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Gamegene
United States8308 Posts
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BisuEver
United States247 Posts
It's weird because I actually felt worse when other people felt that way. But I always liked to think about it and just deal with it that way. People are all different I guess but it always used to bother me when people felt bad because of my problems. I always felt better alone. Like that's the only time I really felt better, by myself. And whenever people worried or tried to help me I always felt like I had to worry about that person too and it didn't change it, only I could change it. When I was actually really happy when I dealt with it myself it's really strange. I think because I didn't have to worry about anyone else. I could just focus on what bothered me and fix it myself. Because I felt I could change it in myself when no one else could do anything, but worry about it. But people are different and they respond differently. And I apologize for sending a negative tone. I like being alone and not letting anyone know. It sounds bad but mentally I could always deal with my own things. And I kinda believe in a good cry, do something, or talking to a therapist and not have people deal with something they can't change that just worries them. I always like having a therapist and you can actually work on your problems. Rather than make people scared about you when they can't do anything. That was always something that bothered me, maybe it was the environment I grew up in but I really felt better by myself or talking to one person that was a therapist and was trained to help people cope. And I recommend talking to a therapist if you have these issues. But people are different. But I always liked that way because that person can help you rather than scare people. That's always been my perspective. Also I'm sorry for saying that in such a kind post. | ||
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Good1
Russian Federation138 Posts
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BisuEver
United States247 Posts
On May 22 2013 19:49 Good1 wrote: The thing i dont understand is how you have friends and girlfriends when you are in that state of mind. I've been in a bad state for a long time and although i didnt try to kill myself self pity and hatred were very high. And i didnt really have friends let alone girlfriends because it was so mentally draining for me to meet up with people. When i dropped from uni i basically just sat at home for 3 years. Well, I think at a certain point you just deal with it. And talk to a therapist about it. Friends keep you positive and active, but you don't talk about your marital problems with them. You talk to a counselor or something and that's how I see it. I think it's important to keep that social circle and talk about problems before they become bigger issues. But once they get to that point you should probably see a professional and it depends on your personality. I wouldn't be able to keep the same friendships and talk about suicide all the time. And I've never believed in killing yourself because I have certain moral issues with it so I'm probably not at risk, but I can understand that feeling. I like talking to a therapist and that helps me more. Most of my friends just worry and I don't know what they can do. And I guess it also depends on the issue and if talking about it will help you. I just can't feel better doing that. I just worry about the other person so it just gives me more problems. But I don't think it should get to that point and it's important to understand yourself to identify what will help you. I guess that's more what kind of person are you like then, but I only like bothering a couple of people that I'm close to that I trust because they'll know me and care about me so they can talk to me and I can talk to them. But I hate drawing attention to myself and it's like everyone saying hey, feel better but that's more on the surface level, it doesn't change the issue or how I feel. And I look at it like problems to be solved. Talking about feelings seem like busywork and I'm better dealing with that part on my own. But that's just me because I'm more solution oriented. I wouldn't need anything from anyone else unless they could solve it for me. I'm really good at dealing with my own feelings, I never need help on that, but different people need different things and I always do well on that part. Talking to someone I'm close to privately that understands my issues and I understand them. That usually helps me. And I can talk to them about theirs in return so it's like a trade. That makes me feel better and I think it makes them feel better. I hate when everyone tells me, feel great. Because it just seems like a waste. It doesn't solve the problem and I feel worse for all the effort spent. I'm not good at accepting things from people. I'm sorry if I took over your thread. Also I'm super good at figuring out and fixing stuff about myself on my own. | ||
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KUYZZ
Peru38 Posts
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juliansniff
United States50 Posts
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