This video goes over a lot of themes you mentioned, and it is a very interesting thing to analyze: how where we are relative to our comfort zone either helps aid or detracts from our happiness.

12:10 - Conservative vs Adventurous Self
15:00 - The Importance of New Experiences, The Dangers of "Falling Asleep"
23:55 - Push the Adventurous Self to the Surface
27:38 - DO. COOL. SHIT. It's worth it.

28:45 - Focus on what you want.

Aerisky

United States12129 Posts

February 10 2013 06:57 GMT

#23

On February 10 2013 11:20 Ilikestarcraft wrote:

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You posted something like this in Haji's other blog post too. What issue do you have with the name? I don't see understand how its offensive.

Hajji is the honorific/title for someone who has completed the journey to Mecca, but yeah I don't find it offensive.

I am curious though--I wonder how he chose that name.

thedeadhaji

39489 Posts

February 10 2013 07:39 GMT

#24

It's from my real name ~_~
The ID was created when I was in 7th grade.

Poor choice IMO.

Aerisky

United States12129 Posts

February 10 2013 08:13 GMT

#25

On February 10 2013 16:39 thedeadhaji wrote:
It's from my real name ~_~
The ID was created when I was in 7th grade.

Poor choice IMO.

Oh whoa really? haha >.<

Dang your name is arabic and as a result your arabic or middle-eastern/muslim, then? I always thought you were super korean for no apparent reason! That's really cool.

llIH

Norway2143 Posts

February 10 2013 18:32 GMT

#26

Are you an introvert? I am. And I felt your story similar to mine.
I feel you have a skepticism towards the majority of people. You mentioned the loudness from clubs and bars. Do you like to stay with few people at a time? Do you work out?

If you are an introvert like me. I can promise you that it is good to socialize. But not necessarily with huge amounts of people. And not always the same people. I spend a lot of time with my family. And I got a girlfriend that I really like to spend time with - and the fun stuff obviously.

Travelling was a great experience for me. Especially going to Asia where everything is totally different. I could recommend that.
If you are not the type of materialistic guy. I can recommend you trying to think of what you want to do in life that satisfy you? I once had a dream to become rich from my medical school admission. Now I have a totally different view on life. Although I am an introvert who do enjoy spending time with "quality" people 2-3 max at a time. I want to spend my life helping people instead of spending my life trying to show people how luxurious I can live.

EDIT: I can really recommend you talking to elders who are 70-80+. They have good experience on what they "should" have done more in their life.

thedeadhaji

39489 Posts

February 11 2013 00:18 GMT

#27

>IllIH

I'm definitely an introvert, though I've learned to activate "socialization mode" when it's called for. It's like the turbo button in NBA Jam though. I only have a limited supply of turbo in me, so I'm selective in choosing social events.

I prefer groups of 4 or fewer. 6 is the max with which I feel a productive conversation can be maintained.

I work out religiously. I used to play team sports for much of my life, but these days I prefer solitary athletic activities.

I have a few groups of close friends with whom I spend time with once or twice a week. Hiking with friends is a weekly activity, though I prefer to stay in the area rather than go on lengthy trips to Yosemite and the like.

Honestly I have nothing to complain about my personal or professional life. I am devoted to my health (diet, exercise, sleep, stress, the whole lot) and am blessed with intelligent, genial, contrarian friends. But this ideal vacuum of a life, seemingly immune from all the troubles and realities of the world, seems wrong in certain ways.

If you are not the type of materialistic guy. I can recommend you trying to think of what you want to do in life that satisfy you?

Good question. I really wish I knew.

P.S. Thank you for the great post.

run.at.me

Australia550 Posts

February 11 2013 02:49 GMT

#28

I strive for my own bubble. Family, friends, consistency. I am no where near as altruistic as I like to think I am, and I have realized this over time.

I'm a very empathetic person, however it just leaves you feeling like shit. The world is a shitty, unfair and cruel place. However, my world doesn't need to be a shitty, unfair, cruel place. Nor does my kids (when I have them) or my family. So, I strive to live a good life, for me and those around me. Anything beyond that feels out of my control.

Granted, there's more that can be done. The bubble provides the best sense of comfort and security. It also faciilitates the highest sense of denial and rationalized selfish-ness.

I wanna help others, but I'm not going to throw my own goals and dreams out of the way to do so.

Even though your post doesn't even mention helping others, I feel that's the origin of your post. Experiencing things outside your bubble for self-enjoyment are just that. These don't add to your sense of 'worth' which is what this is about.

cmgillett

United States335 Posts

February 11 2013 07:02 GMT

#29

it sounds like you've spent a lot of time and effort towards yourself but how about toward others around you? For some, taking care of oneself alone can only do so much in regard to their happiness. I've found some of the best experiences in my life were achieved through helping and taking care of others.

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