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I'm nearly 19 years old and a commuter in college. I have a younger brother that is ~2 years younger than me.
Everything I do in life, gets compared to the standards that my brother sets. You think it would be the complete opposite, but no. My brother is a really hard worker and gets straight As and A+s in school. He's a fucking genius.
My brother is and has always been my best friend, and I've always tried to be the best older brother I could be to him.. but it's a kick in the ass that my best friend and own brother could potentially be the biggest source of sadness and frustration.
However this isn't even his fault...
It's my mom's.
She constantly compares me to my brother academic wise, bitching at me saying to do better. I HAVE As and Bs in COLLEGE and one fucking C+. Those grades are NOT bad whatsoever. But every fucking day I wake up and she says the same old shit to me.
I finally confronted her today calling her out on always comparing my brother and I. Her answer was:
"I don't compare you because there IS NO COMPARISON" (meaning that im not even close to my brothers level)
The only happiness I've experienced lately (true happiness) is when I got promoted to Diamond this season, I literally cried. I've been from bronze to Diamond now. I'm trying real hard to become a professional, I don't see many other ways. It's really hard to practice under these conditions though.
So yeah... here I am writing a stupid blog that my brother will probably end up reading anyways...
Love you bro<3 (im not even being sarcastic)
 
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You're in college, so move out, give her the finger and live your own life without worry about what your crazy mother thinks. D's get degrees!
BTW grades are a pointless thing to use to evaluate someone's worth. You shouldn't even get upset that your mom is being stupid and using it to judge you. In fact, you should judge her worth as a person for not loving her sons equally.
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Honestly I say you're completely in the clear to be able to just straight up say "Fuck you mom". When my parents ever became unreasonable I would fucking go all out and give a real lecture on whatever it is they're being unreasonable about. Giving them questions that border on taboo or are just plain morbid.
Tell your mom to back off, and that she's not helping by bitching at you constantly. If she doesn't comply, then she's being unreasonable and you can say whatever the fuck you want.
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Well maybe you should start comparing your mom to Demi Moore or Angelina Jolie. See how she likes it ^_^
Make sure not to let the silly attitude mess up your relationship with your bro, that's the one that truly matters!
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Hey, friend. It's hard, I know. It's actually possible your brother isn't having it easy with all the pressure either (ask him if he ever got a lower than typical grade and what happened when he brought it home...). Your grades are better than average, and I suppose far better. It's not your fault if you aren't a genius. Few of us are. I'm not. Maybe your brother is, good for him. Don't allow it drive a wedge between you and your brother. Both of you need this support brothers give to each other.
Congrats on the diamond promotion!
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much <3s to all of you 
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Fuck your mom. Seriously. Give that bitch the finger and roll on out of there. No mother should ever be such a fucking bigot, especially to her own children. Until she shapes her sorry ass up she has no right to even talk to you. Next time you see her tell her to fuck off, and try as hard as you can just to spite her.
Seriously, I hope she reads this. To your mom:
Fuck you.
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On November 11 2011 08:50 [5th]Sybaris wrote:
Fuck your mom. Seriously. Give that bitch the finger and roll on out of there. No mother should ever be such a fucking bigot, especially to her own children. Until she shapes her sorry ass up she has no right to even talk to you. Next time you see her tell her to fuck off, and try as hard as you can just to spite her.
Seriously, I hope she reads this. To your mom:
Fuck you.
No, don't do this. Be your own voice of reason even if your mom refuses to. It'll help things in the long run. Do the other things in the thread besides this poster though.
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On November 11 2011 08:52 Newbistic wrote:Show nested quote +On November 11 2011 08:50 [5th]Sybaris wrote:
Fuck your mom. Seriously. Give that bitch the finger and roll on out of there. No mother should ever be such a fucking bigot, especially to her own children. Until she shapes her sorry ass up she has no right to even talk to you. Next time you see her tell her to fuck off, and try as hard as you can just to spite her.
Seriously, I hope she reads this. To your mom:
Fuck you. No, don't do this. Be your own voice of reason even if your mom refuses to. It'll help things in the long run. Do the other things in the thread besides this poster though.
this.
I mean shes actually a good mom and I do love her, but the only thing i HATE is the comparisons
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What's your name just out of curiosity... xD
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On November 11 2011 09:53 mptj wrote:
What's your name just out of curiosity... xD
Joe :D
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On November 11 2011 08:52 Newbistic wrote:Show nested quote +On November 11 2011 08:50 [5th]Sybaris wrote:
Fuck your mom. Seriously. Give that bitch the finger and roll on out of there. No mother should ever be such a fucking bigot, especially to her own children. Until she shapes her sorry ass up she has no right to even talk to you. Next time you see her tell her to fuck off, and try as hard as you can just to spite her.
Seriously, I hope she reads this. To your mom:
Fuck you. No, don't do this. Be your own voice of reason even if your mom refuses to. It'll help things in the long run. Do the other things in the thread besides this poster though.
Semi-necro, but I have to say this:
There is a point where reasoning with his mom cannot and will not be enough. His mom will not change unless he is an academic ace, and at that point he will have only have achieved so much just for her.
If you could not tell, I exaggerated what he should do. I still believe that NO mother should ever act like this. I wrote this post so long ago BECAUSE when I read the blog I was absolutely furious. No one should ever behave like this. One of a leader's greatest gifts is the ability to hone, cultivate, and see talent in every other human being. It sounds to me like his mom is not a capable leader.
There is a standard for the individual, but each of us may reach it in a different way.
My honest advice? Stand up to your mom. More than that, live your life as YOU intend to live it. Ask yourself...are you happy with where you are right now? Would getting even better grades make you happier, or would you do it only to make your mom happy?
I have been depressed for the last few weeks and finally came to one conclusion about life:
All the choices you make are yours. The rules are guidelines, nothing more. The weight of your decisions can be attributed only to you. Make the RIGHT choice...and that choice is YOURS.
GL HF!
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