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Swifteh
Sweden13 Posts
Really, just hang in there until you achieve financial independence, then you're completely free to make your own choices without having to deal with their comments or judgements. That's what I did, in any case. Also, remember that you have no responsibility to please your parents, none at all; especially not when the only reason they're displeased in the first place is a result of their own prejuidice. | ||
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PetitCrabe
Canada410 Posts
On January 16 2011 12:34 Froadac wrote: Why don't they want you in civil engineering? Apparently, I'll never have a job, especially since the job is cyclic. Also, they say the salary (50k+ canadian $) is not a lot. They would rather see me become a dentist like my dad and have a 100k+ income. There is also the fact that, I think the title of doctor is somewhat prestigious for them. Thanks a lot everyone, my mind is a lot clearer now, I really thought I was weird for not following what they said. | ||
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Wr3k
Canada2533 Posts
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potatomash3r
Australia417 Posts
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Haemonculus
United States6980 Posts
On January 16 2011 12:44 Wr3k wrote: My parents don't care who I date as long as I am happy. That being said, my grandmother hates it if I date any non-white girls. I find that in our generation there are much fewer people with xenophobic attitudes when compared with the older generations. If she makes you happy then it doesn't matter what your parents say. If they really care about you they will eventually see that your girlfriend makes you happy and that they will have to accept her as she is. Haha, yeah my grandparents were wicked racist. My parents are much better, but still harbor a bit of their upbringing. They'd never admit it though, lol | ||
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SolHeiM
Sweden1264 Posts
They do not own you, and they definitely don't have the right to tell you who you can or cannot date. A lot of parents don't seem to realize that they don't have the right to tell their children what they can or cannot do anymore. And second of all, why do you care? It's your life, not theirs. My dad is butting into my life constantly, and I shut up because as of now I still live at home, but when I leave for university this autumn he can go fuck himself because I'm tired of his constant need to know everything about my life. He doesn't own me, even though that's what he thinks, and your parents do not own you. | ||
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Wr3k
Canada2533 Posts
On January 16 2011 12:44 PetitCrabe wrote: Apparently, I'll never have a job, especially since the job is cyclic. Also, they say the salary (50k+ canadian $) is not a lot. They would rather see me become a dentist like my dad and have a 100k+ income. There is also the fact that, I think the title of doctor is somewhat prestigious for them. Thanks a lot everyone, my mind is a lot clearer now, I really thought I was weird for not following what they said. Wow... there is nothing wrong with becoming a civil engineer. Your parents seem pretty unreasonable. | ||
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
On January 16 2011 12:44 PetitCrabe wrote: Apparently, I'll never have a job, especially since the job is cyclic. Also, they say the salary (50k+ canadian $) is not a lot. They would rather see me become a dentist like my dad and have a 100k+ income. There is also the fact that, I think the title of doctor is somewhat prestigious for them. Thanks a lot everyone, my mind is a lot clearer now, I really thought I was weird for not following what they said. I don't want to be annoying and discourage you from what you like doing... but it's not the best career IMO. My dad is a civil engineer with a masters from vanderbilt. And he works for california, doesn't make that much, and finds it frustrating. Essentially in the US (and I'm sure to a certain extent in Canada) there isn't much infrastructure being put into place. Just because of darn environmentalists etc. If you want to move to vietnam or something, it'd probably be a good job. Essentially he doesn't like the job because you are dealing with politicians. You can make more and actually do stuff in the private sector, but the jobs aren't terribly stable, and a lot of it is bilking the government. | ||
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Necosarius
Sweden4042 Posts
Double trouble when I dated a Jehovas witness. Not only wasn't she sámi but her religion was driving my mother crazy. Things went pretty bad :/ | ||
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RezChi
Canada2368 Posts
Anyways just ignore them, and tell them that she's half viet that'll some them = P | ||
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Chimpalimp
United States1135 Posts
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koreasilver
9109 Posts
This girl is half Vietnamese too, jeez. | ||
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PetitCrabe
Canada410 Posts
On January 16 2011 12:49 Froadac wrote: I don't want to be annoying and discourage you from what you like doing... but it's not the best career IMO. My dad is a civil engineer with a masters from vanderbilt. And he works for california, doesn't make that much, and finds it frustrating. Essentially in the US (and I'm sure to a certain extent in Canada) there isn't much infrastructure being put into place. Just because of darn environmentalists etc. If you want to move to vietnam or something, it'd probably be a good job. Essentially he doesn't like the job because you are dealing with politicians. You can make more and actually do stuff in the private sector, but the jobs aren't terribly stable, and a lot of it is bilking the government. I don't want to diverge of the main topic of this thread, but yeah this is pretty much the problem with civil engineering, BUT there will be a HUGE demand of engineers in Quebec when the recession will be over, which will hopefuly be by the time I graduate, especially if you consider the fact that 15% of engineers are retiring in the next 5-10 years. Wow, I didn't know this problem was common. I thought it was oldschool stuff that you only see on shows like Degrassi... I guess that if most immigrant children have been dealing with this problem for years, it can't be that bad for me neither. | ||
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news
892 Posts
On January 16 2011 13:06 koreasilver wrote: I will never hear the end of "don't marry a Chinese woman" from my relatives. I've always dated Chinese girls except once. This girl is half Vietnamese too, jeez. Your relatives have a point (in general). | ||
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Slaughter
United States20255 Posts
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Tinkerbelle
United States29 Posts
You're an adult. Show this to your parents by following your heart, and not their demands. Show them you're mature enough to know what makes you happy without losing sight of college. When you send them a holiday card with you and your gf's picture and a recap about how well you in school last semester, they'll have to realize that you're happy and successful despite their prejudices. | ||
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news
892 Posts
On January 16 2011 13:13 Tinkerbelle wrote: It's not exclusive to Asian parents. Some parents just are that way. At the end of the day, a parent wants their child to be happier and more successful than they were. In doing so, they often lose sight of when their child is actually happy or successful, and have extreme ideologies as to what the route to happiness or success is. You're an adult. Show this to your parents by following your heart, and not their demands. Show them you're mature enough to know what makes you happy without losing sight of college. When you send them a holiday card with you and your gf's picture and a recap about how well you in school last semester, they'll have to realize that you're happy and successful despite their prejudices. Once they see that little kid in your hands they will instantly forget about everything. Just pop a baby out real quick and you're back with your family. | ||
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PetitCrabe
Canada410 Posts
On January 16 2011 13:19 news wrote: Once they see that little kid in your hands they will instantly forget about everything. Just pop a baby out real quick and you're back with your family. LOL this made me laugh so hard! I don't even know if you're serious or not... If I bring a baby home with our current relationship, my parents are probably gonna bury me and the baby alive in the backyard | ||
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emperorchampion
Canada9496 Posts
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LazyMacro
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