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[Poll]Promiscuity - Page 2
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TyrantPotato
Australia1541 Posts
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On June 30 2011 08:44 Chef wrote: No, I wouldn't. I don't think there is anything intimate about having sex with a stranger, and one coming onto me so aggressively would make me suspicious. I agree. To have sex I believe there needs to be a degree of intimacy that's impossible to attain with a stranger. With that being said, I have two rules for sex - we must love each other and it must feel right. Loving someone isn't a cut and dry process - it takes a lot of time, work, and heart. It feels right after that love has proved itself as solid - the real deal! I could go a bit further on how "waiting until marriage is the ultimate test on when it feels right", but that's more in depth than this survey demands, so I'll leave it with that thought! | ||
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koreasilver
9109 Posts
On June 30 2011 09:27 bITt.mAN wrote: <3 Chef No, and as soon as I read the description the word "whore" immediately crossed my mind. There's virtue in sleeping around. Simply put, sex is a special and important thing, you shouldnt defile yourself with every person you see in the street; that's self-degrading. Sex on its own really doesn't hold much meaning. It's only within the context of a relationship of mutual commitment where it has any meaning beyond sexual release and procreation. | ||
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sc4k
United Kingdom5454 Posts
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RageOverdose
United States690 Posts
On June 30 2011 09:33 Chef wrote: Oh, sorry RageOverdose, I was confused who you were agreeing with. I should have realised it makes more sense the other way around. Well, I did quote someone and just say "him." That makes it confusing. I fixed it though. Sorry for the confusion. I'm personally not interested in having sex with people I'm not in a relationship with. To me sex is an intimate and special kind of thing. For someone to just talk to me, basically assault me, and say they want to have sex with me, it makes me a bit uncomfortable. Maybe a bit confused too, because part of me will be flattered that the person wants to get into bed with me (probably wrongfully anyway) while the other part is uncomfortable because it's a stranger. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
On June 30 2011 09:07 MoltkeWarding wrote: Even if she were Venus herself, uncouth behaviour does its part in quickly making someone undesirable. But of course, how can I judge a girl's attractiveness without first knowing: -Their religion, and respective piety -Their family and family history -Their socio-economic class -Their artistic and literary talents -Their sensitivity, romanticism and sentimentalism -Their patriotism, provincialism, and rootedness in their native culture -Their cooking, cleaning and other domestic abilities -Their mental and emotional stability -Their historical attitude and preferences regarding bourgeois family life -Their racial origins (if not already clear) -Their feminine virtues (virginity, modesty, etc) I have a friend who says he won't fuck ugly girls or fat girls, but when he gets the chance, he always takes it. All you guys saying you won't have sex with girls, you're defying your natural instincts, and they're some pretty strong natural instincts. Ones that you've all fallen prey to at some point in your life. Do you really think you're going to be able to control them, or are you just lying to yourself? Maybe you don't want to be seen as a whore. A lot of girls get really ashamed the night after a party when they find out who they've slept with, but they keep going back to the parties anyways. They like the sex, the flirting, the dancing, the stupid drinking. Who's to say you aren't the same. Can you honestly say that you go to clubs or parties with just the intention of "having fun platonically"? When you talk to a girl, do you tend to talk more with girls whom you consider more attractive? Do you really think that when you go up and introduce a girl that you're only thinking of "making new friends"? People say things about abstinence, but from what I've seen, when the situation presents itself, most people don't take the high road. I think you guys just haven't been tested. Until you can say "man that girl was really hitting on me, but I turned her down multiple times and I'm happy I did", all you're words are meaningless. | ||
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Skyze
Canada2324 Posts
I think even at that point, I dont think I would.. but never know until the situation happens.. it is pretty gross to think about (as someone said, she probably does this often, thats a major turnoff for me) | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
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Chef
10810 Posts
All you guys saying you won't have sex with girls, you're defying your natural instincts, and they're some pretty strong natural instincts. Ones that you've all fallen prey to at some point in your life. Do you really think you're going to be able to control them, or are you just lying to yourself? I think that the stereotype that men are horny retards who only think with their dicks is one worth fighting against. I don't think it's instinct to just have sex with any random girl who you will never see again. To say something is 'instinct' is a really hard to prove argument. What if I say that forming a stable relationship with someone is instinct? We end up in a meaningless argument. Physical beauty is only one part of attractiveness. A bad personality can make a good body look disgusting. Even if there were no tricks, no STDs, I would still have to know that I was special and not just another random dude she's decided to bone. Some people want relationships, what's wrong with that? It's a very macho-bullshit attitude to think all men would have sex if a girl with a nice body were willing. I don't generally even find someone that attractive until I've actually met them and learned about them. Physical appearance is just one checkmark in a list of things required to get me horny. Does she have a brain? Do I like her as a person? If it's instinct to have sex with as many women as possible due to a biological need to impregnant women, why are you able to resist the baby making part and use contraceptives? Maybe just maybe the 'have sex with many women' is something men mistakenly embody as the meaning of maleness, when it is really just an excuse. | ||
