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On February 06 2012 16:47 Roffles wrote:
Man up.
If that shit don't work out, plenty of girls in college. Don't fret it son.
Oh yeah, just because you ask someone out to a ball doesn't mean you have to commit to a real relationship.
We have a winner. You can go together as friends too. Either way, man up and ask
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I always thought a "girl blog" was a term relating to a blog that sounded like a whiney teenage girl writing in her diary.
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Boys friendzone themselves as much, if not more than, girls friendzone them.
Act like you have a pair, and fucking go for it.
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haha go for it man. even if she says no, what's the worse that could happen?
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It took me until I was in a foreign country to realize:
The worse that can happen is they say no.
Just do it.
You'll learn later that you can get a LOT more if you just ask.
Not only girls. Everything.
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seriously, high school is overrated. prom is just the epitome of useless times for everyone to get excited. once you grow up you'll have things happen that are actually meaningful.
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Listen to your penis man.
Always listen to your penisman.
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Let me break this down for ya
Case 1: she says yes and you fuck
Case 2: she says yes but go as friends, this is actually not bad at all as you can still have lots of fun
Case 3: she says no for whatever reason, this is still not that bad because you can still ask other people
It's still better to ask than not to ask, because you've already failed if you don't. I know prom seems like a huge deal, but it's really not.
At one point in your life, you will realize girls are dime a dozen, and they actually want to get asked out by guys.
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My first impression is that yes you've been what everyone calls 'friendzone'd. Despite popular beliefs, it's possible to break out of the zone, especially after a major achievement of some sort. We'll set that aside for now, because our focus is on getting a promsenior ball date for you, eh?
You have to first convince yourself that a senior ball date is not as big of a deal as people seem to make of it. For people that were already in a relationship before, sure this is the perfect night to go the distance in whatever wild ways they plan to. For everyone else, just pair up and enjoy a celebration of the useless years you endured in high school. On the other side, not going at all is a mistake you'll forever regret and be ridiculed for. Yes, I ridiculed a lot of friends in engineering because they didn't bother going to the prom - sad, really.
Two things here for you: you have to ask her as soon as possible and with a clear delivery. The worst thing, which I hope you'll avoid, is to ask her like a week before the event and "uhhh yeah hey I was sorta thinking... nevermind (off topic for 30 minutes) oh yeah and I just remembered errrrr are you going with anyone for the ball because if you don't, well, then I was thinking maybe then we could sorta uhhhhh go together if you don't mind" OH MY GOD I can't believe I typed out so much FAIL in one not even a complete sentence. You get the idea?
There probably are a bunch of high schoolers that's already grown a pair of giant steel balls and asked a bunch of decent girls out. Many will suddenly grow a pair and ask girls out before prom because that's sort of the right timing for those late-growers. Time is not on your side, friend. Also, girls are sly creatures and they 'sense' and 'anticipate' who's going to ask them (if not in relationship already). Once they get tired of the guy not making a move, they start dropping a bunch of hints and shit. It doesn't mean they want you to stick it in their vagina, it just means they want to go as a pair and have fun.
So back to you, what I get is that the girl is hinting that you should ask her to the senior ball. Yep. She's been trusting you with a lot of information that she doesn't normally share with people. You might feel like a friend, she might want you as just that, but she probably still wants to go to a senior ball with a partner. Do NOT follow the purposely terrible example given above, it doesn't even matter if she's with a couple other friends. Definitely a bad idea to do it in front of 30+ people or something, but don't wait like a month for that 'moment' when it's just you and her. Just pick a good time, I'm sure you'll know it yourself. If she starts talking about oh how her friends are going shopping for a new dress or how she thinks she'll need new shoes or that shit man that's like Terran lifting their rax just as your lings arrive at the ramp (ref: Light vs. Crazy-Hydra) SO ASK! "Hey [girl name], I think you're a wonderful person and I want you to be my date for the upcoming senior ball" is going to get the job done. Limit and eliminate all the if's and would you and maybe and the filler words, you let her damn know you want her. Look at her straight in the eyes, almost to stun her momentarily. Don't do anything creepy like grabbing her butt while saying it lol but hey, if you two are close enough of friends to hold hands and hug each other, then why not push the romance a bit and hold her hands while doing it?
