EPTGirl Blog - what to do?? - Page 5
| Blogs > Polar_Nada |
|
FabledIntegral
United States9232 Posts
| ||
|
nihoh
Australia978 Posts
| ||
|
FabledIntegral
United States9232 Posts
| ||
|
Polar_Nada
United States1548 Posts
On July 08 2012 16:48 nihoh wrote: Picture possible? Blur out ur face and background? what for lol On July 08 2012 16:58 FabledIntegral wrote: I should have peer pressured you to drink when we were in vegas. ... | ||
|
FabledIntegral
United States9232 Posts
Not that an esports event was the best place to hit on women, nor did we really see many that trip... | ||
|
nihoh
Australia978 Posts
Maybe you need a make-over or to work out? It's not all about what's inside, despite how certain males think when it comes to girls being interested in guys? | ||
|
bloopie
United States123 Posts
You need both inner and outer game. outer game is relatively easily solved - workout, get bigger/toned, dress nicely + shoes, do your hair properly, drop your glasses if possible (I know, cuz i was a nerdy asian kid with glasses) inner game means confidence, voice control, being a good conversationalist, knowing how to match the girl's energy. To get a girlfriend, you need a girl. (duh). Therefore, you need to be in places with girls. (duh). if you are at home all the time, there is no girl, therefore you have no girlfriend. Places with girls: Nightlife. (the best person to go with is a wing woman, but since that looks like an unlikely option, go with a dude or 2. make sure they know what they are doing, and are at least comfortable around with women.) Go to house parties. Know people who know people. Next: social clubs. Greek life, if not social organizations. Go to language/acting/music/psych classes, events (I am not a fan of meeting girls in classes because its such a bad frame to start from! you are simply another dude who is doing homework with her) Last way, social circles. Know people who know girls, hang out with them, and slowly work your way. | ||
|
metbull
United States404 Posts
so your going to be a doctor? I personally know so many attractive girls that swoon over unattractive male med school students. Don't worry, finish med school then start random relationships (Fx buddy) with the nurses you work with. That's what the unmarried doctors my wife works with do. | ||
|
Polar_Nada
United States1548 Posts
On July 08 2012 19:43 bloopie wrote: ^ true. You need both inner and outer game. outer game is relatively easily solved - workout, get bigger/toned, dress nicely + shoes, do your hair properly, drop your glasses if possible (I know, cuz i was a nerdy asian kid with glasses) inner game means confidence, voice control, being a good conversationalist, knowing how to match the girl's energy. To get a girlfriend, you need a girl. (duh). Therefore, you need to be in places with girls. (duh). if you are at home all the time, there is no girl, therefore you have no girlfriend. Places with girls: Nightlife. (the best person to go with is a wing woman, but since that looks like an unlikely option, go with a dude or 2. make sure they know what they are doing, and are at least comfortable around with women.) Go to house parties. Know people who know people. Next: social clubs. Greek life, if not social organizations. Go to language/acting/music/psych classes, events (I am not a fan of meeting girls in classes because its such a bad frame to start from! you are simply another dude who is doing homework with her) Last way, social circles. Know people who know girls, hang out with them, and slowly work your way. Yes. Thank you for this. My goodness I don't know how on earth I am going to do all of this. Everything you have mentioned is way out of my comfort zone. But I will try my best, hopefully starting with building up myself first. | ||
|
eSgTheBear
United States47 Posts
| ||
|
Facultyadjutant
Sweden1876 Posts
On July 05 2012 08:31 Polar_Nada wrote: i dont know! I have mixed feelings, so im asking for advice here. lollollololol I can see you are terrible at this by the lollollololol... *shivers* I have very socially inept friends who lean on these things: ''internet sayings'', memes and other internet quirky culture. They don´t use it to create original thoughts, but just as exclamations to fill the void when you have nothing and is expected to say something. Edit: Don´t get me wrong, I have nothing against them, they are actually my friends, and I like them. But they can only really hang with established peers, they are very incapable of getting into new groups. Look over what you say to your friends and see after if you found yourself relying on these crutches. If so: Stop doing them, and feel relaxation in silence. Unable to handle silence is most awkward people´s problem, because the reaction to silence is the easiest way to see if someone is insecure or not. | ||
|
Cheshyr
United States78 Posts
| ||
|
Polar_Nada
United States1548 Posts
For example, today there was this hot ass asian girl in the bus, and there were very few people also in the bus. She was even wearing a see-through shirt (kinda) so i saw her underwear. I got an instant boner and it was awkward as fuck. ~_~ | ||
|
TangSC
