EPT
More Venting.
| Blogs > decafchicken |
|
decafchicken
United States20008 Posts
| ||
|
Lokgar
United States147 Posts
Acquire wealth. | ||
|
Paraclete
United States100 Posts
| ||
|
Game
3191 Posts
| ||
|
DrTJEckleburg
United States1080 Posts
Rough. | ||
|
Kurr
Canada2338 Posts
Also, get better friends. On September 25 2011 10:59 bre1010 wrote: You sound like kind of an asshole, how can you get mad at other people if you're sleeping around? it seems hypocritical Granted, but everyone involved also seem like assholes in this story. Also, they all sound really horny. Maybe they should just all get together and have a giant orgy. Too many guys though, need her to bring some more chicks. Seriously, I know he isn't bringing in every day life details but his story sounds like these people are fucking 24/7. | ||
|
bre1010
71 Posts
| ||
|
decafchicken
United States20008 Posts
| ||
|
emperorchampion
Canada9496 Posts
| ||
|
Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
| ||
|
muse5187
1125 Posts
| ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
Fuck all of them and run to another life is what I wish I could do if I was in your place. Twisted shit man, no joke | ||
|
Gonff
United States686 Posts
On September 25 2011 10:59 bre1010 wrote: You sound like kind of an asshole, how can you get mad at other people if you're sleeping around? it seems hypocritical Logic doesn't really work when it comes to thoughts/emotions you might have about women. OP is very understandably upset. Just when he figures out he might have an interest in the girl and starts trying to fix things it blows up bigger than him/her and messes with his most important, concrete relationship (when you're in college, buds/roommates are absolutely the most important relationships I believe). Even the best friends are capable of making hurtful decisions, as everybody messes up sometimes right? The way that chick said "if you sleep with other girls again I'm done" made it sound to you like she wasn't doing the same, and that makes her a pretty big bitch imo, because she had the chance to come clean and she didn't, while you did (whether you had control over it or not, you still did). You learned a valuable lesson though: never hold a woman to a higher standard than you hold yourself to in any relationship. I think you just took her at her word and didn't follow that rule. I know the two of you weren't officially dating, but anything more than a one-night stand is a kind of relationship in my book. In every relationship, people cue off each other's behavior, and she cued off your indiscretions when she made hers. She had to rationalize her decision somehow, even though that doesn't excuse her actions at all, and she knows what she did was wrong. Step one is to 100% talk it out with your two best friends. Everything, all feelings, expectations, misunderstandings need to be discussed and worked out so you're all on the same page. You can't let this sit, and you can't let it get between the three of you. Step two is to wait. D-Chicken, the only thing that's going to fix this is time. That's it. Every day the sting of hearing that news and feeling like you messed up will slowly lessen, and the likelihood of changes of heart and reconciliations will slowly increase. Just keep your head down, work hard, and keep your friends close. | ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
Does the town bike metaphor work in this scenario? In my opinion, she's putting standards she herself can't respect and I see problems in the near future anyways. | ||
|
Probe1
United States17920 Posts
On September 23 2011 16:40 Probe1 wrote: So she cheated on her boyfriend with you; hooked up with you and your roommates; acted clingy and then dismissive. Fuuuuuuuck her man. That's not a keeper. Edit: LOL at the catz reference How many times do I gotta say it. You know she's terrible. You're still trying to make that work. Stop it. | ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
Once she starts hurtin', you gotta cut her out. ezpz If she wants sex, grease the chain, oil your wheels and have a go. If she's looking for more, say that your insurance of giving a shit doesn't cover it. done. | ||
|
HackBenjamin
Canada1094 Posts
| ||
|
Disregard
China10252 Posts
| ||
|
FullNatural
United States180 Posts
Also, get new friends. | ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
On September 25 2011 13:57 FullNatural wrote: You guys were both fucking around with other people, so I dont really see what the problem is. You cant really put any blame on her. Also, get new friends. Except she's the one who's blaming him? | ||
|
FullNatural
United States180 Posts
She expressed her feeling out loud. He prolly had similar ones, but kept them to himself. It didnt change the outcome. | ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
On September 25 2011 14:02 FullNatural wrote: They arent in a relationship, so who cares. Why does it matter if shes blaming him. He still fucked her the same night lol. And it seems like she will continue to do so.... and we proceed to get it on and i spend the night we watch a movie and everything is fine. They're spending actual time together and she's still imposing rules onto him while omitting her own wrong deeds. This all seems to elude you somehow ._. | ||
