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First blog ever, written after 20~ hours of no sleep and while feeling a bout of depression, so make of it what you will.
There will be no tl;dr, so go away now if you're gonna bitch about it.
I know girl blogs are cliched, but might as well add my own to the infinite hordes of them.
I'm 17 about to turn 18, she was 15, now 16.
First off, I am an emotional person naturally, though I've been extremely hardened over the years, due to a MASSIVE string of being hurt and lead on by about 11 girls in a row over the course of 5 years or so, each one going further before dropping me.
About a year ago, I met this girl at a party, started talking to her because she was cute, I had been acquaintances with her for a couple years, but this was the first time we'd ever really talked. We HIT IT OFF HARD, within 3 days we were best friends and I was falling in love, one of the worst mistakes of my life thus far.
We were so similar it was like we were built for each other, we began referring to ourselves as twins as a joke. Our big thing was texting, we were in contact through texts 24/7 when we were both awake and free. About a month in, there was a little encounter in my car when I drove her home one night, nothing happened, but we wound up in the back seat with her head on my lap and almost kissed, but I prevented us, cause it didn't feel 'right'. (nothing for some of you, I know, but I'm still young and inexperienced as was she, supposedly) Later, after the usual joking about and randomly discussing dating(which was responded to favorably, I might add), I asked her if she would date me, she replied with a no, and dodged questions as to why, stating reasons like you're like a brother, and it could ruin our friendship. Though this started some other things, which led to getting I love yous from her, which, from her, was huge.
About 3 months in, she came to me and confessed that she had someone she was "saving her feelings for". Essentially, she was dating him until shortly before we met, and he broke up with her temporarily because she was "too innocent and he felt guilty". I disagreed with her about them being seperate but didn't say anything, he would still come over, and they'd liplock for hours, and she even blew him twice, during this "not BF" stage. I did NOT take well to this, as you can imagine. It took a week or so before we could talk civilly again, but we recovered, as friends do. Eventually they got "back together" again.
HUGE EDIT: The above sexual events happened during the joking about dating and the implications of dating, before being rejected.
For the last ~6 months of the friendship, I felt more and more used, and we got more and more strained, we talked almost every night still, but the conversations got shorter and less loveydovey, and the texts slowed down massively. Near the end, about the last month, I began to wonder if she even cared about me anymore, even though I still had feelings for her. It got to the point where she would bring her boyfriend out to the car with her when I picked her up from school to hang out and make me drive him home first. She knew I still loved her, so this pissed me off.
When we would hang out, we used to sit on the bed or couch and talk or watch movies and play games and things, it got to where I would sit on her bed silently and she would get on facebook for hours without talking, and reject any advances made towards interaction, then blame me for us not interacting if i complained.
One thing that strikes me is the day i told her I had met another girl, which she had always encouraged. Wasn't so encouraging when it happened to be her ex-best friend. They quit talking due to unfortunate circumstances causing them to move apart and be unable to communicate for a while, she tried extremely hard to get her friend back, but the interest wasn't returned. I met her best friend when we were on a demo team for our taekwondo schools shared tournament together, and we hit it off, but it has since fizzled into a distant friendship, she'll talk to me if I approach her, but she won't approach me usually.
I remember our last day crystal clear, 3/19/2011.
The day went fine, it was almost like old times, we talked, watched movies, everything was fine, i went home at the normal time, stayed up till 5 am on the xbox, and slept till 3pm when she called me to tell me we were done, because it was too stressful for her to have to be friends with me and she couldn't handle school and me at the same time. I acted all like it wasn't going to hurt me badly on the phone, but I cried for hours, and was severely depressed until a couple weeks ago.
It's the first time I ever got broken up with, all the others kinda fizzled out and never went anywhere, this one was murdered suddenly and it hurt like hell.
I still kinda keep an eye on her, she removed me on facebook, but she didn't remove my best friend and i have access to his account, unknown to the both of them <.<
I'm very protective of her to this day, if anyone were to hurt her in any way that matters, I would kill them, no doubt in my mind.
Don't know why i posted this, don't really need advice, unless you know how to magically get my friend back, I don't even care about dating anymore, there's no room in my heart for her anymore.
I just want the best friend I ever had back. :'(
 
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Not much you can do honestly, aside of sitting out and be yourself. The main question is (I sadly am too tired to fully grasp each part) if you are interested in more than just friendship. If so, just be carefull hold on and don't press it too hard. If she's busy with school then give her that space untill she's ready.
Can't say I got more to tell here atm sadly 
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I don't care about dating anymore, I just want my friend back.
She was almost hostile in the end, so I don't know what'll happen, I've heard nothing in the 1 and a half months since then.
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I fucking hate girls.
First blog ever, written after 20~ hours of no sleep and while feeling a bout of depression, so make of it what you will.
I guess this foolish statement is because of your lack of sleep, but it's alright.
I've read everything, and I suggest moving on. There are lots of girls out there. 
No person is irreplaceable.
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Nah, I hate girls, love vaginas and breasts, hate girls, stupid irrational creatures they are. ;P
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It sounds like the relationship wasn't doing you much good .
You can get her back as a friend, but you'll probably want to wait a while longer before you make an attempt to contact her. Try now and you'll just set yourself up for more pain and rejection.
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Oh wow she blew the guy twice I wouldn't even have recovered for that man.
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You cried over losing a best friend? You do realise the standard secondary school > university transition (in the UK at least, I guess it's high school > college transition in the US) forces you to lose your "best friends." If you need to get yourself back on the 'horse' so to speak, might I just suggest a manly cure?
1) Go to this website: http://truelad.com
2) Read posts made there about Laddish banter in the United Kingdom
3) Laugh at how misogynist the posters are, and posting requirements "are".
4) Look at the photo section
5) Again, laugh.
6) Take a dose of "man-up" pills (specifically linked to this image: http://truelad.com/Photo/124903)
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Its just some bitch who led you on and didnt know what she wants, you said she was 16 that pretty much sums it up.
I mean she probably doesnt know what she wants or even that shes alive considering shes so young, so she sees the nearest thing that will talk to her and latches onto it till something more entertaining comes along.
It happens to all of us man, you just gotta move on and not give a fuck.
Yes, i know she was your "best friend" but god damn, you should have been more subtle about shit if you were going that way, i mean fuck make stupid ass dating jokes and shit like that find out who she likes etc etc before you move onto I WANT YOU SO MUCH COME WITH ME NOW.
Also; who gives a fuck if she sucked some other guy off and they kissed for hours? You know how many girls you're going to find who havent done that shit? Not many(unless they're Asian or something maybe..) Need to stop treating that like its a big deal even if she was your best friend.
tldr; move the fuck on and forget about her cause shes immature emotionally.
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On June 03 2011 19:43 Daffyd wrote:You cried over losing a best friend? You do realise the standard secondary school > university transition (in the UK at least, I guess it's high school > college transition in the US) forces you to lose your "best friends." If you need to get yourself back on the 'horse' so to speak, might I just suggest a manly cure? 1) Go to this website: http://truelad.com2) Read posts made there about Laddish banter in the United Kingdom 3) Laugh at how misogynist the posters are, and posting requirements "are". 4) Look at the photo section 5) Again, laugh. 6) Take a dose of "man-up" pills (specifically linked to this image: http://truelad.com/Photo/124903)
Doesn't "force", by any means, I still have friends that left for colleges seperate from mine. Actually chatting with one on FB right now.
And I know it doesn't mean much in the grand scheme of things, but for it being the first time, it hurts like hell.
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On June 03 2011 19:48 King of Blades wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 19:43 Daffyd wrote:You cried over losing a best friend? You do realise the standard secondary school > university transition (in the UK at least, I guess it's high school > college transition in the US) forces you to lose your "best friends." If you need to get yourself back on the 'horse' so to speak, might I just suggest a manly cure? 1) Go to this website: http://truelad.com2) Read posts made there about Laddish banter in the United Kingdom 3) Laugh at how misogynist the posters are, and posting requirements "are". 4) Look at the photo section 5) Again, laugh. 6) Take a dose of "man-up" pills (specifically linked to this image: http://truelad.com/Photo/124903) Doesn't "force", by any means, I still have friends that left for colleges seperate from mine. Actually chatting with one on FB right now. And I know it doesn't mean much in the grand scheme of things, but for it being the first time, it hurts like hell.
