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Right so I've known this girl for about 2 or 3 years, and a few months ago I started falling in love with her. She's super cute and loli-ish (though she would kill me if I said that in front of her) and has a Fujibayashi Kyou (from the anime Clannad) like personality. Basically she usually acts tomboyish and makes scary threats while smiling creepily when she's pissed, but inside she's a really good friend and I know she cares a lot about her close friends.
Since I've 'liked' multiple girls over the years I thought this was just another crush and didn't really think much of it until it didn't go away after like 5 months (most of my crushes only lasted for 2 or 3 months). So then came the 'too nervous to actually make a move' stage where I just continued acting normally around her while subtly trying to spend as much time with her as possible. I actually planned to tell her I loved her this summer, since there's an IB prep summer camp my school is organizing in England (right now I'm in Hong Kong) and we are both going there so I figured at some point during the camp I could find the 'right moment' for confessing.
However, I'm insanely hyper right now. I don't actually know the reason for this but I'm pretty sure it started when I played against a 12 year old girl in badminton like an hour ago and she beat me. It was a close game but even so I could tell she's way better than me, it was only close because I'm older, and hence stronger. After the match instead of being sad or pissed off, the only two things going into my brain at that moment was 1. Wow that girl is actually really good and 2. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
The LOLOLOLOLOLLOLOLOLOLLOLOLOL has been continuing for quite a while now so even though its completely unrelated I was like "HMM MAYBE ITS A GOOD TIME TO CONFESS CUZ IM SUPER HYPER AND WHAT COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG"
So yea, gl hf me
But before that, I think its a good idea to get peoples' opinions before I walk into a deathtrap cuz of my hyper-ness.....
Poll: When should I confessConfess now (33) 69% Confess when you've calmed down and feel you're ready (11) 23% Confess in the summer camp (4) 8% 48 total votes Your vote: When should I confess (Vote): Confess now
(Vote): Confess in the summer camp
(Vote): Confess when you've calmed down and feel you're ready
P.S. Yay for the first topic I've started in TL :D
Edit: LOL hyperness worn down a bit and I regret making this blog already. But still thx for the tips guys, I'll keep em in mind
 
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Dont tell her you love her lol, that will send anyone running, tell her you have a crush though sure
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confessing to some girl that you aren't dating that you love her (and sometimes a girl you are dating) is the quickest way to make sure she never talks to you again. try being a little more subtle and not creeping her out entirely.
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I know how this is going to end 
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^this
Get some dates with her first.
You don't love her, you just want her, and your hormones are fucking your brain. You can't tell if you love a girl until after you have sex with her. If you still get that warm and fuzzy feeling directly after just blowing your load that is true love.
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On March 23 2012 23:50 Mementoss wrote:
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^this
Get some dates with her first.
You don't love her, you just want her, and your hormones are fucking your brain. You can't tell if you love a girl until after you have sex with her. If you still get that warm and fuzzy feeling directly after just blowing your load that is true love.
This is absolutely redicuolous.
Just do something you enjoy doing together, and after you've had a bit of fun tell her you like her. If she says she likes you too, then ask her out. If she says she doesn't like you, then drop it. If it's anywhere in the middle it means she wants to find out if she likes you too, so just keep spending time with her.
You can definitely tell someone you love them before sex, and good relationships don't depend on "dates." Dates are what you do with random chicks you meet at the bar.
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Yeah don't pull a Mosby. Or if you do, make sure you go back and throw up on her doormat.
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tell her you love her RIGHT NOW... life is just like the movies no way this could fail
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Blazinghand
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Hm... It's definitely not an easy situation. I get where you're coming from... but I guess, I can just say
go for it now. You'll regret it later if you don't.
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On March 24 2012 00:05 Shai wrote:Show nested quote +On March 23 2012 23:50 Mementoss wrote:
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^this
Get some dates with her first.
