to mean something other than a guy who has a pleasant disposition. There's nothing wrong with being nice, but the guys complaining about being too nice that can't find girls are the topic of discussion here, as far as I can tell. Very meta. | ||
CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
On November 16 2013 12:33 Djzapz wrote: OP was a painful read... I'm a super nice guy and I haven't had any of the issues that are brought up in this thread. The idea that you should "stop being a nice guy" amuses me. Just be a douche, it ensures you'll catch a douchette. Good work boi you da man! Don't stop being nice. You just need to be at least mildly interesting. "Nice Guy" being the stereotype of a nice person who lacks self-confidence, initiative and personal guidelines. They cetainly exist but you can be a nice person and not have any of those traits. | ||
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JieXian
Malaysia4677 Posts
Honestly I think the label for what you're describing should be something along the lines of a "loser" to avoid confusions. On November 16 2013 08:16 ninazerg wrote: I just need to find me a jerk guy who will treat me like shit... but all the guys I keep meeting are just so damn nice, it's disappointing. Come on, grow some balls and call me the c-word or something. Make me pay for dinner. Smash a vase over my head. Lock me out of my own house in the cold as a practical joke. Go all Chris Brown on me if I talk to a guy other than yourself, but be sure to cheat on me at least once a week and say "If you were prettier, I wouldn't have to cheat." That is all I truly want. Why is this so hard for men to get? and hilarious at the same time hahaha made me giggle | ||
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