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Hi TL, this is my first time doing a girl blog so bare with me please! 
I'm a 19 year old male with not that much experience with the ladies. I have trouble with thinking of things to say, and getting the guts to talk to them. Now onto the story.
So I was checking into my local gym today like usual, and I was wearing my Half-Life 2 lambda shirt. The girl at the counter complimented my shirt and I thanked her and walked off to the locker room. I was instantly startled that she recognized my shirt, since I dont know any girl gamers in real life. She was not a bad looking girl either, she had to be around 18-20 years old, white, curvy figure but by no means fat, almost the perfect girl in my eyes. Anyway so after my workout im dedicated to talking to her again, and notice she is working the smoothie bar now. I end up ordering a $5 smoothie to talk to her some more, we start talking about valve games and how she recently got started gaming again since playing her n64 as a kid. The whole time we were talking she was slightly fidgeting and playing with a spoon, while kind of looking down, is this a good thing? After our conversation I said see you soon and left. Didn't get a name or a number. 
Now the thing is, I go to this gym everyday and im bound to see her again, what should I do to make this work? I can get overly shy, and overly excited about these kind of things and build it up a bit in my head. We talked a bit about Portal and stuff so I was thinking about wearing my Portal 2 shirt to strike up another conversation. How can I make this work TL, I NEED YOUR HELP!
Thanks in advance,
Artemis
Update 6/5: Saw her again this morning, said hi on my way in she commented on my portal 2 shirt again, I only said thanks as I walked away . After I got a smoothie from here again, and only said hi, my order, and thank you, then walked out. God damn it. I also noticed her looking at me from the reception desk as I was working out (is that good?). Next time I HAVE to talk to her more, get her name, AND ask her out for coffee or w/e.
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Just go up and talk to her. Nothing fancy. Don't read too much into everything. If you have a plan for a date, and just talk to her you may get shy trying to ask her out, but you will have no option but to ask her. Good luck 
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On June 03 2011 14:25 obesechicken13 wrote:Just go up and talk to her. Nothing fancy. Don't read too much into everything. If you have a plan for a date, and just talk to her you may get shy trying to ask her out, but you will have no option but to ask her. Good luck
Isnt that kind of creepy on my part though? We've only met once and im going to ask her out, what if she gets scared away? How long should I wait before asking her?
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I'm not desperate? Can I help?
Sorry this is serious.
I don't really see the problem. You talked, have stuff in common, will meet again. You don't need to find some random reason to talk again, just walk up and say hi.
Oh and for F*CKS sake do NOT and I mean DO NOT, try to talk after your session unless you have had a major shower and deo. You may think you look good all sweaty and what not (I know it's illogical but it happens) but you don't. You stink...
All in all you seem to have an easy way to start a conversation, and she seems interested in you. I would suggest, popping in saying hi and asking if she is free after work sometime?
Good luck!
Edit: On June 03 2011 14:27 Artemis wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 14:25 obesechicken13 wrote:Just go up and talk to her. Nothing fancy. Don't read too much into everything. If you have a plan for a date, and just talk to her you may get shy trying to ask her out, but you will have no option but to ask her. Good luck Isnt that kind of creepy on my part though? We've only met once and im going to ask her out, what if she gets scared away? How long should I wait before asking her?
If you are worried about this. Take your time. Have a few random conversations, get to know each other first. At least at the gym you both have an excuse for short conversations.
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The whole time we were talking she was slightly fidgeting and playing with a spoon, while kind of looking down, is this a good thing?
I'm not one to pick up on these things, so I tend to pass it off as something not to consider valid. Of course, I'm very likely wrong and any romantic will say that she's shy around you, yet has a slight interest in you (but somehow, she has the courage to compliment you on your shit without any formal initiative on your part).
Here's what you do, there's two ways to do this: 1. Wear your Portal 2 shirt, strike up a conversation about it and feign ignorance. Claim you've yet to do the co-op portion of the game, she'll respond in two ways: 1. She will just generally beg you to do it because it's pure fun or 2. Volunteer to play with you and that will be your ticket (phone number to text so you can tell her when you're "available" to play, name, and obviously whatever gamer info. needed to play).
If you're feeling confident: Claim the same thing, but say that you haven't played the co-op portion of it because you have no one to play with. If she doesn't take the bait, then you'll have to be less subtle and outright straight-forward.
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On June 03 2011 14:27 Artemis wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 14:25 obesechicken13 wrote:Just go up and talk to her. Nothing fancy. Don't read too much into everything. If you have a plan for a date, and just talk to her you may get shy trying to ask her out, but you will have no option but to ask her. Good luck Isnt that kind of creepy on my part though? We've only met once and im going to ask her out, what if she gets scared away? How long should I wait before asking her?
Not really creepy...unless you make it creepy, haha. Just find out when she gets off work, see if she wants to hang out or do something.
Or, since you guys talked about valve games - here's a good icebreaker... ask her if she's got Portal 2, and if she does, ask if she has done the co-op stuff yet.
Yes: Portal 2 discussion
No: Play the co-op with her.
Trust me, the more you think about it, the more crazy it's going to feel, and the worse off you'll end up being. Just take it one step at a time, you're not disarming a bomb.
