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Hello TL.
I recently realized that I'm pretty much a foreveralone when it comes down to Interent. I figured this after visiting a few forums in which I participated for a while (with a message count going from 250 to 1000). I skimmed through and I remembered most of the active people there, and yet people didn't really remember me. And as far as I remember, it has always been so, with the exception of the first forums I went to, which were manga-related.
When I was 14, I created a sort of bond with a few members : took their msn adress, talked with a few people, met three of them IRL. I was being social. I had my online community and my online "friends". However, this didn't last for long : I had a problem with virtual friends. I couldn't keep talking to people I had never met for very long, it seemed wrong (with a few exceptions).
I grew tired of (most) mangas and eventually left those websites, to begin a journey that followed my different interests (drugs, SC, etc).
But I never made friends again! I don't even use anything like MSN or skype anymore. I just post on the forum and leave. This keeps me an anonymous everywhere I go. But I feel lonely sometimes.
The odd thing is that I often see people who are loners IRL and who lead a fulfilling virtual life with tons of friends on skype. I actually work the other way round : I have a group of very close friends and a GF I'm madly in love with, and I don't know anyone on the net. I can't even have practice partners to play SC! Well I don't play anymore so it's not a problem now I guess, but still, the lonely browsing nights remain.
And I was wondering : is my case rare or do nerds usually develop a social circle online to chat when doing their nerdy activites?
  
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The new battle.net doesn't seem very conducive to making friends. The only online thing i seem to make friends through is MMO games.
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I had a really close relationship with my online friends when I was playing WoW, but I think that is more because I was in a guild with limited people who I would communicate with daily and say hi to by name. (well, screen name, but you get it.) These people I eventually flew out to various get-togethers as well as chatted with on the phone, so I can relate.
I feel people who 'know' eachother on this forum are generally those who post in similar threads all the time, ie. everyone who posts in everything related to something happening in their area, posters who all frequent the gay starcraft players thread, LR threads, and so on. I guess the rule of thumb is that if you're in smaller groups, you're a lot more likely to be remembered.
Personally since I've switched back to starcraft I have no social circles, but that's alright for now. I have a few very close friends and a wife IRL which fulfills my social needs, but I doubt anyone would recognize my name online and connect it to me. 
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you have to be more active - find a clan or something that will take people of your skill level, try hard to be active, make friends. it's not hard...
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From being on several forums myself I know what you're talking about, and I think it's easier the smaller the forum is. I'd say I've been more social on some than in others (and in real life to some extent I suppose, I'm not foreveralone IRL either... I think)
Realistically it'll be harder to know a lot of active members on TL because there are so many of them, and the lack of an off-topic section (on TL? oh the humanity... lol) makes it harder to connect.
If you have a forum of 10000, even, it'd be substantially easier. (Perspective: 10000 are logged in right now on TL)
Above got it right, get active in threads beyond just posting, since this is a SC2 forum you can take it away from the forum and into SC2, and max out your friend list (harder since you don't play SC2 anymore) or post frequently on the subforums, consistently, get some name recognition.
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Play a game, make practice partners, make a clan channel and play together. You can do this with Minecraft, LoL, BW, BF3, SC2... any game really. This community was formed out of a shared appreciation for BW afaik. I don't know a lot of people on the forums and I don't get a lot of PM's but when I have been a part of a "community" here and had social time with people on the site, it was because I was playing a game with them. It's easier to communicate and therefore be social when it's live, like a chatroom or a game with chat. There are also some irc channels you can join. Here's a couple:
irc.quakenet.org/#teamliquid
irc.quakenet.org/#nanashin - BW proleague chat and nanashin the streamer's chat channel about his stream
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Well, I'm not trying to find new friends, I was more curious about your own experience...
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I know that feeling, I've only managed to really get with a group of people once or twice. The first time was on a MMO, with this absolutely amazing guild whose leader was a bot but no one seemed to care - all of the active members did everything together, until we slowly started drifting apart ~6 months later. /: The rest of the time though, I join a guild, stay for a while, get bored and forget about that particular game, and go do something else. Not really condusive to making long-standing online relationships.
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It might be weird thirty years ago, man. Loner society is happening almost as much in real life as the internet.
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i'm the opposite: i pretty much only have friends on the internet. i have been talking to the same 9-10 people for about 5-6 years now online, and they all actually live <1hr away from me, and they all went to school together. i haven't hung out with anyone since junior year HS (currently 20yrs old) and used to go to friends houses a lot but i never really enjoyed going out. wasn't unpopular or anything in school, just didn't like being super social like everyone else haha.
the only reason i ever met these people was from WoW, if you never played any MMORPG then chances are you're not going to meet any real online friends.
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I'm in the same situation as you! I have a very close group of friends and an amazing gf. But I have absolutely no friends online. Occasionally I'll join an online community and get well-known with most of the members for a few months, and then I'd just leave.
I don't even have friends on TL.
Forever alone );
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I don't have any friends online, i post here and there maybe have an interesting conversation with somebody. But the way the internet works, if you don't want to talk to someone its as simple as not logging in anymore, or if you just find you dont have time to log onto this site then suddenly username _____ hasn't shown up for 6 months and thats the end of it.
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The only time I have ever made friends with people online is when I played the left 4 dead campaigns. Talking with people for several hours is much more effective than written messages for me. No other game that I have played has made it that easy to talk to people, most other games I play I rarely use my mic and don't want to communicate.
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E-friends aren't cool. When you get to a point where you are high enough(LoL), and coming on stream, then dem bitches keep trying to add you. Then you get this problem of all these needy dudes begging you to play with them, and constantly messaging you. And we all know that every1 that has a low rank online isn't worth talking to anyways. So the solution is, get to GM, win some tourneys, and make some other GM friends. Then you guys can all be elitists and have fun. If you're bad, then you can only have fun with second rate players, which means you're not having as much fun.
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It seems that people either make friends while playing games or have none at all ; does it mean that in order to have friends on the net, you need to make a huge committment and spend at least a third of your life online? Play WoW or something?
I mean, some nights really feel lonely, with a calm song on, just reading things... I guess you either have a real life online or limit your internet use to a more efficient level.
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When I was 10 I made stop motion lego animations on youtube, there was an awesome community of like 20 boys exactly my age doing exactly the same thing. We collaborated by voice acting in each other's films and stuff and including each other in our videos. It was so much fun to interact with people of my exact same type because no one I knew in real life was anything like me. Anyways we all got older and quit, but last month I started talking on skype with one of the guys I was friends with and we still have like everything in common. He lives in Finland and i live in America so we've never met but it was like meeting an old friend who you've never seen in a while. He was literally one of my best friends from ages 10-12 and now were teens and we play minecraft and chess online on weekends while on skype lol.
I've only had one other real good friend on the internet. I was awaiting the release of Star Trek Online and I would go into their irc chat every day and talk with people and one guy "Jonathon" and I would have really long arguments on almost everything and we somehow became friends. When the game came out they closed the irc chat and I never heard from him again.
I was also friends with some of the other officers in my Age of Empires III clan and a few of them switched over to sc2 and we still play sometimes but they aren't very active.
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