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gurglamesh
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States30 Posts
March 07 2012 05:58 GMT
#1
So this a more personal blog than my other ones.Me and my girlfriend of about 9 months broke up probably like 3 months ago. I have seen other girls since but it just feels weird and wrong. Me and this girl talk still. We even hook up sometimes, but she has a boyfriend now and theres no way shes breaking up with him for us to get back together. I know i hated most of the shit about our relationship, but is it weird that i still miss her as much as i do? Is it because i still talk to her and occasionally have sex with her? just thought id look for some advice.

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CatioN
Profile Joined February 2009
United States136 Posts
March 07 2012 06:04 GMT
#2
Whats rather distrubing is that she is cheating on her boyfriend with you, so what makes you think she wasnt cheating on you when you two were together? They do it once they are bound to do it again. TIME this shit takes time....
Micro/Macro with love!
gurglamesh
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States30 Posts
March 07 2012 06:10 GMT
#3
Whats really disturbing is i know she cheated on me... i just assume only physically. Im only 18 still in high school and travel with a pretty, i guess not morally respectable group of kids. Not saying that im a bad kid, im an sc2 nerd and dont try to cause trouble, but what im saying is that ive yet to have a relationship with a girl i find apealing to me that hasnt been a cheater. Im not sure how much that really bothers me :/
DarkPlasmaBall
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
United States44895 Posts
March 07 2012 06:10 GMT
#4
On March 07 2012 15:04 CatioN wrote:
Whats rather distrubing is that she is cheating on her boyfriend with you, so what makes you think she wasnt cheating on you when you two were together? They do it once they are bound to do it again. TIME this shit takes time....


This is an important thing to think about.

Also, even if you're not really her boyfriend anymore, you're still sexually/ emotionally attached to her via sex. If you actually want to get over her, you need to stop being intimate with her. Honestly, even being friends probably won't work out, although you can still be naive and pretend like it will and still tell her *you can still be friends*. But you're not going to get over someone who you committed a lot of time and effort and are still seeing on the side.

If there's no chance of you guys getting back together, you honestly need to try and cut off the ties with her (for now, at least) and move on, completely. Maybe later on down the road, you can attempt to be platonic. But what you're doing right now is not going to allow the healing process to ever occur.
"There is nothing more satisfying than looking at a crowd of people and helping them get what I love." ~Day[9] Daily #100
Clazziquai10
Profile Blog Joined August 2011
Singapore1949 Posts
March 07 2012 06:11 GMT
#5
On March 07 2012 15:04 CatioN wrote:
Whats rather distrubing is that she is cheating on her boyfriend with you, so what makes you think she wasnt cheating on you when you two were together? They do it once they are bound to do it again. TIME this shit takes time....


Your heart doesnt rule your dick.....same way with girls i suppose
EatsDirt
Profile Joined September 2011
Canada26 Posts
March 07 2012 06:12 GMT
#6
shes bad news
goiflin
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
Canada1218 Posts
March 07 2012 06:16 GMT
#7
On March 07 2012 15:10 gurglamesh wrote:
Whats really disturbing is i know she cheated on me... i just assume only physically. Im only 18 still in high school and travel with a pretty, i guess not morally respectable group of kids. Not saying that im a bad kid, im an sc2 nerd and dont try to cause trouble, but what im saying is that ive yet to have a relationship with a girl i find apealing to me that hasnt been a cheater. Im not sure how much that really bothers me :/


I wouldn't worry too much about that. It'll come eventually. You can fish for a while and test kind of what you want or don't want in a relationship until later.
GiggleFairy
Profile Joined January 2011
Australia331 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-07 06:18:45
March 07 2012 06:17 GMT
#8
When you found out she was cheating on you how did you feel? Now think that someone else is feeling that way if he finds out about you. I think you need to drop her and move on. I know 9 months seems like a LONG time when you are young but trust me, you'll find someone else. Sure keep being friends and keep up the talk, but keep it above the belt champ


NukeTheStars
Profile Blog Joined February 2009
United States277 Posts
March 07 2012 06:18 GMT
#9
On March 07 2012 15:12 EatsDirt wrote:
shes bad news


Truer words were never spoken. Get the hell away, dude.
theBALLS
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
Singapore2935 Posts
March 07 2012 06:27 GMT
#10
This sounds screwed up. You two aren't good for each other. Mutually.
If you lose the stick, you'll always have theBALLS.
`Zapdos
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
United States935 Posts
March 07 2012 06:33 GMT
#11
Listen, most of us older kids have been in that spot. Like others have said, if theres no chance to get back with her you really should cut ties or you're going to stay emotionally attached and it will be really hard to move on. Try to take this is a stepping stone. Each relationship teaches you more and more about what you want from somebody, and more importantly teaches you how to treat people better. Keep your chin up and look to the future and try to find a healthier relationship with a girl who you believe isn't going to be cheating on you for once. If all else fails, just focus on yourself for while, you're very young no need to rush these things.
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Grobyc
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Canada18410 Posts
March 07 2012 06:37 GMT
#12
You're 18
She cheated on you
She's cheating on him now
Lasted 9 months
Was 3 months ago

BAD NEWS BEARS MAN

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She's quite the slut if you didn't get that already.


