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200$ for texting in only 4 days? seriously?
Reflect on that: Does that sound like something a person should do? What impression does that give you of a person?
You could get a 128gb SSD for that money, which would likely provide more fun to you than the girl after such a frenzy x)
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I second what MisterD posted ... reflect on that.
And consider, that girls sure like attention, but being ALWAYS available makes you uninteresting. ( See "The friend zone trap" )
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Yeah you're overthinking it
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Well i only spent 30$ on the credit and got a free 200$. Some sort of Christmas deal or something.
I never replied instantly, I'd do some work, chat to my coworker, then reply. 200$ may have been a bit of an overstatement cause I went to the kpop concert on the weekend and spent a bit on calling people that night. Not sure how much though I spent on the calls though.
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On November 18 2011 20:46 JoFritzMD wrote:
I currently feel like complete shit because my entire day has been working with someone who gets so mad over nothing and will just start yelling and swearing for no reason. My god she makes me mad. I try not to judge but sometimes I just can't help it. That is the only reason why I would ever write a blog like this.
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Dude, firstly, you should have your blog titled with a [Girl] in there, so the Girl Blog veterans (looking at you Optical and Mogwai) know.
Secondly, download WhatsApp, or the Aussie equivalent, so you don't waste as much on texts.
Thirdly, yeah you should do something. You say it yourself that you sometimes over-think things. Stop thinking. Do it. How far away does she live? If it isn't too far, just invite her out for a movie or something, but do it instead of thinking about it.
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Women over think things a shit tonne. If you didnt message her for 3-4 days she'll be wondering the same, or she doesnt care. Do yourself a favor on that one and dont over think it because you just cant know for sure unless you meet up with her (and you're a genius at reading body language if it isnt obvious then).
As for asking her out just look up some nice bars, tell her you want to check out that area and see what the bars are like, or you went once and they were really nice and would she like to go, you dont need to over think that either, you dont have to present it as a date either, if she likes you she'll figure its a sort of date and if not she might just want to meet up anyway. Or just ask to meet her for lunch if she's not too far.
At the end of the day you cant expect to get anywhere with a girl if you dont put yourself out on the line because she sure as hell wont unless she's mad drunk or a crazy insecure person (experience talking so probably not entirely true... but yea). You may get blown off, but if you dont do anything that will happen guarentee'd anyway.
Also do it sooner or later, I had a girl I almost went out with a couple of years ago, we started texting each other again about a year or two ago, kept doing so for ages, basically it ended up with her just seeing me as some kind of texting buddy now, she texts me every 4-6 months and now I just immediately ask her to go for a drink or coffee so she'll leave me alone for another 4-6 months because I have no interest in that kind of friendship, ignoring the fact that I would also very much like to sleep with her, kinda got past the point of considering her as a gf.
Good luck my friend.
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On November 18 2011 21:27 JoFritzMD wrote:
Well i only spent 30$ on the credit and got a free 200$. Some sort of Christmas deal or something.
I never replied instantly, I'd do some work, chat to my coworker, then reply. 200$ may have been a bit of an overstatement cause I went to the kpop concert on the weekend and spent a bit on calling people that night. Not sure how much though I spent on the calls though.
Its not too good being with a girl who initiates conversations like ALL THE TIME, they really do not like it when you say you are watching an event or practicing starcraft with a friend etc, might be a good thing she isnt initiating, but not even 1-2 messages is odd
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Do not text a shit ton is a first step > Ask her out for a coffee or wine > Profit
I mean seriously who would reject offer for a drink and talk when you are already texting so much. When you meet, you see how it goes.
I am thinking here that the mistake is that you have msgd too much and she got sick of it or she doesn't want to spend any more money for texting with a guy forever. You should have definately ask her earlier. Nothing can go wrong, you have nothing to lose.
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On November 18 2011 21:29 DisaFear wrote:Show nested quote +On November 18 2011 20:46 JoFritzMD wrote:
I currently feel like complete shit because my entire day has been working with someone who gets so mad over nothing and will just start yelling and swearing for no reason. My god she makes me mad. I try not to judge but sometimes I just can't help it. That is the only reason why I would ever write a blog like this.
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This coworker of mine is the most crazy woman I know. She gets mad over nothing and instead of just doing her job she complains constantly while doing it. Though to be fair she does actually do her job pretty well, I still can't stand her though, makes me so mad. After the umpteenth time of her yelling abuot nothing when I asked her to try and find something for me (which is her job), i decided to just leave because I'd already stayed to help her out for 2 hours. As soon as I left work I just felt like shit.
