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Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States6046 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-01-25 00:26:46
July 30 2012 07:14 GMT
#1
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prettyhatemachine
Profile Joined March 2012
Austria27 Posts
July 30 2012 07:24 GMT
#2
Personally I'd think your brother knew the way your dad was feeling about dropping out of college. He seems like a confident man who achieved a lot and is quite stable. I would tell him when you're comfortable with it since it will lead to a discussion about this (at least I think so). Maybe your brother and you will talk about college and then you can ask what he thought of your dads opinion about it.
sob3k
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
United States7572 Posts
July 30 2012 07:26 GMT
#3
What on earth do any of you have to gain by telling him?
In Hungry Hungry Hippos there are no such constraints—one can constantly attempt to collect marbles with one’s hippo, limited only by one’s hippo-levering capabilities.
Whole
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States6046 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-01-25 00:53:10
July 30 2012 07:46 GMT
#4
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tenacity
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
1587 Posts
July 30 2012 07:47 GMT
#5
Don't tell him.
It does not need to be fun to be fun.
ArcticMuse
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
Australia93 Posts
July 30 2012 08:13 GMT
#6
If your Dad wanted to let your brother know he was really THAT disappointed he would have told him himself, so why should you? Only going to make the mourning process that much harder. At least before my Dad passed away he was able to tell say how proud of me he was, and that's a great comfort - why would you want to take any semblance of that away from your brother?
Cyber_Cheese
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Australia3615 Posts
July 30 2012 08:16 GMT
#7
Tell him, but leave it for sometime you're discussing your father, bring it up like a joke.
The moment you lose confidence in yourself, is the moment the world loses it's confidence in you.
thoraxe
Profile Blog Joined March 2007
United States1449 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-07-30 08:33:04
July 30 2012 08:29 GMT
#8
Your father told you and did not explicitly tell your brother for a reason, if you tell him, you'd be going against that. It's not something that will help your brother, it might however, affect him negatively, so don't tell him. The only thing you can do is perhap question your brother on whether or not he would ever consider returning to school. Be Good Guy Greg and nudge him in the way that your father would have wanted without delivering the somber message, however, don't force him to go back to college, that is his decision.
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Bagration
Profile Blog Joined October 2011
United States18282 Posts
July 30 2012 08:53 GMT
#9
First off, I'm an anonymous stranger on the Internet to you, so you shouldn't take my advice too heavily.

But back on topic: Your dad might not forgive your brother for dropping out, but that doesn't mean that he hates the guy, but simply that he fundamentally disagreed with your brother's decision to drop out. But I personally don't think that there is any need to tell your brother something like that. You say that your dad and your brother were on good terms, and that is already a lot to be thankful for. It is possible to have a strong positive relationship while having fundamental disagreements.

I don't know your family dynamics as well as you do, so you make the decision. But don't like a comment like that bother you when you know that the relationship between your brother and dad is healthy. No sense in potentially ruining a good thing.
Team Slayers, Axiom-Acer and Vile forever
Tobberoth
Profile Joined August 2010
Sweden6375 Posts
July 30 2012 09:02 GMT
#10
If saying something will have no positive consequence and some negative consequence, it's better not to say it. There's nothing to gain from it, other than some abstract idea that having the truth known is beneficial. Well, it isn't.
ruiyang
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
252 Posts
July 30 2012 11:22 GMT
#11
SeriOusly. Maybe your just a bit confused after losing something so precious. But why would you consider telling your brother something like that!? Ofcourse your brother already knows that his dad is disappointed in his choice. I dropped out of school and my parents remind me all the time to not fail this time by making me work 70hors a week. Ofcourse i know they are disappointed by the fact i never gotten a real degree. But a degree is not everything. Anyway, if for some reason they would suddenly die and someone told me they are disappointed of me, i would fkn smash all the teeth out of that persons mouth.

I hope that makes some sense.
Watermelonjuice
Profile Joined February 2012
Canada14 Posts
July 30 2012 11:39 GMT
#12
You shouldn't tell him. However, to put yourself more at ease maybe you should ask your brother if he knows why your dad was so disappointed to that extent? It seems a lot of investment was put into the simple title or act of getting a college degree, despite your brother being an accomplished man in his own right.

On another note, how did you feel when you first learned of his death? And how did you come to accept it, if you did?
Whole
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States6046 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-01-25 00:53:54
July 30 2012 12:01 GMT
#13
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MrASAP
Profile Joined May 2011
United Kingdom63 Posts
July 30 2012 12:55 GMT
#14
Dont tell him. the passing of time is a great healer, your dad my have felt that at the time, but who knows how he would have felt 10-15 years down the line.
Whole
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States6046 Posts
July 30 2012 12:58 GMT
#15
Oh thanks for the responses everyone. I was feeling kind of down last night, and then that thought (my dad's statement) just entered my head, and I had to let it out to someone. Even if it would be a good idea to tell my brother, I'm not quite sure I'd have the courage to.
Denzil
Profile Joined August 2010
United Kingdom4193 Posts
July 30 2012 14:21 GMT
#16
You said your brother spent time with him before he died, any idea if your dad straight up told him that then?

Otherwise I think it'd be better to just take it to the grave, depends on what you want to accomplish from telling him, do you want him to go back and finish college?
Anna: So Sen how will you prepare for your revenge v MC? Sen: With a smile.
MapleFractal
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Canada307 Posts
July 30 2012 16:53 GMT
#17
Think its better left unsaid, if your dad wanted him to know he probably does. And if that's the case your gonna do a lot of harm by just going up to him and saying that.
its called a Tuque damnit!
Whole
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States6046 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-01-25 00:52:23
July 30 2012 17:07 GMT
#18
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serum321
Profile Joined January 2012
United States606 Posts
July 30 2012 17:29 GMT
#19
I wouldn't tell him because although your father said that at that time he still certainly could have changed his mind in the future.

My older brother went out of state to college all on my parent's dime and flunked out from not going to class. At the time it caused a big rift in the family, but fifteen years later you come to realize thats not really important.
MrRicewife
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
Canada515 Posts
July 30 2012 17:41 GMT
#20
Are you evil? Why in the fuck would you tell him that?

This is how it will go if you're too blind to see that far ahead:

Hey bro, dad is dead right... so... just before he died he said he will never forgive you..... Hey, still coming over next weekend for the olypmics right?

DERP. Come on man! Your bro doesn't need that shit. Give me a break.
So? My dad can beat up your dad. - Jesus
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