* Preface *
All of the posts I have made on the subject of women, relationships, and love have been my opinion. My opinion is no different from yours - it is biased, it is subjective, and it is far from bulletproof. I do not pretend to have definitive authority on any subject relevant to women, and most men who fool themselves into thinking that they are the alpha and omega of seduction are keyboard junkies or theorycraft masters. The ones that aren't either one of those, are usually blinded by hubris and can be nothing but ignorant. Because of this, I feel that the biggest contribution I can give in this field is a blog about the only man I have met who transcends that. Some may call him a natural, but I call him "Love Guru."
You may know him as none other than L10F.
So how bout it? You want to hear a tale about the Guru?
** The Weapons of the Guru **
Although my personal experiences with l10f ('Min' from now on) are limited to a few crazy nights along the East Coast and a few bangers in Korea, I have managed to gather a few facts about him that make him an exceptional pick-up artist. This is the only time I will ever refer to someone as an artist in this field, because watching him work is like watching Monet paint his bridge. In the following list I will be listing his attributes and why I think they work:
- The Entrance
The first thing you feel is the aura. Refer to this video from "Chappelle's Show," where Charlie Murphy describes Rick James and his overwhelming presence: NSFW Language link. Unlike Rick James, Min is not a multi-billionaire or pop star. He is just a regular-looking Korean guy. Or so you would think, until you see him enter a building. His walk is direct but smooth, his arm movements a little stronger than you would be used to, and his face has a wide smile. This inviting and energetic image of a young man walking confidently towards whatever lays ahead of him, while not necessarily getting people to turn heads, gives the appropriate aura or message that is intrinsic to a seductive man. - The Appearance
I have never seen Min dress inappropriately for an event. At the clubs he had a black dress shirt, sleeves down (sleeves up in a club* is for frat boys and conformists who have no class), straight-leg pants and his trademark white gold chain. Suave and confident, fit that seemed to be tailored to his body. At the bars he had a slightly less formal appearance, a proper change for the more laid-back bar atmosphere. His day-to-day attire can at times be frumpy if you catch him after his morning pussy (this is my guess, at least), but usually his casual attire is non-intrusive in style: 'peacocking' doesn't work at 11 am on a Church day! From this amalgamation of information, I learned that dressing properly is an essential aspect of pick-up. You have to build comfort with people around you, but also attraction - this is what having appropriate clothes for an event accomplishes. Proper fit is everything as well. Nobody thinks you look cool if your D&G jacket is 2 sizes too big, everybody thinks you're a douche if your Armani shirt is 2 sizes too small. The style of the clothes is just as important as the fit. - The Game
If game could be fully explained in one paragraph, someone would have done it already and there would be no need for me to write this. The beauty is that we all have our own individual tactics, and I will briefly try to describe his approach or at least his mentality in as simple a way as I can put it. Min doesn't fuck around. What I mean by this is that to him its like a profession, and with a math-nerd level of appreciation for efficiency, every exchange is a separate job with its own benefit/loss ratio and microeconomy. There is no such thing as filler talk. All words that exit his mouth are for a purpose. A man trying to put out a fire would not swing empty buckets towards the blaze, but buckets full of water. At the same time this is only on the subliminal level. Min's technique is completely under the radar, and that is where I learned that coming off as a person who just wants to fuck women is not a good way to fuck women. Despite his appearance and entrance, his diction suggests slightly more culture and humor than most pussy-craving club-crawlers are capable of, and therefore a level of civility and approachability. He guides the conversation to the ultimate conclusion, be it an exchange of numbers, relocation or meeting of lips. He calculates which is most likely as the dialogue progresses. Every step must be a step closer to the goal. Remember that.
*** First-Person Experience ***
With the interest in your time and my own, I will only transcribe one of the dozen or so escapades I have been with Min on. This one happened just a few weeks ago in the great city of New York.
We met up with a few other TL members in Flushing for our own NYC MSL (Brood War) tournament. This was probably the least relevant part of the night, so I will give a brief synopsis of what happened:
1. Min wins the tournament.
2. We have all-you-can-eat Korean BBQ and drink a few brews.
3. We leave for the city.
We go to meet up with Bereft (TL member, very friendly and hospitable girl) and we go to a semi-formal bar called "The Lounge." We had both come unprepared for this, having only expected to go to a Brood War tournament. Fortunately, Min is a total baller and he had no less than 2 dress shirts in his bag, folded and fresh from the dry-clean. I borrowed his shirt and we walked up to the bar. The line was fairly long, and Min told me that he forgot his fake. In Korea he is old enough to drink so he forgot that it is different in the States. "Don't worry," he said, "I got this."