Did you visit the website? You can thank me after you've had a lot of laughs from it ... I'm telling you, it's the best thing the UK has to offer - the banter is wonderful.
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On June 03 2011 19:47 arb wrote:
Its just some bitch who led you on and didnt know what she wants, you said she was 16 that pretty much sums it up.
I mean she probably doesnt know what she wants or even that shes alive considering shes so young, so she sees the nearest thing that will talk to her and latches onto it till something more entertaining comes along.
It happens to all of us man, you just gotta move on and not give a fuck.
Yes, i know she was your "best friend" but god damn, you should have been more subtle about shit if you were going that way, i mean fuck make stupid ass dating jokes and shit like that find out who she likes etc etc before you move onto I WANT YOU SO MUCH COME WITH ME NOW.
Also; who gives a fuck if she sucked some other guy off and they kissed for hours? You know how many girls you're going to find who havent done that shit? Not many(unless they're Asian or something maybe..) Need to stop treating that like its a big deal even if she was your best friend.
tldr; move the fuck on and forget about her cause shes immature emotionally.
Do not assume you know all the circumstances. She is extremely intelligent and knows very well what she wants.
I did joke and wander the circumference of the idea of dating to see her thoughts on it before I said anything, they all met with acceptance and she was pleased with the idea(not the best way to say it, but I can't think of anything better).
And you missed the part were she was supposedly single and leading me on during the sucking and kissing.
I may have put the order wrong in the OP, i'll check, but the sexual stuff was happening alongside the heavily implying she would date me, before the rejection.
You may not have a heart, but I do.
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On June 03 2011 19:53 Daffyd wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 19:48 King of Blades wrote:On June 03 2011 19:43 Daffyd wrote:You cried over losing a best friend? You do realise the standard secondary school > university transition (in the UK at least, I guess it's high school > college transition in the US) forces you to lose your "best friends." If you need to get yourself back on the 'horse' so to speak, might I just suggest a manly cure? 1) Go to this website: http://truelad.com2) Read posts made there about Laddish banter in the United Kingdom 3) Laugh at how misogynist the posters are, and posting requirements "are". 4) Look at the photo section 5) Again, laugh. 6) Take a dose of "man-up" pills (specifically linked to this image: http://truelad.com/Photo/124903) Doesn't "force", by any means, I still have friends that left for colleges seperate from mine. Actually chatting with one on FB right now. And I know it doesn't mean much in the grand scheme of things, but for it being the first time, it hurts like hell. Did you visit the website? You can thank me after you've had a lot of laughs from it ... I'm telling you, it's the best thing the UK has to offer - the banter is wonderful.
Yeah, I visited it, it's rather amusing, I will admit that 
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On June 03 2011 19:54 King of Blades wrote:
Do not assume you know all the circumstances. She is extremely intelligent and knows very well what she wants.
I did joke and wander the circumference of the idea of dating to see her thoughts on it before I said anything, they all met with acceptance and she was pleased with the idea(not the best way to say it, but I can't think of anything better).
And you missed the part were she was supposedly single and leading me on during the sucking and kissing.
I may have put the order wrong in the OP, i'll check, but the sexual stuff was happening alongside the heavily implying she would date me, before the rejection.
You may not have a heart, but I do.
Yeah she knew what she wanted, and what she wanted was double penistration.
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On June 03 2011 19:54 King of Blades wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 19:47 arb wrote:
Its just some bitch who led you on and didnt know what she wants, you said she was 16 that pretty much sums it up.
I mean she probably doesnt know what she wants or even that shes alive considering shes so young, so she sees the nearest thing that will talk to her and latches onto it till something more entertaining comes along.
It happens to all of us man, you just gotta move on and not give a fuck.
Yes, i know she was your "best friend" but god damn, you should have been more subtle about shit if you were going that way, i mean fuck make stupid ass dating jokes and shit like that find out who she likes etc etc before you move onto I WANT YOU SO MUCH COME WITH ME NOW.
Also; who gives a fuck if she sucked some other guy off and they kissed for hours? You know how many girls you're going to find who havent done that shit? Not many(unless they're Asian or something maybe..) Need to stop treating that like its a big deal even if she was your best friend.
tldr; move the fuck on and forget about her cause shes immature emotionally. Do not assume you know all the circumstances. She is extremely intelligent and knows very well what she wants. I did joke and wander the circumference of the idea of dating to see her thoughts on it before I said anything, they all met with acceptance and she was pleased with the idea(not the best way to say it, but I can't think of anything better). And you missed the part were she was supposedly single and leading me on during the sucking and kissing. I may have put the order wrong in the OP, i'll check, but the sexual stuff was happening alongside the heavily implying she would date me, before the rejection. You may not have a heart, but I do.
I disagree, if she knew what she wanted she wouldn't have been talking to you about whatever, then at the same time messing around with some other guy.
She seems to suffer from the, Fuck with one guy then actually want another guy syndrome that so many females tend to have today.
IMO.
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I was the guy that she found right after a breakup, and latched onto, then realized she couldn't keep both, and didn't know what to do at first.
Then we argued, and she chose.
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wait. why do you care, you and her were not even 'together' or dating out
you were like 20000000x miles into the friendzone, and you didnt seize the oppurtunity.
and you still put up with her, after she blew some next man, TWICE.
Take the earlier advice and go on truelad, it might stiffen your spine.
Seriously tho, you sound like a really nice guy, and we all know overly nice pushover doormat, friend zone guys get nowhere.
She used you for your emotional support, next time you feel like talking to her, imagine her lips wrapped round the next guys cock.
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On June 03 2011 20:12 Rozza wrote:
wait. why do you care, you and her were not even 'together' or dating out
you were like 20000000x miles into the friendzone, and you didnt seize the oppurtunity.
and you still put up with her, after she blew some next man, TWICE.
Take the earlier advice and go on truelad, it might stiffen your spine.
Seriously tho, you sound like a really nice guy, and we all know overly nice pushover doormat, friend zone guys get nowhere.
She used you for your emotional support, next time you feel like talking to her, imagine her lips wrapped round the next guys cock.
Don't want her as a girlfriend anymore, already after the next one, I want her back as the legitimate best friend that she was, not the potential GF she pretended to be.
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So what you're saying is she broke up with the guy but still giving him the casual bj in the bus and you didn't think at all? Are you really that naive? Or just blissfully ignorant?
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On June 03 2011 20:15 King of Blades wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 20:12 Rozza wrote:
wait. why do you care, you and her were not even 'together' or dating out
you were like 20000000x miles into the friendzone, and you didnt seize the oppurtunity.
and you still put up with her, after she blew some next man, TWICE.
Take the earlier advice and go on truelad, it might stiffen your spine.
Seriously tho, you sound like a really nice guy, and we all know overly nice pushover doormat, friend zone guys get nowhere.
She used you for your emotional support, next time you feel like talking to her, imagine her lips wrapped round the next guys cock.
Don't want her as a girlfriend anymore, already after the next one, I want her back as the legitimate best friend that she was, not the potential GF she pretended to be.
She probably didnt even want you as a friend, she was suffering a tough time and found someone who she could pile all her problems on
Really just take everyone elses advice in the thread and forget about her
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On June 03 2011 20:15 Garbonix wrote:
So what you're saying is she broke up with the guy but still giving him the casual bj in the bus and you didn't think at all? Are you really that naive? Or just blissfully ignorant?
He "broke up" with her, quotes because they didn't break up, he just felt guilty, because he.... is NOT a virgin, let's put it that way, and he's her first real BF.
He felt like he was "corrupting" her, so they "broke up", but still hung out and everything, and she wanted him back officially so she pleasured him. I didn't know about this till later, and I was still somewhat blinded by love. They aren't going to make it, I know that just from knowing the two of them and how their relationship works. She is in complete control by his choice, he's a slave, he won't do anything without getting her permission. He never decides what to eat, where to go, what movie to see, he makes her choose all of it. That breeds resentment, even if it is by choice.
