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NoctemSC
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SarR
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TyrantPotato
Australia1541 Posts
and then go from there? as you said she took the initiative to get your number, chances are she's expecting you to take the initiative and make the next move. | ||
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Bill Murray
United States9292 Posts
to them, it doesn't mean what you think it does. They actually kind of find it flattering. it is a perverse twisting of words with which I want to smite the entire female populous | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
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SilverSkyLark
Philippines8437 Posts
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htn2481
Vietnam117 Posts
On April 11 2012 16:52 SilverSkyLark wrote: Wow, these kind of blogs never got old? You're still reading them as am I so these blogs must be doIng something right. | ||
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Blisse
Canada3710 Posts
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Atoissen
Norway1737 Posts
On April 11 2012 16:21 NoctemSC wrote: I'm really at a loss, I'm not sure what I should do. Shes definatly interested in you, or els she wouldnt have given you so much attention. I would for sure ask her out, ask if she would be interested in going to a movie, or even have a meal (doesnt need to be fancy). | ||
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NoctemSC
United States771 Posts
just ask her out for drinks. just the two of you. you have a bar the both of you like/frequent if its a place your familiar with it will help with the nerves? and then go from there? as you said she took the initiative to get your number, chances are she's expecting you to take the initiative and make the next move. while I do have plenty of bars I like in this area, she's still 20. So that's a no go. ive had the term "creeper" explained to me to them, it doesn't mean what you think it does. They actually kind of find it flattering. it is a perverse twisting of words with which I want to smite the entire female populous That's horrible, they couldn't pick a term with less negative connotation attached to it? Easy, ask her out somewhere, coffee/drinks/food whatever. If she agrees to go out with you 1 on 1 (please don't get into long drawn out text convos) its a pretty clear indicator of interest, especially when you two have just recently met. Just aim to have a good time, don't over think things. Not hard. She lives about 20 minutes from me, I'm picking her up tomorrow. I told her I was cooking at a mutual friend of ours house, she said she wanted to come. It's not 1 on 1 but it's a slightly better environment than a party to talk to her about possibly going on a real date. That's my problem though, I over think everything. I'm used to having a plan for everything and when things don't go according to plan I get stressed. Wow, these kind of blogs never got old? Hey man, you clicked it. There really isn't any better way to get unbiased advice than on the internet right? Half of my friends would just tell me to try to get in her pants, the other half would try to get me to do something stupid and potentially fuck it up. I actually like this girl. | ||
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cmen15
United States1519 Posts
edit: typos like a boss | ||
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NoctemSC
United States771 Posts
On April 11 2012 17:10 cmen15 wrote: DUDE SHE TEXTED YOU??? MAN UP TIME.. Haha but really man go for it. Getting rejected suck's but its worse than a life time of what ifs.... DO ITTTT edit: typos like a boss Like a bawwss. I'm picking her up tomorrow for a Dinner I'm cooking at a friends house (she has a pressure cooker and I don't) She said she wanted me to cook for her so I invited her. I'll attempt to get out of my awkward penguin phase, it's weird really. If It's a girl I'm just physically attracted to I'm smooth as can be, put me in front of a girl whom I actually like that has things in common with me and I'm about as smooth as a 40 year old virgin living in moms basement. | ||
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FinestHour
United States18466 Posts
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Shield
Bulgaria4824 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On April 11 2012 17:09 NoctemSC wrote: She lives about 20 minutes from me, I'm picking her up tomorrow. I told her I was cooking at a mutual friend of ours house, she said she wanted to come. It's not 1 on 1 but it's a slightly better environment than a party to talk to her about possibly going on a real date. That's my problem though, I over think everything. I'm used to having a plan for everything and when things don't go according to plan I get stressed. You would actually consider taking her to party as a 'date'? God no, never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever do that. Don't even remotely think about it. Also never use the word 'date' when asking a girl out. Actions speak louder than words, so just constantly invite her out for 1 on 1 meet ups while upping the physical intimacy. I used to over think things and plan every little detail out with women, but now i just have a general meet up somewhere and just let it flow. I have a laissez-faire approach to women nowadays, much easier and less stress. | ||
obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
On April 11 2012 17:42 darkness wrote: Good luck mate! You should show a photo of her if she becomes your gf. Ughh I bet this guy wants to put it on his desktop as a wallpaper. What a creeper :p I don't think you're asking for advice. I think you're bragging and already know what to do. Yeah that's right. I saw through your whole little shenanigan -_- | ||
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NoctemSC
United States771 Posts
On April 11 2012 17:42 darkness wrote: Good luck mate! You should show a photo of her if she becomes your gf. Possibly, but I'd never link this blog to her. Ever. | ||
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NoctemSC
United States771 Posts