Don't worry about finding a new gf anytime soon. It should come naturally and if it doesn't then you're trying to put a cube in a circular hole. And not in any kind of sexual way, because that wouldn't feel very nice.
If you watch Godzilla backwards it's about a benevolent lizard who helps rebuild a city and then moonwalks into the ocean.
n3gative
Profile Joined May 2009
Canada369 Posts
March 07 2012 06:51 GMT
#13
get back together with her, you sound perfect for each other.
eu.exodus
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
South Africa1186 Posts
March 07 2012 07:02 GMT
#14
with girls like that there are 5 simple steps to follow that make things a lot easier. cheaters are bad news.

1. find her
2. fingher
3. fuck her
4. forget her
5. forever

6 poll is a good skill toi have
Fishgle
Profile Blog Joined May 2011
United States2174 Posts
March 07 2012 07:03 GMT
#15
On March 07 2012 15:51 n3gative wrote:
get back together with her, you sound perfect for each other.


sick burn rofl

no. jk. bad news. get away. spend 9 months with someone else and you'll forget about this one.

gl hf
aka ChillyGonzalo / GnozL
DemonDeacon
Profile Joined February 2012
United States158 Posts
March 07 2012 07:12 GMT
#16
i know this isn't true about everyone but from my experience: every couple that i knew who married before graduation (from college) or within 1 year of graduation eventually got a divorce. the fact is that people change a lot at such a young age even if you're a "perfect" fit now, you most likely won't be any fit in 5 years. it doesn't matter how much you like this girl. chances are even if you did get back with her, it would not end right and you'd feel even worse than before because you wasted so much extra time on her. i know this doesn't really relate to you but i think it's a good concept to think about.

you guys dated, you are broken up, move on. it didn't work out for a reason, whatever it was. stop wasting your time on this girl when you could be spending it elsewhere (developing new relationships, not just with girls but in making new friends in general). this is especially true given the fact that she a. cheated on you and b. is cheating on her bf. this girl is a (pardon my french) b**ch and clearly doesn't give a s**t about anyone but herself. I know a lot of girls who "get around" and you know what, it's not a big deal. it's not attractive but if that's what they want to do that's fine because there's a difference between getting around when you're single and committing to a relationship, and then completely ignoring your responsibilities in the relationship. if you want to be happy you'll force yourself to get over this girl.

Finally: Sex never helps getting over someone. i had an ex who i hooked up with for 2 years after we broke up and it was terrible. i would get over her for a while and then come home for spring break, have sex with her, and then be obsessed with her again and not stop thinking about her for months. it was terrible. some people can have sex with their ex's and not think about it again but if you're so attached to this girl i think the best thing to do (to get over her) would be to stop seeing her altogether.

gg
English
Profile Joined April 2010
United States475 Posts
March 07 2012 07:19 GMT
#17
Still pretty young, and it sounds like both (all) of you need to mature. It comes with time, but just be mindful that not caring about cheating (victim or offender) may lead to relationship problems down the road. Being faithful is an admirable and uncommon quality, and finding someone loyal while you yourself is loyal can be quite awesome.
eohs
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States677 Posts
March 07 2012 07:37 GMT
#18
everyone thinks there in love at 18 with the person they date... let me just say i still talk to the girl I went out with at 18 and me and her still hook up lol. The point is me and her knew we couldn't have a relationship we was too different however hooking up and so forth can still be in the mix. Just gotta go with the flow and wait some girl will come and u will fall head over heals in love and be happy man. Till then have fun fuck bitches get high and drink lol your to young for " love " my friend these times are the times to do whatever the hell you want. Before life gets real and u gotta go to work and gotta pay bills and gotta do the shit you dont want to.
My point forget her... move on to another girl... repeat till you find the real one you want to love.
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hyperknight
Profile Joined May 2011
294 Posts
March 07 2012 07:39 GMT
#19
Supress your emotions regarding your ex and move on. Else shit will get ugly.
"you 6poll?" - aLive to IdrA on NASL Sunday Showmatch, Feb 2012
cmen15
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States1519 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-07 08:42:20
March 07 2012 08:41 GMT
#20
Hi man ive been in a similar thing with a girl before minus the cheating on another guy part lol. It's tough at first just takes time also I have found that most young people are more attracted to the sex then the person themselves. What makes us animals i guess lol.

