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So this is my first blog, and I hope I did everything right. Not sure exactly what I might have done wrong, but hopefully everything works.
I almost wrote a blog for my thousandth post, but I couldn't really think of anything important to blog about. So maybe it's fitting that my first blog post is about something so much more important to me than anything I could have thought of then.
On Monday, a group of friends extremely close to my friend (for easiness call her Sarah) (butvague to me) flipped their car on the way back from a college visit. This happened the week after Sarah went back home for her birthday. She'd spent the weekend home, had a great birthday, and went back to university. The day after she left, they flipped the car. One dead, One in ICU, and 3 others in I don't know how much pain.
I'm not really making much sense but I guess the blog is just a way of me getting out the information, even though it's not coherent. We really aren't that old, and the kid who died wasn't even out of high school. I barely knew the guy, but I know he was one of Sarah's best friends, and she's a wreck. The kid has over a thousand facebook friends, and who knows how many of them he actually knew. But his profile is littered with well-wishers, prayers, thoughts, and tributes of all sorts. The kid was truly a blessed person.
All I know is that Sarah is a wreck, and while I won't really be in contact with many of the people that knew the deceased kid, I can see the effect it has on her and on so many others. I wish that there was something else I could do to help her, but I don't really know if there is much that I can do. Just venting emotions I guess; while it doesn't bother me nearly as much personally, the fact that somebody so young (younger even than me) lost their life is just insane. Nobody should lose their life that young. Maybe it's just an eye-opening thing for me. I'm still young, and I've never had a death of somebody so young hit this close to home.
Anyways, to wrap this up (as confusing as it was), please give a prayer for Roald Credo in the ICU. I don't care if you're christian, islamic, jewish, or any other faith, if you believe in a higher power please send out a prayer of some kind. And if you're atheist or agnostic, please just leave some kind of message, whatever works for you.
Sorry if this didn't make any sense. I'm only indirectly affected by this, and it's still hard to word all of this. I can't imagine what it would be like to have lost somebody so close to me, and I can only pray that I don't have to deal with something like this for a long time.
  
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Hope he rests in peace, and hope that you and Sarah will get through alright.
Sometimes these things do happen and it's no less of a tragedy each and every time 
Praying for all those involved, hope they make it.
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I'm sure he was a great person, and you're right, no one deserves to die that young.
As for your friend who is distraught, I've got one piece of advice: there is NOTHING you can do to make her feel better. The only thing you can do is be there for them if they need you. Everyone goes through their own grief and you need to let them, without interfering. Be there to listen, or to support. Don't try to pointlessly reassure them.
Best of luck to you.
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I was in a similar situation once.
During the 2004(?) tsunami in Asia, my little brothers class mate was there. Everyone was wondering if he was okay. One day my parents got a call from the school saying he, his brother, and dad died in the tsunami.
His mother lived because she didnt go to the beach that day with them due to feeling a bit sick. I saw her a while later when our school gathered to honor their memory. Was pretty powerful. He was a nice kid too. Short and chubby but full of life, 6th grader.
But tbh, completely forgot about it untill I read this blog, even though I even talked to him a few times.
Anyways, take care.
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30,000 people die each year in the US in motor vehicle accidents. In contrast, there are less than 300 per year deaths in afghanistan of US & its allies.
No doubt that this has had an impact on you. It's easy to lose perspective and get derailed by the dramas in life. There are ups & downs forever. The more years you spend here on earth, the more insufferable stuff you go through.
Generally though, once your sleep gets back to normal and your life normalizes as much as it can, then the rest pretty much catches up.
I'm not saying I can possibly understand this tragedy that Sarah is going through but my advice is to not drop out of school or quit your job or turn to drugs/alcohol because those things will only make it all worse.
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On September 26 2012 16:57 kokomojowelieole wrote:
30,000 people die each year in the US in motor vehicle accidents. In contrast, there are less than 300 per year deaths in afghanistan of US & its allies.
No doubt that this has had an impact on you. It's easy to lose perspective and get derailed by the dramas in life. There are ups & downs forever. The more years you spend here on earth, the more insufferable stuff you go through.
Generally though, once your sleep gets back to normal and your life normalizes as much as it can, then the rest pretty much catches up.
I'm not saying I can possibly understand this tragedy that Sarah is going through but my advice is to not drop out of school or quit your job or turn to drugs/alcohol because those things will only make it all worse.
Those statistics... What are they like per 1000 people?
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