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besiger
Croatia2452 Posts
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Zerokaiser
Canada885 Posts
On December 22 2010 03:50 ilmman wrote: I gurantee you, if you invest in an expensive haircut (lets say around $100), have decent weight and you wear FASHIONABLE clothes .... then you will have no problem scoring a hot chick... no point going for normal average ones... LIFT UP UR STANDARD GUYS AND INVEST IN YOURSELF A BIT... More drivel. Yes, if you're sexually attractive you can get laid. That's not a revelation. Being sexually attractive doesn't make you less of a shallow, pathetic person. You can spend a couple hundred bucks for a one-night stand with a 10 and go back to being worthless the next day, or you can be yourself for the chance to have a real relationship with a 7. If you think that an average looking girl is "below your standards", then you're an asshole and not fit for the standards of any girl with self-respect. But guys like you don't like it when a girl has self-respect. | ||
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TheGiz
Canada708 Posts
On December 22 2010 03:32 Kalingingsong wrote: how do we deal with the fact that a lot of women these days seem kinda nutty? Maybe I was a little vague. Women are NUTS. Specifically, without the exaggeration, women are not very rational in a sense that could be easily explained. That doesn't mean that you can't love and get along with them, though. Just realize that there are things that you will have to deal with. When you opt not to play their games it gets a lot easier, even if it feels like you should. Eventually a girl's particular brand of 'crazy' may become endearing to you, and you learn how to handle their specific quirks. No one is perfect. | ||
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Turbovolver
Australia2394 Posts
Except for the "you should be teasing her in equal amounts" stuff. That "negging" bullshit is just a poor man's way to appearing confident, and it's pretty manipulative. So long as you are willing to be playful in your talking with her you are fine, you don't have to be putting her down to make her feel like she has to prove herself. | ||
Aesop
Hungary11291 Posts
On December 22 2010 03:58 TheGiz wrote: Maybe I was a little vague. Women are NUTS. + Show Spoiler + I think it's because mothers and friends raise girls all the same way that they are led to believe a lot of insane crap, kind of like cultists who don't understand that things don't actually work the way they were told. The female concepts of things like 'ethics' and 'effort' and 'logic' are just mind-bogglingly wrong. Remember also that boys are generally not spoiled or praised nearly as much as girls, so they are usually a lot more down to earth. That doesn't mean that you can't love and get along with them, though. Just realize that there are things that you will have to deal with. When you opt not to play their games it gets a lot easier, even if it feels like you should. Eventually a girl's particular brand of 'crazy' may become endearing to you, and you learn how to handle their specific quirks. Actually, despite kinda liking your OP, I have to disagree here. Women are rational from different premises. Those premises have to do with evolution, (constructed or not) gender, society, etc. etc. But their point of view is rational too and it causes certain ways of behaving. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32051 Posts
On December 22 2010 03:38 MiniRoman wrote: A simple look at your post count and a click on your profile shows clear evidence that you yourself are a nerd sir. A stfu is in order i believe e-gads! My post count sure refutes my point that this is still a really dumb blog!~ | ||
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SolHeiM
Sweden1264 Posts
Now I have nothing against Neil Strauss or Mystery, but damn... It's such outdated material it's laughable. Using mind-games and "tactics" to get women will not get you real confidence. You will constantly rely on tactics and routines. How about actually going out and learning to become a natural instead of being a nerd putting on a super-hero PICKUPMAN costume whenever you feel the need to get with a lady? Being attractive to women shouldn't be something you do it should be something you are. And by using mind games and tactics, it's something you're doing, not something you are. | ||
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HwangjaeTerran
Finland5967 Posts
you are saying: "Don't be yourself." IMO not worth it. Most guys with a nice girlfriends are huge douchebags and most couples in general are extremely annoying and boring. My advice if you really want a girlfriend is: "be a douchebag". But then again, I prefer being alone regardless (I am a douchebag) In general I dislike these "girl advice" blogs as they suggest you should think of your social life and love life as a game. As gamers shouldn't we best know that games aren't real. I also find it funny that it's always guys with girlfriends who make these "how to score a chick" threads, I seriously doubt that most single guys here are desperate for a girlfriend. somekinda underlying superiority complex/alfa male/veiled brag thing ( see? I am a douchebag) On December 22 2010 03:54 besiger wrote: What is this, I came here expecting some sort of Christmas girlfriend giveaway, thinking that you had extra to spare, now my holiday season is ruined. Yeah, I was half expecting some Steam 75% off MailOrderBrides or something like that. | ||
