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Remember, you don't need to have everything in common with your SO.
My fiance has zero interest in Broodwar, and gives me shit for watching it constantly. At the same time, i have zero interest in the terrible anime and YA fiction she's into, and i give her shit for it constantly too. Part of this is just the sort of people we are, making fun of each other is practically our main way of showing affection. Likewise, both of us are introverted people, who want lots of alone time and will spend a lot of time sitting in the same room doing our own things, and just chatting while we do it. More importantly though, neither of us are mono dimensional people, and we have a ton else in common besides these hobbies.
Enjoy the things you both love together, enjoy the things you don't both love by yourself, and have respect for each other.
Note, this doesn't mean you shouldn't try and expand each other's horizons, since that's one of the best things about being in a relationship. At the same time, early on you should focus on what you both enjoy, and start to change things once you're relationship is more established. And, if you just can't convince them to like something, don't let it ruin the entire relationship, just respect each other's differences and move on.
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Ten Reasons Starcraft is better than girls
1) With TL with have a whole community of bro's and its bro's before hoes. We want you to play SC2 or SCBW. Don't leave your bros hanging
2) You can't hurt Starcrafts feelings, the closest you can get is scaring your SCVs
3) You can turn on Starcraft whenever you want, girls.... it depends.
4) Starcraft will always be there for you, unless there is a patch....
5) Watching Starcraft is better than watching football. Its just exciting.
6) You become tons smarter when you play Starcraft. Speaking for myself, I feel stupid around girls. Most of the girls where I live are stupid though.
7) High APM is cool as balls. Just watch DRG. Would you rather be a good kisser or be able to type with one hand what most people do with two?
8) You can blow stuff up with little insects how many times will you be able to do that outside of SC?
Day9) Day9
10) Starcraft kicks ass!
I do have a gf, so no "You can't get a girl" hate.
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Recently(a week), I've felt a little bit down about a girl I liked not liking me. Yesterday, I stopped caring because I found someone who I think is better in almost every way.
Go out and do things with people, you might meet someone interesting. For me, It was worth walking around from 10AM-7PM playing Humans vs Zombies with a group of people I had never met before and having feet that hurt like fuck after, because I made friends with an awesome girl.
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Just bad luck dude, I've talked about Starcraft to quite a few girls (wasn't trying to pick up, just did it for lols), and a couple of times they were actually interested in what I had to say, none of them were turned off. However if I talk about SC at a bar, they definitely leave the table haha.
I mean I don't recommend it, I do it for fun. But if you really have to just add it in as a light touch, the key is to talk about the scene, the money, and of course how dextrous they are with their fingers.
On October 02 2011 22:18 Chef wrote:
No, you misheard her. She thinks you're lazy because you play StarCraft 2. A real man would play Brood War.
jk, but the serious answer is that you liking video games is not the real reason. It's how you present it, if she already likes you enough etc. Some people already have negative perceptions of video games, but that number isn't that high anymore. Just find a girl who has a brother and she probably plays video games too, or learn how to properly sell your hobby to a girl. I say this entirely assuming the girl isn't a complete moron, which may be the case, but even then it's still your fault for being interested in morons.
I've never had anyone tell me they think I'm lazy because I like Brood War. Maybe that's because I look like a very busy person and already do a lot of other things with my life, but I think it's also because I tell them about the proscene and they get excited too. I have a natural gift for getting people into Brood War.
PS: This is also assuming you aren't ridiculously addicted and spend hours playing all kinds of video games and have no real life outside of them.
LOL
Guy: "Hey I play SC2"
Girl: "You play what?! You mean you can't even be bothered to send your workers to mine?! Sorry I don't wanna talk to a lazy ass like you"
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She might be shallow. Or the way you presented your interest in SC when you first told her might have sent red flags. Either way, in my opinion that's not the kind of thing you want to talk about unless you've known the girl for a little while or you happen to live in Korea.
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a sign of laziness that you play starcraft?
pffffttt....
its a sign of superficiality and a total turn off that she isn't enthused/turned on by passion.
Tell her to go have fun chasing some guy with DESIGNER CLOTHES and a CAR and THINGS who CAN BUY MORE THINGS, and is BUSY BUYING MORE THINGS or plotting to, but is bored to tears with how empty life is. She can fill up his life with her interests. It'll work out.
On October 03 2011 00:14 sluggaslamoo wrote:
Guy: "Hey I play SC2"
Girl: "You play what?! You mean you can't even be bothered to send your workers to mine?! Sorry I don't wanna talk to a lazy ass like you"
this made my morning!
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She may have just said that because of her past experience(s). I actually know some gamers who skip class, skip work, don't do jack shit because they won't stop gaming. They have no ambition to do anything with their lives (not even to become a professional gamer), and they can't hold any kind of conversation with another human being. Who wants to be with a person like that?
If you are still friends though, try again later. Maybe she will have changed her mind then and see that is not how all gamers are.
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If some chick can't accept you for who you are then she isn't worth getting serious with. You wouldn't have been happy if you had to hide your passions anyways.
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She didn't reject you because of SC2. She rejected you because she's not that interested in you. SC2 was just a convenient excuse.