I was just hoping they wouldn't make it while I was around to catch her when she fell.
I'm not stupid, just young.
I can't keep replying like this, I have some RL stuff I need to do(college ), I'll be back later and compile and answer all of them then.
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On June 03 2011 20:22 King of Blades wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 20:15 Garbonix wrote:
So what you're saying is she broke up with the guy but still giving him the casual bj in the bus and you didn't think at all? Are you really that naive? Or just blissfully ignorant? He "broke up" with her, quotes because they didn't break up, he just felt guilty, because he.... is NOT a virgin, let's put it that way, and he's her first real BF. He felt like he was "corrupting" her, so they "broke up", but still hung out and everything, and she wanted him back officially so she pleasured him. I didn't know about this till later, and I was still somewhat blinded by love. They aren't going to make it, I know that just from knowing the two of them and how their relationship works. She is in complete control by his choice, he's a slave, he won't do anything without getting her permission. He never decides what to eat, where to go, what movie to see, he makes her choose all of it. That breeds resentment, even if it is by choice. I was just hoping they wouldn't make it while I was around to catch her when she fell. I'm not stupid, just young.
Let us focus on the end of your post for a moment. If you're not stupid, just young then you should know nothing will work like you want it to because you're just young. Now if you knew for a fact they really didn't break up what were you hoping for? That she would like magic want your dick in her mouth not his? Things don't work that way with young girls or girls of any age below 35. And because of her age him being a slave is what she wants. All girls that age want control so it won't end unless she wants it to or she finds a guy with a bigger dick then his to fill herself with, `cause we all know your dick must not be pleasing to her.
User was temp banned for this post.
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Love can be a pretty ugly bitch sometimes. Hopefully you can move on without this affecting you too much in the long run.
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Wait... shes 2 years younger then you and you want be kinda of... boyfriend with her ... wtf o.o ? You are aware that at the age of 18 that is not only stupid but also illegal in most countries... like really illegal.. to the point where you can get a life sentence for phedophilia if you have sexual intercources with her ?
Oh and always remember what House said![[image loading]](http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/41590_4595337503_2072_n.jpg)
^The above is approved by Chuck Noris,Einstein,Feynman,Slash,Elvis,Lemmy,Leonardo da Vinci, Napoleon,Cesar,Jesus and many other legendary bros
You just CAN'T be best friend with someone of the opposite sex... not in 99.99% of the cases.
I went to school/high school in classes that were 80% girls due to me wanting to learn physics and biology to become a vet yet i can name my 5 best friends that would risk there fucking dick for me and they are all guys.
TL;DR get a guy to be your best friend
get a beer to bring you girl friends
Im a poet... and i didn't knew it !
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On June 03 2011 20:17 arb wrote:
Really just take everyone elses advice in the thread and forget about her
Pretty much. Sounds like it was nothing more than a fling. At your age, most people don't know what love really is. They only think they do. You can try to trick your mind into thinking that all you want, but the reality could be totally different.
'I'm fucking with you, or I'm not at all' is a fairly common mentality people have. Apparently she fits the criteria. The relationship got boring/sour. Might as well take the high road and leave it be.
Just my two cents.
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older girls act exactly the same way
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Northern Ireland2557 Posts
On June 03 2011 20:17 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 20:15 King of Blades wrote:On June 03 2011 20:12 Rozza wrote:
wait. why do you care, you and her were not even 'together' or dating out
you were like 20000000x miles into the friendzone, and you didnt seize the oppurtunity.
and you still put up with her, after she blew some next man, TWICE.
Take the earlier advice and go on truelad, it might stiffen your spine.
Seriously tho, you sound like a really nice guy, and we all know overly nice pushover doormat, friend zone guys get nowhere.
She used you for your emotional support, next time you feel like talking to her, imagine her lips wrapped round the next guys cock.
Don't want her as a girlfriend anymore, already after the next one, I want her back as the legitimate best friend that she was, not the potential GF she pretended to be. She probably didnt even want you as a friend, she was suffering a tough time and found someone who she could pile all her problems on Really just take everyone elses advice in the thread and forget about her
gonna have to vouch for this.
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This is what happens when you're content with the 3D. Real girls are a waste of time.
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On June 03 2011 20:17 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 20:15 King of Blades wrote:On June 03 2011 20:12 Rozza wrote:
wait. why do you care, you and her were not even 'together' or dating out
you were like 20000000x miles into the friendzone, and you didnt seize the oppurtunity.
and you still put up with her, after she blew some next man, TWICE.
Take the earlier advice and go on truelad, it might stiffen your spine.
Seriously tho, you sound like a really nice guy, and we all know overly nice pushover doormat, friend zone guys get nowhere.
She used you for your emotional support, next time you feel like talking to her, imagine her lips wrapped round the next guys cock.
Don't want her as a girlfriend anymore, already after the next one, I want her back as the legitimate best friend that she was, not the potential GF she pretended to be. She probably didnt even want you as a friend, she was suffering a tough time and found someone who she could pile all her problems on Really just take everyone elses advice in the thread and forget about her
This. I had a girl that I was really good friends with and always had a mad crush on her before but eventually she turned out to be just fake as hell and doesn't reply to any message I ever send her. It's best to just forget and think about her as some random girl and build your relationship with the new girl. You'll forget about it soon enough :D.
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Losing your best friend in a situation like this is the fucking worst feeling in the world.
I lost my best friend 9 years ago, and it still hurts like the first day, and I know that wound wont ever go away. I just loved her too much to let that feeling die or hide deep in my mind, that would hurt me even more.
Im 26 now and that feeling is more manageable. I was depressed the first 2years from the day she left me.
Ppl could tell you that time is the only cure, but it is not exactly true. Years are the only anesthetic you would find. There is no cure if you loved that person enough.
My 2cents are: Dont try to forget it, nor even hide it. It WILL hurt much more, im sure about it because I tried it and it didnt work. If you want to go on, learn to live with it.
Many girls at that age value friendship so much that they cant see that friendship and love are not different things. Dont get angry for it, time will teach them.
The proof for this is my girlfriend. She is my best friend, without any doubts, and we love each other like any couple would do.
I hope one day you can find someone to share your life with.
Best wishes.
fatum
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On June 03 2011 19:22 King of Blades wrote:
they'd liplock for hours, and she even blew him twice
Dude, I'm sorry.
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United States22883 Posts
On June 03 2011 19:47 arb wrote:
Its just some bitch who led you on and didnt know what she wants, you said she was 16 that pretty much sums it up.
I asked her if she would date me, she replied with a no I think she was pretty clear about it.
Sometimes when you need a ride, you just need to deal with an emo psycho wannabe boyfriend.
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On June 03 2011 20:15 King of Blades wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 20:12 Rozza wrote:
wait. why do you care, you and her were not even 'together' or dating out
you were like 20000000x miles into the friendzone, and you didnt seize the oppurtunity.
and you still put up with her, after she blew some next man, TWICE.
Take the earlier advice and go on truelad, it might stiffen your spine.
Seriously tho, you sound like a really nice guy, and we all know overly nice pushover doormat, friend zone guys get nowhere.
She used you for your emotional support, next time you feel like talking to her, imagine her lips wrapped round the next guys cock.
Don't want her as a girlfriend anymore, already after the next one, I want her back as the legitimate best friend that she was, not the potential GF she pretended to be.
I am talking from personal experience.
soz bro, at her age, she will never see that you are genuine about it. Let it go because this stupid shit will fuck you up. Watch "The Sweetest Thing" and specifically focus on the the nerdy dude in the beginning. You will get a nose bleed out of nowhere because of someone that looked out for herself first, which by the way, is the right way to go.
Matrix says it best: Stop trying to hit me and HIT me. Ignore her, let her wonder what happened to you, after a while two things will happen - she will text you to reconnect or you two grow apart. Either way, you'll end up equally as happy.
She was interested i what SHE wanted, and you were interested in what YOU wanted - and those things, unfortunately for you, aren't mutual. Let her be, man.
