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I am back in my dorm by 1:30 A.M. on a Friday night. Some might ask what happened. why i'm not out socializing with everyone right now?
Well I am a very straight forward, no nonsense bullshit kind of person. I get turned off by "immature" people who are still in their high school phase of life, like I know that they will get out of it, but it takes time and until they change, I dont really feel attracted to them.
I don't think having sex is that important of a goal in my life. I am a very intelligent person and I just can't stand people who do not stir me on an intellectual level. I have only found one person like that, but she has a boyfriend that she wants to get married to. I don't really care because I was just so amazed at her level of maturity and being a freshman such as myself I was just happy enough to have met someone like her.
I know that there will definitly be people that agree to be friends with benefits with me at some point in my life so I just don't feel stressed out about this. I am going to be early tonight and am going to get some homework done tomorrow even though I don't have any that is due the following week really. Idk these are just the stuff that is going on through my head and it will be very amusing to me when I look back at a blog post like this to recapture the moment
  
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no offense but you sound like you are pretty socially awkward
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I see you're making daily college blogs 
And yeah, looking back on some of your old blogs can be a good experience.
Your titles are sort of misleading though. I know it's intentional, but still rofl
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Haha nice! Might I reccomend writing in a journal? Feel free to post these here as well, but when you say
Idk these are just the stuff that is going on through my head and it will be very amusing to me when I look back at a blog post like this to recapture the moment it makes me thing a journal might be a good idea for you. I personally am trying to write in mine more.
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On September 01 2012 14:42 P7GAB wrote:
no offense but you sound like you are pretty socially awkward
OFFENSE TAKEN! As a socially awkward college student that is...
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Just play starcraft every friday night while everyone is out wasting their life ^.^
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Nah, I hear ya. I had that phase where I needed to go out every night too. Then I got a steady gf and got lazy, lol.
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I would recommend that you join your school's debate team. Even if you don't enjoy the activity of competitive debating, the people you meet are wonderful. If you hang out with some world class debaters, they have some of the most insightful thoughts. Maybe you'll even meet a nice girl. Good luck in college!
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On September 01 2012 14:52 Shady Sands wrote:
Nah, I hear ya. I had that phase where I needed to go out every night too. Then I got a steady gf and got lazy, lol.
what do you even do, when you go out? I mean what could you do outside that you couldn't do inside?
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off chance that you aren't sarcastic.... socializing with others, human interactions, physical contact, etc. all those things that keep us sane...
You know.... it's nice just talking to someone face to face once in a while...
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The most intelligent are those with perspective
One thing you can´t get without meeting people
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On September 01 2012 15:28 Facultyadjutant wrote:
The most intelligent are those with perspective
One thing you can´t get without meeting people
This is an excellent point.
The OP sounds less like an intelligent person preferring the comforts of his own home, and a LOT more like an arrogant dick trying to justify his social awkwardness by citing his own intelligence, 'no bullshit attitude' (read: lack of tact), and the horribleness of other people.
The only person you're fooling is yourself.
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On September 01 2012 14:37 StateofReverie wrote:
I am back in my dorm by 1:30 A.M. on a Friday night. Some might ask what happened. why i'm not out socializing with everyone right now?
Not really, I spent most of my Friday nights in college playing video games in my dorm. Nothing abnormal about it at all 
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I feel bad for people who don't have a point in their life where they just do dumb stuff with friends, hook up with random girls, and in general be immature, silly, and care-free.
I feel equally bad for people who never outgrow that phase.
The dude posting about perspective has it right, but going through those different phases of life helps shape that perspective as well.
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Why don't you party it up with great people. Party people aren't bad people or dumb people. Find the right people. And stop being a stuck up nerd.
You're not over partying until you've partied hard. Come back when you've been to crazy dressed up parties where 100 percent of the people is on drugs, where girls wear nothing but duct tape to cover their nipples, techno music is banging and everybody is making out with everybody. Come to europe, boy.
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I don't know if it's just me but after a college week on a friday night,going out is a physical impossibility.
I'm not even that dedicated to it or anything,I'm just fucking exhausted after a week of classes and traveling by buss for at least one and a half hour every day.I get home on a friday,blaze up and pass out before midnight rofl.
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As long as you have friends you talk to outside of the internet, I don't think it's a big deal that you don't go partying every weekend.
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You sound like a guy with a really narrow perspective on life. GLHF.
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You should put previous blog entry links into new ones if you want to blog often.