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I'm a sophomore in college too, I've skipped days of school just to play. And I'm a girl! true true about having a brother that plays. My brother is 4 years older and I learned everything from him.
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Get ripped, tan, and become the top SC2 player with tons of booth babes all over you and then she will be sorry
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Anyone that really cares for you will support what you love to do.
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I think Day9 has it right. Play games, not girls. If you can't be honest with her about your passions then she's probably not the right girl for you. Relationship+Secrets=Badness.
There are women who are cool about video games, I've dated a couple myself. And a few others that didn't care much for playing, but liked watching. There's hope out there man =)
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Mate. Don't bother having a relationship unless the girl you are with can appreciate your hobbies - if not, atleast tolerate them. People like the person who rejected you are not worth even your effort to date them. The person you love should easily understand your hobbies.
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On October 02 2011 20:36 BabyToss! wrote:
There's nothing worse when someone finds out after couple of months or even years, that the relationship they have just won't work, because there's simply nothing in common between the two, and they only had that relationship because of some sort of attraction, which eventually WILL fade away after certain time.
Sounds like my relationship with my ex :/ Took about 6 years, but the attraction was gone and I realised that there really wasn't much at all I liked about him, and we had almost nothing in common...
Gotta get the kids to bed, BBL with more of a reply 
ETA: More of a reply 
OK, firstly I completely agree with everyone who's said that a relationship where you start off having to pretend to be someone you're not ain't going anywhere and will be absolutely no fun. Been there, done that.
Secondly, if someone had a hobby that they were entirely addicted to, which came at the expense of the rest of their life, then that's a turn-off, no matter what the hobby is. So the stereotypical gamer who spends days on end playing WoW, living on doritos and coke, surrounded by empty packets and never going out = eww. If this girl has no experience with gamers, this is probably the image she had in her head. If she can't see past that and see you as a real person, then her loss, you don't want her anyways.
Nothing wrong with talking about your hobbies with new girl/boyfriends, but if they're not interested, don't keep at it... love the example someone gave about how you'd probably not be interested if she harped on about shoes and makeup all the time, if that wasn't something you're interested in...
Lastly, you're 19. Plenty of time left in your life for meeting people 
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I don't see the problem really, if she doesn't like you because you enjoy gaming then that's enough information for you too I'd say. Don't become one of those people who get a girlfriend and completely drop all their previous interests just to keep an empty relationship running.
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On October 02 2011 21:01 infinity2k9 wrote:Show nested quote +On October 02 2011 19:34 Chollx wrote:On October 02 2011 19:24 infinity2k9 wrote:
Why would you even bring up Starcraft.. Mainly because if you share your life with someone, and you are passionate about something (starcraft or anything else for that matter), you want to share that with your better half. They may not embrace your passion, but they should be able to appreciate why having a passion for something is a good thing. Ok but he's not talking about sharing his life with someone. He's like on a date or something and probably starting ranting about Day[9] and how some guys were totally nerd ballers. People are getting all defensive and everything as you'd expect but with the context he put it in, it sounds like a bit of an excuse and also prehaps not a topic of conversation to bring up anyway. I play and watch a lot of SC but it wouldn't even cross my mind to talk about it, why would they be interested in that really. If SC defines your life so much then maybe you are just a bit boring unfortunately?
it sounds exactly something like this... especially when you blame your one long relationship breaking up because of video games and her not sharing the same passion.... yeah. It's good to have different tastes and interests.
Flip the tables: your girl loves shopping and you fucking hate it with a fiery passion. She continually tries to get you into it (just like you did with gaming!) What's your response going to be??
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On October 02 2011 17:51 igotmyown wrote:Show nested quote +Gary from South Park, All about Mormons
And even though people in this town might think that's stupid, I still choose to believe in it. All I ever did was try to be your friend, Stan, but you're so high and mighty you couldn't look past my religion and just be my friend back. You've got a lot of growing up to do, buddy. Suck my balls."
This. Assuming you don't have a gaming addiction or neglect her this is a case of her not respecting your interests. Move on. There are plenty of better girls out there. Take these, for instance:
My first girlfriend thought videogames were a waste of time, but respected the fact I liked to play them.
I got into BW 8 months before meeting my second girlfriend. She never tried to watch it with me and didn't really give a crap about it. She didn't like it if I played too many games around her, which is understandable. That only came up during a stressful week at the end of my last undergrad semester. She was addicted to television shows, so we let each other have our own interests.
My current girlfriend will get on a 4-way skype call with two of my younger brothers and play 4v4 SC2. We did this quite a bit at the end of the summer (not so much now because of work/school), but we still 1v1 on our own a lot, but that's mostly when the other person isn't around (6am for me, middle of the afternoon for her). She plays in her free time when I'm at work and currently sits #12 in her bronze division ^^. In this case we have a shared interest, but she has no interest in watching other people play, pro streams, or casted tournaments.
Keep looking and keep trying - it WILL pay off!
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Starcraft is how I get girls. Deal with it :D
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My fiancée actually nags me to play more SC2. You mad?
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