Is this girl problem weird or common? - Page 2

On January 16 2011 12:34 Froadac wrote:
Why don't they want you in civil engineering?

On January 16 2011 12:44 Wr3k wrote:
My parents don't care who I date as long as I am happy. That being said, my grandmother hates it if I date any non-white girls. I find that in our generation there are much fewer people with xenophobic attitudes when compared with the older generations. If she makes you happy then it doesn't matter what your parents say. If they really care about you they will eventually see that your girlfriend makes you happy and that they will have to accept her as she is.

On January 16 2011 12:44 PetitCrabe wrote:


Apparently, I'll never have a job, especially since the job is cyclic. Also, they say the salary (50k+ canadian $) is not a lot. They would rather see me become a dentist like my dad and have a 100k+ income. There is also the fact that, I think the title of doctor is somewhat prestigious for them.

Thanks a lot everyone, my mind is a lot clearer now, I really thought I was weird for not following what they said.

On January 16 2011 12:44 PetitCrabe wrote:


Apparently, I'll never have a job, especially since the job is cyclic. Also, they say the salary (50k+ canadian $) is not a lot. They would rather see me become a dentist like my dad and have a 100k+ income. There is also the fact that, I think the title of doctor is somewhat prestigious for them.

Thanks a lot everyone, my mind is a lot clearer now, I really thought I was weird for not following what they said.

On January 16 2011 12:49 Froadac wrote:

I don't want to be annoying and discourage you from what you like doing... but it's not the best career IMO. My dad is a civil engineer with a masters from vanderbilt. And he works for california, doesn't make that much, and finds it frustrating.

Essentially in the US (and I'm sure to a certain extent in Canada) there isn't much infrastructure being put into place. Just because of darn environmentalists etc. If you want to move to vietnam or something, it'd probably be a good job.

Essentially he doesn't like the job because you are dealing with politicians.

You can make more and actually do stuff in the private sector, but the jobs aren't terribly stable, and a lot of it is bilking the government.

On January 16 2011 13:06 koreasilver wrote:
I will never hear the end of "don't marry a Chinese woman" from my relatives. I've always dated Chinese girls except once.

This girl is half Vietnamese too, jeez.

On January 16 2011 13:13 Tinkerbelle wrote:
It's not exclusive to Asian parents. Some parents just are that way. At the end of the day, a parent wants their child to be happier and more successful than they were. In doing so, they often lose sight of when their child is actually happy or successful, and have extreme ideologies as to what the route to happiness or success is.

You're an adult. Show this to your parents by following your heart, and not their demands. Show them you're mature enough to know what makes you happy without losing sight of college. When you send them a holiday card with you and your gf's picture and a recap about how well you in school last semester, they'll have to realize that you're happy and successful despite their prejudices.

On January 16 2011 13:19 news wrote:


Once they see that little kid in your hands they will instantly forget about everything. Just pop a baby out real quick and you're back with your family.