You don't love her, you just want her, and your hormones are fucking your brain. You can't tell if you love a girl until after you have sex with her. If you still get that warm and fuzzy feeling directly after just blowing your load that is true love. This is absolutely redicuolous. Just do something you enjoy doing together, and after you've had a bit of fun tell her you like her. If she says she likes you too, then ask her out. If she says she doesn't like you, then drop it. If it's anywhere in the middle it means she wants to find out if she likes you too, so just keep spending time with her. You can definitely tell someone you love them before sex, and good relationships don't depend on "dates." Dates are what you do with random chicks you meet at the bar.
Ya this guy is right, do something that you both enjoy and you can tell if you love a girl long before you have had sex. Relationships regardless of what the public says are not based "solely" on sex and if they are they are not going to last.
GL man hope that it goes well for you!
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Often, our basic emotions are blown up in proportions due to (I don't fucking know) and as thus we feel more, than what we actually do. Now, I'm not saying you don't like her, but don't tell her you love her. Something is making it seem that way. Relax, get a better understanding of what you're feeling, gauge the situation and tell her, if you find it appropriate. If you don't it'll go wrong in some way.
gl.
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On March 23 2012 23:44 Lyter wrote:
Dont tell her you love her lol, that will send anyone running, tell her you have a crush though sure
This, exactly.
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Don't ever go up to a girl that you are decent enough friends with and confess you're love to her.
It's not love, it's lust.
Love isn't "my crushes usually last 3 months, so if this lasts 5 months, it must be love!" No. Lust.
Ask her out to dinner, hang out with her. Don't profess undying love to her.
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Blazinghand
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On March 24 2012 01:32 ClysmiC wrote:Show nested quote +On March 23 2012 23:44 Lyter wrote:
Dont tell her you love her lol, that will send anyone running, tell her you have a crush though sure This, exactly.
It's a delicate balance. Let's talk about the suggested responses so far, which include things like "show her your dick" and "tell her you love her"--
Normally you'd want to pick one of the two responses, right? WRONG.
Let me share this informational graphic with you. It has been vital to my romantic successes in life. It is called the "Dicks Crush Love" graph.
![[image loading]](http://i.imgur.com/7z3Ho.png)
The X axis here represents emotionality at one end, and penisitude at the other. Green represents "good" and Red represents "getting rejected"
As my graph clearly shows, you shouldn't just show her your penis, as people have suggested, nor should you just run up to her and tell her you love her. You must take a middle route that will land you in the Green zone. Instead of talking about your cock size and shape, or telling her you want to spend the rest of your life with her (both of which would scare her away), you should tell her you have a crush on her, and ask her out.
It will work better.
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To help firm up Blazinghand's point, I am going to akin his chart (to those colorblind) to a common full contact, recreational (not 100% professional) sport...Bowling.
In Bowling, you try to knock all the pins down. You don't hit the left or the right of the pins, that would cause disaster. You aim right down the middle to knock all the pins down.
All the pins. AND, all the women.
You're welcome.
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Blazinghand
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On March 24 2012 02:13 Jitsu wrote:
To help firm up Blazinghand's point, I am going to akin his chart (to those colorblind) to a common full contact, recreational (not 100% professional) sport...Bowling.
In Bowling, you try to knock all the pins down. You don't hit the left or the right of the pins, that would cause disaster. You aim right down the middle to knock all the pins down.
All the pins. AND, all the women.
You're welcome.
I think you're just making it harder to understand my point. I think my post was plenty long enough without the additional analogy-- though it certainly is apt, I think one or the other explains the point fine. I think the OP just needs to keep a stiff upper lip and not go overboard in his confession, and he'll be fine.
