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First off, I'm blogging on here rather than on tumblr or other places cuz there are certain ppl I do not want to see this...
Let's get to it.
Orientation was a blast as expected. Coming from a city filled completely with Mexicans, to a college town full of white chicks made me smile. =P If a few ladies reading this might be insulted, there were white guys too as pointed out by a certain/special someone (who I'll get to later). Seems like a better fit for me, as the degree of stupidity is probably less than El Paso (thank god) and seems better.
My schedule kinda sucks, because its basically 7:30 classes... large gaps until I have 4:30-5:20 classes. I'm alright with that, wouldn't mind moving my stupid COM classes earlier but it's still pretty dealable considering that I barely sleep anyway (wake up early, sleep late)
Now to the best/worst part...
The main reason why I went to orientation on a certain date was to see a certain girl that I've been talking/camming with for the last few months. Day while we're there we hit it off, we're constantly talking, teasing each other, having fun, even at dinner at Triple XXX.
So well everything seems fine and dandy, why did I tag this as a girl blog? well...
2 days later, as I'm in Chicago, my friends suggested that I take a train up to the suburbs where we would go to her work place and play laser tag there. So we did go up and have fun. However, she had to leave because she already had plans.
So me, being the stupid person that I am, tries to convince her to hang out with us, where it eventually got to the point where I basically texted "but i came out here just to see you" with the immediate reply of "not for me". A few more texts are sent but after seeing that I wasn't going to hang out with her and my mom was yelling at me to get back to downtown chicago, I took the first train back...
On the same train, I realized that I screwed up because I basically told her that I liked her. The big problem is, she recently just got a boyfriend (Yep, I really fucked up there). So ever since then, she hasn't replied to a single one of my texts.
It's painful but I think I have to ignore her for a while. It's really hard to resist the temptation of even contacting her in anyway... because even though I know that there are a billion girls out there, I still want her to at least be a close friend... because truth to be told, I still haven't figured out the line between a girl thats a friend and a girl that would be "date-able".
Alright enough venting. Thanks guys.
And go to Warped Tour. That shit was awesome.
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now act like you are not interested at all, go hang out with other girls, she will run to you
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Yup, if she chose another guy over you it's pretty much over and you're banging your head into a wall. Her "not for me" comment is just meant as a line to string you along pining for her. No worries, you're awesome. Have fun 
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Well it's done and all with her having a BF. I feel its a good idea to have her still as a friend but it might take some time to rebuild that bridge as a close friend with her. Not gonna argue about that figuring out the fine line between friend-zoned and a chance. But you should probably back off for a while before making doing anything to not seem creepy. When you feel the time is right (say a week and a half or 2), just work it out between you two and defuse the awkwardness. Say you acknowledge you're sorry for overstepping your bounds(or you didn't know iunno) and work from there.
Anyways, you're pretty awesome. Stay strong bro
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Sorry but this is a disaster :p
When a girl flakes (especially since it wasn't even just the 2 of you going out) you don't want to try and convince her to come. it won't work and you will seem clingy/needy/desperate/ a whole bunch of other bad stuff. Since you pretty much told her you like her, she isn't gonna see any move you make as "I wanna be just friends" but as you trying to chase her. Only thing you can do is wait it out for a couple of weeks I think, no texts, no talking, no facebook, ... unless she initiates of course. I would wait 3 weeks or more, and if she hasn't made contact in any way by then I'd text her. If you start texting or chatting too fast you will again seem clingy/needy/desperate/ a whole bunch of other bad stuff. Also if she doesn't reply don't send more texts, I'm not a player myself but my friend assures me that waiting it out is the right move because it shows confidence and independence.
Off topic: Yay at so many girl blogs lately, I love them :p
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On July 01 2012 03:06 Arcanefrost wrote:
Sorry but this is a disaster :p
When a girl flakes (especially since it wasn't even just the 2 of you going out) you don't want to try and convince her to come. it won't work and you will seem clingy/needy/desperate/ a whole bunch of other bad stuff. Since you pretty much told her you like her, she isn't gonna see any move you make as "I wanna be just friends" but as you trying to chase her. Only thing you can do is wait it out for a couple of weeks I think, no texts, no talking, no facebook, ... unless she initiates of course. I would wait 3 weeks or more, and if she hasn't made contact in any way by then I'd text her. If you start texting or chatting too fast you will again seem clingy/needy/desperate/ a whole bunch of other bad stuff. Also if she doesn't reply don't send more texts, I'm not a player myself but my friend assures me that waiting it out is the right move because it shows confidence and independence.