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I know that feeling of losing such a friend and I'm with you, however - good news is you can still find someone else that will mean the same, or even more to you. It might not seem possible, but it's true. Good luck with that / or rescuing your friendship - don't try to win her back though, just give it some time.
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Ah, to be young.
Though something similar (I fell, she told me she's going to marry - yes, marry - someone else, he was just on a long-ish trip and she felt lonely lololol) ended my last relationship, 7 years ago. Most women I know have cheated on their boyfriends/husbands when they were gone for a bit of time, quite a turn off for love & relationships.
Single is good but that's just me. For now I'll never willingly let myself fall for anyone, it's too changing, too much of a loss of self, you do it willingly and happily but when I really think about it, I don't like it - until I won't even notice I'm in love , unavoidable.
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A trend in these girl blogs is that both the writers and the girls theyre writing about usually are really reallly young. You can't expect a girl (or a boy) to be in control of their emotions and know what they want with a potential relationship at 16 years of age. That is reeeeeally rare.
If these people would actually read the replies on their blogs, specially from those with a bit of age and experience, we wouldnt have to go over this everytime.
On a side note, i know this is your blog and youre here to vent, and thats just fine. Im just stating this in general.
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Australia7069 Posts
I was trying to decypher this blog and i had a little help from IRC
<censored> he says they were friends
<censored> never bf gf
<censored> in fact she made that explicity clear
<censored> but he's jealous psycho emo kidmean person
<censored> so he still wants to be her bf
<Kiante> ...
<censored> and slip in when she's done with the current bf
<censored> and theyre bff
<censored> and talk and txxt all the time
<censored> except he gets jealous when other dudes nut in her mouth
all i can say is, what the fuck dude. get over yourself, your a creepy dude stalking some chick and probably ruining her life in the process. get over your dumb ego and go out and get some strange...srsly
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It's the same old story. Boy finds girl, boy loses girl, girl finds boy, boy forgets girl, boy remembers girl, girls dies in a tragic blimp accident over the Orange Bowl on New Year's Day.
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dude, get used to it. you got stuck in the friend zone fast and sorry to tell you but once your there you will never get out. seems like you haven't had a lot of experience with dating. i really don't think age has much to do with it after about 17 in most cases that's besides the point.
just gotta move on to the next girl and forget about her. I've had girls like that before but i wasn't that close to them. but all in the same just figure out a way to move on.
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Serious question/suggestion not a troll at all.
Are you gay?
My older brother went through the exact same thing.., In fact, nearly an identical situation. Two years later, turns out he's gay.
I find it strange that your best friend is not only a girl, but you get so upset over losing 'your best' friend. Tbh , she sounds like a cunt. Ignoring you for weeks, being a whore, etc.
You deserve better, much better from what I'm reading.
EDIT: I was in similar situation, where I was good friends with this babe at high school, it got to the point where I could have banged her (now that I look back) (wow she was all over me at the after-ball) but I was to much of a noob at the to pick up the vibes. After that incident I gtfo cause the friend zone (I assumed I was in the friend zone at the time) isn't cool.
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wtf is wrong with u dude? listen to pretty much everybody on here & stop wasting ur time
she just needed a ride on ur car, not ur cock... move on and grow up...
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On June 03 2011 19:47 arb wrote:
Its just some bitch who led you on and didnt know what she wants, you said she was 16 that pretty much sums it up.
I mean she probably doesnt know what she wants or even that shes alive considering shes so young, so she sees the nearest thing that will talk to her and latches onto it till something more entertaining comes along.
It happens to all of us man, you just gotta move on and not give a fuck.
Yes, i know she was your "best friend" but god damn, you should have been more subtle about shit if you were going that way, i mean fuck make stupid ass dating jokes and shit like that find out who she likes etc etc before you move onto I WANT YOU SO MUCH COME WITH ME NOW.
Also; who gives a fuck if she sucked some other guy off and they kissed for hours? You know how many girls you're going to find who havent done that shit? Not many(unless they're Asian or something maybe..) Need to stop treating that like its a big deal even if she was your best friend.
tldr; move the fuck on and forget about her cause shes immature emotionally.
ROFL.
I think we should have a new goal of changing this stereotype, one asian girl at a time.
Anyway. Yeah, highschool is highschool. And 16 year old girls don't know what they want. Also you're going to lose most of your friends as time passes. You'll keep a couple though, and it turns out that's all that really matters.
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Move on.
You are talking about her as "innocent", "smart", "she know what she wants" blabla
Bullshit, you are just in love, creating that image and finding excuses for her behaviour.
From the way you talk about it, the fact that she gave BJ to another guy while flirting with you is something you won't forget or get over if you stick around her. I know I wouldn't.
Just move on and you'll see, in a while you'll just realize how ridiculous it is that you want to save that "friendship"
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Seems to me she was using you for attention because her ex didn't giver her any. And then when he did she ditched you. She isn't worth it man, she seems like a bitch. And the bitches who fuck with your mind are the worst kinds. Good luck and hope you feel better soon!
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lol, I hate this analogy but here goes:
its the same thing as losing your first game of SC2 in bronze.
you feel extremely intense/bad afterwards [especially if you spent 40 minutes building up 200 marines only to get b-b-b-banelinged].
But after losing 100 more [and maybe winning a few times because you got 'lucky'] you realize it's just all a part of the natural process.
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You don't hate girls, they hate you.
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On June 03 2011 22:57 Ravencruiser wrote:
You don't hate girls, they hate you.
lol, ouch.
it's very sweet that she matters so much to you and you're still very protective of her (despite the fact that she's cut off all contact with you). but to be honest, if she's willing to throw away the friendship that you two had like that, these feelings you have for her are very misplaced. also, i don't see how you can miss her so much as a best friend and not romantic interest, when it seems that your friendship was founded upon you being in love with her and the 2 of u acting very boyfriend-girlfriend-esque.
also 5/5 just for blog title alone.
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Have sex with her friends.... I promise she will feel a need to have you back if you are any good and boom you get what you want
If you can't get with her friends the best revenge is just living a great fucking life. Someone said this and its true.
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The thing about girls, it doesn't matter how many you've had until you've had enough. If you're inexperienced with girls just keep trying, if you can't get the response that you were hoping for with a girl you need to move on. If she's friendzoned you then you'll probably not get out of there, you have to be tough on yourself and endure the personal discipline.
Hell, I'm not gonna lie, I've been through tons of shit with women, and I've gotten over some really shitty stuff in my life, you have to come to the point where you realize that you HAVE to move on, once you find a decent chick that will have the mutual feelings for you things will never be the same, hell you wont even care about that chick anymore.
Endure the personal discipline, endure the rejection, endure not giving up on yourself when depression hits, because the pain of regret that you get when you've realized you've shut yourself out from the rest of the world for too long is going to be harder than what you are probably experiencing now.
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Sounds like you built some fantasy world with her before even getting to know her.
Just move on this is going to happen a few more times in life she is not the 1st and wont be the last. She is not a "friend" she is way more than that and you see her in a different light just as she sees you in a different way "as a brother".
Go live your life and stop wasting time crying over a girl the last thing you want to do is a year from now look back and see how you wasted a week, month, year on someone.
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If you love her to this day and she's with someone else theres really no way to be close friends. I think you missed your shot by waiting over a months time to get close, then not kissing her when you had the chance. Shows lack of confidence to women if youre dilly dallying. Theyll just as easily move onto another guy if you dont make your moves. I understand the sentiment of other posters thinking you are gay, because at your age its really really odd to NOT want to kiss a girl when shes lying in your lap.
I've been in your situation before I just let it go and found someone else who ive been happily with for two years. And forget thinking she knows what she wants, hormones are most dominant girls at that age sway with the tide.
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Believe it or not, I was friends with some clam who I thought was my best friend. She had a small baby and one day I said something about her getting married to the baby's father and she shook her hand at me and said "He's NEVER gonna put a ring on this finger!"
Then eventually, we went from being friends to two idiots who would jest about being together.
Then she fucked some guy with a guitar and cheekbones and I got angry at her for it and she told me she felt bad and had no idea that I wanted her exclusively and other vaginal phrases that broads use to get out of trouble.