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Don't confess. Look for an intimate moment. Make one. Take advantage. Confessing is overrated in my opinion, and doesnt end as well as just going "hmm, moonlight stroll|? pull in"
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On March 24 2012 02:23 TheEconomist wrote:
Don't confess. Look for an intimate moment. Make one. Take advantage. Confessing is overrated in my opinion, and doesnt end as well as just going "hmm, moonlight stroll|? pull in"
This. just flirt and treat her like your lover. If she wants a relationship then telling her you like her might encourage her to harness feelings for you. probably not though. You need to show your love through action. Be comfortable feeling loving around her and then it will get easier. telling her will not make it easier. You probably won't listen but you've been warned!
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I'm with the people that are against a straight-up confession (although I voted in the poll before reading the entire OP + replies). Based on your situation, she's already comfortable around you so there is no need to risk a confession. Better to ride smoothly, ya know what I mean?
So maybe you should ask her out on a date. Well, ok, you should definitely ask her out on a date. Make sure she knows it's a date (not a friendzone hangout), but don't make it blatantly obvious and awkward. I think she'll get the message and most likely accept your request. I'd like to stick in my massive blurb about making it a physical date and establishing natural connections, but unfortunately my manager has piled on a ton of Friday work on me and I don't want to go home late on a Friday so back to work for me. Uh, short version, establish natural (yes, very very natural) physical connections like hugs and high fives and playful nudges and maybe even holding hands, you know best where to draw the line. Work your charm and keep her guessing, and you'll instinctively know when to pull the trigger (figuratively, not literally).
Good luck!
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quit being a pussy and just tell her
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Like most people, I would warn you very strongly against just telling her you love her. It's a big word, dude, cool your jets. Like everyone has said, all you're going to do is scare her. I've done it. It doesn't work well. Asking her out on a date of some sort is a pretty decent first step.
On March 24 2012 03:10 OpticalShot wrote:
So maybe you should ask her out on a date. Well, ok, you should definitely ask her out on a date. Make sure she knows it's a date (not a friendzone hangout), but don't make it blatantly obvious and awkward.
Also this. Nothing more awkward than you being all hyped up for your 'date' when she's just chilling with one of her friends. Make sure she knows what you're going for - if she doesn't want it she'll tell you, but if she doesn't figure out what you want she's unlikely to take the initiative.
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Would be really awkward if you were in "LOLOLOL" mode while you confess to her.
I'd hate to be there personally but I voted yes for the lulz.
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Definitely tell her you love her. Thats how all good relationships are started.
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Ya my i told my wife i loved her right away and we have been married for 72 years now
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aww so cute to read these teenage-sexual-frustration threads.
Funny how once you reach 30 the roles reverse and the 30y.o. females start becoming desperate and go for anybody lol
To answer your question, this "confession" just sounds so childish, I mean, you're in I.B. so probably 16-17?
You're gonna confess that you've been a pussy all this time? Just ask if she is interested and see what happens. If she does then great, if she doesnt then move on. Simple.
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On March 24 2012 02:42 meteorskunk wrote:Show nested quote +On March 24 2012 02:23 TheEconomist wrote:
Don't confess. Look for an intimate moment. Make one. Take advantage. Confessing is overrated in my opinion, and doesnt end as well as just going "hmm, moonlight stroll|? pull in" This. just flirt and treat her like your lover. If she wants a relationship then telling her you like her might encourage her to harness feelings for you. probably not though. You need to show your love through action. Be comfortable feeling loving around her and then it will get easier. telling her will not make it easier. You probably won't listen but you've been warned! Don't do this. Ambush dates suck for everyone (you cause you know it's a date, her cause she didn't know, and once you spring the ambush there is a good chance of creepiness).
The nervous period you mentioned is good. It means you know you have some feelings for her. Presumably your nervous cause now you know you've got to do something, right? So do something: ask her out. It's a good way to let her know you are interested, and it gives her time to think about whether or not she is interested in you, in case she hasn't thought seriously about it before.
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On March 24 2012 00:13 MaximusT wrote:
Yeah don't pull a Mosby. Or if you do, make sure you go back and throw up on her doormat.
What this guy said. Never pull a Mosby.
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