EPTStarcraft and girls. - Page 2
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BouBou.865
Netherlands814 Posts
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BabyToss!
Czech Republic588 Posts
So, if someone just cannot accept something you enjoy, they are imo not worth it. We all want to have our hobbies we love, after all, it's part of one's happiness. What kind of life would it be, if you just have to pretend and hide what you enjoy from someone who 'supposedly' loves you? Hands off, seriously. There are girls who at least tolerate games, or even, who love games. Granted, they are not majority, but you just have to be kinda picky. But in the end, you'd be much better off with someone who understands your passion, rather than hide it for who knows how long. Good luck. | ||
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Chollx
Sweden38 Posts
On October 02 2011 19:24 infinity2k9 wrote: Why would you even bring up Starcraft.. Mainly because if you share your life with someone, and you are passionate about something (starcraft or anything else for that matter), you want to share that with your better half. They may not embrace your passion, but they should be able to appreciate why having a passion for something is a good thing. And to adress the OP: Don't worry about finding a gamer girl, find someone who can appreciate what you love and love you for who you are, and someone you can do the same for. There are plenty of girls like that out there. Take pride in what you do and have some self-confidence, those two are immensly more important than the what's and why's around it. | ||
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Deleted User 101379
4849 Posts
If she asks for your hobby and you talk for half an hour or more about SC (or gaming in general), it's bad. If you constantly mention it or constantly use gaming related memes, it's bad. If you just mentioned it's your hobby to play games without going into more detail than she might have wanted, there is nothing to say against it. If she doesn't respect that, she's not worth your time. There will be other girls who either respect such hobbies or are even gamers themselves. | ||
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Itsmedudeman
United States19229 Posts
The point of a relationship is to get along, find similar interests, and do things together. If someone isn't really interested in a particular thing you do, that's okay as long as you can find something else. If they don't love a thing you love, it's not the end of the world and she's not stupid nor ignorant. If you hold out for someone who enjoys starcraft as much as you do then you should prepare to be really lonely because the female demographic is incredibly small. | ||
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FuRong
New Zealand3089 Posts
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BabyToss!
Czech Republic588 Posts
On October 02 2011 20:18 FuRong wrote: If she's attracted to you then she won't give a fuck about what your hobbies are. Well, that is maybe right for short term relationships. But, if you plan for something longer, you kinda want to have a common ground with that person, you know? Otherwise you may find out 'wow, I have nothing to talk about with him/her' and suddenly you realize that you have no idea why you are with him/her. When I was looking for my significant other years ago, I wanted to make sure they'd accept me the way I am, as well as to make sure that we have a common ground with each other, as we'd be spending years together and it would suck if we would be bored with each other, you know? There's nothing worse when someone finds out after couple of months or even years, that the relationship they have just won't work, because there's simply nothing in common between the two, and they only had that relationship because of some sort of attraction, which eventually WILL fade away after certain time. | ||
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
You know, the guy in highschool with sunglasses who doesn't like sport because he runs like a grandpa. You need to accept that there are stereotypes, and that sometimes, in the eyes of some people, stereotypes can even be true. Honestly, I don't have much respect for pure "gamers", as I don't see what's so awesome about playing Call of Duty all day in front of a TV without even taking a step back and thinking about the game, they way it was made, the industry, the place of gaming in this news virtual culture, etc. The difference between, let's say, Day 9 and your typical basement dweller, is that Day 9 is truly passionate, and he DOES shit. He's NOT a pure consumer, he CREATES, he thinks, he gets into the community, you know, he's a baller! But your average gamer will just play videogames and that's that. He'll play WoW, be proud of it and shit, but won't acomplish anything special in real life, and won't get any respect from other people. Don't hide that you like Starcraft. But you need to compensate the stereotype. I for example don't bring this up immediately. I get people to see that I love to learn new things, that I'm a smart and outgoing individual, that I love sport, etc, etc, and they I have a REAL talk with them about internet, videogames and such, and show them how passionate and fascinated I am. I'll explain why I think it's a fascinating phenomenon. Only then will you get people to respect this lifestyle and think back on their clichés. | ||
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Sc2Requiem
United States121 Posts
A lot of girls have experienced the boyfriend that games all day and ignores them, and I think that's where the stigma comes from. I knew some cool gamer girls in high school who were just as passionate as me about gaming, but years later they've developed a disdain. With almost every one of them it came down to them feeling like gaming ruined a "good" relationship. It's depressing when I think about it, but that's life. Be yourself, don't hide anything, and let your passion be known. You'll eventually draw the attention of the right girl, but not before having to deal with more short-sighted ones. | ||
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Kickboxer
Slovenia1308 Posts
