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I'm getting too angry when I lose
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Whiplash
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Chill
Calgary25981 Posts
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Mazer
Canada1086 Posts
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Eirin
Norway12 Posts
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kOre
Canada3642 Posts
On January 28 2011 06:59 Mazer wrote: Not worth playing a game if you're not having fun. I've taken a week break from the game since I was hardly enjoying it anymore and don't miss it much. Playing some other games in the meantime. Yeah if you're taking the game to seriously just take a week long break or something and then return for the fun of the game. Or you can just play UMS games for a while? | ||
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hellbound
United Kingdom2242 Posts
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-orb-
United States5770 Posts
... I got nothin | ||
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Deleted User 3420
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it's ok to feel frustrated but just chill out, lol why does it matter so much? just try again | ||
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Tabbris
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Navane
Netherlands2748 Posts
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TelecoM
United States10674 Posts
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Tenox
Sweden128 Posts
I'd say some physical exercise like eirin semi-suggested can work, but personally I just want to get some wins and get my good mood back. Stopping to play when you're really rage loosing/tilting just makes your whole mood really sour for atleast a half-day. | ||
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NearPerfection
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-orb-
United States5770 Posts
On January 28 2011 07:11 GGzerG wrote: take a break and smoke a joint, the only way I can play this game without raging is with weed. lol but thats actually a horrible idea because then when you are out of weed you won't want to play... ( like me)... ::face palm:: this is pretty much how I don't end up killing myself or others or breaking stuff makes me worse at the game tho  | ||
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niteReloaded
Croatia5281 Posts
On January 28 2011 06:59 Chill wrote: Why do you get angry? these type of stuff often doesn't make sense in the conscious mind, but the subconscious is perfectly acquainted with it. | ||
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Dgtl
Canada889 Posts
On January 28 2011 06:59 Chill wrote: Why do you get angry? Probably because he is not chill enough. | ||
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-Frog-
United States514 Posts
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Gummy
United States2180 Posts
On January 28 2011 07:05 -orb- wrote: What you should do is... ... I got nothin Ahahahahahahahaha. You get so angry when you lose! :D But seriously, as everybody is saying, you should just relax and  Chill. | ||
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Tenox
Sweden128 Posts
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Turo
Canada333 Posts
On January 28 2011 06:59 Chill wrote: Why do you get angry? Because he lost? To OP when you're getting too pissed, do ten pushups fast. Helps me when i get mad! | ||
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CanucksJC
Canada1241 Posts
I find playing pick up games from chat channels or from practice partners much more relaxing | ||
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Foreplay
United States1154 Posts
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Whiplash
United States2928 Posts
I know when I lose on ladder its my fault, I never blame my opponents, even if I say stuff like EMP is imba and stuff I still know in the end i could have done something to prevent the loss. Chill, saying just chill doesn't really mean anything to me, maybe if you go more in depth I can better understand the point your trying to get across. | ||
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ThePurist
Canada686 Posts
I think you are too involved in the game and let your emotions interfere your play man. Just don't take it too seriously and play to enjoy. If you get all-in'ed or lose just walk/laugh it off. Raging is highly unnecessary. GL | ||
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Gummy
United States2180 Posts
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Psyonic_Reaver
United States4336 Posts
I know you're a competitive player and all players have trouble with this in all sports. Find a hobby. It can be taking walks, hiking, gym, playing OSU (Like K-Rice), DDR, whatever can help you relax. Find a hobby to pour out your frustration in or spend time on to help you cool down. Take breaks. I know you practice/play alot. But don't just take a break and stay connected to SC2, close it, and go do something else. Do this after you play 5 games, win or lose. Just take a 5 - 10min. break. Come back and start again. If you find the anger building up, ask to pause. Most people will tolerate a 5min. pause, use this time to collect yourself. Remind yourself that you are a good person and that you really don't want to say anything harmful. If you can't pause, just walk away. Close the game. It's 1 loss. It's not world ending and even though that hurts, it doesn't hurt as much as damaging your own psych and character over a video game. Hope that helps! | ||
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s.a.y
Croatia3840 Posts
if they say gg instead of me, i say douche and leave. | ||
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niteReloaded
Croatia5281 Posts
