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Fair enough. I still say though you may have lots of experience, in this case it's a little strange to equalize the two cases - especially considering one is a game. Unless you're going pro, there shouldn't ever be the need to feel insecure about one's gaming reputation. I don't have any idea what's it's like to be a girl gamer - but then again I'm also uncertain of what it means to be an American gamer (too many awful stereotypes) and I don't want to insult or offend you.
Regardless, you shouldn't be surrendering yourself in a game because that is psychologically unhealthy. There shouldn't be any reason that you can play with anyone (no matter how much of a jerk or nice person they are) and take solace in your actions as demonstrative of who you are.
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On October 12 2013 07:05 Rainbow Cuddles wrote:Show nested quote +On October 12 2013 07:02 vlaric wrote:
i don't see how a relationship can be serious if u get insecure over ur boyfriend playing a video game with another person My blog was nothing about him playing with another person? A girl tried using him by faking being so close to him to get boosted.
I guess.... Should still think about what you're typing here.
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On October 12 2013 07:07 Serpest wrote:
Fair enough. I still say though you may have lots of experience, in this case it's a little strange to equalize the two cases - especially considering one is a game. Unless you're going pro, there shouldn't ever be the need to feel insecure about one's gaming reputation.
I played on Ordinance Gaming as a starter. We won 3 Go4LoL's in a row beating TSM, Curse & a few other major teams & placing hiring than C9(They were a new team at the time). More info here. Please don't take this as bragging or anything even close. I realize I'm on Team Liquid. There are people here who far surpass anywhere I can even begin to hope to place. I'm just trying to express to you that my ultimate goal is to compete at whatever level I'm currently at. Even if I were a low-level player, I'd want to compete & do whatever it takes to improve as a player.
I realize I'm not a pro by most peoples definition but I do take competing incredibly serious as it's where I derive most of my fun. The constant pursuit of improvement is what drives me
On October 12 2013 07:07 Serpest wrote:
Regardless, you shouldn't be surrendering yourself in a game because that is psychologically unhealthy. There shouldn't be any reason that you can play with anyone (no matter how much of a jerk or nice person they are) and take solace in your actions as demonstrative of who you are.
TBH I think it's more healthy to be in a situation where I trust someone enough where I can. Before I was pretty pent up all the time in-game because I was really scared I'd have to defend my honor in playing. Most of my friends are Diamond/Challenger, and it kinda sucks because to me, there's always that underlying need to prove to everyone I play with that I can carry my own weight. There's never been that with Andrew. I feel like I can relax & have more fun just playing the game. It's a relief I haven't felt in a very long time. I could be totally wrong on all this though. Could be false feelings, but either way I'm enjoying the feels.
On October 12 2013 07:07 Serpest wrote:
I guess.... Should still think about what you're typing here.
Yeah. I'm not too good at story telling. I felt like if I went too far into that it'd be more about a catty fight with a girl & less about him, which I didn't want it to be. I'll try to make my next blog post more detailed. Appreciate the feedback
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If you're so serious about lol why don't you post in TL LoL GD(General Discussion)? Wait... nvm. Posting there doesn't make you good at LoL.
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looks like LoL is serious business
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I fear for my future kids much more after reading this blog.
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On October 12 2013 07:34 CecilSunkure wrote:
I fear for my future kids much more after reading this blog.
Someone is optimistic ^^
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On October 12 2013 04:46 BisuDagger wrote:"(S)He who cares the least wins." It's great that things are turning positive for you but this is the point where you are walking on thin ice. Being needy or possessive especially in an eRelationship can make things go south very quickly. The best way to know if you have a man you can trust, is by trusting them and if they screw up it wasn't meant to be. No matter how hard you try, you can't prevent something you disagree with from happening by accusing him of a situation he hasn't even partaken in yet. And if he does choose to boost her rank and it truly bothers you afterward then let him know once and never bring it up again. Things will always bother you. But if it's becomes something that constantly hurts your feelings after you mention it once then he's not meant for you. But a guy will respect his girl a 100 times more if she acts like those little things don't bother her. We are all jealous people, but the ones in relationships that are healthy and last are the ones who aren't gaurding the relationship 24/7 to make sure nothing goes wrong. So getting up in that girls face may sound funny but really can be unattractive in the guys eyes. You sound really sweet, so relax and just go with the flow. Everything will work out for your happiness.
