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Losing a friend/realising that I never had one...
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Nesserev
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Harajuku
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Keep in mind that a lot of people on facebook or other social media paint a picture of themselves that may or may not match up with reality. | ||
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JonIrenicus
Italy602 Posts
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HaRuHi
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csikos27
United States135 Posts
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wei2coolman
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BigFan
TLADT24920 Posts
It's also quite possible that she recently broke up with a bf or something. I'm assuming here of course but she wants to be left alone, be by herself etc... Nothing that you did wrong of course but ya, rule of thumb: if you offer someone help and they refuse it after doing it several times, then it's best you leave the person be. Just focus on maintaining and improving the relationship with Eunjung and forget about Yuri. It just wasn't meant to be(as friends). | ||
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guN-viCe
United States687 Posts
Or she's just crazy. That sucks man  | ||
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Japhybaby
Canada301 Posts
"Talk is cheap. Trust is hard to come by" - Gabriel Tosh, Wings of Liberty | ||
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
if you wanted to keep her interest then you needed to appear independent, attractive, cool and manly. not "nice and caring". this is a girl you're talking about. welcome to the real world. | ||
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AnachronisticAnarchy
United States2957 Posts
On September 17 2013 03:37 FFGenerations wrote: classic case of a girl (who probably has enough attention from other people) losing interest in a "nice guy" if you wanted to keep her interest then you needed to appear independent, attractive, cool and manly. not "nice and caring". this is a girl you're talking about. welcome to the real world. Isn't that just crappy advice for getting a girlfriend? I fail to see the relevancy to this blog. | ||
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~ava
Canada378 Posts
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Whiplash
United States2928 Posts
On September 17 2013 05:00 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote: Isn't that just crappy advice for getting a girlfriend? I fail to see the relevancy to this blog. Better that then sounding overly nice and needy | ||
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Aerisky
United States12129 Posts
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NervO
Netherlands511 Posts
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ToD
France222 Posts
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Mongoose
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Provocateur
Sweden1665 Posts
Edit: Judging too much of a person's real life based on facebook information can be really misleading by the way, you only see a fraction of what's actually going on. | ||
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Jerubaal
United States7684 Posts
On September 17 2013 00:31 Nesserev wrote: EDIT: Decided to take this down on request... I think I've hurt someone a lot, which wasn't what I wanted to do... I'm confused. You make a blog about losing a friend and someone- I presume it was the person the blog was written about- asks you to take it down and you comply? | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10343 Posts
On September 17 2013 03:37 FFGenerations wrote: classic case of a girl (who probably has enough attention from other people) losing interest in a "nice guy" if you wanted to keep her interest then you needed to appear independent, attractive, cool and manly. not "nice and caring". this is a girl you're talking about. welcome to the real world. lol k | ||
lichter
1001 YEARS KESPAJAIL22272 Posts
On September 17 2013 11:53 Jerubaal wrote: I'm confused. You make a blog about losing a friend and someone- I presume it was the person the blog was written about- asks you to take it down and you comply? How'd they even know to look for this on TL | ||
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Nesserev
Belgium2760 Posts
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Jan1997
Norway671 Posts
On September 17 2013 03:37 FFGenerations wrote: classic case of a girl (who probably has enough attention from other people) losing interest in a "nice guy" if you wanted to keep her interest then you needed to appear independent, attractive, cool and manly. not "nice and caring". this is a girl you're talking about. welcome to the real world. But if girls don't like guys that are "nice and caring" then how are they supposed to ever get a good relationship with someone if they don't care about them. And don't tell me it's attractive to be a douche, you may manage to get a girl by being arrogant but you can't hold on to her. Atleast i belive that's the case most of the time. | ||
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BigFan
TLADT24920 Posts
On September 17 2013 13:35 Nesserev wrote: There are definitely some reactions here that help me deal with this... which is kinda what I needed, especially since I travelled to Seoul on my own, there aren't many people to talk to here (which is probably also the reason why this struck so much harder than it was supposed to). I never felt angry about it, just, sad and dissapointed for a while... there's nobody to blame in this but me. The longer time goes on, and the longer I think about it, some of the things that you guys have been saying really start to make sense;.. maybe she wasn't as lonely as she said, she probably was doing just fine... urgh, if only I had thought this way earlier... she was probably using facebook as a vent for some of the daily frustrations of life. It was just really hard for me to be rational in this case... and I made some big mistakes... Thanks to those who were supportive... I think that, the better that I understand this whole mess, the faster I'll be able to get over it. ya, it's hard to be rational when you are deep in a situation but that's normal. | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
On September 18 2013 00:15 Jan1997 wrote: But if girls don't like guys that are "nice and caring" then how are they supposed to ever get a good relationship with someone if they don't care about them. And don't tell me it's attractive to be a douche, you may manage to get a girl by being arrogant but you can't hold on to her. Atleast i belive that's the case most of the time. i didnt say its attractive to be a douche. i said he needed to appear independednt, attractive, cool and manly. | ||
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