As I type this, in another browser tab I'm uploading a recording that should have a pretty good shot of resolving this issue for you. And in a way that'll probly positively surprise even you once you're done with it. It's a recording of a Zpoint session, you can take a look what it's about here: www.zpointforpeace.com The creator of it has successfully treated shit as serious as war- and rape-caused PTSD, while people also use it for anxiety of public speaking etc, so a bit of nerd rage should be fine. A while ago, TL user Racenilatr made a similar thread, and I uploaded the same thing for him, and he said to me that it has helped him immensely, so if it helps you too, then I'll probly make an official thread here on TL to help more people with various things that bother them. The upload should be done in about 25 minutes, so I'll go take a shower and post the link then, cya~ EDIT: Here's the link, 4 mp3s in a RAR, 43MBs: http://www.sendspace.com/file/ugxbq3 If you or anyone else has questions, feel free to ask either here or in PM, I know a thing or two about this. | ||
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Zim23
United States1681 Posts
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
Personally, SC isn't rewarding enough for the amount of effort put into it. If you play for years and practice so much and STILL lose, just something about that urks me. If you keep playing against people your level, you will always be 50/50 win/loss. As far as I can tell, the more effort you put in, the more benefits and rewards you should get. I just don't feel those benefits and rewards with competitive sc, which is why I stopped trying to take it semi-seriously. | ||
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Chill
Calgary25981 Posts
On January 28 2011 07:35 Whiplash wrote: I generally just rage on ladder. In custom games with allies unless something really stupid happens I won't get angry, and if I do its not really that bad. I rage when I lose to something that isnt a good standard game generally. I know when I lose on ladder its my fault, I never blame my opponents, even if I say stuff like EMP is imba and stuff I still know in the end i could have done something to prevent the loss. Chill, saying just chill doesn't really mean anything to me, maybe if you go more in depth I can better understand the point your trying to get across. It was a real question. Are you upset by your opponent's choices or questions of abuse or "fairness", are you upset at the game for not being fair, are you upset at luck, are you upset at yourself for not executing, are you upset that you've spent so much time but are still losing, are you angry at the time you'll have to spend reclaiming lost points? Lots of reasons to be upset for losing. | ||
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TheWarbler
United States1659 Posts
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masterbreti
Korea (South)2711 Posts
On January 28 2011 07:35 Whiplash wrote: I generally just rage on ladder. In custom games with allies unless something really stupid happens I won't get angry, and if I do its not really that bad. I rage when I lose to something that isnt a good standard game generally. I know when I lose on ladder its my fault, I never blame my opponents, even if I say stuff like EMP is imba and stuff I still know in the end i could have done something to prevent the loss. Chill, saying just chill doesn't really mean anything to me, maybe if you go more in depth I can better understand the point your trying to get across. ok so i am the exact same way as you were describing. i would get pretty pissed when losing and not even emjoying your wins. to be honest it would be beneficial to yuo to take a step back form the ladder and play random customs against random people. i felt myslef to better and play better cause i could lose without any pressure in losing. then in betweening gustoms games, maybe play a few (3-4) ladder matches during a day. you'll still rage, but it won't be in the degree as it is when you go game after game and do so. my onther idea is having you learn meditation, when the rage comes, you learn to meditate and calm yourself. doing meditation can help you remember that not only do you lose when you rage, but when you rage you take the fun out of it for someone. just try to keep a level head, when you lose, you are on a adrenaline high form the match and and it reacts badly with the littlest hint of anger. | ||
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Xyik
Canada728 Posts
Honestly, ask yourself why you are getting upset. One of the reasons could be that Starcraft is a big part of your life and is a skill that you value too highly. Obviously then you have to find other things in life that you can feel proud about and preoccupy yourself with. That, or devote more and more time in to playing until you become good enough that you have like a 65% win ratio. And even though that ratio will fall, you will find an excuse to feel better in when the reason it falls is because you are playing against top players. Don't always look at your losses with disdain and don't fool yourself into thinking getting angry will make you learn the game faster. It won't. | ||
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sob3k
United States7572 Posts
Don't give them the satisfaction. | ||
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Shaka_Kon
Canada112 Posts
now whenever i feel like im going to rage, 1 always try to laugh (or think something funny, better think fast)..... 1.5 have this face to ur face  (i love this face)2 put my face down on the desk, close ur eyes...and breath..(this usually works the best) I jsut cant yell like a maniac anymore kuz my parents would yell at me for doing it...and i cant explain it to them why im screaming and when i think back for waht i did, it's really embarrassing.. | ||
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niteReloaded
Croatia5281 Posts
4 mp3s in a RAR, 43MBs: http://www.sendspace.com/file/ugxbq3 | ||
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eXigent.
