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Alright as I posted about 2 weeks ago I broke up with my gf and since then I have been trying to get close with this girl at work lets call her "Jen" for simplicity sake. So the guys at work tried to get me to break up with my ex-gf faster by trying to force me into talking with "Jen".It didnt really work as I took an extra 2 weeks and did my best to avoid talking to "Jen" as I thought I would be able to work things out with my ex But things didn't pan out and the break up happened anyway.
but afterwards I kinda laid back and took some time to myself and "jen" was nothing more but a side thought most of the time as she was also in something with another guy at the time i broke up. But since then she caught this other guy with another chick and cut it off with him so i figured thiks would be my best chance to at least attempt something. So I started conversations with he, asking her about her job at the plant, why i hadn't seen her before this summer, and after finding out she was in college, asking about he classes, her major and about her campus. Well I thought it was going good so Tuesday(yes yesterday) I asked her for her number. She kinda looked surprised I would even ask and said sure, I couldn't tell if it was a good surprise or an awkward surprise. But all in all I got it.
So mission was successful and I thought to myself that she must at least be somewhat interested. So I texted her my number and tried to set up some plan to hang out after work but found out she's in summer school, has an exam today and has surgery tomorrow and won't be returning to work this summer. So now I'm kinda feeling she did it just to be nice. I texted her today since I didn't know when her exam was, asking her how it went and such and she hasn't responded, which kinda reinforces that thought.
But there's that nagging thought that she wouldn't give me her number on her last day without being interested which keeps me confused on where to stand.
What do you think TL try for "Jen" or move on?
 
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Terribly sorry, I accidentally double-posted.
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If she keeps it up with the excuses, she must be bluffing. If so, move on. You didn't seem very interested in her at the beginning, anyway.
Also, doesn't Chill really hate these kinds of blogs?
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Blazinghand
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Give it one last try, but instead of texting her, call her, and instead of small talk, ask her on a date. If she's not interested, she will tell you so, or use a lame excuse. Make sure it's fairly clear you are asking her on a date, short of literally saying so. That way, if she says yes, you know she is interested.
If she is not interested move on.
Edit: also you don't need to put quotes around her name or even mention that it is a pseudonym. Most of the time, it is anyways and we don't need to be reminded by unstylish quote marks.
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On July 14 2011 07:43 Blazinghand wrote:
Give it one last try, but instead of texting her, call her, and instead of small talk, ask her on a date. If she's not interested, she will tell you so, or use a lame excuse. Make sure it's fairly clear you are asking her on a date, short of literally saying so. That way, if she says yes, you know she is interested.
If she is not interested move on.
Edit: also you don't need to put quotes around her name or even mention that it is a pseudonym. Most of the time, it is anyways and we don't need to be reminded by unstylish quote marks.
Alright, I'm going to come up with some excuses here since that's what I do, and have been told I do when it comes to women. Should I just wait until here surgery is over? actually I'll leave it at that instead of making excuses about calling.
And sorry about that, also thanks for the advice.
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On July 14 2011 07:43 edc wrote:
If she keeps it up with the excuses, she must be bluffing. If so, move on. You didn't seem very interested in her at the beginning, anyway.
Also, doesn't Chill really hate these kinds of blogs? Your mistaken, Chill is Chill.
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On July 14 2011 07:52 Kamais_Ookin wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2011 07:43 edc wrote:
If she keeps it up with the excuses, she must be bluffing. If so, move on. You didn't seem very interested in her at the beginning, anyway.
Also, doesn't Chill really hate these kinds of blogs? Your mistaken, Chill is Chill.
I'd like to see if he's as Chill as his tag and if he's got Game
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Chill loves these blogs. They're his guilty pleasure. =D
On topic: Just ask her out. If she says no then you're not gonna be seeing her after her surgery anyway.
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Has anyone seen the Tao of Steve? IMDB here
The movie isnt very good, but its about a fat guy who is hella good a picking up chicks.
He has three steps:
1) Be desire-less
2) Be excellent in her presence
3) Retreat
The logic being you approach and show how awesome of a guy you are and that you're "not interested in hooking up" or w/e. Then you retreat and let the girl chase you a bit because they wanna have some fun trying to get the guy they like too.
If you feel shes interested let her chase you a little bit. She obviously won't do anything drastic like as you out, but if she initiates convos via text or whatever I'd say thats a pretty solid in!
However if she is just giving polite replies... be aware of that... haha
good luck!
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If there's this much delay, I wouldn't count on anything. But cheer up man, there's plenty of opportunities down the road. Don't get so wound up on just one.
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....oh god. This is sad, dude. You're looking for a rebound and the girl is going into fucking surgery. As in people are going to cut her open somewhere. Why would you be like YEAH, awesome! Let me try to get it in right after they cut extra fucking holes in her! What is wrong with you?
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Love Triangle - Check
Workmates Involved - Check
Surgery -Check
College - Check
Awkward Teenage Advances - Check
TLl, bringing you Days of our Lives since 2001.
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Now this is the kind of girl blogs I expect on TL. Excellent, excellent indeed.
In my personal experience, rebounds never really work out at the end. Even if you succeed, the "fun" evaporates after a couple nights and soon enough you'll feel sorry that you're toying with her just for pleasure and fun and whatnot. If you're done grieving over your ex-gf, then you don't really need an immediate rebound period so I'd say back off.
There's also a very very slim chance you'll actually grow fond of her (and vice versa for "Jen"). In that case there could be a nice long-term relationship. Slim chance, but worth a try if you really need that rebound period in the first place.
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