As we walk up to the bouncer, Min pushes me forward. I show my ID and get stamped. Min pulls out his wallet and pretends to look for his ID, then says he left it back at the car. I walk with him and ask him "What do we do now?" Before I can finish the sentence, he licks his hand, presses it against his pants to remove the extra moisture, then presses my stamped hand to his. The stamp, being still fresh and inky, rolled over perfectly onto his wrist. We turn the corner, wait a minute, and then come back and enter the bar. I could tell now that it was going to be one of those nights.
As soon as we walk in, Min breaks away from me and walks up to two girls. I kept walking into the bar to find Bereft and her friends. Less than 5 minutes later, Min came up to the table with 2 other girls and opened with "ILOVEKITTENS! I didn't expect to see you here, what's up?" from then on I tensely tried to follow him through the mental hoops he was giving me, while trying to figure out what his end-game plan was. As the conversation unfolded, he was selling the point that I was well-connected in the bar scene and that the girls should take my number because we were going to go hopping all night, and we could get VIP rooms at some places after we pregame here. One of the girls took my number and Min closed with "Listen, I don't mean to be rude to new acquaintances, but I haven't seen ILOVEKITTENS in ages, we're gonna go have a smoke outside and talk about life. Call us later if you guys are bored!" (something like this, memory is fuzzy) We walk outside, I smoke because I just went through a seduction boot camp in my head, and Min tells me the full plan:
1. Give my number to as many girls as possible, through a similar tactic as what we just did.
2. If a girl calls, don't pick up, wait 5 minutes, then call back. In this time, we judge whether or not we want to spend time with the girl we are with.
3. Say that we just left a bar because it was getting too crowded, ask them where they want to meet up.
4. Go meet up.
We had to unfortunately leave Bereft and co. for this plan to work, but at that point any collateral damage or victims were to be expected. We were on a mission.
After doing the plan for about an hour in 2 different bars, I felt like I gave my number to at least 30 different girls. Shortly after we left the second bar, I started getting calls. So many calls. I don't know what kind of pre-game he did with each girl as I sat and talked to the people around me, getting fucked up, but it worked. I wish I was there to see it. We met up with the first group of girls. Took them to a different bar, met up with another girl at the fourth bar, etc. etc. At this point I was really hammered because I had to pass it off like I was spending time with my friends when Min unexpectedly showed up to meet me, so I was very deep in the hole. I don't remember how many girls we ditched, how many we met, how many ditched us... What I do remember is that 3 hours after we first entered the first bar, it was Min, 4 girls, and me, going to a club. Min and I started to take our IDs out of our wallets, but once the bouncer saw the IDs of two of the girls, he let us all in. I think this is because the average rating between the 4 girls we were with was around an 8.
I realize now that this might not have been the best story to retell, given that I don't remember much of Min's game after this point. Min had the attention of 3 girls glued onto him, while I was winging with the fourth. We sat on opposite ends of one of those U-bend couches, and I remember looking over and seeing one girl with her hand on his lap, another with her army around him, and Min with the most confident and "I don't give a fuck" look on his face. I lost track of where Min went after that, but it didn't matter. I knew that he was in his element, and when Min is in his element, there will be no survivors.
This is not how he really dresses but it's a funny picture of a baller ^^;
**** Closure ****
At this point you might be thinking,
"Wow, Min is such a baller!" or
"Damn, ILOVEKITTENS is actually a noob, a total keyboard warrior!" or
"Why doesn't l10f post girl advice?!?!" or
"I think ILOVEKITTENS might be a little gay for Min."
Think what you will, but I hope you enjoyed the read. I wrote this to perhaps give a little advice, perhaps tell a fun story, but most of all to tell the tale of one of the most soft-spoken and humble seduction geniuses. I wanted you to know who my sensei is. I want you to know how a young Korean guy can hit it big. If he can do it, so can you.
Sugo Min. Best of luck! FIGHTING!