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Hey TL:
So I have a small problem I have with obtaining a girlfriend. I have never had a girlfriend, and I don't know how much I want to keep it that way anymore. I was always a very quiet guy, so I have very few girls that are friends.
In college, there are so many girls that I find very attractive, but the main problem is getting to even just talk to one. Also, I keep giving myself so many excuses. I feel like getting a girlfriend will hinder many many things. I will become distracted from starcraft 2, and my school work. Also, I am applying for med school this year, so if I were to acquire a relationship, it wont last that long.
But, I am also scared for marriage in the future when i still have so much difficulty with girls??
Pardon the terrible writing...
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This is why we still need arranged marriage.
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so do you want a girlfriend or do you not
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On July 05 2012 08:31 blabber wrote:
so do you want a girlfriend or do you not
i dont know! I have mixed feelings, so im asking for advice here. lollollololol
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don't worry, after you come out of med school many girls will find you very attractive $$$$$
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On July 05 2012 08:32 n3gative wrote:
don't worry, after you come out of med school many girls will find you very attractive $$$$$
true dat
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On July 05 2012 08:32 n3gative wrote:
don't worry, after you come out of med school many girls will find you very attractive $$$$$
how would they know if i dont even talk to them? =[
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you are not allowed to have everything. Med school or girls. Pick one.
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I think you should read some of the Pick Up Artist book material items, especially stuff written by "Style" such as the game and the rules of the game, they will pretty much get you to ground level ability for getting a good looking girl and not just settling for less. Other than that it is practice, and having a non-serious relationship for a bit isn't a bad thing if you just want to get your dick wet until you leave. Its not like it has to be a huge deal with relationships all the time, though I prefer it that way.
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On July 05 2012 08:34 docvoc wrote:
I think you should read some of the Pick Up Artist book material items, especially stuff written by "Style" such as the game and the rules of the game, they will pretty much get you to ground level ability for getting a good looking girl and not just settling for less. Other than that it is practice, and having a non-serious relationship for a bit isn't a bad thing if you just want to get your dick wet until you leave. Its not like it has to be a huge deal with relationships all the time, though I prefer it that way.
http://www.youtube.com/user/SimplePickup or watch these guys
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Flip the coin!!! but i would probably focus on school but if you can manage both go for it!!!!!
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On July 05 2012 08:22 Polar_Nada wrote:
Hey TL:
So I have a small problem I have with obtaining a girlfriend. I have never had a girlfriend, and I don't know how much I want to keep it that way anymore. I was always a very quiet guy, so I have very few girls that are friends.
In college, there are so many girls that I find very attractive, but the main problem is getting to even just talk to one. Also, I keep giving myself so many excuses. I feel like getting a girlfriend will hinder many many things. I will become distracted from starcraft 2, and my school work. Also, I am applying for med school this year, so if I were to acquire a relationship, it wont last that long.
But, I am also scared for marriage in the future when i still have so much difficulty with girls??
Pardon the terrible writing...
First thing you need to do is even figure out if you want a girlfriend lmao, you seem like you want one just because you haven't had one before. Anyway, this part is pretty funny:
On July 05 2012 08:22 Polar_Nada wrote:
I will become distracted from starcraft 2
Hahaha, god for fucking bid you get distracted from Starcraft 2!
Anyway, you're best off just chatting up some girls at school, maybe if you have to do assignments together, or even people you sit near in lecture. Eventually just ask a girl for coffee if it seems like you have shit in common. Most women are going to be really nice and appreciate being asked out, even if they're already dating someone so it's not like it's that big of a deal.
I met my now fiancee on a trip I had to take for work. We hung out a couple days and then I just asked her if she would want to get together for coffee sometime, she agreed and now two years later we're engaged. The more you talk with women and ask them out the easier it gets.
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To get a girlfriend, you need one of the three "B's": Balls, Booze, or Bullion. If you have that it isn't hard, but girlfriends are really expensive anyway so unless you are ready for that in addition to giving up a lot of your free time, then it's probably best to just avoid it.
But it's up to you. Just let us know what option you chose so we can congratulate/mock you for it!
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On July 05 2012 08:34 docvoc wrote:
I think you should read some of the Pick Up Artist book material items, especially stuff written by "Style" such as the game and the rules of the game, they will pretty much get you to ground level ability for getting a good looking girl and not just settling for less. Other than that it is practice, and having a non-serious relationship for a bit isn't a bad thing if you just want to get your dick wet until you leave. Its not like it has to be a huge deal with relationships all the time, though I prefer it that way.