Then we stopped talking for a few months because I would ignore her because I'm emotionally immature.
Then once we started talking again, I had a girlfriend and at some point after getting back to normal, she said, and I QUOTE:
"Why won't you leave her for me?"
I don't know, whore. What would you be bringing me besides some other dude's kid?
That's what I wanted to say, but instead I laughed and made a cute face and she made one back and we stared at each other and I said something about her ringtone to change the subject.
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Bro tip, a site full of computer game nerds is perhaps not the best venue for taking advice on how to be successful with women. It makes sense to take advice from specialists.
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On June 03 2011 22:57 Ravencruiser wrote:
You don't hate girls, they hate you.
Pretty much this. If you've gotten dumped 11 times in the last 5 years you have either found the worst string of girls(less likely) or are doing something to drive them away(more likely). I assume that since you managed to get 11 girls to at least show some interest in you, you don't look like grimace from those 80's Mc.Donalds ads.
This last one was your fault, you should have asked her out at the party. Other than that, you are another awkward highschool kid exploring your sexuality. Just roll with the punches, realize it's not a big deal and it will mean so little in a couple years, and try to score some BJ's along the way.
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On June 04 2011 00:16 xarthaz wrote:
Bro tip, a site full of computer game nerds is perhaps not the best venue for taking advice on how to be successful with women. It makes sense to take advice from specialists.
Not everyone on here has problems getting with women :D
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On June 04 2011 01:38 grats wrote:Show nested quote +On June 04 2011 00:16 xarthaz wrote:
Bro tip, a site full of computer game nerds is perhaps not the best venue for taking advice on how to be successful with women. It makes sense to take advice from specialists. Not everyone on here has problems getting with women :D
Because:
a) Some people on the site are gay
and
b) Some people on the site are female
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At least you werent led on forever. If you want to know what that feels like im sure its worse because I met this girl we became best friends and we had a few things much like you did. But then she met my best friend who has been my bestfriend since pre school. She started dating him then a year later they broke up, but she met another guy and I have recently found out that they had sex multiple times. All this while I still had feelings for her. The worst part shes still trying to lead me on.
But at this point im fucking down with it because it sucks.
Just a little sympathy story hope it helps ^^
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Team Liquid: The Friend Zone.
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you are too clingy and need to learn how to play the game
the person who cares the least controls the relationship
(btw, girls get tired of clingy guys very fast and leave/cheat on them with guys who don't care)
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Bro, forget about the girl for a second and listen to me. Get some sleep, and talk with someone in real life about it. This shit is serious and you need help pronto. I believe you are suffering from hardcore depression and you might need professional help. Step to it man, TL will support you.
EDIT: Let me elaborate a bit. KoB has been through eleven girls (including the girl and her ex-best friend?) in five years. His vision of what's happening has become extremely negative. He's become possessive, angry, depressed and a stalker to boot. All this points to serious self-esteem issues and depression. Not something a 17 year old can typically deal with. So gogogo get help so you can become friends again and get a real girlfriend!
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I went through something sorta similar. Deleted her off of everything and never looked back. Saved me a lot of grief I'd say.
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LOL you drove her with her bf to his home? The only advice I can give you is that the next time this happens (hope it doesn't) is that you kick her bf's ass and show the girl a middle finger and forget that you ever knew her.
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Ok.
Great thanks to the people who were actually helpful, I do feel a lot better about it now that I've told SOMEONE, and talked about it. :D
This blog was more of a rant then anything, I wasn't really seeking like how to get her back or anything, and I'm not depressed over it anymore, just needed to blow some steam cause I was dwelling on it for a lil while last night.
I'm not unattractive, ignorant, gay, or anything really bad, what I am is extremely introverted, I hate talking to people I don't know except under extreme circumstances, such as HOLY SHIT HOT CHICK. I just have absolutely horrible luck with girls, most of them either met their current BF through me(Which really sucks btw), or were dating someone at the time and led me on. A couple just stopped naturally, like relationships do.
I suppose I technically am stalking her, but I don't consider it really bad stalking, I've only checked on her once since we split.
I'm well aware that my biggest issue is the nice guy syndrome, but that's pretty damn hard to break.
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On June 04 2011 00:16 xarthaz wrote:
Bro tip, a site full of computer game nerds is perhaps not the best venue for taking advice on how to be successful with women. It makes sense to take advice from specialists.
Just because you don't get pussy doesn't mean members on here do not.
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On June 04 2011 05:44 King of Blades wrote:
I wasn't really seeking like how to get her back or anything
It doesn't seem like you ever "had" her, unless you just mean as a friend. From what I can tell you were never up-front about your intentions with this girl and just assumed that, eventually, she would love you as long as you kept being BFFs with her and maybe dropping jokes about more serious things every now and then. A month in and you still hadn't kissed her or gone on an actual date (and you never mention if you do actually ever kiss her), and "later" you ask her to date you and she turns you down. This was never anything more than a friendship, and you should only be angry at yourself for presuming from the start that she would eventually love you and maybe have sex with you while remaining chaste prior, when all you had displayed was friendship. She shouldn't have to assume that every male friend of hers wants to bone her and that if she has sex with anyone it's a betrayal of those male friends.
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On June 04 2011 05:57 Severian wrote:Show nested quote +On June 04 2011 05:44 King of Blades wrote:
I wasn't really seeking like how to get her back or anything It doesn't seem like you ever "had" her, unless you just mean as a friend. From what I can tell you were never up-front about your intentions with this girl and just assumed that, eventually, she would love you as long as you kept being BFFs with her and maybe dropping jokes about more serious things every now and then. A month in and you still hadn't kissed her or gone on an actual date (and you never mention if you do actually ever kiss her), and "later" you ask her to date you and she turns you down. This was never anything more than a friendship, and you should only be angry at yourself for presuming from the start that she would eventually love you and maybe have sex with you while remaining chaste prior, when all you had displayed was friendship. She shouldn't have to assume that every male friend of hers wants to bone her and that if she has sex with anyone it's a betrayal of those male friends.
I wanted her as a gf at first, but gave up on that when she told me about him, and just wanted a friend. Never kissed her, and neither I nor her had any intentions of sex, that was one of the things we had in common, we're both staying virgins till marriage. For all the people who are gonna say she lied, i know that to be true, because she asked me what I thought about it and stated her beliefs before I ever said anything about sex or waiting.
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My my my, this is so highschool man. A few years from now youre gonna be like... damn that was such a highschool phase.
Needless to say same thing happened to me, it may take a year or two but youll get over it. It seriously takes time. But who knows maybe you guys well meet again, talk things over and be friends again. I hope so at least!
Btw i was reading people say you need professional help. No. You don't, lots of teenagers go through what you do and you'll basically grow out of being so sensitive and clingy and all that as long as you have the determination to better yourself, and at 17 I'm sure you have that.
News Flash: Girls who are down to suck dick at 16 years old are for damn sure not gonna stay virgins til marriage. Might as well break it down to you now lol
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On June 04 2011 06:12 adeezy wrote:
My my my, this is so highschool man. A few years from now youre gonna be like... damn that was such a highschool phase.
Needless to say same thing happened to me, it may take a year or two but youll get over it. It seriously takes time. But who knows maybe you guys well meet again, talk things over and be friends again. I hope so at least!
Btw i was reading people say you need professional help. No. You don't, lots of teenagers go through what you do and you'll basically grow out of being so sensitive and clingy and all that as long as you have the determination to better yourself, and at 17 I'm sure you have that.
News Flash: Girls who are down to suck dick at 16 years old are for damn sure not gonna stay virgins til marriage. Might as well break it down to you now lol
Thanks
And she will, she's one of those people that is uber determined and has very strong opinions but leaves loopholes, so only dick in vag counts as sex. She also HATES the idea of anal, so that leaves BJs.
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Get some self respect. Girls will control you if you let them.
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I wouldn't say it's a matter of getting better or trying to get better at handling these things or whatever. In my case it was rather gathering experience. Once you lose your best friend you're devastated and really, you should be - if you're not a sociopath. You have some time to consider what you said and she said, and however you feel about your actions... Then, after a year or two, you find another BFF and yes, you might lose them again, but you're ready for this option and this time it's different.