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tube
United States1475 Posts
On June 30 2011 10:02 Chef wrote: Physical appearance is just one checkmark in a list of things required to get me horny. i really don't believe you to get the blood flowing to your penis you need to be sexually aroused and men are sexually aroused very easily by attractive women, esp. if their clothing is sexy or are you seriously saying that when you see a beautiful woman in lingerie approaching you you wouldn't get even close to a boner; and that it only occurs when you've talked to her and adequately found that she is a nice person, and then your dick finally gets hard? | ||
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The KY
United Kingdom6252 Posts
Obviously I prefer sex as an expression of romantic love with someone I care about, but failing that... | ||
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koreasilver
9109 Posts
On June 30 2011 09:45 obesechicken13 wrote: Ok, so I need a devil's advocate to join me. But of course, how can I judge a girl's attractiveness without first knowing: -Their religion, and respective piety -Their family and family history -Their socio-economic class -Their artistic and literary talents -Their sensitivity, romanticism and sentimentalism -Their patriotism, provincialism, and rootedness in their native culture -Their cooking, cleaning and other domestic abilities -Their mental and emotional stability -Their historical attitude and preferences regarding bourgeois family life -Their racial origins (if not already clear) -Their feminine virtues (virginity, modesty, etc) I have a friend who says he won't fuck ugly girls or fat girls, but when he gets the chance, he always takes it. All you guys saying you won't have sex with girls, you're defying your natural instincts, and they're some pretty strong natural instincts. Ones that you've all fallen prey to at some point in your life. Do you really think you're going to be able to control them, or are you just lying to yourself? Maybe you don't want to be seen as a whore. A lot of girls get really ashamed the night after a party when they find out who they've slept with, but they keep going back to the parties anyways. They like the sex, the flirting, the dancing, the stupid drinking. Who's to say you aren't the same. Can you honestly say that you go to clubs or parties with just the intention of "having fun platonically"? When you talk to a girl, do you tend to talk more with girls whom you consider more attractive? Do you really think that when you go up and introduce a girl that you're only thinking of "making new friends"? People say things about abstinence, but from what I've seen, when the situation presents itself, most people don't take the high road. I think you guys just haven't been tested. Until you can say "man that girl was really hitting on me, but I turned her down multiple times and I'm happy I did", all you're words are meaningless. I agree most of what you're saying, but it is possible to hold back on your urges. I have no problems with people having light, uncommitted sexual relations. I only have a problem with promiscuity when a person has entered into a committed relationship, unless they both have stated with utmost clarity that it is to be an open relationship. I personally don't like the idea of open relationships, but whatever. I have been in a relationship with a girl for the past two years. She currently attends one of the University of London branches in the UK, and I'm currently a student in McMaster university in Canada. Because of our distance, our financial status as poor university students, and how busy we are with work/school, we see each other like 1-2 times a year for 1-3 weeks each time. We are both 20 and obviously we have a lot of difficulty with the relationship but we still try our best because we love each other. The past year I've been approached by two girls, and I rejected them both multiple times. The first girl has been a close friend with me since I was 13, and I often slept over at her house whenever I went to Toronto and we never had any problems with it. We've both liked each other for short periods of time here and then throughout high school, but we always found someone else, so nothing ever happened. We were always good friends though, and always kept in touch. Last summer, after going out for the night (she took me to a rave), drinking, and talking on a beach (I never knew they had artificial beaches in Toronto until then), we head back to her apartment. She just moved into the apartment after a painful falling out she had with a close friend of ours, so there was like no furniture except some minimal things in her room. We ended up sleeping in the same bed. I didn't have any problems with the idea because we've been friends for so long, but when we went to bed she made a move on me. If I said I wasn't tempted, I'd be lying. But I turned her down and I left quietly early in the morning. The other girl was a girl with who I shared a mutual attraction since the first week of university, but during the first year of university I was recovering from having my heart ripped to shreds by the first girl I really loved so I didn't have the strength to become close to her. Whenever we walked by each other in school we always looked at each other though. So years later, we finally have a class together again, and for the whole semester she hit on me. It's not if she wasn't my type