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NOTE: I'm a junior, Merced would be my like last choice backup, and my mom was merely insulting me
SO I'm taking AP Chem.
SO it's the hardest class offered at my school.
SO it was the hardest test of the year.
SO the teacher said 50+% was pretty damn good
SO I got a B-
Evidently as a combination of these factors I found my mom yelling at me saying I would never get into UC merced. Oops, wait. I already have a higher GPA than is required, not including this semester, and I currently ahve a 4.3 GPA, compared to the 3.92 from last year.
I was a bit perturbed at this stupid assertion so posted on facebook "Evidently I might be privileged enough to get into UC Merced" Heck, I didn't even say my mom said it.
So her response? Yell at me and turn off the internet. Then procede to tell me to sit down, shut up, and listen to every reason why I'm a failure.
Among these two reasons is LACK of sleep. Sure, I admit, I don't get quite enough sleep as I should, but I went to bed at 11:20 last night. I even didn't do some homework in order to do so. But I missed my alarm, and was barely on time to school. So I'm a failure. Although I'm sure my parents won't care, I'm curious how much you guys sleep. I normally get 7-8 hours.
Poll: How much sleep do you get7 (39) 28% 6 (37) 26% 8 (23) 16% 9+ (17) 12% 5 (12) 9% 4 (7) 5% 3 (4) 3% 1 (1) 1% 2 (1) 1% 141 total votes Your vote: How much sleep do you get (Vote): 1
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So my mom told me to stay, yelled at me. Said I shouldn't be like my high school dropout cousin, said if I did that she'd kick me out of the house. I was more than willing to comply with that. I don't foresee myself dropping out. She then said "Oh, you think your'e an expert at everything, a psychologist a sleep..." and I rashly said. "It doesn't take an expert to know you're mentally ill." Sure, it's stupid, but I was really pissed at that point.
So then the tables turned and she told me to get the fuck out of the house.
So I went to the highschool where my friends were in band, talked to them, went home with one of them, used unsecured wifi to post on facebook, and returned home. (WOOT $50 iPod touch ftw!) Upon returning they shunned me and made me go to my room. But never fear, I am posting this blog from an itouch LOL
I don't know what I want for Christmas, and so I figured a nice mouse/keyboard would be nice. However, another idea popped into my head. My dad was complaining about shitty internet speeds. I was wondering if I could persuade him into letting us get better internet. Right now we are on 768kbps shit. If I can't persuade him I guess I could ask for it? Anyways,my two options are AT&T (www.att.com/dsl) and Comcast www.comcast.com/highspeedinternet/ . I'm not sure if there are other options in the SF bay area...
Which one would be best/which one is more reasonably priced? If I could get something that is middle of the road decent price I'd be so happy 
Also do you guys have any way that I could use the poll currently on TL to persuade them that 768 kbps is indeed sorta... slow?
 
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I am so glad our system doesnt give a shit about gpa and puts alot on the exam grades D: though i can obviously see where the downfall with that is, im lucky im an exam person.
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Well, I have a 2310 SAT, at least, so I do well wtih testing. I mean, I'll get into at least one damn decent school. Good shot at berkeley tbh.
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yeah we have, well had, when i was in that stage a set of exams in 2 year intervals, AS and A levels, As was the first year exams worth something like 30%, but it fluctuated between the subjects, and the A levels made up the rest. You could doss off something terrible and still do fine so long as you got any coursework modules done. The system is pretty much built for those who can do exams, i mean theoretically you could do no homework, no participation and so long as you aced the exams your golden.
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come on, 2310 SATs, of course you'll get into UC Merced
and yes, you should apply to Berkeley, why not Stanford too?
fios > cable > dsl
people hate comcast, but I've used it a lot and they are fine
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How much is fios and who is the provider.
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You act like a kid because they treat you like a kid. They treat you like a kid because you act like a kid. A vicious cycle, but I think it's you who needs to break it :O
Don't act like you can burn bridges with your parents. It's a really shitty attitude.