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JackMcCoy
165 Posts
- E. Jack "You Late?" McCoy | ||
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SevenBunnies
United States24 Posts
- Be really, really, rich. This helps shallow women see how awesome you are - and since all women are shallow, you'll be awesome to every woman! | ||
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Fa1nT
United States3423 Posts
finish university get good career You are now no longer searching, women will be looking for you. At that point, you can either lower your standards or wait for the perfect woman. Waiting 5 extra years might pay off considering how insane women are these days about divorcing and shit. Do not let a woman drag you down and ruin your education because they will cost a lot of money, regardless if they buy their own stuff. | ||
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n.DieJokes
United States3443 Posts
On December 22 2010 03:50 ilmman wrote: I gurantee you, if you invest in an expensive haircut (lets say around $100), have decent weight and you wear FASHIONABLE clothes .... then you will have no problem scoring a hot chick... no point going for normal average ones... LIFT UP UR STANDARD GUYS AND INVEST IN YOURSELF A BIT... Yea, women are objects! Anything under a eight is spoiled goods | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On December 22 2010 03:46 Aesop wrote: The analogy breaks down at the point where a) is the confidence about the expensive cutlery you are selling b) is the confidence about the product you represent yourself a) is about a product you likely do not care about. b) is helpful as you go on in life and should feel good to the girl you're talking to as well. I mean, why would she like the product you're offering if you seem to despise it yourself. So a degree of confidence that does not slip into cockiness appears to be appropriate. That's reading a bit too much into the analogy. Here's the point I tried to make: At my old job we had to cold-call people we hardly knew. Instead of viewing it as selling a product and how we feel about it (what we were supposed to do) myself and most new coworkers saw each rejection as a personal rejection. Management wisely gave us the "just do it" advice on the fly, but when they had time they would sit us down in meetings and personally compliment each of us and have us do the same to each other. I should also note that I'm separating self-confidence (being yourself and truly believing in all its positive merits) and confidence in your abilities to strike up a random conversation with a stranger to see where it leads.. | ||
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
Actually, despite kinda liking your OP, I have to disagree here. Women are rational from different premises. Those premises have to do with evolution, (constructed or not) gender, society, etc. etc. But their point of view is rational too and it causes certain ways of behaving. agreed, evolution actually treated human men fairly well i'd have to say. At least we aren't in the same situation as certain insects: risking death just to have sex and the chances of banging the queen is literally like 1 in 100,000. I wonder if male insects would complain if they could talk. | ||
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Raeleigh
Canada902 Posts
On December 22 2010 02:53 TheGiz wrote: Point #2: Dealing with All of the self-augmenting you’ve done should at least get you over the hurdles of meeting and talking to women. Dating them is no different, because confidence is really all that matters. Sure there are tactics here and there that help, but what you really want to focus on is the macro game. Here’s a few points: - Women like to play games. Try to spot them ahead of time and nip them in the bud. Call them out on it too – women like to be challenged. - Women do not make the rules. Do your best to never appear needy, whether you’ve been dating 3 times or 3 years. Remember that if you’re looking for someone to spend your time with, she is under just as much scrutiny as you are, and should be working for your affection too. - Women like to talk about themselves. I’d say that most conversations with a girl should consist of her giving 70% or more of the information. This goes again with the her trying to get you aspect. - Women like to be serious, which is why you should always be calm, cool, and collected. This may seem cliché but keep your emotions subdued as much as possible. - Women like compliments. <- This is deliberately false. Little compliments every once in a while are fine, but you should be teasing her in equal amounts. Note that general compliments are lame and finer compliments are better. “I like your sweater” is wayyyyy better than “You’re the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.” Pardon the hyperbole, but you get what I mean. I apologize if it seems that I disrespect women; I do not. I merely think that girls are different as well as being highly predictable in a general sense. I personally don't agree with a lot of this. You cannot group all women together and assume that it's right about every single one, like you're doing here. - Not all Women like to play games. Yeah, I know quite a few girls who are all about the chase, and once they've got what they want, they don't want it anymore. Or they're just involved in their games, their mind, they don't care much for anyone else