EPTA Dark Secret (and AMA) - Page 2
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Rice
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intrigue
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brian
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Vega62a
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Is it because you think your brother would benefit from knowing it? Or is it because it's a secret that hurts to keep? My dad passed about 6 months ago, and I've found that anything left undone, unsaid, or unfixed since then is best just left. My mother told me some really shitty things he did to her (I would never have guessed about him - he was a really good guy when I knew him) about four months after he passed, and honestly, there wasn't a silver lining to that knowledge. I don't get to factor that into my interactions with him anymore, and it doesn't make anything about him easier to understand. It was purely painful, and not at all useful. It'll fade in time, but bringing it up again will never fix it. If you're looking to be an engineer, you're probably something of a fixer already (I'm a computer engineer, I'm not just saying this) but there's nothing that can be fixed at this point. I'm sorry for your dad's passing, man. It'll get easier as time goes on. Do your best to discard the shitty memories and keep the good ones, and keep your family close. | ||
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Whole
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Vega62a
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On July 31 2012 03:45 Whole wrote: I'm not expecting everyone to read all the posts in this thread, but I posted on page 1 that I think I just made the blog to let the secret out because it was kind of bothering me that I couldn't tell anyone. After I wrote the blog and got some sleep, the issue isn't really troubling anymore, and as many of you said, there is no reason to tell my brother. Thanks for the help though! A few posts gave me a new perspective. Sorry, I must have missed that. My bad. Glad to hear it  | ||
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docvoc
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