Also, i responded on your last blog and the point I was trying to say you shouldnt make the wrong turns like I did. you are no better than other people yet. You might think so but in your time "not partying" its not like your making yourself useful as well. Your just making excuses for being socially awkward.
Fresh college year is best way to start over, meet new ppl, and enjoy new things. This is the opportunity to bang chicks and enjoy alcohol. If your done with school you need to get serious, but now you can do what you want. Like someone above said, ppl that never go out are kind of sad, nd ppl that are stuck on that phase are even more sad. Party gets real around your age, anything before is immature teen gathering.
Either go out and stop making excuses for being socially awkward OR what I did, make yourself better than others. If you cant make 100k $ each year while doing school or some other goal, then your no better than others
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People that go out and socialize often (more specifically, the ones that need it), are people very uncomfortable in their own skin. They need to be part of group settings to seem like their lives matter, have those friends they can always do stuff with, and have stories to tell. The activities and the attire for such outings also lends us information into what this person has on their mind. (I understand this is a generic label, but it's more apt to fit the habitual party-goer)
I was fortunate (or unfortunate) enough to go through an intense party and outgoing phase in high school, such that I've been over that kind of stuff for years. The scene is overplayed, the bars boring, and the people that do them often are the ones I'd rather not spend my time with anyways. That's not to say those of us that share my view or have similar experiences can't go out every once in awhile to unwind with friends or just relax.
It will more come to a point where you really start to determine your values that you'll be able to act with more certainty and enjoy activities.
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Why do these people insist on annoying me by not living exactly as I want them to!!!
Seriously, either you party or you don't, that is your choice, but what is this ridiculous need to feel superior for not partying? People aren't "partying their life away."
Nerd, there really isn't any word more suitable. Sitting in a corner, sulking at all the people having fun, angry that they aren't having fun the "proper" way.
Feel free to feel superior to everyone around you, but if you don't have anything to show for it, it's just sad.
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On September 01 2012 16:22 TheKwas wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2012 15:28 Facultyadjutant wrote:
The most intelligent are those with perspective
One thing you can´t get without meeting people This is an excellent point. The OP sounds less like an intelligent person preferring the comforts of his own home, and a LOT more like an arrogant dick trying to justify his social awkwardness by citing his own intelligence, 'no bullshit attitude' (read: lack of tact), and the horribleness of other people. The only person you're fooling is yourself.
I completely agree 100% about perspective
On September 01 2012 18:43 Tommie wrote:
Why don't you party it up with great people. Party people aren't bad people or dumb people. Find the right people. And stop being a stuck up nerd.
You're not over partying until you've partied hard. Come back when you've been to crazy dressed up parties where 100 percent of the people is on drugs, where girls wear nothing but duct tape to cover their nipples, techno music is banging and everybody is making out with everybody. Come to europe, boy.
On September 01 2012 20:01 ruiyang wrote:
You should put previous blog entry links into new ones if you want to blog often.
Also, i responded on your last blog and the point I was trying to say you shouldnt make the wrong turns like I did. you are no better than other people yet. You might think so but in your time "not partying" its not like your making yourself useful as well. Your just making excuses for being socially awkward.
Fresh college year is best way to start over, meet new ppl, and enjoy new things. This is the opportunity to bang chicks and enjoy alcohol. If your done with school you need to get serious, but now you can do what you want. Like someone above said, ppl that never go out are kind of sad, nd ppl that are stuck on that phase are even more sad. Party gets real around your age, anything before is immature teen gathering.
Either go out and stop making excuses for being socially awkward OR what I did, make yourself better than others. If you cant make 100k $ each year while doing school or some other goal, then your no better than others
On September 01 2012 20:35 divito wrote:
People that go out and socialize often (more specifically, the ones that need it), are people very uncomfortable in their own skin. They need to be part of group settings to seem like their lives matter, have those friends they can always do stuff with, and have stories to tell. The activities and the attire for such outings also lends us information into what this person has on their mind. (I understand this is a generic label, but it's more apt to fit the habitual party-goer)
I was fortunate (or unfortunate) enough to go through an intense party and outgoing phase in high school, such that I've been over that kind of stuff for years. The scene is overplayed, the bars boring, and the people that do them often are the ones I'd rather not spend my time with anyways. That's not to say those of us that share my view or have similar experiences can't go out every once in awhile to unwind with friends or just relax.
It will more come to a point where you really start to determine your values that you'll be able to act with more certainty and enjoy activities.
Hey Id just like to clear up that I am NOT a socially akward person. I am a socially SELECTIVE person. Whats the difference? Well I mean like I call it being pretty social when I am out all day talking to different people. I haven't really "settled down yet" on a group of people that I really like and can make my close friends. Instead I just weave in and out of the many social circles in college.