I can 100% agree with this advice. I have been in a situation where if I had listened to my instinct on this advice, things would have worked out. Or we'd have broken up sooner and it wouldn't have been painfully drawn out over a year and a half.
Anyway, I guess good luck with your e-relationship and it is nice to hear that you have found happiness. 
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Nothing wrong with enjoying the moment.
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I would stay far far away from e-relationships
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we dont get this shit in dota? do we???
would ladder make us get this shit?
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On October 12 2013 08:39 Ushio wrote:
I would stay far far away from e-relationships
e-relationships = mirage in the desert
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On October 12 2013 10:28 biology]major wrote:Show nested quote +On October 12 2013 08:39 Ushio wrote:
I would stay far far away from e-relationships e-relationships = mirage in the desert
Just to comment on that. There is a guy I work with who dated some girl online for 7 years and she lived 20 hours away. They never met once. She decided halfway through to date another guy who lived an hour away. The coworker said ok cause he "loved" her. So for the last three years he eDated her while she got close to this other guy who knew about her eBF. Well he broke up with her when she decided to buy a car with the guy who lived near her. A week later he got back together with her cause he said "I'm just glad you're happy". A couple months later she got engaged and he finally broke up with her again even though she didn't understand why. They went back and forth like this for several more months before he finally "officially" moved on. I knew it was final cause he took days off from work to stay home and cry.
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this e relationship thing does not sound healthy. Also people involved seem to project a lot of stuff onto the game because its their only interaction.
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On October 12 2013 10:39 LaNague wrote:
this e relationship thing does not sound healthy. Also people involved seem to project a lot of stuff onto the game because its their only interaction.
It isn't healthy, however if you are being responsible with your life outside of that, then it doesn't mean you can't enjoy it while it lasts!
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0/10 WOULD NOT SLAM
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User was warned for this post
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I'd tell you that dating a guy you met on a video game might not be the best idea.. But a real life friend of mine actually met her first boyfriend on league, and they e-dated for like 6 months, before moving in together. They're still together 2 years later
Best of luck.
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I think you should see a therapist.
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im confused, so did Andrew become ur boyfriend or do u have a boyfriend and Andrew is ur LoL partner?
nvm i think i worked it out
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5/5 solely because that jynx pic has put the biggest smile on my face.
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Thanks for sharing. Your comparison to e-sex is pretty interesting. I wonder if things will last after the sunshine and butterfly phase is over... not saying I'm a doubting, though. I actually reconnected through SC2's Facebook friend finder with a fantastic woman I knew way back in the early 2000's during middle/high school. She moved in after four months or so of back and forth banter and we're coming up on our one year mark next week.
Keep us posted.
On October 12 2013 04:46 BisuDagger wrote:"(S)He who cares the least wins." It's great that things are turning positive for you but this is the point where you are walking on thin ice. Being needy or possessive especially in an eRelationship can make things go south very quickly. The best way to know if you have a man you can trust, is by trusting them and if they screw up it wasn't meant to be. No matter how hard you try, you can't prevent something you disagree with from happening by accusing him of a situation he hasn't even partaken in yet. And if he does choose to boost her rank and it truly bothers you afterward then let him know once and never bring it up again. Things will always bother you. But if it's becomes something that constantly hurts your feelings after you mention it once then he's not meant for you. But a guy will respect his girl a 100 times more if she acts like those little things don't bother her. We are all jealous people, but the ones in relationships that are healthy and last are the ones who aren't gaurding the relationship 24/7 to make sure nothing goes wrong. So getting up in that girls face may sound funny but really can be unattractive in the guys eyes. You sound really sweet, so relax and just go with the flow. Everything will work out for your happiness.
This is a 5/5 post. Couldn't have said that better myself.
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