Off topic: Yay at so many girl blogs lately, I love them :p
Pretty much this. You framed yourself as her puppy who will do whatever he can to be liked. That's not the way it works. (And IF it works this way you should question the girls motives. =P)
Learn from it, move on.
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There's multiple assholes that are constantly crossing the line, or trying to cross, between the friend and romance barrier with my girlfriend. My girlfriend ends up feeling hurt and betrayed every time, and usually feels like she's done something wrong. I don't want to get pissed off at you, but if you mess with the girl an she's taken you deserve to be fucking beaten across the face. Time to move on bro.
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On July 01 2012 03:06 Arcanefrost wrote:
Sorry but this is a disaster :p
When a girl flakes (especially since it wasn't even just the 2 of you going out) you don't want to try and convince her to come. it won't work and you will seem clingy/needy/desperate/ a whole bunch of other bad stuff. Since you pretty much told her you like her, she isn't gonna see any move you make as "I wanna be just friends" but as you trying to chase her. Only thing you can do is wait it out for a couple of weeks I think, no texts, no talking, no facebook, ... unless she initiates of course. I would wait 3 weeks or more, and if she hasn't made contact in any way by then I'd text her. If you start texting or chatting too fast you will again seem clingy/needy/desperate/ a whole bunch of other bad stuff. Also if she doesn't reply don't send more texts, I'm not a player myself but my friend assures me that waiting it out is the right move because it shows confidence and independence.
Off topic: Yay at so many girl blogs lately, I love them :p
I love girl blogs too one of my favourite parts of tl :D
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On July 01 2012 09:12 CecilSunkure wrote:
There's multiple assholes that are constantly crossing the line, or trying to cross, between the friend and romance barrier with my girlfriend. My girlfriend ends up feeling hurt and betrayed every time, and usually feels like she's done something wrong. I don't want to get pissed off at you, but if you mess with the girl an she's taken you deserve to be fucking beaten across the face. Time to move on bro.
There's lots of things the girl does to encourage that process, usually unconsciously. If it happens a lot, it's highly likely that she's at fault as well.
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On July 01 2012 09:22 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2012 09:12 CecilSunkure wrote:
There's multiple assholes that are constantly crossing the line, or trying to cross, between the friend and romance barrier with my girlfriend. My girlfriend ends up feeling hurt and betrayed every time, and usually feels like she's done something wrong. I don't want to get pissed off at you, but if you mess with the girl an she's taken you deserve to be fucking beaten across the face. Time to move on bro. There's lots of things the girl does to encourage that process, usually unconsciously. If it happens a lot, it's highly likely that she's at fault as well.
Usually I'd say you're right that it's likely partially her fault. Some context is required. I go to a small private university (as does she), and this university is all about video game development. The population here is about 95% socially awkward and girl deprived guys.
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Don't worry Cecil, I feel bad for even thinking about doing that =/
but I just want her as my friend right now just cuz shes a great person to talk to about random crap.
I just need to find that line in my mind
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On July 01 2012 09:34 LolitsPing wrote:
Don't worry Cecil, I feel bad for even thinking about doing that =/
but I just want her as my friend right now just cuz shes a great person to talk to about random crap.
I just need to find that line in my mind
That's really cool to hear. The guys that I don't mind around my girlfriend are the ones that don't cross that line.
I can list some lines that I know of, maybe they can help you: Don't ever intentionally touch her until you've known each other a log time; If she doesn't respond to your text/phone call/email, then give it some time before you contact her again, perhaps a day or two; understand that having attraction towards someone doesn't mean you need to want I be with them - just accept that you are attracted and make the mature concious decision not to pursue romance.
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On July 01 2012 09:43 CecilSunkure wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2012 09:34 LolitsPing wrote:
Don't worry Cecil, I feel bad for even thinking about doing that =/
but I just want her as my friend right now just cuz shes a great person to talk to about random crap.
I just need to find that line in my mind That's really cool to hear. The guys that I don't mind around my girlfriend are the ones that don't cross that line. I can list some lines that I know of, maybe they can help you: Don't ever intentionally touch her until you've known each other a log time; If she doesn't respond to your text/phone call/email, then give it some time before you contact her again, perhaps a day or two; understand that having attraction towards someone doesn't mean you need to want I be with them - just accept that you are attracted and make the mature concious decision not to pursue romance.
Thanks =) I wish someone had told me that earlier.
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