On April 23 2013 13:21 beachbeachy wrote:

Obviously she has commitment issues, is probably afraid of being single, and probably got into our relationship for the wrong reasons.

I think you're misunderstanding the difference between commitment issues and wanting the D

WarSame

Canada1950 Posts

April 23 2013 05:05 GMT

#23

On April 23 2013 13:23 hp.Shell wrote:
Didn't read. Dump her.

Edit: Read. Dump her.

KurtistheTurtle

United States1966 Posts

April 23 2013 05:06 GMT

#24

No matter what anybody says, there aren't different "levels" of people - there are just people. And in this case I'd just go for an open relationship.

Really all you can do is make your boundaries clear. And if she crosses them, calmly tell to gtfo.

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and personally, putting myself in the situation, I'd give her kudos for telling me the truth about her past bfs. That's a step in the right direction. However, it would unsettle me so she has to agree to certain shit and constantly tell me the truth or she wouldn't be in my life for very long. fucking own up to and tell her about anything thats eating you inside, but don't create the shit by thinking about it. deal only with what's there

Disregard

China10252 Posts

April 23 2013 05:11 GMT

#25

No progress with her so move on but sounds like you can utilize her when possible.

edit: Possible sounds too passive, situation calls for or something along those lines is a better way of saying it.

MaestroSC

United States2073 Posts

April 23 2013 05:13 GMT

#26

once a cheater always a cheater... seriously ANYONE who dates a girl...who cheated on their BF/GF with you... what do you expect from them in the future...?

people make my head hurt... my little brother is a fool when it comes to women and insists on learning all of the worst lessons to learn...the absolutely hardest way possible.

"her family is fucking crazy but i love her " sry pal... from experience, i promise this cannot work out for you.
3 years later he is walking around pitiful and depressed for 6 months.

"She cheated on her last boyfriend but she says shed never cheat ON me".... Bad idea little bro... dont bother.
6 months later he is depressed for 2 months.

"I dont care if she has gained a lot of weight, its not all about looks" Ur right, but fat chicks have insecurity issues..and will flock to anyone/thing that gives them attention...
2 years later... depressed again...

lol people.../sigh just refuse to see things clearly when sexual organs are involved.

Alryk

United States2718 Posts

April 23 2013 05:13 GMT

#27

I don't think there's anything left for me to say, haha. It's tough, but yeah... dump her.

Kitetsu

73 Posts

April 23 2013 05:14 GMT

#28

5/5 would dump again.

PiGStarcraft

Australia1002 Posts

April 23 2013 05:18 GMT

#29

Don't try to fix her imo usually you can't really change people even when they say they want to change. That's on them, not you. I'd say get out while you can with some feelings intact. Long-distance relationships are always hard but with this lack of trust already its fucked

Leyra

United States1222 Posts

April 23 2013 05:20 GMT

#30

Cheat on her. Then dump her. :D

WombaT

Northern Ireland27238 Posts

April 23 2013 05:20 GMT

#31

On April 23 2013 14:04 Masq wrote:

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I think you're misunderstanding the difference between commitment issues and wanting the D

I think you're misunderstanding there's a difference wanting the D because you're a ~~slut~~ sexually liberated woman, with wanting the D because you have serious self-esteem issues. No idea which is the case here mind, but I've met people from both camps

babylon

8765 Posts

April 23 2013 05:22 GMT

#32

On April 23 2013 14:04 Wombat_NI wrote:
I don't buy 'once a cheater always a cheater' btw, but '12 times a cheater, always a cheater' is a reasonable jump to make

It's like flipping a coin, and having the coin always come up tails.

wongfeihung

United States763 Posts

April 23 2013 05:24 GMT

#33

What's her name and where do you live?
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She probably already cheated on you.

Qwyn

United States2781 Posts

April 23 2013 05:28 GMT

#34

Dump. Dump! DUMP. DUMP!

Dump her. Dump her! DUMP HER. DUMP HER!

felisconcolori

United States6168 Posts

April 23 2013 05:30 GMT

#35

Realize, and ensure that you have fully understood this.

If you stay with her, or try to make it work, she will cheat on you. She will then dump you. If the new guy doesn't work out, she might decide to go back to you, because hey, you already know and tried to work it out.

She may not mean it, doesn't matter. You're being a bit of a doormat, she's going to step all over you, and you are going to be posting a whiny blog later about how she broke your heart, hurt you, or how you're pissed off because she did exactly what you were afraid she was going to do. Help prevent lousy girl blogs, and just dump her ass and move on to someone that doesn't take 4 hours to find out she's fucking someone else.

triangle

United States3803 Posts

April 23 2013 05:31 GMT

#36

On April 23 2013 13:23 hp.Shell wrote:
Didn't read. Dump her.

Edit: Read. Dump her.

If you really care about her, figure out a way for her to talk to a psychiatrist. This is very very obviously a relationship that you should end.

419

Russian Federation3631 Posts

April 23 2013 05:37 GMT

#37

so this is where maury episodes come from

NukeTheStars

United States277 Posts

April 23 2013 05:52 GMT

#38

All of the "dump her" posts may seem harsh (because it's probably not what you want to read), but they are sound advice. Mistrust dooms a relationship. Have some self-respect and do the deed.

yokohama

United States1116 Posts

April 23 2013 06:12 GMT

#39

How did you even consider any other option besides dumping her a possible idea? Dump her, there is no fixing her.