|
FullNatural
United States180 Posts
o ya and she had a 4 some. Im pretty sure they will continue to sleep with eachother. | ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
"You know i'm not gonna sleep with you, right?" "I can't sleep with you while you're sleeping with other girls" "I'm not gonna tell you not to sleep with other girls, but if you do again i'm done" Even if she has 0 restraint, be real: she's annoying as hell and she's being contradictory. Even if she doesn't do anything more than him, he'll constantly run into her given that A. she apparently knows his friends B. They're neighbors. Please, be real here. | ||
|
FullNatural
United States180 Posts
Decaf expresses how he feels in a blog about her sleeping with other guys. The girl wasnt exactly being clingy or nagging. She made 2 quick comments according to him. Then they fucked. Why is everyone putting the blame on her lol. Her words may have been contradictory. Her actions were not. why does it matter if they run into eachother? they are fuck buddies and nothing more. If someone is going to enter into this kind of thing, then deal with the outcome. | ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
Turns out i grew a bit attached over the last few months and now i'm doing everything i can not to break everything in reach. Hoping writing this all out will help P.S: We get it, your end-goal in a day is to fornicate women. Treating as means to your end-goal isn't how everyone follows life. | ||
|
FullNatural
United States180 Posts
Time to go do some beard growing. Peace. | ||
|
Game
3191 Posts
| ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
On September 25 2011 14:25 FullNatural wrote: No i did not read the previous blog. I'm not sure why you are making assumptions about my life lmfao. That certainly is not my goal. Just the opposite. I find it silly that people chose to be fuck buddies like this and cant deal with the outcomes, but im not here to judge. Just find it a bit funny that everyone is blaming the girl. Time to go do some beard growing. Peace. What assumptions, I think you've repeated your: "Who cares, she fucked him in the end" like 3-4 times as if that was the only thing that mattered. One can obviously see that's a very important goal in your life, that's fine. But I think there's more to that here. | ||
|
FullNatural
United States180 Posts
| ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
Why does he care that his friends had sex with her too, an orgy even? Why does he even mention all the issues she keeps stating? You blur so many details to constantly go: "Well he had sex with her, all is well". They're not attacks, let's be real. You're just ignoring a lot to quell something you don't think is a problem or remotely an issue to be concerned with (hence my inferences) | ||
|
decafchicken
United States20008 Posts
On September 25 2011 11:48 thedirtyleg wrote: Logic doesn't really work when it comes to thoughts/emotions you might have about women. OP is very understandably upset. Just when he figures out he might have an interest in the girl and starts trying to fix things it blows up bigger than him/her and messes with his most important, concrete relationship (when you're in college, buds/roommates are absolutely the most important relationships I believe). Even the best friends are capable of making hurtful decisions, as everybody messes up sometimes right? The way that chick said "if you sleep with other girls again I'm done" made it sound to you like she wasn't doing the same, and that makes her a pretty big bitch imo, because she had the chance to come clean and she didn't, while you did (whether you had control over it or not, you still did). You learned a valuable lesson though: never hold a woman to a higher standard than you hold yourself to in any relationship. I think you just took her at her word and didn't follow that rule. I know the two of you weren't officially dating, but anything more than a one-night stand is a kind of relationship in my book. In every relationship, people cue off each other's behavior, and she cued off your indiscretions when she made hers. She had to rationalize her decision somehow, even though that doesn't excuse her actions at all, and she knows what she did was wrong. Step one is to 100% talk it out with your two best friends. Everything, all feelings, expectations, misunderstandings need to be discussed and worked out so you're all on the same page. You can't let this sit, and you can't let it get between the three of you. Step two is to wait. D-Chicken, the only thing that's going to fix this is time. That's it. Every day the sting of hearing that news and feeling like you messed up will slowly lessen, and the likelihood of changes of heart and reconciliations will slowly increase. Just keep your head down, work hard, and keep your friends close. you are smart | ||
|
marttorn
Norway5211 Posts
On September 25 2011 10:13 Lokgar wrote: Disregard females. Acquire wealth. You stole that shit from my last blog I swear Also I put it more eloquently "Disregard wenches, acquire monetary value" On topic though, they had a foursome. WHERE THEY ALL FUCKED?! OH SHIT Yeah, just get her the fuck out of your life, or murder her or something, either way is fine with me. User was temp banned for this post. | ||
