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My friends and I constantly play games similar to "would you?". Would you do Sara? How about Amy? Would you do Jenny? What if her twin sister was there too?
I used to think that I wouldn't to any girl. I wouldn't want to be known as someone who slept around, and I don't see much long term benefit to sleeping with strangers or people one barely knows.
It's a good idea to ask these questions though so that you will have decided what you want to do in situations similar.
Let's do a case study though. A hot/cute stranger girl meets you at a bar/library/etc... She talks to you for a while, you get her name, then she grabs your crotch and whispers in your ear that she wants to fuck you. You have contraceptives. You know it will most likely turn into a one night stand. You are sober and in a healthy state of mind. You are also single, male, and straight.
My question is simple.
+ Show Spoiler +Poll: Would you?Hell Yes! (109) 69% Yes (48) 31% 157 total votes Your vote: Would you? (Vote): Yes
(Vote): Hell Yes!
+ Show Spoiler [ok seriously] +Poll: Ok, serious pollYes (155) 66% No (81) 34% 236 total votes Your vote: Ok, serious poll (Vote): Yes
(Vote): No
The way I see it. The pros of abstaining from sex under (sub)optimal conditions are mostly moral. Some people are just raised to not believe that they can follow through with something they don't believe is right. Others go a step further and think that they will go to hell if they do.
You also maintain a good reputation about yourself. Sleeping around tends to get around pretty quickly.
You don't risk the chance of impregnating someone and possibly ruining your life.
The pros of promiscuity are that you get to have more sex.
Discussion is welcome ( I hope it's not too one-sided, someone help me play devil's advocate if it is pls ). Please to not be too preachy. Kthx
 
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No, I wouldn't. I don't think there is anything intimate about having sex with a stranger, and one coming onto me so aggressively would make me suspicious.
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Perhaps it's my libido speaking for me, but in all honesty (and assuming there's no danger whatsoever of an STD / her being a total fucking psycho), I would probably go for it. This most likely means I am a dirty whoremongerer. Maybe.
Seriously, though, I don't see it so much as a moral issue, because men generally are not as vulnerable to ostracism from promiscuity as women are. It's a bragging right in many cases for a man to have slept with a lot of women, but if a woman does it, she's a slut. I would imagine that the question of morality is subverted somewhat by cultural and societal standards concerning sex.
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On June 30 2011 08:44 Chef wrote:
No, I wouldn't. I don't think there is anything intimate about having sex with a stranger, and one coming onto me so aggressively would make me suspicious.
Yes, you would.
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Why?
What's attractive about someone who is so desperate she'll have sex with a total stranger? Don't you think that implies she has sex with many strangers? Doesn't that make you feel a little used and disgusting?
I don't think it has to be a moral question, and for me it isn't. It's a question of personal preference and sexuality.
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Of course. I guess it's a moral question, but I don't see any downside here.
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Maybe I'm a bitch, or maybe I'm old school, but I actually prefer getting to know someone before I'd engage in intercourse. If I had to put a time on it, I'd probably say it would take like 4-5 dates/hangouts before I'd feel comfortable enough to make the decision engaging in sex would be a good idea.
I've found I tend to get attached rather easily, as I have a quite addictive personality with almost anything.
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Yeah, I'd be more paranoid than anything lol. That's just not normal. And a girl's attractiveness is only one tiny aspect of sex.
Then again, I guess it depends on how skanky she's dressed. I have a thing for skirts so if she was in a short one, maybe I'd say yes :-\.
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If the previous conversation showed her interesting and attractive, then sure. If I was completely indifferent and not sexually attracted to her before she started grabbing my nuts, then she'd have to get in line and wait her turn.
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Even if she were Venus herself, uncouth behaviour does its part in quickly making someone undesirable.
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On June 30 2011 08:50 TadH wrote:Show nested quote +On June 30 2011 08:44 Chef wrote:
No, I wouldn't. I don't think there is anything intimate about having sex with a stranger, and one coming onto me so aggressively would make me suspicious. Yes, you would.
I'm with Chef.
I'd probably get over it or take legal action. Most likely get over it as I cannot afford a lawyer.
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On June 30 2011 09:07 MoltkeWarding wrote:
Even if she were Venus herself, uncouth behaviour does its part in quickly making someone undesirable.
What if she was German?
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On June 30 2011 08:51 Chef wrote:
Why?
What's attractive about someone who is so desperate she'll have sex with a total stranger? Don't you think that implies she has sex with many strangers? Doesn't that make you feel a little used and disgusting?
I don't think it has to be a moral question, and for me it isn't. It's a question of personal preference and sexuality.
i agree with this. plus I was brought up with pretty high morals. but even if i wasnt i dont like girls who sleep around casually. less faithful.
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On June 30 2011 09:09 RageOverdose wrote:Show nested quote +On June 30 2011 08:50 TadH wrote:On June 30 2011 08:44 Chef wrote:
No, I wouldn't. I don't think there is anything intimate about having sex with a stranger, and one coming onto me so aggressively would make me suspicious. Yes, you would. I'm with him. I'd probably get over it or take legal action. Most likely get over it as I cannot afford a lawyer.
Take legal action over what? Sexual harassment? That's probably invalid if you have consensual sex with someone.
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I would say no just because she was grabbing my junk after knowing for such a short amount of time. If that didn't happen but she was still on board me with taking her home or whatever I would take the one night stand, but the grabbing is just overly suspicious and desperate on her end.
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<3 Chef
No, and as soon as I read the description the word "whore" immediately crossed my mind. There's virtue in sleeping around. Simply put, sex is a special and important thing, you shouldnt defile yourself with every person you see in the street; that's self-degrading.
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On June 30 2011 09:26 Chef wrote:Show nested quote +On June 30 2011 09:09 RageOverdose wrote:On June 30 2011 08:50 TadH wrote:On June 30 2011 08:44 Chef wrote:
No, I wouldn't. I don't think there is anything intimate about having sex with a stranger, and one coming onto me so aggressively would make me suspicious. Yes, you would. I'm with him. I'd probably get over it or take legal action. Most likely get over it as I cannot afford a lawyer. Take legal action over what? Sexual harassment? That's probably invalid if you have consensual sex with someone.
But I'm not having consensual sex with anyone. She groped my crotch and I wouldn't like that.
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First, determine if she is crazy.
The general rule of thumb is that you don't stick your stuff into crazy.
Other than that, it might also be wise to think about the possibility of the affair leaking out into gossip, if you are afraid of your public image being altered by the affair.
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Oh, sorry RageOverdose, I was confused who you were agreeing with. I should have realised it makes more sense the other way around.
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My mind would say "no" but my crotch would say "yes."
Unfortunately, I'd probably listen to my crotch and regret it later. So I voted "yes." It might be different if she weren't groping my stuff, though.
Yes, I know I have weak self control and all that, but c'mon, I'm just a man. 
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