Friday night, I smoked quite a few blunts and a couple bowls with about 10 different people and then went to a party for a couple hours. I chatted, made friends with new people, and then left because I know I had my limit on drinking. I honestly don't consider myself a socially akward person and to read these blogs thinking that I am probably doesn't put the right perspective to what I am saying.
Yesterday, one of the football guys kept trying to set me up with a bunch of freshman. It got to the point where after the third time, I just had to sit down and say I appreciate it mate, but I just am not into these froshers.
The part i bolded is what I agree with completely and was trying to say I guess. Last night was great, I made new friends and connections which will probably help when i go out tonight. My ultimate goal here is to find new people and be able to go to different parties across campus to look for girls that I want to fuck, which most likely arent freshmen.
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On September 01 2012 20:35 divito wrote:
People that go out and socialize often (more specifically, the ones that need it), are people very uncomfortable in their own skin. They need to be part of group settings to seem like their lives matter, have those friends they can always do stuff with, and have stories to tell. The activities and the attire for such outings also lends us information into what this person has on their mind. (I understand this is a generic label, but it's more apt to fit the habitual party-goer)
I was fortunate (or unfortunate) enough to go through an intense party and outgoing phase in high school, such that I've been over that kind of stuff for years. The scene is overplayed, the bars boring, and the people that do them often are the ones I'd rather not spend my time with anyways. That's not to say those of us that share my view or have similar experiences can't go out every once in awhile to unwind with friends or just relax.
It will more come to a point where you really start to determine your values that you'll be able to act with more certainty and enjoy activities.
while this may be true, the opposite is also true for very many people. Strictly talking from partying perspective here. Most people are "expected" to party it up in college, but there are those people who party it up and make alcohol references to gain social approval from others (quite opposite from being comfortable in your own skin). I'm talking about people who always talk about needing to get hammered, shit-faced, etc. And the usual "omg i need some alcohol" or "I was so fucked up last night!".
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You shouldn't hate on freshman so much. The older you get, the more you will have wished you had banged a bunch of them.
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On September 01 2012 22:30 rogzardo wrote:
You shouldn't hate on freshman so much. The older you get, the more you will have wished you had banged a bunch of them.
I concur. They are just really prude in general. Im not even talking from a sexual perspective but just as a person what the fuck is your problem if you dont even want to be friendly and have a normal conversation? Hopefully that will go away as they get more used to college though
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On September 01 2012 15:28 Facultyadjutant wrote:
The most intelligent are those with perspective
One thing you can´t get without meeting people
I'm sure the guy meets people in his classes or around the campus or whatever , give him a break.
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It's one thing to prefer to stay at home, I personally never really got into partying so much, I tried it but found it to be rather boring after a short while.
It's another thing put everyone below you just because they live normal lives.
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On September 01 2012 14:37 StateofReverie wrote:I don't think having sex is that important of a goal in my life. I am a very intelligent person and I just can't stand people who do not stir me on an intellectual level.
You sound so incredibly full of yourself. The irony here is that most really intelligent people don't have to proclaim they are.
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On September 01 2012 14:58 Chairman Ray wrote:
I would recommend that you join your school's debate team. Even if you don't enjoy the activity of competitive debating, the people you meet are wonderful. If you hang out with some world class debaters, they have some of the most insightful thoughts. Maybe you'll even meet a nice girl. Good luck in college!
I wish there was a debate team at the college I went to. We didn't even have a football team.
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On September 02 2012 01:49 acrimoneyius wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2012 14:37 StateofReverie wrote:I don't think having sex is that important of a goal in my life. I am a very intelligent person and I just can't stand people who do not stir me on an intellectual level. You sound so incredibly full of yourself. The irony here is that most really intelligent people don't have to proclaim they are.
I say that to give context to who I think of myself as. You can choose to interpret what I say as full of shit or you can look at in a more positive light. I dont go around in real life saying that I am smart and tell people how smart I am. However, since this is in faft the internet I thought I would give a little bit of common courtesy as to describing myself as intelligent.
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On September 01 2012 22:56 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2012 22:30 rogzardo wrote:
You shouldn't hate on freshman so much. The older you get, the more you will have wished you had banged a bunch of them. I concur. They are just really prude in general. Im not even talking from a sexual perspective but just as a person what the fuck is your problem if you dont even want to be friendly and have a normal conversation? Hopefully that will go away as they get more used to college though
Your average college freshman is definitely not a prude. The problem is probably something else...