either, since I had a crush on her since the first time I saw her, but I turned her down. This obviously doesn't fit what the OP is saying since all my actions happened within the context of me being in a committed relationship and I already knew the girls from before, but I know people can hold themselves back because I have been able to. Obviously it isn't always an easy thing, but it's doable. If I was single, I would have had no reason to turn either of them down and I probably wouldn't have. But If I was able to turn down these two girls because of my personal ideals and my commitment to the promises I have made to my girlfriend, then I find no reason to believe that some of the people that have posted in this thread would be unable to turn down a girl that offers random sex, regardless of how attractive she is and how sexually aroused they may be. edit: Yes, I went to a club with my female friend to have fun platonically. | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
or are you seriously saying that when you see a beautiful woman in lingerie approaching you you wouldn't get even close to a boner; and that it only occurs when you've talked to her and adequately found that she is a nice person, and then your dick finally gets hard? I'm not 13 years old. If a physically attractive woman gets on the bus, no I don't have to worry about standing up. If I were poppin boners all the time life would be pretty awkward. Sure, if I wanted to be erect I could get it up by thinking sexy thoughts about a person, but that's a conscious decision. When you're a fully functioning adult it really is a choice lol. Do you have trouble walking thru malls with giant posters of women in lingerie? Neither do I. | ||
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DyEnasTy
United States3721 Posts
On June 30 2011 09:45 obesechicken13 wrote: Ok, so I need a devil's advocate to join me. But of course, how can I judge a girl's attractiveness without first knowing: -Their religion, and respective piety -Their family and family history -Their socio-economic class -Their artistic and literary talents -Their sensitivity, romanticism and sentimentalism -Their patriotism, provincialism, and rootedness in their native culture -Their cooking, cleaning and other domestic abilities -Their mental and emotional stability -Their historical attitude and preferences regarding bourgeois family life -Their racial origins (if not already clear) -Their feminine virtues (virginity, modesty, etc) I have a friend who says he won't fuck ugly girls or fat girls, but when he gets the chance, he always takes it. All you guys saying you won't have sex with girls, you're defying your natural instincts, and they're some pretty strong natural instincts. Ones that you've all fallen prey to at some point in your life. Do you really think you're going to be able to control them, or are you just lying to yourself? Maybe you don't want to be seen as a whore. A lot of girls get really ashamed the night after a party when they find out who they've slept with, but they keep going back to the parties anyways. They like the sex, the flirting, the dancing, the stupid drinking. Who's to say you aren't the same. Can you honestly say that you go to clubs or parties with just the intention of "having fun platonically"? When you talk to a girl, do you tend to talk more with girls whom you consider more attractive? Do you really think that when you go up and introduce a girl that you're only thinking of "making new friends"? People say things about abstinence, but from what I've seen, when the situation presents itself, most people don't take the high road. I think you guys just haven't been tested. Until you can say "man that girl was really hitting on me, but I turned her down multiple times and I'm happy I did", all you're words are meaningless. First off, if you are putting yourself in compromising situations like at a party or flirting or clubbing and are trying to stay on the "high road" than you deserve whatever comes your way. If "compromising situations" find you anyway than its slightly more understandable. But every person has self control. Most dont know how to "train" it or simply wont use it. To each his own regarding what their own morals are. I have been hit on enough times (only once like the OP describes) to know that it is possible to not do something Id regret later. | ||
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vol_
Australia1608 Posts
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DyEnasTy
United States3721 Posts
On June 30 2011 10:14 Chef wrote: I'm not 13 years old. If a physically attractive woman gets on the bus, no I don't have to worry about standing up. If I were poppin boners all the time life would be pretty awkward. Sure, if I wanted to be erect I could get it up by thinking sexy thoughts about a person, but that's a conscious decision. When you're a fully functioning adult it really is a choice lol. Do you have trouble walking thru malls with giant posters of women in lingerie? Neither do I. Im having the same thoughts as Chef in every one of his posts. | ||
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HuK
Canada1591 Posts
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DyEnasTy
United States3721 Posts
On June 30 2011 10:23 Liquid`HuK wrote: idk its pretty hard to determine this kind of thing for me, it would really depend on how amazing the person is; but i would never just answer "no" or "yes" for that matter but would you if some random scantily clad hot chick walked up to you and after a couple minutes wanted sex? I highly doubt you'd think they are an "amazing" person in a few min, let alone after what she just did. | ||
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ClysmiC
United States2192 Posts
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Mikilatov
United States3897 Posts
But what I don't get is... Why open a poll and ask about this, and then go and tell people they are bullshit lying and they'd do it anyway? -_- | ||
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