You got this, man. :D
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Hey fuck off Torte that was MY GOOD IDEA
For stealing my idea, I am quoting this typo of yours.
On June 03 2011 14:28 Torte de Lini wrote:
(but somehow, she has the courage to compliment you on your shit without any formal initiative on your part).
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Ok thanks guys, going to try out some of these tips if shes there tomorrow morning. Also I have a bad habit of getting into the friend zone, and im worried that if I ask her to play the portal 2 co-op it will be more of a friend zone thing then a relationship.
Also I cant tell if she was just being nice by saying nice shirt or if she was really interested in me, will it make a difference if I try to continue talking to her, or will she just try to pass me off as another guy trying to hook up with her?
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On June 03 2011 14:34 Artemis wrote:
Ok thanks guys, going to try out some of these tips if shes there tomorrow morning. Also I have a bad habit of getting into the friend zone, and im worried that if I ask her to play the portal 2 co-op it will be more of a friend zone thing then a relationship.
How about you let her do the deciding then?
Just see if she wants to hang out. Find out what she likes? Go from there. You're better off flying blind then trying to plan some elaborate scheme. Someday you will have to stop scheming and that is hard! You sound like a nice guy, try to relax and realise that in ten years you will either laugh at yourself or be so thankful you took the plunge.
Edit:Dodgy Ass Spelling
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On June 03 2011 14:31 Torenhire wrote:Hey fuck off Torte that was MY GOOD IDEA For stealing my idea, I am quoting this typo of yours. Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 14:28 Torte de Lini wrote:
(but somehow, she has the courage to compliment you on your shit without any formal initiative on your part).
Hm....
1. Get in line, I ninja a lot unfortunately.
2. Hey, wanna co-op on Portal 2? I just got the game and feel compelled to flex my mental capacity after coming out of the gym; a showcase of my need to improve my flex of my physical capacity.
3. I'm reporting you for double-posting like a noob.
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On June 03 2011 14:34 Artemis wrote:
Ok thanks guys, going to try out some of these tips if shes there tomorrow morning. Also I have a bad habit of getting into the friend zone, and im worried that if I ask her to play the portal 2 co-op it will be more of a friend zone thing then a relationship.
Also I cant tell if she was just being nice by saying nice shirt or if she was really interested in me, will it make a difference if I try to continue talking to her, or will she just try to pass me off as another guy trying to hook up with her?
Well... you did wear the Half-Life 2 shirt, it's kind of expected.
What kind of woman wouldn't swoon seeing that?
Fuck myself, I double-posted. Disregard above Torenhire.
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We shall call it a draw, then.
o_q hoyes, hoyes.
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On June 03 2011 14:39 Torenhire wrote:
We shall call it a draw, then.
o_q hoyes, hoyes.
Hm... deal.
I really want your icon though ):
Good luck dude, you don't really need it. You already have something other guys don't: video-games and the need to emphasize your physical capabilities.
Hm...
you might need a third skill actually.
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On June 03 2011 14:40 Torte de Lini wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 14:39 Torenhire wrote:
We shall call it a draw, then.
o_q hoyes, hoyes. Hm... deal. I really want your icon though ):
No grudge match?
I thought that was how all disputes were ended in this community.
No peace and love, just blood on the battlefield and shame on the forum.
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Thanks guys really appreciate all the help! I'll try to update this tomorrow, or whenever I talk to her next on what happens.
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On June 03 2011 14:40 Torte de Lini wrote:
Good luck dude, you don't really need it. You already have something other guys don't: video-games and the need to emphasize your physical capabilities.
Hm...
you might need a third skill actually.
A tendency to over-analyse?
Pretty common skill among intelligent single men, but still combined with the previous two make come in handy.
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On June 03 2011 14:42 Probulous wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 14:40 Torte de Lini wrote:On June 03 2011 14:39 Torenhire wrote:
We shall call it a draw, then.
o_q hoyes, hoyes. Hm... deal. I really want your icon though ): No grudge match? I thought that was how all disputes were ended in this community. No peace and love, just blood on the battlefield and shame on the forum.
I dodge more than Donald Trump.
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On June 03 2011 14:43 Artemis wrote:
Thanks guys really appreciate all the help! I'll try to update this tomorrow, or whenever I talk to her next on what happens.
I hope you do, and... good luck!
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On June 03 2011 14:44 Probulous wrote:Show nested quote +On June 03 2011 14:40 Torte de Lini wrote:
Good luck dude, you don't really need it. You already have something other guys don't: video-games and the need to emphasize your physical capabilities.
Hm...
you might need a third skill actually. A tendency to over-analyse? Pretty common skill among intelligent single men, but still combined with the previous two make come in handy.
Wit, charm, great smile. Any effect that creates a halo-effect. I mean, he works out and plays video-games, so two traits that she'll come to assume has the same general taste in music and the same educational background (college level about). So intelligence and taste in music are in check.
With wit, charm or great smile, he can stretch the idea of being a sensitive person with particular writing skills.
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Slowly work up... become better friends as time goes on
Thats all I can give you, I'm afraid
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