I think the lesson you can learn from this is to be wary of internet relationships. It's easy to befriend and chat with people online, but whether that person actually wants to be your real life friend outside of social media is another matter entirely.

Keep in mind that a lot of people on facebook or other social media paint a picture of themselves that may or may not match up with reality.

JonIrenicus

Italy602 Posts

September 16 2013 16:07 GMT

--- Nuked ---

HaRuHi

1220 Posts

September 16 2013 16:07 GMT

Seems like you dodged a bullet, Yuri seems like a real drag. Enjoy life, I second that you should not put too much into internet relationships. It is nice to find potential friends, but if you never meet them thats all they are.

csikos27

United States135 Posts

September 16 2013 16:28 GMT

no offense but that friendly relationship feels very forced. why were you so intent on helping someone that is clearly avoiding and ignoring you? it just doesn't bode well. just take a step back and look at it from a viewers perspective. You got a bit attached to someone who doesn't give a damn about you, sounds like a high school crush

wei2coolman

United States60033 Posts

September 16 2013 16:30 GMT

I lol'd. hard.

User was warned for this post

BigFan

TLADT24920 Posts

September 16 2013 16:42 GMT

OP, I feel you on this. You chatted a lot and eventually you got attached to her. You felt that she might need your help and seeing that your friendship was in peril, you decided that you should help her out as best as possible. As mentioned, maybe she painted a different picture of her life to you. Honestly, you tried your best but once she decided not to respond to your messages, you shouldn't have called her. You should've taken that as a sign that she didn't want to discuss things and either continue talking to her through messages like normal or just send a farewell message if you think she doesn't want to be friends.

It's also quite possible that she recently broke up with a bf or something. I'm assuming here of course but she wants to be left alone, be by herself etc... Nothing that you did wrong of course but ya, rule of thumb: if you offer someone help and they refuse it after doing it several times, then it's best you leave the person be. Just focus on maintaining and improving the relationship with Eunjung and forget about Yuri. It just wasn't meant to be(as friends).

guN-viCe

United States687 Posts

September 16 2013 16:58 GMT

Yuri seems quite depressed and probably has social anxiety IMO..

Or she's just crazy.

That sucks man

Japhybaby

Canada301 Posts

September 16 2013 18:13 GMT

What happened to you with Yuri happened to me! It's too easy to be friends with someone on the internet. typing is so easy, you don' thave to be leave your house or inconvenience at all to be friends like that.

"Talk is cheap. Trust is hard to come by" - Gabriel Tosh, Wings of Liberty

FFGenerations

7088 Posts

September 16 2013 18:37 GMT

#10

classic case of a girl (who probably has enough attention from other people) losing interest in a "nice guy"

if you wanted to keep her interest then you needed to appear independent, attractive, cool and manly.

not "nice and caring". this is a girl you're talking about. welcome to the real world.

AnachronisticAnarchy

United States2957 Posts

September 16 2013 20:00 GMT

#11

On September 17 2013 03:37 FFGenerations wrote:
classic case of a girl (who probably has enough attention from other people) losing interest in a "nice guy"

if you wanted to keep her interest then you needed to appear independent, attractive, cool and manly.

not "nice and caring". this is a girl you're talking about. welcome to the real world.

Isn't that just crappy advice for getting a girlfriend? I fail to see the relevancy to this blog.

~ava

Canada378 Posts

September 16 2013 20:00 GMT

#12

wondering if one/both of the girls were conversing with you to improve their english... and then you showed up and they freaked out; they might have just been using you for a specific purpose?

Whiplash

United States2928 Posts

September 16 2013 20:40 GMT

#13

On September 17 2013 05:00 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote:

Show nested quote +

Isn't that just crappy advice for getting a girlfriend? I fail to see the relevancy to this blog.

Better that then sounding overly nice and needy

Aerisky

United States12129 Posts

September 16 2013 20:53 GMT

#14

Well wherever she is, I hope yuri is doing ok. I guess she has some pretty big problems in her life and I hope she'll be able to deal with them despite what I perceive as possibly a propensity for pushing people away :/

NervO

Netherlands511 Posts

September 16 2013 21:31 GMT

#15

I feel very sorry for you , I am speechless o_o

ToD

France222 Posts

September 16 2013 21:57 GMT

#16

typical korean girl behavior :D

Mongoose

United Kingdom190 Posts

September 16 2013 22:11 GMT

#17

korean girls are horrible

Provocateur

Sweden1665 Posts

September 16 2013 22:15 GMT

#18

Seems like she didn't want to keep being friends and having contact anymore but lacked the social courtesy/knowledge of expressing that to you in a normal, reasonable way. Don't beat yourself up about it man, friendships come and go, especially ones over the internet, the truly valuable ones remain. Just focus on the other girl and the good times you had with her instead of being sad about Yuri. I'm sure she'll sort her things out without your help too.
Edit: Judging too much of a person's real life based on facebook information can be really misleading by the way, you only see a fraction of what's actually going on.

Jerubaal

United States7684 Posts

September 17 2013 02:53 GMT

#19

On September 17 2013 00:31 Nesserev wrote:
EDIT: Decided to take this down on request... I think I've hurt someone a lot, which wasn't what I wanted to do...

I'm confused. You make a blog about losing a friend and someone- I presume it was the person the blog was written about- asks you to take it down and you comply?