It's not that you don't care anymore. You're simply more experienced and you know what you wanna do and what you should never do or say if it comes to a crisis. Handling such breakups naturally becomes easier, it's not a matter of changing yourself, but rather knowing yourself better. Also, since you're handling this stuff better, it's easier to keep your friend at your side - since they don't see you freak out whenever something occurs.
Well either way good luck. I just didn't like the "be better" part of the above comment.
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On June 04 2011 06:05 King of Blades wrote:
that was one of the things we had in common, we're both staying virgins till marriage.
I was so confused about this blog until i read this.
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Girl wants to stay virgin, but sucking dick at 16...? ...........It's cute that you two want to stay virgins til marriage, but it seems like you're the only one sticking to this pact...
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On June 04 2011 06:28 King of Blades wrote:Show nested quote +On June 04 2011 06:12 adeezy wrote:
My my my, this is so highschool man. A few years from now youre gonna be like... damn that was such a highschool phase.
Needless to say same thing happened to me, it may take a year or two but youll get over it. It seriously takes time. But who knows maybe you guys well meet again, talk things over and be friends again. I hope so at least!
Btw i was reading people say you need professional help. No. You don't, lots of teenagers go through what you do and you'll basically grow out of being so sensitive and clingy and all that as long as you have the determination to better yourself, and at 17 I'm sure you have that.
News Flash: Girls who are down to suck dick at 16 years old are for damn sure not gonna stay virgins til marriage. Might as well break it down to you now lol Thanks And she will, she's one of those people that is uber determined and has very strong opinions but leaves loopholes, so only dick in vag counts as sex. She also HATES the idea of anal, so that leaves BJs.
Loopholes like 'I was drunk so it wasn't for realsies' ? Sorry, but don't be so naive. It's not called a loophole, it's called rationalizing your guilt/ego/whatever. People who rationalize a lot are very unreliable and shouldn't be taken at their word, no matter how determined they seem. People can grow out of rationalizing all the time, but it usually happens when they forfeit values they didn't really hold, such as abstinence in this case.
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ask yourself this:
were you friendly and awesome with her?
or were you masculine and cool with her?
only one of these leads to attraction
strange but true
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On June 04 2011 08:41 Chef wrote:Show nested quote +On June 04 2011 06:28 King of Blades wrote:On June 04 2011 06:12 adeezy wrote:
My my my, this is so highschool man. A few years from now youre gonna be like... damn that was such a highschool phase.
Needless to say same thing happened to me, it may take a year or two but youll get over it. It seriously takes time. But who knows maybe you guys well meet again, talk things over and be friends again. I hope so at least!
Btw i was reading people say you need professional help. No. You don't, lots of teenagers go through what you do and you'll basically grow out of being so sensitive and clingy and all that as long as you have the determination to better yourself, and at 17 I'm sure you have that.
News Flash: Girls who are down to suck dick at 16 years old are for damn sure not gonna stay virgins til marriage. Might as well break it down to you now lol Thanks And she will, she's one of those people that is uber determined and has very strong opinions but leaves loopholes, so only dick in vag counts as sex. She also HATES the idea of anal, so that leaves BJs. Loopholes like 'I was drunk so it wasn't for realsies' ? Sorry, but don't be so naive. It's not called a loophole, it's called rationalizing your guilt/ego/whatever. People who rationalize a lot are very unreliable and shouldn't be taken at their word, no matter how determined they seem. People can grow out of rationalizing all the time, but it usually happens when they forfeit values they didn't really hold, such as abstinence in this case.
This is so true and to the point. Please stop your naivety, its already gotten you so hopelessly depressed. It just isn't worth it. You'll realize eventually, those "words" and "loopholes" mean nothing.
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It's funny cause your name is king of blades... and y'know... The queen of blades is like a total bitch.
Read your blog. It sucks man. I've had too many experiences with that uneasiness between being extremely close fiends... me wanting to date: she-not. A few times the roles have been reversed. It sucks.
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yeahh.... Like the previous responses, I agree with the fact that theres a large possibility that she`s not gonna keep her end of the deal with the whole abstinence thing. The fact that she's "uber determined" to stay a virgin, but still goes down on a guy.... nuff said right there.
Mmm, depending on how long you've known her, you might have "fallen" for her a bit too fast and she freaked out? That, and this is just my opinion, over-protectiveness is definitely one of the things that pushes me away from a guy. Some girls absolutely love it though, don't get me wrong, but just as many do, many also don't (me being one of them). One of my past uhh..... better than friend relationships (i guess you could say since we never really "went out") was uber jealous >.> it pissed me off. It's like he owned me or something, using legit vocabulary such "I forbid you to see him". It got to the point where he "forbade" me to even play mmo's and 1v1's with my guy friends.
Overall, you're only like 17 eh? So chiiillll~~~, this is probs just one out of many bumps you'll have later on in the future. And like come on, dating 11 girls within the time period where your 13 to 17, you can't expect that much from girls anyways at a jr. high level. The maturity level just isn't there yet to make a long term commitment (in most cases).
Not sleeping and crying just makes you worse, and solves nothing. So if you think about it from a logical mindset, you really only have 2 options which is
1. ya got trying to talk to her and get her back as a friend,
or
2, simply get over this drama you're having and creating unnecessary havoc for yourself
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On June 04 2011 06:28 King of Blades wrote:Show nested quote +On June 04 2011 06:12 adeezy wrote:
My my my, this is so highschool man. A few years from now youre gonna be like... damn that was such a highschool phase.
Needless to say same thing happened to me, it may take a year or two but youll get over it. It seriously takes time. But who knows maybe you guys well meet again, talk things over and be friends again. I hope so at least!
Btw i was reading people say you need professional help. No. You don't, lots of teenagers go through what you do and you'll basically grow out of being so sensitive and clingy and all that as long as you have the determination to better yourself, and at 17 I'm sure you have that.
News Flash: Girls who are down to suck dick at 16 years old are for damn sure not gonna stay virgins til marriage. Might as well break it down to you now lol Thanks And she will, she's one of those people that is uber determined and has very strong opinions but leaves loopholes, so only dick in vag counts as sex. She also HATES the idea of anal, so that leaves BJs.
Till she gets drunk, or gets carried away.
You really need to stop with this, OMG I KNOW HER SO WELL SHES TOTALLY LIKE THIS BLEH BLEH.
etc. Like, you need to do what the rest of the thread said just tell that bitch you fucking hate her for using you as her problem piss mat, and stop even thinking about her.
If she hates you then theres no reason to be all moapy and and sad.
Its just stupid
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i like to keep girls that are my friends at a comfortable distance, girls and guys just arent meant to be just friends. true story, it's in our genes to want more than that.
it seems like you sort of freaked her out, since all she wanted was a friend, not the creepy definition of best friend you had. txting all the time while awake, knowing everything she's doing, talking to her about ALL her problems. honestly this would freak most people out, especially a 16 year old girl (she's basically a baby don't kid yourself) who was JUST your friend. i suggest re-examining your personal beliefs about friendship and taking a hard look at yourself and changing some of over obsessive traits of your personality.
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here's how u get a gf and not a best friend
ask her out
you didn't do that
now you're hurt. sorry bro but it's life. if she says no then stop interacting with her. it felt like you were hanging on to this string of hope even though it was non-existant. if you want a girl thats a friend then that's fine. i think that's very possible. just make sure you don't like her. if you like her ask her out. simple bro, sorry you had to go through that but experience is good right? hang in there
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I suggest becoming a man by growing a beard. Facical hair is a secondary sex organ. It's a fact. girls will want you.
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I apologize if what I say have already been said, but yeah.
This almost always happens in friendship between a man and a woman. It's sad but true kinda. It's hard to keep a close and "best friendish" relationship cause someone always end up getting feelings for the other one. Since one of the other usually end up like the shoulder to cry on. Like "He wasn't good enough for you" and then you kinda think "but I'm good enugh for you and i know you better than anyon, we should date blablabla".
Else I usually become a problem when one of you (or both) getting in a relationship which often can cause jealousy from the new partner like "You spending all time talking to her/him blablabla".