Sorry - awful fucking advice. You're telling a shy guy who hasn't had a girlfriend before to read pick up artist material? Never going to work, women don't appreciate that shit.
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On July 05 2012 08:38 Salv wrote:Show nested quote +On July 05 2012 08:22 Polar_Nada wrote:
Hey TL:
So I have a small problem I have with obtaining a girlfriend. I have never had a girlfriend, and I don't know how much I want to keep it that way anymore. I was always a very quiet guy, so I have very few girls that are friends.
In college, there are so many girls that I find very attractive, but the main problem is getting to even just talk to one. Also, I keep giving myself so many excuses. I feel like getting a girlfriend will hinder many many things. I will become distracted from starcraft 2, and my school work. Also, I am applying for med school this year, so if I were to acquire a relationship, it wont last that long.
But, I am also scared for marriage in the future when i still have so much difficulty with girls??
Pardon the terrible writing... First thing you need to do is even figure out if you want a girlfriend lmao, you seem like you want one just because you haven't had one before. Anyway, this part is pretty funny: Show nested quote +On July 05 2012 08:22 Polar_Nada wrote:
I will become distracted from starcraft 2 Hahaha, god for fucking bid you get distracted from Starcraft 2! Anyway, you're best off just chatting up some girls at school, maybe if you have to do assignments together, or even people you sit near in lecture. Eventually just ask a girl for coffee if it seems like you have shit in common. Most women are going to be really nice and appreciate being asked out, even if they're already dating someone so it's not like it's that big of a deal. I met my now fiancee on a trip I had to take for work. We hung out a couple days and then I just asked her if she would want to get together for coffee sometime, she agreed and now two years later we're engaged. The more you talk with women and ask them out the easier it gets.
Hey man. thanks for including that little tidbit of where you met your fiancee! i guess for now ill just try my best to talk to random girls.
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On July 05 2012 08:40 Polar_Nada wrote:Show nested quote +On July 05 2012 08:38 Salv wrote:On July 05 2012 08:22 Polar_Nada wrote:
Hey TL:
So I have a small problem I have with obtaining a girlfriend. I have never had a girlfriend, and I don't know how much I want to keep it that way anymore. I was always a very quiet guy, so I have very few girls that are friends.
In college, there are so many girls that I find very attractive, but the main problem is getting to even just talk to one. Also, I keep giving myself so many excuses. I feel like getting a girlfriend will hinder many many things. I will become distracted from starcraft 2, and my school work. Also, I am applying for med school this year, so if I were to acquire a relationship, it wont last that long.
But, I am also scared for marriage in the future when i still have so much difficulty with girls??
Pardon the terrible writing... First thing you need to do is even figure out if you want a girlfriend lmao, you seem like you want one just because you haven't had one before. Anyway, this part is pretty funny: On July 05 2012 08:22 Polar_Nada wrote:
I will become distracted from starcraft 2 Hahaha, god for fucking bid you get distracted from Starcraft 2! Anyway, you're best off just chatting up some girls at school, maybe if you have to do assignments together, or even people you sit near in lecture. Eventually just ask a girl for coffee if it seems like you have shit in common. Most women are going to be really nice and appreciate being asked out, even if they're already dating someone so it's not like it's that big of a deal. I met my now fiancee on a trip I had to take for work. We hung out a couple days and then I just asked her if she would want to get together for coffee sometime, she agreed and now two years later we're engaged. The more you talk with women and ask them out the easier it gets. Hey man. thanks for including that little tidbit of where you met your fiancee! i guess for now ill just try my best to talk to random girls.
At my school we used to have to do seminars for every class, so basically we did two hours of lecture and an hour of seminar, which was just a more private discussion about course material. The thing was though that because it was small groups, like 10 - 15 people, by the end of the year everyone got to know everyone else pretty well, so it was a good way to just casually talk to women and maybe meet someone interesting. I don't know if your school has anything like that, but also joining teams or clubs is a good way to: - Meet people, not just women.
- Make connections.
- Pad a future resume
Especially if you're going into medical school I'm sure there is some sort of club or group you can meet up with. Good luck!
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don't have to be random, why not just meet people through friends?
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On July 05 2012 08:44 Kalingingsong wrote:
don't have to be random, why not just meet people through friends?
how do you do this? I don't go to parties.
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God damnit I love TL.
OP, why don't you focus on getting through med-school before you get in a relationship? If you do get in a relationship make sure you set your boundaries and focus on your work.
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