This gets extra complicated - or I am making it more complicated it for you because I love TL girl blogs - because it's Valentine's Day soon. Okay you two are right now "friends" but Valentine's Day is a fantastic opportunity to kick things into gear for the brave souls daring to make a move. I'm sure your school has candygrams and rose deliveries and whatever cute generic services you can get for a dollar or two, and that's a fine thing to do, but you HAVE to ask her about the senior ball in person. Must-do-in-person. You can even hint it on the personal message that goes with those candygrams like "Happy Valentine's Day, See you in a bit while I gather some balls" okay that's not exactly a good idea lol scrap that, but yeah you have to ask her in person.
Based on the timing, you could even kick it off into a relationship. All this friendzone speculation is just speculation and maybe she wants you more than that, who knows.
Oh, and yeah be ready to buy her ticket lol girls seem to think that's the norm and there's not much we can do about that.
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On February 06 2012 16:33 Froadac wrote:
Maybe I should just ask her and not worry ;;
This. Stop thinking and just do it.
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Senior Ball isn't the same as asking her to be your girlfriend. You can use it as a stepping stone to further things or you can just go as friends and have fun. Just don't make it awkward for her and have fun.
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Roffles
Pitcairn19291 Posts
Rofl OpShot writes an essay. Lmfao
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dont worry about being in the friendzone or whatever, all girls really want is a guy who can make them laugh (self-explanatory, but don't make a fool out of yourself. also if youre hot girls will laugh at your jokes or anything you say even if you;re not funny), take care of them/protect them (have a lot of money or be tough and strong. obviously in high school you dont have money but if youre a nerd which i assume you are because of the ap classes, youre going to get a job that pays good. so in the end girls want nerds, even if they spend a lot of their life chasing after tough strong jerks who treat them badly). they also like it when a guy is sweet and isnt afraid to cry in public situations...
anyway just be yourself and just ask her. youre probably not going to see her after high school so this is a great opportunity to get some experience with girls (remember girls are just humans like you and me, except they want to smell and look nice and have a lot of fat on their chest)
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On February 06 2012 17:07 EvilTeletubby wrote:Meh, it's just highschool. Once you get out into the real world you'll realize that 99.9% of HS doesn't mean shit for shit. 
Yup. Realistically this is very true.
@OpticalShot: Epic essay has been written.
I shall post results. Dance isn't for some time, will probably ask in about a month. Who gives shit.
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Women are a pain in the ass. Just turn gay now and save yourself all the heartache.
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On February 07 2012 10:00 EternaLLegacy wrote:
Women are a pain in the ass. Just turn gay now and save yourself all the heartache.
but then in the long run you'd still get pains in the ass
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In the end, you can always ask a platonic friend to the dance, or perhaps an untaken girl in one of your circles of friends to make the group event a bit easier.
Hell, I didn't even have a date to senior prom, though I still had a blast and even won a free iHome from the after-party raffle.
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Go for it! It's just a dance- if things don't work out, who cares? If she wants to be "just friends," whatever man, just go have fun. Ask her, be a man, be a gentleman, show her a good time. If it doesn't work out in the form of a relationship, who knows? It could create great memories for a great friendship.
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On February 07 2012 10:32 DoX.) wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2012 10:00 EternaLLegacy wrote:
Women are a pain in the ass. Just turn gay now and save yourself all the heartache. but then in the long run you'd still get pains in the ass
Touche. Well played sir.
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On February 07 2012 10:48 Dalguno wrote:
Go for it! It's just a dance- if things don't work out, who cares? If she wants to be "just friends," whatever man, just go have fun. Ask her, be a man, be a gentleman, show her a good time. If it doesn't work out in the form of a relationship, who knows? It could create great memories for a great friendship.
I have no problem with this. I'm just worried she'll get pissed or hwanot. But if she is she isn't wroth being friends with.
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On February 07 2012 10:59 Froadac wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2012 10:48 Dalguno wrote:
Go for it! It's just a dance- if things don't work out, who cares? If she wants to be "just friends," whatever man, just go have fun. Ask her, be a man, be a gentleman, show her a good time. If it doesn't work out in the form of a relationship, who knows? It could create great memories for a great friendship. I have no problem with this. I'm just worried she'll get pissed or hwanot. But if she is she isn't wroth being friends with.
She'd be really irrational to get pissed if you asked her to the dance, and like you said, if she is, she isn't worth it. Now gogo! Good luck whatever you decide.
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