|
Torte de Lini
Germany38463 Posts
Hate this scene. But I fucking love it. + Show Spoiler + not saying it's true ): | ||
|
decafchicken
United States20008 Posts
| ||
|
FuDDx
United States5008 Posts
| ||
|
RosaParksStoleMySeat
Japan926 Posts
Regardless of how you look at it she's being insanely hypocritical, so why care? Don't indulge her bullshit. If you want to screw around, screw around. I don't see a wedding ring on her finger, and I sure as hell don't see one on yours. | ||
|
Ruffian
United States369 Posts
Honestly if you keep hooking up with her I think more drama will ensue. | ||
|
Lemonwalrus
United States5465 Posts
However you might still want to punch a few random strangers really hard in the sternum....up to you. | ||
|
decafchicken
United States20008 Posts
| ||
|
GigaFlop
United States1146 Posts
On September 26 2011 11:43 decafchicken wrote: parents sold my house too. they're moving to virginia come november. worst. weekend. ever. and i'm sick. You owned a house... But your parents sold it? | ||
|
decafchicken
United States20008 Posts
On September 26 2011 12:21 GigaFlop wrote: You owned a house... But your parents sold it? our house as in the one I stay at when I'm not at college. and yeah I know I shouldn't give two shits about this hypocritical bitch but hey, since when did anything regarding women make sense? | ||
|
GigaFlop
United States1146 Posts
On September 26 2011 14:41 decafchicken wrote: our house as in the one I stay at when I'm not at college. and yeah I know I shouldn't give two shits about this hypocritical bitch but hey, since when did anything regarding women make sense? Fair enough. Is the sex worth it? Any emotional attachment? | ||
|
sJarl
Iceland1699 Posts
On September 26 2011 14:41 decafchicken wrote: our house as in the one I stay at when I'm not at college. and yeah I know I shouldn't give two shits about this hypocritical bitch but hey, since when did anything regarding women make sense? Women were made to please the eye and trouble the mind... | ||
|
QuanticHawk
United States32044 Posts
| ||
|
zalz
Netherlands3704 Posts
What was the problem exactly? | ||
|
Hurricane
United States3939 Posts
| ||
|
VeNoM HaZ Skill
United States1528 Posts
On September 30 2011 00:52 zalz wrote: Something about a semi-girlfriend that's willing to engage in a 4-some. What was the problem exactly? He's excluded from foursome fun because the(edit-)n he would be cheating on her... | ||
|
actionbastrd
Congo598 Posts
Point of the story is, last week i told her i never wanted to see or hear from her again. Was rough at first. Best thing ive ever done in my life. Id suggest you do the same. Staying friends is fine but you cant let a women bring you down. Those words from a close friend are what made me make that choice, and ive been happier ever since. Situations like this just are not worth it, and obviously long term you two would never work because of all the back stabbing that would happen. Cut ties, and be gone. Delete that number, and move on. GL in your endeavors. | ||
|
decafchicken
United States20008 Posts
On September 30 2011 00:45 Hawk wrote: you should be pissed you missed out on an orgy, and somewhat irked but more thankful that your friends made is pretty damn clear that she be a ho and that college relationships are complete wastes of time. you should be trying to hump evertying that moves while you still can! I have been ever since i ended the dumbest-idea-ever-wasting-two-years-long-distance-girlfriend phase i had freshman/sophmore year On September 30 2011 05:01 actionbastrd wrote: Heed this advice, and no offense she sounds sluttish, but i recently had a long confusing terrabad falling out with someone. It was astonishing someone who said she loved me and all that jazz fucked at least 5 ppl since break up. Dont think shes gone a week without sex either. Thats all fine and dandy if she didnt keep hooking up with me and telling me all this other bullshit. Point of the story is, last week i told her i never wanted to see or hear from her again. Was rough at first. Best thing ive ever done in my life. Id suggest you do the same. Staying friends is fine but you cant let a women bring you down. Those words from a close friend are what made me make that choice, and ive been happier ever since. Situations like this just are not worth it, and obviously long term you two would never work because of all the back stabbing that would happen. Cut ties, and be gone. Delete that number, and move on. GL in your endeavors. Eh can't really cut ties/be done with her as the two of them are friends with all my friends as well including all my roommates. It would just be awkward. I really don't care if she fucks other guys. As long as they're not my best friends. On September 30 2011 00:52 zalz wrote: Something about a semi-girlfriend that's willing to engage in a 4-some. What was the problem exactly? I've proposed the idea of fucking her and the same girl that was part of the 4-some. She said she couldn't cause she'd get too jealous while i was fucking her friend. | ||
|
ymir233
United States8275 Posts
Just stop contact and tear away while you can. EDIT: Well then don't cut ties but seriously try not to be involved with that facet of their lives. | ||
| ||