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On September 02 2012 02:00 AirbladeOrange wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2012 14:58 Chairman Ray wrote:
I would recommend that you join your school's debate team. Even if you don't enjoy the activity of competitive debating, the people you meet are wonderful. If you hang out with some world class debaters, they have some of the most insightful thoughts. Maybe you'll even meet a nice girl. Good luck in college! I wish there was a debate team at the college I went to. We didn't even have a football team.
I cannot even begin to describe how upset I was to learn that the standard college debate form at my alma mater was most akin to policy debate. That motor mouthed bs is part of the reason why intelligent political discourse suffers in the US. In other words, the debate team may provide little or no respite.
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I will have to see if there is a debate team. I think that would be a great ec thing I could do.
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I would say I am quite similar to you, I don't have much friends but those select few who I am acquaintances with I am comfortable talking about a diverse range of topics. I prefer to stay indoors and watch a good movie, read a good book, play video games, or do anything that stimulates me intellectually. Partying or socializing is basically a waste of time for me; I do not avoid social interaction per se but I simply derive no satisfaction, personal or emotional, from such activities. I would much rather strive to improve myself in some way as opposed to killing brain cells by drinking, partying, and such. Also, surrounding yourself with people who have similar interests, perspectives, and dreams as yourself is the best thing you can possibly do. Not only will you have fun but you will feel like you belong by immersing yourself in an environment of your choosing. That I believe is the fundamental human desire: to seek meaningful companionship that stimulates you to grow and develop and be the best person you can possibly be. I have found that trying to party or attempting to be more social is not only an awkward experience for me, but also for those who encounter my behavior. You must first realize who you are, and never try to change yourself to please others or "fit in". If you find yourself in a place you don't want to be, change your surroundings, don't change yourself. Because none of us are alone, and whenever we might feel that we are, we must remind ourselves that perhaps we are simply looking in all the wrong places.
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I deal with people at college, when I get home I want to chill and play some danm Starcraft......nothing anti-social about it.
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On September 02 2012 03:14 EffervescentAureola wrote:
I would say I am quite similar to you, I don't have much friends but those select few who I am acquaintances with I am comfortable talking about a diverse range of topics. I prefer to stay indoors and watch a good movie, read a good book, play video games, or do anything that stimulates me intellectually. Partying or socializing is basically a waste of time for me; I do not avoid social interaction per se but I simply derive no satisfaction, personal or emotional, from such activities. I would much rather strive to improve myself in some way as opposed to killing brain cells by drinking, partying, and such. Also, surrounding yourself with people who have similar interests, perspectives, and dreams as yourself is the best thing you can possibly do. Not only will you have fun but you will feel like you belong by immersing yourself in an environment of your choosing. That I believe is the fundamental human desire: to seek meaningful companionship that stimulates you to grow and develop and be the best person you can possibly be. I have found that trying to party or attempting to be more social is not only an awkward experience for me, but also for those who encounter my behavior. You must first realize who you are, and never try to change yourself to please others or "fit in". If you find yourself in a place you don't want to be, change your surroundings, don't change yourself. Because none of us are alone, and whenever we might feel that we are, we must remind ourselves that perhaps we are simply looking in all the wrong places.
I socialize because I like to meet new people. I also socialize to network and and be able to be exposed to more peopoe to meet so I can meet new people
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I think it's something you have to grow into. If you were never into parties in high school you won't be able to enjoy them in college.
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On September 02 2012 02:40 rogzardo wrote:Show nested quote +On September 01 2012 22:56 StateofReverie wrote:On September 01 2012 22:30 rogzardo wrote:
You shouldn't hate on freshman so much. The older you get, the more you will have wished you had banged a bunch of them. I concur. They are just really prude in general. Im not even talking from a sexual perspective but just as a person what the fuck is your problem if you dont even want to be friendly and have a normal conversation? Hopefully that will go away as they get more used to college though Your average college freshman is definitely not a prude. The problem is probably something else...
My guess is that that was a misusage and me meant to write crude or something.
Well cheers and enjoy college. I know what you're saying when you're assert that most freshman are not intellectual, but fwiw you're a freshman as well. Hanging out with your peers is a good thing, and I do empathize with your feeling that said peers sometimes can be stupid, but at the same time you should still try to hang out with them and build a relationship.
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this was a terrible girl blog. 1/5 not entertaining no details.
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What should I do if I'm socially awkward and simply go against what my mind knows is the right thing to do in social situations?
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