I love ferrets. Trained well, they're lovely creatures. Can't help you with your troubles, but sounds like you don't have many choices. You will be living there, you need to find a cheaper place. Square the bills with them (in a reasonable tone of voice) and get your life back on track.

Arisen

United States2382 Posts

March 08 2012 10:55 GMT

#22

Wait, ferrets are illegal in Cali? What are they worried about?

Disposition1989

Canada270 Posts

March 08 2012 11:03 GMT

#23

from 5 years of living with different people (friends mind you) in university, either they have problems with you, or you have problems with them. big or small, it's always there around our age. count yourself lucky this didnt happen earlier! ive had people bail on places the day of signing the lease. little different situation, but my point is this shit is bound to happen.

18-24 or whatever where most people are making the big transition from home to the real world, people gravitate to whats comfortable. and for your gf and bf, that's wherever they grew up. the problem is because of this, they don't feel the weight you do of uprooting your life over and over. for them, its a vacation and if things go sour, they call home and that's it. its unfortunate for you, but what can you really do? unless you got em under a contract or something, they can just walk out and leave you hanging.

this is a huge pill to swallow though. what, is it like 5 grand in rent and bills left? fuck that. you best get up in their face AND tell their parents. then you get a new roommate if all else fails. it sure does suck, but thats also a part of life. dont commit to anything that big over 4 months until everyones got real life jobs with salaries and shit. kids even. everyone's said some good stuff though, i think you will be fine

aebriol

Norway2066 Posts

March 08 2012 12:09 GMT

#24

On March 08 2012 19:13 NoctemSC wrote:

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I don't think you understand.
How is it selfish of me to not want my room mate to abandon a contract because they're simply not having fun?
Life isn't all about having fun, it's about responsibilities.
They told me they wanted the same thing before I moved down, we had similar thoughts, views and expectations.
I'm not very mad at the fact that they're leaving, I'm mad at the fact that they're screwing me over financially after they were the ones to tell me to come down.

They have a responsibility and you're saying "well shit man, they can do whatever they want"
If everyone thought like that this world would be in Chaos all of the time.
Life isn't as fickle as you seem to think.

Then don't write shit like "homesick", news flash, mature, retarded, festor heap, "best friend" etc.

Fact is, they can and will do what they want. The decent thing for them however is trying to not hurt you financially, but you seem to lack any kind of understanding for the fact that things aren't working out for them and they want to move back home. Their responsibility to you is the financial situation they put you in, but beyond that - nothing really.

If you are only hurt because of the financial situation that's perfectly reasonable.

But that is not how I read your original post.

My understanding was that you had no understanding for them wanting to move back at all, and you were only worried about how it would impact you.

That's fine if it's a legal contract, but not if they are your 'best friend' which you theoretically should give a shit about.

In particular, you caring a lot more about your ferret than your "best friend" having a shitty time, seems quite selfish.

Elurie

4716 Posts

March 08 2012 12:19 GMT

#25

On March 08 2012 19:13 NoctemSC wrote:
I'm not very mad at the fact that they're leaving, I'm mad at the fact that they're screwing me over financially after they were the ones to tell me to come down.

Did all three sign the lease, or just you?
Please say the former, please say the former, please say the former...

If your "friends" won't cover the lease-breaking fees, then you should talk to your landlord and see what your options are. Not all of them are assholes. You might get lucky (if you don't want new roommates), the landlord might let you move to a 1-br or studio within their property for the remaining of the lease. It might be more than your 1/3 share of the current apartment, but probably cheaper than renting the current apartment by yourself.

Not saying that will happen, but it'd be more productive than huffing and puffing internally.

Mementoss

Canada2595 Posts

March 08 2012 13:41 GMT

#26

When life gives you lemons throw a lemon party. If you know what I mean.

EDIT* On a more serious note, they should have to pay the rent until they find replacements if they do go back and you stay. But that is a huge dick move. If you all committed to a year, unless all 3 of you agree upon leaving, no one should leave. A new city, a new life, you need that support from your friends.

On the other hand your all individuals, and you all chose your own way. It is a dick move, but if they're not enjoying it at all they should leave cause that's best for them. They still owe you financially however. If you're having a good time, i'm sure you can make a lot of new friends down there and catch up with these friends when you visit cali again.

Also is it your girlfriend or his?

NoctemSC

United States771 Posts

March 08 2012 14:33 GMT

#27

On March 08 2012 22:41 Mementoss wrote:
When life gives you lemons throw a lemon party. If you know what I mean.

EDIT* On a more serious note, they should have to pay the rent until they find replacements if they do go back and you stay. But that is a huge dick move. If you all committed to a year, unless all 3 of you agree upon leaving, no one should leave. A new city, a new life, you need that support from your friends.

On the other hand your all individuals, and you all chose your own way. It is a dick move, but if they're not enjoying it at all they should leave cause that's best for them. They still owe you financially however. If you're having a good time, i'm sure you can make a lot of new friends down there and catch up with these friends when you visit cali again.

Also is it your girlfriend or his?

Apparently I worded it incorrectly. When I first typed out the Original post it was at 4 am.
It's his girlfriend, not mine.

bonifaceviii

Canada2890 Posts

March 08 2012 16:48 GMT

#28

Explain the situation to your landlord. Either he'll 1) be a complete dick, 2) allow you to break your lease early so you can move somewhere else or 3) let you get new roommates.

The third option is the most likely one.

matiK23

United States963 Posts

March 08 2012 17:05 GMT

#29

Well if you all signed a lease, he can't just leave you with only yourself to pay the whole rent. He has to find a sub-lease before he can move out.

Oh and dogs (in your case, a ferret) are more loyal than men. People are way too fickle in today's society.

xSixGeneralHan

United States528 Posts

March 08 2012 17:40 GMT

#30

Your mistake was being the third wheel in a living situation cuz they can feed off each other and out vote you etc.

BenBuford

Denmark307 Posts

March 08 2012 17:57 GMT

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Chill

Calgary25991 Posts

March 08 2012 19:24 GMT

#32

This doesn't seem like a big deal. They went on a big adventure and it didn't work out for them so they'd like to move back. It's working out very well for you so you'd like to stay. No betrayal here. Ask them to find replacement roommates that you approve before they leave, as that's the right thing for them to do.