For the ladies to be aware - Page 3

On July 11 2012 04:20 Ack1027 wrote:
How does this even happen?
I've heard a lot of people [ mostly girls ] describe their sleepy state like this and its just like reading about an alien or strange animal found in a exotic country.

I've been up for 24-72 hour periods before and even at my most tired and exhausted I don't know how you could kinda allow this to happen. Just being around other humans in general and then encountering people like this who for some unknown reason get knocked the fuck out by ' tiredness ' is really unbelievable to me.

Totally aside from the fact that this guy is a douchebag, I don't think this serves as a warning or help to average girls at all because they wouldn't come out of this thinking they were ' too nice '. Or that they somehow telepathically were giving off no signals since they were wearing conservative pjs....according to their own opinion.

As others have already mentioned:
Bed count.
Alone with some dude you don't really know or have been alone with for a long time.
Saying explicitly what you think/feel to be wrong.
Somehow thinking its ok to go round 2 with this guy after the first night..???

This is advice you'd give to like a 12 year old girl/daughter/sister......common sense.

On July 11 2012 08:50 farvacola wrote:

Realize that you've just described how many men end up between a rock and a hard place, stuck in between the uncertainty of a new interaction and the societal norm which stipulates that men make the first move. Not that this guy is anything short of a creep, but a more forward and communicative male-female dynamic might help to avoid these situations altogether.

On July 09 2012 21:05 ruiyang wrote:
He seems like a jerk, but it might not have been entirely his fault as well.
I mean, everything is written from your perspective and there is a lot of crucial information
missing to denounce him as a total jerk.

First of all, i dont know how the situation exactly was, so im going to make a few assumptions:

1 - 1 bed or 2 beds? If its only 1 bed, then its already wrong of you for accepting that invitation.
2 - Seems like you are a very nice person. As a male its easy to misunderstand. Don't end up getting too
friendly on someone you don't know, especially if you are going to sleep at the same room/bed.

With that said, ofcourse its mostly his fault and you should say something about it when something
like this occurs. Its completely unacceptable what he did and he should be told when he's crossing the line.

I mean, if someones talking all the time and you need to sleep, just tell him to stfu. Don't just go uh-huh and pretend
your listening. Just be straight when something starts anoyying you. Again, make sure to warn when someone
crosses a line instead of letting them.


Ofcourse its mostly his fault. You are both there for work so he should act professionally.
Just remember that males arent the same as females and that you should always set borders
which shouldnt be crossed.


Thanks for read anyway ^^

On July 11 2012 02:56 VampireLady wrote:
Let's start off with early school years..

http://articles.cnn.com/2011-11-07/us/us_school-sexual-harassment_1_sexual-harassment-unwelcome-sexual-comments-verbal-harassment?_s=PM:US

http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2011/11/one-in-four-u-s-women-reports-workplace-harassment/



. According to a European studie ( 1998 pag. 15,16) roughly 30 % upto 50 % women encounter unwanted sexual advances and 10 % of the men at the workplace.

Source:

http://www.un.org/womenwatch/osagi/pdf/shworkpl.pdf


I have read a lot in papers, this is just a quick google result. Not too hard.. just reading the morning paper will suffice.

On July 11 2012 11:32 Chill wrote:

I don't find any of these legitimate sources. A real source is more than "this is what I think". You make bold claims and they require legitimate sources.

FUCK. Like reread what you claim and then fucking prove it. These links you've provided are embarrassing when compared to your original claim.

in a community predominantly outweighed by men, chances are even higher for such incidents to occur. Women are generally subject to sexal harrassment especially in these sort of environments. There have been numerous studies stating the numbers

On July 11 2012 11:52 Azzur wrote:
I was reading the OP and had a slight facepalm. I don't understand why any girl will willingly share a room with another guy and not think that it's sending out wrong signals. Sure, the guy is in the wrong, but at least take some responsibility for your own safety.

I would think that all this is common sense...

On July 11 2012 21:27 VampireLady wrote:


Those searches were just a quick google search came up with. Truth be told, if you are surprised or anaware of such a phenomenon i reckon you've been living under a rock because these sorts of surveys are done both nationally and internationally.

Example. According to another dutch survey states
" Places where women are predominantly subjected to sexual violence is at work and school ( 36 % ) ".

Source : Emancipationmonitor 2006 ( http://www.seksueelgeweld.info/feiten_en_cijfers/omvang_seksueel_geweld/vrouwen_en_mannen )

" Between 40 and 50 percent of women in European Union countries experience unwanted sexual advancements, physical contact or other forms of sexual harassment at their workplace. "

Source : UN Women Surveys

http://www.unifem.org/gender_issues/violence_against_women/facts_figures.php

Fuck. Open a paper every now and then these findings are nothing to be surprised of they hitt he papers every now and then.

On July 12 2012 02:18 Arcanefrost wrote:


Your first "source" claims that 10% has been raped at least once. Seems legit.
Second source is very vague. What do you categorize as sexual harassement? The numbers are simply through the roof. They must consider every attempt at flirting from a guy they don't like as "sexual harassement".