Canada2419 Posts
On January 28 2011 07:11 GGzerG wrote: take a break and smoke a joint, the only way I can play this game without raging is with weed. lol but thats actually a horrible idea because then when you are out of weed you won't want to play... ( like me)... ::face palm:: You just described me to a tee. Without weed I hardly ever want to log on and play sc2. With weed, all I want to do is play play play. Very weird situation imo. | ||
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Gonff
United States686 Posts
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Psyonic_Reaver
United States4336 Posts
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SushilS
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Whiplash
United States2928 Posts
On January 28 2011 08:17 niteReloaded wrote: Here's the link I mentioned half a page ago: 4 mp3s in a RAR, 43MBs: http://www.sendspace.com/file/ugxbq3 Thanks, will check this out. Some good support in this thread and some people that relate, nice to see that. | ||
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Licmyobelisk
Philippines3682 Posts
On January 28 2011 12:25 Whiplash wrote: Thanks, will check this out. Some good support in this thread and some people that relate, nice to see that. been like this in a couple of weeks but instead of being angry I channel into sadness because I thought that it's much better to get sad after losing since your first reaction is to analyze what how when why you lost. Don't giving a fuck does work on me since it don't give a fuck and don't analyze the replays and just grind it further. | ||
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imalwaysdrunk
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sooch
Canada299 Posts
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bood3e
Finland9 Posts
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palanq
United States761 Posts
;D i started listening to that audio thing but I'm not a fan of this BS. But I think you can try to decide in your mind that you want to be calm and relax and not stress out about X can work to some extent. | ||
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7000bitches
United States27 Posts
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NarutO
Germany18839 Posts
On January 28 2011 06:59 Chill wrote: Why do you get angry? People usually get angry because they are really eager. Same for me. I'm insanely eager and I hate losing so I'm getting really angry, mostly because of own mistakes but also from getting the impression of playing well but still losing because of imbalance when its usually totally not like that. Guess the same for him. Try to relax-_-; Do some sports.. you need to have a good balance. | ||
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awwnuts07
United States621 Posts
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SpiritoftheTunA
United States20903 Posts
On January 28 2011 07:53 Chill wrote: It was a real question. Are you upset by your opponent's choices or questions of abuse or "fairness", are you upset at the game for not being fair, are you upset at luck, are you upset at yourself for not executing, are you upset that you've spent so much time but are still losing, are you angry at the time you'll have to spend reclaiming lost points? Lots of reasons to be upset for losing. I think the anger happens simply because of losing, and what you are referring to are the various ways to rationalize that anger. Going along with this, I think rationalizing the anger as "not executing" is probably the most constructive. Learning to think straight while angry would probably help too, keep sight of the most +EV (read: solid) builds and strategies you can be doing on ladder and keep doing those, no matter how much you're tilting. If you really need to get rid of the tilt, you can find coping mechanisms for that, but if you can play well on rage, that's probably even better. | ||
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bLuR
Canada625 Posts
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