Excuse me if this makes no sense, but you'll get over it. Not all women are like this. You just need to find the right one who likes you for who you are.
I know how you feel, wanting to have your best friend back. I got out from a 2.5 year relationship pretty recently, and I miss him, and it hurts me how i could hurt him. Because he was my best friend which is the part I always gonna miss.
Hope you feel better soon dude, you seems like good dude, you deserve finding a nice girl.
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dude get over this girl, she liked you because you adored her. a lot of girls are into that shit. trying to be friends with her again is not going to be good for you.
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On June 03 2011 21:59 DongWang wrote:
Serious question/suggestion not a troll at all.
Are you gay?
My older brother went through the exact same thing.., In fact, nearly an identical situation. Two years later, turns out he's gay.
I find it strange that your best friend is not only a girl, but you get so upset over losing 'your best' friend. Tbh , she sounds like a cunt. Ignoring you for weeks, being a whore, etc.
You deserve better, much better from what I'm reading.
EDIT: I was in similar situation, where I was good friends with this babe at high school, it got to the point where I could have banged her (now that I look back) (wow she was all over me at the after-ball) but I was to much of a noob at the to pick up the vibes. After that incident I gtfo cause the friend zone (I assumed I was in the friend zone at the time) isn't cool.
LOL, the FUCK is this guy talking about?
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I fucking love blogs. I also fucking love sc2. This site is amazing. Dear KingofBlades, people who have stable relationships at younger ages are impressively mature. From my limited personal experience girls in highschool are a fucking nightmare as a few have stated. If you're infester suddenly had unlimited energy and could MC multiple targets to accomplish YOUR goals, you'd use it wouldn't you? Thats the dangerous effect of mixing T and A with highschool wood. Mixing friendship and romance is also really dangerous for obvious reasons. Every situation is different, just be sure in your heart of what you want and when you're positive fucking go for it. SPREAD THAT CHEESE ON THICKKKKKK! Either way gl hf, but seriously, if she doesn't want to talk to you, don't "check" in on her. I know the situation sucks but that shit isn't healthy for you or her.
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You can't be arsed getting her as a friend (she put you on the backburner, right?). Just like you can't be arsed being depressed about it. Just like you can't be arsed reminiscing about the lost opportunities as well as those you didn't take.
Screw all, be a jerk (or at least channel your inner jerk to help you through - jerk is not evil, you know?), move on to the next one. Oh, when you find someone, just go with the "Date or Bust" mentality; you won't be too attached to them that way. Ex-interest to next interest (or ex to next gf). I'm not telling you to act bashful towards her or yourself, just to clear all the "hopes" you put in her.
Now if you're looking for girl friends (not girlfriends), then okay, go into their friend zone and stay there. No further expectations.
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@Meeran: I miss you too sometimes.
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I hope i love cats is working on his post...
dood ur 18. its always the right time to kiss a girl.
everything you have ever encountered will count for less than 20% of things you care about in about 4 years.
chill out man.
is her friend hot?
are you doing her now?
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This girl will get pounded worse than Dresden before she gets married, guaranteed. Hell, Im sure she is begging right now for a one way ticket to Poundtown.
You need to grow a pair and stop crying like a bitch son.
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On June 03 2011 19:22 King of Blades wrote:
I acted all like it wasn't going to hurt me badly on the phone, but I cried for hours, and was severely depressed "until a couple weeks ago".
It's the first time I ever got broken up with, all the others kinda fizzled out and never went anywhere, this one was murdered suddenly and it hurt like hell.
I still kinda keep an eye on her, she removed me on facebook, but she didn't remove my best friend and i have access to his account, unknown to the both of them <.<
I'm very protective of her to this day, if anyone were to hurt her in any way that matters, I would kill them, no doubt in my mind.
Don't know why i posted this, don't really need advice, unless you know how to magically get my friend back, I don't even care about dating anymore, there's no room in my heart for her anymore.
:'(
I deleted what wasn't important to my post, and am showing you how I read this blog from a criminal justice major standpoint. I think the bolding, quotation marks, and italics speak for themselves. No need for my input.
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United States10774 Posts
This is like the most hopeless cause of the friend zone I have ever heard of. And this has happened with 11 other girls who led you on but nothing happened? (They probably treated you as a friend, too).
Use this as a learning experience. Stiffen your spine, grab your balls and go back out when you are ready to be something other than an emotional tampon!
EDIT: In other words, who the fuck cares about your girl "best friend" that used you to comfort her while she was breaking up with her boyfriend and yet still sucking him off? She sounds like an immature middle schooler (oh wait, she is) who has no idea what she wants. Clearly you are not that important to her if she's willing to all of sudden tell you that you guys are "done" being friends. Doesn't it seem unfair to you that you care about her so much, even more than as friends, when it's evident she doesn't give a shit about you? I am being really blunt here but seriously, forget it, move on, find some true bros, and a better girl.
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I want to give you a great big hug. You really deserve it.
Reading your post reminded me a lot of my last relationship. However, this happened over the span of like, four months. (I can't get a job at a few places in town because of him.)
He wouldn't hang out with me. Apparently he was too busy, hung out with his ex instead.
Sorry you were the rebound. <3
Girls like having attention. This girl sounds a bit like an attention whore. Most girls are. It gets ridiculous. Read your facebook news feed and tell me this isn't the case.
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On June 28 2011 05:22 OneOther wrote:
This is like the most hopeless cause of the friend zone I have ever heard of. And this has happened with 11 other girls who led you on but nothing happened? (They probably treated you as a friend, too).
Use this as a learning experience. Stiffen your spine, grab your balls and go back out when you are ready to be something other than an emotional tampon!
EDIT: In other words, who the fuck cares about your girl "best friend" that used you to comfort her while she was breaking up with her boyfriend and yet still sucking him off? She sounds like an immature middle schooler (oh wait, she is) who has no idea what she wants. Clearly you are not that important to her if she's willing to all of sudden tell you that you guys are "done" being friends. Doesn't it seem unfair to you that you care about her so much, even more than as friends, when it's evident she doesn't give a shit about you? I am being really blunt here but seriously, forget it, move on, find some true bros, and a better girl.
Word dude, bro´s before ho´s
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Kentor
United States5784 Posts
11 girls and you still haven't learned? Only took me 1 to learn. lol
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Old post, but meh...
On June 03 2011 19:22 King of Blades wrote:
I'm 17 about to turn 18, she was 15, now 16.
Too young. Strike One.
First off, I am an emotional person naturally, though I've been extremely hardened over the years, due to a MASSIVE string of being hurt and lead on by about 11 girls in a row over the course of 5 years or so, each one going further before dropping me.
11 girls since the age of 12?! Too many for that age. Strike Two.
I asked her if she would date me, she replied with a no, and dodged questions as to why, stating reasons like you're like a brother, and it could ruin our friendship. Though this started some other things, which led to getting I love yous from her, which, from her, was huge.
About 3 months in,
Too much time passed. Strike Three.
When I was in high school I had a best friend who was a girl. I was in love with her, she knew it, and she used it to take all kinds of advantage of me. You're going to look back on this years from now and think "Wow! I was an IDIOT!", but it's the hard lessons like this that prevent us making those big mistakes ever again. I hope you learned something!
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You would kill a dude for some hurt feelings? how laughable.
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That sucks bro, but I suggest you just move on and get over her. You're not gonna get her back, and trying to will make you look pathetic. So just hold your head high and forget her. Don't be a doormat. Stick up for yourself. I can understand your situation, but there's nothing to get here.
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That seriously sucks dude, But i think the moment you heard she was saving her emotions for someone you probably should have put her on the backburner as an acquaintance barely a friend and moved on. I disagree with fighting for a girl when she doesnt want to be won by you.
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If you treat girls as something very different/special/mystical beings instead of just regular people similar to you they will crush you (intentionally or not).
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Well I'm unsure how well the best friend thing would go if you ended up getting back into contact. Sounds like you guys went through a messy ending so it's often really hard. I've broken up with a girl once and I found that going back to being friends was a lot harder than I thought it would be. Despite saying we'd only be friends, I'd still want her back and I would feel quite neglected because she woudl spend less time with me. If I were you, I'd forget about her for a while. If she comes back to you, and you're ready for her then I guess things will work out but don't force anything.