The effect will always be the opposite of what you want. If she likes you, she has to like you the way you are. Also "spending several weeks to get to know a girl" is mega fail. If you are romantically interested in a girl your best bet is to make a straightforward move within 48 hours of meeting her. Otherwise you are bound to end up in the friendzone which is the shittiest place to be and just a general waste of your self-image and time. You're far better off playing Starcraft :p | ||
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Capped
United Kingdom7236 Posts
On October 02 2011 18:36 askTeivospy wrote: a lot of girls aren't interested in video games. instead you should get them interested in you (that is qualities which girls find appealing) and after you've nabbed them then introduce them to the video game. works for me when i used to go out on the prowl /shrug (I don't anymore because i value money more over women for the moment) also you're 19, i wouldn't sweat "whether or not you'll find someone" since you're basically a baby age wise Agreed with this man. Get them first, then introduce them. :D Also i read that you werent actually with this girl but turned down when you asked, dont want to be an asshole mate but maybe it was an excuse. Either way she aint worth your time :-) | ||
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mordk
Chile8385 Posts
Now, if you have a more stable relationship, and she decides to dump you just because you play games, then you shouldn't waste time or efforts trying to get her back. Part of being in a relationship is trying to accept those not so perfect things everyone has. If you can make your life work normally and play games here and there, without neglecting your relationship, there's no reason it should affect it. If a person cannot accept you with your own hobbies and passions, then that relationship is doomed to failure, either by splitting up, or by you being unhappy in it, so it isn't worth the effort. | ||
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infinity2k9
United Kingdom2397 Posts
On October 02 2011 19:34 Chollx wrote: Mainly because if you share your life with someone, and you are passionate about something (starcraft or anything else for that matter), you want to share that with your better half. They may not embrace your passion, but they should be able to appreciate why having a passion for something is a good thing. Ok but he's not talking about sharing his life with someone. He's like on a date or something and probably starting ranting about Day[9] and how some guys were totally nerd ballers. People are getting all defensive and everything as you'd expect but with the context he put it in, it sounds like a bit of an excuse and also prehaps not a topic of conversation to bring up anyway. I play and watch a lot of SC but it wouldn't even cross my mind to talk about it, why would they be interested in that really. If SC defines your life so much then maybe you are just a bit boring unfortunately? | ||
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ShinySleepy
Philippines80 Posts
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
The most beautiful thing is when people who are different accept each other. | ||
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Pull
United States308 Posts
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Chef
10810 Posts
jk, but the serious answer is that you liking video games is not the real reason. It's how you present it, if she already likes you enough etc. Some people already have negative perceptions of video games, but that number isn't that high anymore. Just find a girl who has a brother and she probably plays video games too, or learn how to properly sell your hobby to a girl. I say this entirely assuming the girl isn't a complete moron, which may be the case, but even then it's still your fault for being interested in morons. I've never had anyone tell me they think I'm lazy because I like Brood War. Maybe that's because I look like a very busy person and already do a lot of other things with my life, but I think it's also because I tell them about the proscene and they get excited too. I have a natural gift for getting people into Brood War. PS: This is also assuming you aren't ridiculously addicted and spend hours playing all kinds of video games and have no real life outside of them. | ||
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Haemonculus
United States6980 Posts
On October 02 2011 22:18 Chef wrote: No, you misheard her. She thinks you're lazy because you play StarCraft 2. A real man would play Brood War. ffffff I was just about to post that when I read the OP PS: This is also assuming you aren't ridiculously addicted and spend hours playing all kinds of video games and have no real life outside of them. This. Guys who play games are cool. Guys who never leave the house because of it are not. | ||
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Nibbler89
884 Posts
But I think the question is what are you looking for in a girl? Are you just looking for a girlfriend or are you looking for a girlfriend who shares the same passions you do? I think that if a girl that isn't really into gaming starts having a guy talk to her about starcraft a whole bunch and that's the majority of what you talk about without asking her what her interests are it's reasonable to be turned off. If you met a girl and she kept talking about something you weren't that familiar with / interested in for the majority of your conversations would you feel much different? I guess what I'm saying is probably the best relationships are ones where people share mutual interests but not every relationship can be like that and so a lot will just be built upon give and take and meeting in the middle. Gradually over time your interests might become mutual or you can find other things you are mutually interested in. If you share literally no overlapping interests together then obviously it's just not really a viable relationship because if one expects the other to conform to their own interests while disregarding the others its just selfish. | ||
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lungo
Denmark276 Posts
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