but themselves. - Women do enjoy talking about themselves, but if you want a real relationship, talking just as much as she does is good. Yeah, there are times she'll talk more than you, when she's upset or has this awesome thing to say, and there are times you'll talk more than her for the same reasons. But it shouldn't ever be a 70/30 split for how much you contribute to a conversation. - You don't NEED to be "calm, cool and collected." If you're unhappy and feeling bad, tell your girlfriend. Tell a girl you're close to. If a girl knows you're willing to share these things with you, she'll immediately feel closer to you, because you're opening up to her. It makes her feel good, to know you trust her with your feelings. Girls don't want to date guys who show no emotion and have no emotional reaction to anything. - I personally ADORE compliments, and they make me giggle and blush. I love them. It shows me that my boyfriend(whom gives me plenty of them) cares. But I also return them and give him lots too. It shows him I think just of highly as him as well. Little compliments are great when you're just starting to talk to a girl, but if you really want her, you need to let her know, even if it's just once in a while, that she does have a great personality, and she's beautiful, if you think she is. Don't lie to her though. You won't live after that. ^_~ I think looking at girls in a general sense is kind of looking at a rainbow with a general sense. Something like, "well, they're all kinda dark." You can't really do it. I mean, every girl in the world will share a few similar qualities and predictable aspects, but not the ones you listed. =/ Edit: If you ARE looking for a girlfriend over the Holiday season.. - Dress nice. If you're used to wearing t-shirts and plain jeans, get a few pair of darker jeans, maybe a pair of vans canvas shoes(they're slip on, comfy, and can be worn almost anywhere), and a v-neck(which is still a t-shirt) or a simple cardigan. Get a hair cut and get your facial hair nicely trimmed. - Be yourself. If you have a problem, and you're friends with a girl, and you feel like you want to talk, ask her if she doesn't mind. If you like her, and you think she might like you, take her out for dinner and tell her. If you're not sure, bring it up. A girl is only as honest and will only show as many feelings as you will. These are things that every girl will appreciate. Every girl who is sane, of course. ^_~ Maybe i'll write a blog post about this.. bahaha. | ||
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Arkansassy
358 Posts
On December 22 2010 03:50 ilmman wrote: I gurantee you, if you invest in an expensive haircut (lets say around $100), have decent weight and you wear FASHIONABLE clothes .... then you will have no problem scoring a hot chick... Most assuredly it doesn't hurt to present yourself well dressed and well groomed, but as soon as you open your (collective) mouth and come off as a dumb fuck, any "hot chick" worth having would laugh in your face. Intelligence is extremely attractive. What I totally agree with in the OP is that a man should be confident without being cocky; unfortunately, according to some of the responses, some men can't differentiate between the two. | ||
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Raeleigh
Canada902 Posts
On December 22 2010 05:44 Arkansassy wrote: Most assuredly it doesn't hurt to present yourself well dressed and well groomed, but as soon as you open your (collective) mouth and come off as a dumb fuck, any "hot chick" worth having would laugh in your face. Intelligence is extremely attractive. What I totally agree with in the OP is that a man should to be confident without being cocky; unfortunately, according to some of the responses, some men can't differentiate between the two. I 100% agree with this. (: | ||
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Chimpalimp
United States1135 Posts
Cocky is another thing, its like jumping into a problem thinking you are an utter math boss and skipping steps and not even re-examining your work because why would you be wrong? | ||
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NIIINO
Slovakia1320 Posts
yea and MOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAr blogs | ||
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Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
Shave. recent events would indicate that having a killer phone is also a very important part of getting (or at least keeping) a girlfriend. Im fine alone, thank you Indeed. This blog would be better titled as "How to: Get a female that will let you have sex with her on a regular basis." I do need to shave more frequently. Cool phones are pretty important. I don't need one though :/ I am fine alone. @OP You seem to want us to get into a relationship with someone we could not see marrying You say stuff like Girls can sometimes be fickle even very late into a relationship. Which indicate you expect more relationships. @aesop On December 22 2010 04:11 Aesop wrote: Actually, despite kinda liking your OP, I have to disagree here. Women are rational from different premises. Those premises have to do with evolution, (constructed or not) gender, society, etc. etc. But their point of view is rational too and it causes certain ways of behaving. Yeah I have to agree with Aesop here, your OP was fine but most girls are pretty rational.. and some of the nutty ones are fun :D | ||
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