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bjornkavist
Canada1235 Posts
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Azzur
Australia6260 Posts
You don't need to confront her about it - just ignore her when she tries to be affectionate and cuddle. Basically, you are in her friendzone but very high up the zone (but ultimately, still friends). She's jealous because if you show affection to another girl, there's less time for her. But she's jealous in a friend manner and not relationship-jealous. | ||
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krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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bjornkavist
Canada1235 Posts
On February 14 2012 14:27 Azzur wrote: Ah, nice to have a typical girl blog back! http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?topic_id=311499 You don't need to confront her about it - just ignore her when she tries to be affectionate and cuddle. Basically, you are in her friendzone but very high up the zone (but ultimately, still friends). She's jealous because if you show affection to another girl, there's less time for her. But she's jealous in a friend manner and not relationship-jealous. I get what you're trying to say but it won't really fix my problem, and on top of that it's also a matter of pride. I feel used, and ignoring her isn't gonna fix that, or let her know what she did. | ||
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hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
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Azzur
Australia6260 Posts
On February 14 2012 14:30 bjornkavist wrote: I get what you're trying to say but it won't really fix my problem, and on top of that it's also a matter of pride. I feel used, and ignoring her isn't gonna fix that, or let her know what she did. That's true - actually, I didn't mean to ignore her in the literal sense - it's more like flipping her away casually. For instance, say that you're flirting with girl C, and she comes to be affectionate. You can then flip her away with an amused expression such as, "It's C's turn now, but you can get in the queue!" or something similar. Also, never initiate contact with her, leave her to do it. Doing this will do far more than a confrontation. Confronting her will do nothing but make her think less of you (because that's probably what she expecting). Doing something that she didn't expect will be much more effective and you'll soon notice that she'll act better around you and this increases your pride. | ||
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bjornkavist
Canada1235 Posts
On February 14 2012 14:47 Azzur wrote: That's true - actually, I didn't mean to ignore her in the literal sense - it's more like flipping her away casually. For instance, say that you're flirting with girl C, and she comes to be affectionate. You can then flip her away with an amused expression such as, "It's C's turn now, but you can get in the queue!" or something similar. Also, never initiate contact with her, leave her to do it. Doing this will do far more than a confrontation. Confronting her will do nothing but make her think less of you (because that's probably what she expecting). Doing something that she didn't expect will be much more effective and you'll soon notice that she'll act better around you and this increases your pride. I really appreciate the advice man it's awesome, but what you just described is basically what I've been doing for the past 2 months but this shit still happens. Like is there really no good way to go about confronting someone about this? | ||
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StorkHwaiting
United States3465 Posts
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bjornkavist
Canada1235 Posts
On February 14 2012 14:51 StorkHwaiting wrote: She's a trifling ho. Kick her to the curb. Go with the girl C. Or don't go for any girl. You seem kind of lost yourself. Girl C shouldn't be some backup you go for if your friend-girl doesn't like you. That's just lame. So yeah, figure out what you want. Hope it's not the trifling ho. I see your point ya, and I feel like an idiot for that. Thing is I legitimately liked Girl C, but then this girl started hanging out with me more and I pretty much just stopped communicating with C, and haven't spoken to her in a while. Also gogo Stork <3 | ||
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Azzur
Australia6260 Posts
On February 14 2012 14:50 bjornkavist wrote: I really appreciate the advice man it's awesome, but what you just described is basically what I've been doing for the past 2 months but this shit still happens. Like is there really no good way to go about confronting someone about this? Nope, confronting doesn't work unless you're actually in a relationship - confronting before is like exhibiting that you're a sensitive kind of guy which is counter-productive. | ||
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Sc2Requiem
United States121 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
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[DUF]MethodMan
Germany1716 Posts
On February 14 2012 14:47 Azzur wrote: That's true - actually, I didn't mean to ignore her in the literal sense - it's more like flipping her away casually. For instance, say that you're flirting with girl C, and she comes to be affectionate. You can then flip her away with an amused expression such as, "It's C's turn now, but you can get in the queue!" or something similar. Also, never initiate contact with her, leave her to do it. Doing this will do far more than a confrontation. Confronting her will do nothing but make her think less of you (because that's probably what she expecting). Doing something that she didn't expect will be much more effective and you'll soon notice that she'll act better around you and this increases your pride. rightout ignoring her still is the better solution. what youre suggestion is a girly move, which surprisingly wouldnt work on a girl. every and each further action towards her, be it on behalf his or her initiative doesnt matter, just attaches him again to her. leave her for good, fuck girl C and enjoy life. | ||
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husniack
203 Posts
This may sound lewd, but you've got to remember. Men Take. Women Give. It's how our species is run. If a women is not giving, there is something wrong with how she views you as a man. | ||
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Ushio
Canada868 Posts
ladder theory, kick her to the curb | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
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Sabu113
United States11075 Posts
Should have played out C because you know how this story is going to end.Ofc if you would have hurt C by leading her on then I suppose this was the best outcome. | ||
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skyrunner
371 Posts
because i like you  1st of all: Don’t listen to people here on TL (not me either hehe), or the internet as a whole. You should ask your friends how they feel you should act. Because they know you, the girl and the whole situation better than anyone that read a few sentences of a TL blog. And more importantly you know them better, so you can value their advice appropriately. You know that one guy (or several probably) of your friends that has had no experience with girls, yet always know exactly how to “handle” every girl and situation, just because he read something in a men’s-magazine or because “that’s what everybody says”. That’s pretty much how I imagine 90% of the girl blog advice here on TL. 2nd of all: Forget about the friend zone. People here take the friend zone way to literal. It's seriously the most tiresome trope about girl related advice. Im no psychology major and I haven’t read any PUA books on the girls psych, but im pretty sure there’s a in-between (or several in-betweens) of the “friend-zone” and “boyfriend-zone”. I have seen plenty of friends become a couple, or people that slept with their friends, or people that cheats on their boyfriends with a friend. It's more complicated that that (social relations usually are), truth is everybody “zones” people. You, me, every man and every woman “zones” the people they meet. Im pretty sure you zone the girls you meet, just as you zone your friends, relatives w/e. Most guys (not saying you btw) use the friends zone thing as an excuse. “I got friend zoned” when it’s really just that the girl doesn’t like him in that way. Everybody wants to be a nice guy or feels like a nice guy right? “Im a nice guy that’s why I get friend zoned” wich is just an excuse blaming it all on how women are hardwired to not like a certain when it just that they are not attracted to that specific nice guy. 3rdly im gonna give you my advice: Maybe you should do what YOU feel? No you don’t have cut her off completely. If you still want to be friends with her and she wants to be friends with you obv can. If you never speak to her again you won’t be happy, she won’t be happy with that, and that random guy on the internet won’t care either way. Yes, if you want to you can confront her about it. It’s probably what I personally would do. Just like any situation (especially when confronting someone) there is a right way to do it and… several bad ways. I would agree that she uses you as a back-up. The correct response here when someone does that to you is to let that person somehow know you won’t tolerate it. By confronting her you will let her know that, and it might just end up favorably for you :O Now even if it doesn’t you will still be better off, because now you did what YOU wanted, you didn’t second guess yourself and you didn’t follow advice from a random guy you don’t know. You could keep on “playing the game” and in another year you will be just in the same place as you are now. If you’re honest with her chances are she’ll be honest with you, and now you will at least know how she feels about the situation and you have something to work with  Ok this became much longer than I wanted, gl + Show Spoiler + | ||
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