Also damm darkplasma your icon changed Oo
Greed leads to just about all losses.
Quesadilla
Profile Blog Joined October 2007
United States1814 Posts
March 07 2012 08:48 GMT
#21
On March 07 2012 16:02 eu.exodus wrote:
with girls like that there are 5 simple steps to follow that make things a lot easier. cheaters are bad news.

1. find her
2. fingher
3. fuck her
4. forget her
5. forever



This is terrible advice, just follow #4 and #5.
Make a lot of friends. Wear good clothes. Drink good beer. Love a nice girl.
Tommylew
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
Wales2717 Posts
March 07 2012 11:19 GMT
#22
Yeh you really need to stop sleeping with her or anything... if she cheated on you and is now cheating on her new boyfriend with you... well you can already see where this is going. You need to forget her and move on she wants the best of both worlds.

Delete her number and also her on any social sites and just try get over her! Last thing you want to do is to keep checking her facebook and see pictures of her etc.

Live and Let Die!
MaximusT
Profile Blog Joined February 2012
United States126 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-07 14:35:29
March 07 2012 14:33 GMT
#23
On March 07 2012 16:02 eu.exodus wrote:
with girls like that there are 5 simple steps to follow that make things a lot easier. cheaters are bad news.

1. find her
2. fingher
3. fuck her
4. forget her
5. forever



A little bit shorter version of this, remember the 3 F's.
Find 'em, fuck 'em, forget 'em.

You're 18. There's plenty of time to find the "one" or whatever. Have fun and learn some things so when you do find the one you are able to knock her pants off and keep them off. Just be safe. Don't be a fool, wrap your tool.
I like the building position. Optimized to let the other player penetrate his anal crevice as easily as possible, it's good. - Destiny
d3_crescentia
Profile Blog Joined May 2009
United States4054 Posts
March 07 2012 14:46 GMT
#24
it's not unusual to miss an ex, especially if you kept talking after the relationship ended

basically, though, it's just like a drug habit you have to kick, especially if the relationship was bad for you

otherwise you might start acting like a dumbass looking for your next fix
once, not long ago, there was a moon here
mordk
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
Chile8385 Posts
March 08 2012 00:31 GMT
#25
On March 07 2012 14:58 gurglamesh wrote:
So this a more personal blog than my other ones.Me and my girlfriend of about 9 months broke up probably like 3 months ago. I have seen other girls since but it just feels weird and wrong. Me and this girl talk still. We even hook up sometimes, but she has a boyfriend now and theres no way shes breaking up with him for us to get back together. I know i hated most of the shit about our relationship, but is it weird that i still miss her as much as i do? Is it because i still talk to her and occasionally have sex with her? just thought id look for some advice.

It's been 3 months, it's about the time in which you start forgetting the rage and start reminiscing and missing all the good things about your broken relationship. It's a mirage.

You miss her because it's normal for you to miss her. Because she gave you something that you don't have anymore. But that doesn't mean you can't feel well with someone else.

My advice: Stop doing this, it's not good for you and it could be troublesome in the future. Gather yourself up, think about stuff, alone, and then do something about it. If you still want her, that's fine, but you should set a line, because it's not acceptable for you to be with her when she has a BF, that just means she doesn't really want to commit to a relationship with you, when that's actually what you want.

Think about yourself, and only yourself. That's probably what she's doing anyways.
DemonDeacon
Profile Joined February 2012
United States158 Posts
March 20 2012 23:48 GMT
#26
On March 07 2012 23:33 MaximusT wrote:
Show nested quote +
On March 07 2012 16:02 eu.exodus wrote:
with girls like that there are 5 simple steps to follow that make things a lot easier. cheaters are bad news.

1. find her
2. fingher
3. fuck her
4. forget her
5. forever



A little bit shorter version of this, remember the 3 F's.
Find 'em, fuck 'em, forget 'em.

You're 18. There's plenty of time to find the "one" or whatever. Have fun and learn some things so when you do find the one you are able to knock her pants off and keep them off. Just be safe. Don't be a fool, wrap your tool.


there's also the DENNIS system

Demonstrate value
Engage physically
Nurture dependence
Neglect emotionally]
Inspire hope
Separate entirely

+ Show Spoiler +
gg
PaqMan
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United States1475 Posts
March 21 2012 00:43 GMT
#27
Dude, if she's stopping you from moving on then you gotta get her out of your life. If I were in your position I'd just drop all communication with her completely.
You have to be the one in charge, even after you two break up. Don't make your decisions based off of her actions, girls love that. Make your own decisions and watch the way she reacts.

Plus, as far as my experience goes, girls really hate to be ignored.
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