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On November 18 2011 22:01 Ricjames wrote:
Do not text a shit ton is a first step > Ask her out for a coffee or wine > Profit
I mean seriously who would reject offer for a drink and talk when you are already texting so much. When you meet, you see how it goes.
I am thinking here that the mistake is that you have msgd too much and she got sick of it or she doesn't want to spend any more money for texting with a guy forever. You should have definately ask her earlier. Nothing can go wrong, you have nothing to lose.
Gonna respond to a few posts at once but quoting this one just for context.
I'm trying to find a time when we can meet when we're not both doing stuff. I work full time during the weeks. She works most weekends. She does dance and piano so that takes up a fair bit of her time and then whats left where we both can overlap. I guess I probably should just not initiate contact for a day or 2 then just pop up at her work on sunday or something.
Why does this have to be on MLG weekend ><
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On November 18 2011 22:07 JoFritzMD wrote:Show nested quote +On November 18 2011 22:01 Ricjames wrote:
Do not text a shit ton is a first step > Ask her out for a coffee or wine > Profit
I mean seriously who would reject offer for a drink and talk when you are already texting so much. When you meet, you see how it goes.
I am thinking here that the mistake is that you have msgd too much and she got sick of it or she doesn't want to spend any more money for texting with a guy forever. You should have definately ask her earlier. Nothing can go wrong, you have nothing to lose. Gonna respond to a few posts at once but quoting this one just for context. I'm trying to find a time when we can meet when we're not both doing stuff. I work full time during the weeks. She works most weekends. She does dance and piano so that takes up a fair bit of her time and then whats left where we both can overlap. I guess I probably should just not initiate contact for a day or 2 then just pop up at her work on sunday or something. Why does this have to be on MLG weekend ><
girls and MLG dont mix, ive told my partner im working all weekend so I dont have to spend time with her or get interuppted!!!
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On November 18 2011 21:43 Hassybaby wrote:
Dude, firstly, you should have your blog titled with a [Girl] in there, so the Girl Blog veterans (looking at you Optical and Mogwai) know.
Secondly, download WhatsApp, or the Aussie equivalent, so you don't waste as much on texts.
Thirdly, yeah you should do something. You say it yourself that you sometimes over-think things. Stop thinking. Do it. How far away does she live? If it isn't too far, just invite her out for a movie or something, but do it instead of thinking about it.
Roger.
OpticalShot reporting.
Dude that is a TON of text messages I have no clue how someone would go around doing that. If she's not texting, she's not texting - simple as that - you really shouldn't start pushing your minds into all possible situational scenarios because there's no end to that and you'll just lose your mind. When she does, also when you can reply back, just ask to meet up for lunch or dinner (that's my go-to for meeting girls, I love food and girls better appreciate that - I pay dinner, girl pays dessert/coffee).
While what I do usually ends up setting up a decent f-zone (which is not the route you wish to take), you can just spin off from a dinner and schedule the next date to be at the movies or something. From what I've experienced, girls don't like guys to throw off all the decision-making on the girl ("I'm good with anything, what do you want?" is something I try to stay away from) but at the same time, do plan the next move in your head and ask for her availability.
As for your psychotic ex and her mindless followers, conveniently ignore and be the badass you are destined to be. Hey, they should be ashamed that you're not hitting on any of them despite already knowing them because obviously none of them are attractive enough, physically or personality-wise.
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oh gawd i thought of that song as well then i read the title. Just ask her to hang out some time, and then ask her if you can have dinner sometime + Show Spoiler +put some roofies in her drink and cash back your $200
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Holy shit dude just freaking ask her out to a date, Who cares where, Movies, Dinner, Coffee, Lunch, Go do some activities you might have in common or she and you have interest in. Try to get in contact with her first though, Preferably on a call but a text is okay.
You are over thinking this way too far. Maybe she got fed up with you not asking her out somewhere after so many conversations? but who knows what shes thinking.
Best thing to do is ask her out to go somewhere with you and get to know where she stands, not by asking her directly that soon but by seeing how she acts with you after a few dates.
Take a risk, Take the initiative, take a step forward. Girls don't like a wait and see guy or a guy who waits for a girl to make the first move. If she was the type to make the first move(most girls arent) and ask you out she would've done that by now.
Worst thing that can happen is that the date doesnt go as good as expect and you guys remain friends or she doesnt accept your invite but then at least you can move on and crush on some other girl and then write a girl blog about her.
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