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play some SC2 then read some novels.
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she sounds like a dick.
honestly. that's all i have to say.
EDIT: I'll elaborate lol. Despite how great of friends she may have been to you, anyone who shoves their relationship into your face when they know you have strong feelings for them is just simply being an asshole. There's a difference between unintentionally or pseudo-harmlessly talking/referencing a relationship to you and shoving it into your face. This sounds like the latter and that's a dick move. Unless I'm terribly wrong, seriously reconsider whether she really was such a great friend or not.
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Agree with Ryuu. I was in a similar but different situation. My friend though was very reluctant to even mention her relationship and would not try to directly talk about it when it was a fresh wound for me. Now though I give her advice on it and she comes to me for it on the relationship and we can talk about it, though I still think it makes her feel mildly weird to talk about it with me (or could just be her more private personality.
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I figured I would summarize the situation as a card game. The cards will be color-coded to match the color of the players. This will enunciate how badly you handled this situation and why you will never have more success with women if you maintain this mentality. Let's play...
THE SEDUCTION GAME!
Player 1 enters the game under the alias 'King of Blades', by which he shall be referred to henceforth.
--- Player Stats
- Emotional person
- 0/11 (0%) BvG (Boy vs. Girl) win rate
- Career length: 5 years.
Player 2 enters the game under the alias 'Girl', by which she shall be referred to henceforth.
--- Player Stats
- Younger player
- 1/1 (100%) BvG win rate
- Career length: ~1 year (estimated)
Cards have been dealt
'King of Blades' plays a card:
'Girl' plays a card:
The last card 'Girl' played allows her to successfully play another card! This is due to fact that 'Girl' is now in control of the situation, as a result of a lack of initiative by 'King of Blades'.
'Girl' plays a card:
'King of Blades' plays a card:
'Girl' plays a card:
'King of Blades' plays a card:
'Girl' plays a card:
![[image loading]](http://www.constructacard.com/images/created_cards/1096/magic/4839a802729bdf6913e9012f743e34eefb485ec0.jpg) The game is over!'Girl' wins the game! 'King of Blades' loses! 'King of Blades' receives the following statuses as a result of the game:![[image loading]](http://www.constructacard.com/images/created_cards/1096/magic/3198dea2da5a0b035b385fcab41e6fe57cbb74a5.jpg) ![[image loading]](http://www.constructacard.com/images/created_cards/1096/magic/a8bc3aa5936057ce5dc8577e123a078c3ded1355.)
TL;DR
1. You got infatuated with a girl.
2. She liked having you as a friend.
3. Your infatuation made the friendship awkward.
4. Your inability to cope with the fact that she was messing around with her ex-boyfriend, despite you being JUST A FRIEND, has ruined the friendship.
5. Now she wants nothing to do with you, because you clearly lack social tact and control.
6. You make this out to be her fault, instead of thinking about it from her perspective.
I hope that you learned something from this experience, and that the next time you get close to a girl, you don't let your infatuation ruin the relationship and cloud your judgment. Not every girl who talks to you often and hangs out with you wants to be your girlfriend. NO girl is obligated to be 'faithful' to you if you are not even going out. What if she was just being friendly to you, and you took it as interest? I think most of the evidence points towards this: her appreciating you like a brother/twin, her continued relationship with her boyfriend (which was none of your business, btw), her saying no to dating you... What you may confuse as you being an 'emotional' person is your issue with attachment, in my limited opinion.
Regardless, I wish you all the best in the future. FIGHTING!!!
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You may love kittens, but I love your posts.
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You call those problems? I wish that was all I had to deal with.
None of anything I read seemed like a relationship in any way, shape or form. None of this shit matters. YOU'RE IN HIGH SCHOOL - NONE OF IT MATTERS!
Learn a thing or two about not being a pussy either. Sure, it's fine to not do anything on a first meeting or whatever, but by the second time - you better have at least had a heavy kiss or two. The other guy did, because he wasn't a pussy, and he got his dick sucked for it.
Chalk it up to a learning experience and gtfo of her life. Having her out of your life will do you good, and it will open you up to opportunities with less evil girls, hopefully.
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Netherlands45349 Posts
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Everything is so clear now that it's in Magic Card form.'
King of Blades, don't worry bro this type of girl trouble is as common as it gets, and plenty of guys have come out of it stronger and wiser. Also, the timing is great for you because college is coming up soon, and everyone knows that's the real deal. High school is just the shitty practice round.
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forget that bitch she was hanging out w/ you because she needed your attention
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You got friendzoned. Get over it.
Why do you even care about friendship WITH A GIRL? Come on, bro.
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LOL I felt so tempted to post some memes after ilovekitten's post (she put you in the friend zone, you put her in the rap... nvm I don't want to get banned), but then I remembered I already posted a couple pages ago so I'll reiterate.
You don't hate girls, girls hate you
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On June 28 2011 05:44 Lanaia wrote:
Girls like having attention. This girl sounds a bit like an attention whore. Most girls are. It gets ridiculous. Read your facebook news feed and tell me this isn't the case.
Orrr..... she considered the guy she'd been hanging out with for months who never made a move... as just a friend?
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ILK, you're going to run out of material. Your posts are beginning to get themed.
Enjoyed reading nevertheless :D
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For a start, what she did with him is none of your business, she doesn't belong to you in any way.. She wanted you as a friend, and you wanted your balls where his were..
If anything you lead her on by making her believe she has a friend, when all she has is an immature teenager with his balls in his hands..
Shes not your's and by the looks of it you've blown any chance that she ever will be by allowing yourself to get friendzoned.. Eat a cup of concrete, and harden the f@!# up!
\_/<-- sympathy cup is empty
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+ Show Spoiler +On July 06 2011 02:54 ILOVEKITTENS wrote:I figured I would summarize the situation as a card game. The cards will be color-coded to match the color of the players. This will enunciate how badly you handled this situation and why you will never have more success with women if you maintain this mentality. Let's play... THE SEDUCTION GAME! Player 1 enters the game under the alias 'King of Blades', by which he shall be referred to henceforth. --- Player Stats- Emotional person
- 0/11 (0%) BvG (Boy vs. Girl) win rate
- Career length: 5 years.
Player 2 enters the game under the alias 'Girl', by which she shall be referred to henceforth. --- Player Stats- Younger player
- 1/1 (100%) BvG win rate
- Career length: ~1 year (estimated)
Cards have been dealt'King of Blades' plays a card: 'Girl' plays a card: The last card 'Girl' played allows her to successfully play another card! This is due to fact that 'Girl' is now in control of the situation, as a result of a lack of initiative by 'King of Blades'. 'Girl' plays a card: 'King of Blades' plays a card: 'Girl' plays a card: 'King of Blades' plays a card: 'Girl' plays a card: The game is over!'Girl' wins the game! 'King of Blades' loses! 'King of Blades' receives the following statuses as a result of the game: TL;DR1. You got infatuated with a girl. 2. She liked having you as a friend. 3. Your infatuation made the friendship awkward. 4. Your inability to cope with the fact that she was messing around with her ex-boyfriend, despite you being JUST A FRIEND, has ruined the friendship. 5. Now she wants nothing to do with you, because you clearly lack social tact and control. 6. You make this out to be her fault, instead of thinking about it from her perspective. I hope that you learned something from this experience, and that the next time you get close to a girl, you don't let your infatuation ruin the relationship and cloud your judgment. Not every girl who talks to you often and hangs out with you wants to be your girlfriend. NO girl is obligated to be 'faithful' to you if you are not even going out. What if she was just being friendly to you, and you took it as interest? I think most of the evidence points towards this: her appreciating you like a brother/twin, her continued relationship with her boyfriend (which was none of your business, btw), her saying no to dating you... What you may confuse as you being an 'emotional' person is your issue with attachment, in my limited opinion. Regardless, I wish you all the best in the future. FIGHTING!!!
Wow. I love you. I'm glad i skipped to page 6
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