Canada1866 Posts
When in doubt, stay POSITIVE, be FRIENDLY, and SMILE. Even if a girl isn't interested in dating you, and you become disinterested in dating her, it doesn't mean you can't like each other and enjoy the conversation. You need to approach talking to a girl not as "trying to hook up" but as "trying to meet a new friend and learn as much as you can about them." | ||
|
bloopie
United States123 Posts
In fact, imho the best option for you right now is to find epic dudes who can pull girls, so you know what to do. Know that when you are beside them, girls would not see you as you pale so much in comparison. But learn all their tricks, what they do, and what makes them tick. bide your time, and continue your self improvement. I would advise reading all the PUA stuff, notwithstanding the ethical issues, but because they provide some concrete steps that would be useful to a totally new dude. i should know all this, because I used to be in your exact shoes. Now, after much hard work, I know what to do, and how to pull relatively consistently. Girls call me from Beijing, New York, and different countries lol. | ||
|
NoctemSC
United States771 Posts
On July 05 2012 08:22 Polar_Nada wrote: Hey TL: So I have a small problem I have with obtaining a girlfriend. I have never had a girlfriend, and I don't know how much I want to keep it that way anymore. I was always a very quiet guy, so I have very few girls that are friends. In college, there are so many girls that I find very attractive, but the main problem is getting to even just talk to one. Also, I keep giving myself so many excuses. I feel like getting a girlfriend will hinder many many things. I will become distracted from starcraft 2, and my school work. Also, I am applying for med school this year, so if I were to acquire a relationship, it wont last that long. But, I am also scared for marriage in the future when i still have so much difficulty with girls?? Pardon the terrible writing... The part I put in bold text is true, having a Girlfriend WILL hinder your schoolwork and sc2 time. Frankly put, relationships require you to invest a copious amount of time to make them work. If you plan on having a Girlfriend then you need to plan on sacrificing some of your time, you're trading one thing for another. Honestly though, it sounds like you don't know what you want, friend. Perhaps you just need to get laid and not worry about a relationship until you're a bit more stable. On July 13 2012 12:22 bloopie wrote: i should know all this, because I used to be in your exact shoes. Now, after much hard work, I know what to do, and how to pull relatively consistently. Girls call me from Beijing, New York, and different countries lol. Girls from different countries talk to you? That's called chatting, pal. It doesn't matter if you have a shit ton of girls talking to you if you're not actually going to meet them. Also, way to shamelessly talk up yourself in an advice blog. | ||
|
bloopie
United States123 Posts
On July 13 2012 14:18 NoctemSC wrote: The part I put in bold text is true, having a Girlfriend WILL hinder your schoolwork and sc2 time. Frankly put, relationships require you to invest a copious amount of time to make them work. If you plan on having a Girlfriend then you need to plan on sacrificing some of your time, you're trading one thing for another. Honestly though, it sounds like you don't know what you want, friend. Perhaps you just need to get laid and not worry about a relationship until you're a bit more stable. Girls from different countries talk to you? That's called chatting, pal. It doesn't matter if you have a shit ton of girls talking to you if you're not actually going to meet them. Also, way to shamelessly talk up yourself in an advice blog. Oh sorry, forgot to mention that I have banged them all before. But you are right, i should stop derailing, just wanted to show a positive example to OP. Just PM me if anything. | ||
|
Recognizable
Netherlands1552 Posts
| ||
|
FabledIntegral
United States9232 Posts
On July 11 2012 13:05 Polar_Nada wrote: man. this week there were so many girls that were like sitting alone, but i had NO CONFIDENCE at all to talk to them. I have no idea how to open!!! For example, today there was this hot ass asian girl in the bus, and there were very few people also in the bus. She was even wearing a see-through shirt (kinda) so i saw her underwear. I got an instant boner and it was awkward as fuck. ~_~ It's not awkward unless she knows you have a boner. And I don't think randomly going up and talking to girls that you have no idea who they are is the best way to meet girls anyways. P.S. Don't go for girls out of your league anyways. Assuming this hot ass Asian girl is. Those aren't the best ones to go after if you don't have much experience ... save them for later. Many girls like confident/cocky douchebags too, so dont' show that you're nervous. Putting on a fake can help sometimes if you're nervous, just don't overdo it. | ||
Liquid`Jinro
Sweden33719 Posts
I will become distracted from starcraft 2 I would argue that unless you are a professional SC2 player, this is a positive thing. | ||
| ||