On April 11 2012 17:53 FractalsOnFire wrote: You would actually consider taking her to party as a 'date'? God no, never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever do that. Don't even remotely think about it. Also never use the word 'date' when asking a girl out. Actions speak louder than words, so just constantly invite her out for 1 on 1 meet ups while upping the physical intimacy. I used to over think things and plan every little detail out with women, but now i just have a general meet up somewhere and just let it flow. I have a laissez-faire approach to women nowadays, much easier and less stress. No, I'm saying that it's a better opportunity THAN a party to ask her to go to the movies with me, or something. if it's Just me, My friend (who's also her friend) and her, it's a better environment, especially if I'm cooking. Chicks dig guys who can cook right? | ||
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NoctemSC
United States771 Posts
On April 11 2012 18:02 obesechicken13 wrote: Ughh I bet this guy wants to put it on his desktop as a wallpaper. What a creeper :p I don't think you're asking for advice. I think you're bragging and already know what to do. Yeah that's right. I saw through your whole little shenanigan -_- If I was bragging I'd just create a bragging blog. You're looking to into it. I'm asking HOW I should go about asking her. | ||
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Cyber_Cheese
Australia3615 Posts
That's because it is. Don't over think it, you'll end up doing something stupid if you do. | ||
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RedJustice
United States1004 Posts
1. The definition of a creeper is a man in his 50s working in the produce section when I went to buy groceries last summer. Said hi, then asked if I was a student at the uni, then if I lived nearby, if I had a bf, how old I was, what my name was... followed me all the way across the store to his manager, asking for my number. (I am 20). 2. It's not really creeping if you try to get someone's number, whether you are male or female, unless you haven't met them before... (silent fb stalkers who are friends of friends of acquaintances) 3. Being creeped on is not flattering or attractive. It's scary. Anyone who has genuinely had an experience with one of those people can tell you that being stalked and harassed is not fun, does not make you feel better about yourself, and often is not something you can take much action against except run the fuck away. Anyway, at the end of your evening when you are taking her home, say: I wondered if you would like to go with me to do ________ on ______. Make it something specific, and try to pick an activity that allows the two of you to interact and get to know each other better. It will be pretty obvious to her how you feel if you are spending one-on-one time together. If it goes well, set up another 'date' or whatever, but don't wait too long to be honest about how you feel. Just say: hey, I really like you, and I like spending time with you. If she reciprocates, tell her you want her to be your gf. If she doesn't like you she will make an effort not to spend alone time with you, keep it really platonic if it does happen, and not respond positively if you say you like her. | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
As I said in another blog recently... just go for it, even if things don't work out at the end at least you'll have a nice story to tell over a beer. Take it a step at a time, don't ever think about the long term future, and enjoy it day-to-day! | ||
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JingleHell
United States11308 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45368 Posts
If you're not looking for a relationship right now, then don't ask her out on a date. That's pretty straightforward. And if she asks you out, let her know why you'd like to only remain friends/ friends of friends. However, I'm not sure why you would be necessarily opposed to even the possibility of a relationship (unless it was for financial reasons or you're not emotionally available or something of that nature). Regardless, figure out what you want and make sure she knows where she stands. Be open and honest about it. | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On April 11 2012 19:33 RedJustice wrote: Anyway, at the end of your evening when you are taking her home, say: I wondered if you would like to go with me to do ________ on ______. Make it something specific, and try to pick an activity that allows the two of you to interact and get to know each other better. It will be pretty obvious to her how you feel if you are spending one-on-one time together. If it goes well, set up another 'date' or whatever, but don't wait too long to be honest about how you feel. Just say: hey, I really like you, and I like spending time with you. If she reciprocates, tell her you want her to be your gf. This. You (OP) are not professing a deep, dark, brooding love. You're interested in a girl and the outline above is pretty much the best way to get to know her better. Knowing her better means you'll know if she's someone YOU want to pursue. I also commend you for your efforts to treat her with more respect than a one-night stand. Women don't deserve that, especially ones you like! Over-thinking is your worst enemy. This is a common problem with intelligent guys and seems to be the most common issue in TL girl blogs. You're venturing into unknown territory with another person and there is NEVER 100% assurance. You can try to plan everything out, but then it never goes according to plan. Then you make a new plan, that one fails, and you start working yourself into passivity. It sounds like you have a window of opportunity, so if you like the girl you should definitely ask her out on a casual date. Neutral public locations are best (movies, dinner, roller rink, symphony, ballroom dancing lessons - whatever tickles the collective fancy!). | ||
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Sephy90
United States1785 Posts
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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JingleHell
United States11308 Posts
On April 12 2012 05:26 obesechicken13 wrote: Today I learned. Girls don't mind you finding them and adding them on facebook if you've met them? Depends on the girl. | ||
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