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On December 11 2010 10:54 Froadac wrote:
How much is fios and who is the provider.
www.verizon.com/fios
you'll have to check if its available in your area
its also more expensive than cable. if you're not uploading much, it might not be worth it
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On December 11 2010 10:59 Chef wrote:
You act like a kid because they treat you like a kid. They treat you like a kid because you act like a kid. A vicious cycle, but I think it's you who needs to break it :O
Don't act like you can burn bridges with your parents. It's a really shitty attitude.
Yeah. Normally I try and be accommodating. This was a really bad decision making on my part.
What do you mean more specifically about not burning bridges? What specifically SHOULD I do?
Also, if I wanted to stream, what kind of upload would I need?
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your parents dont really have any redeemable qualities, do they? either way, good luck with upgrading your internet speed and not going insane under the tyranny of deluded fools.
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I think you are being modest and silly at the same time. 2310 is higher than what my valedictorian got on his sat. Sounds like you got major Asian parents. Lol. Never happy with any performance less than perfect. Anyways get comcast
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What do you mean more specifically about not burning bridges? What specifically SHOULD I do?
I find that staring at tile designs made it absurdly easy to tune out parent rage sessions.
Also, you should work on becoming a sincere liar. Sometimes should 'admit' that your parents were correct, while not believing any of it, because its the most pragmatic solution at the time.
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Am I correct in guessing that you are asian?
This really is a standard scenario, so you just have to learn the proper strategy and stick to it. I think your best bet is to just sit there and take the bullshit coming at you, in one ear and out the other. Emotional parents don't run on logic, so there's clearly no point in arguing against them.
I would think that you're pretty much a slam dunk for merced. Are you not looking at other schools like UCLA or Cal?
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I'm taking AP chem too ><.
I get around 6-7 hours on average depending on how much I procrastinate, what day of the week it is (since I go to school an hour earlier monday - wed), and how much homework/how many tests I have the next day.
I'm in orange county and ATT is pretty bad >< it likes to shut off. Its not bad for its price though (like 20$ a month at the lowest here) Idk how it is in bay area.
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On December 11 2010 10:59 Chef wrote:
You act like a kid because they treat you like a kid. They treat you like a kid because you act like a kid. A vicious cycle, but I think it's you who needs to break it :O
Don't act like you can burn bridges with your parents. It's a really shitty attitude.
Nah your parents sound like dicks who expect too much of you. Burn away. I did it and our relationship sucked for a couple years but now my parents finally understand that I need my freedom and respect my autonomy. If I had just put up with their shit the whole time then I would still be putting up with their shit now.
But yeah, I'm white. If you're asian your parents might straight up disown you.
edit: I was only able to burn my bridges because I graduated from high school early, moved out and got a full-time job when I was 16. So I had 2 years to live on my own with no parental input required before going to college. I ignored their phone calls, angry messages, and threats, and was financially independent. I made it very clear that if they continued to be the way that they were that I was just never going to speak to them again. And I wouldn't have if they didn't come around. You probably won't be able to do this since supporting yourself while still attending high school would be very difficult. So maybe you should just suck it up 
Basically as long as you are living under their roof you have to put up with their shit. Get your own place and everything changes.
On December 11 2010 10:46 Frack wrote:
I am so glad our system doesnt give a shit about gpa and puts alot on the exam grades D: though i can obviously see where the downfall with that is, im lucky im an exam person.
I thought the same thing but unfortunately it's not true. I got a 2300 SAT but my GPA was only a 3.86 weighted (after taking a total of 9 AP classes) and I was only accepted to one school. UC Berkeley was my first choice and I was not accepted. Sad but true. However this may have something to do with my decision to wait for 2 years after graduating and the admissions people not understanding that I graduated early. I'll never know.
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UC Merced is like the bottom UC school and they even need to appeal to people to get them to go there lol.
Get comcast too, but only if there's a promotion, else you're gonna be paying like $60 a month instead of $20-$30.
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UC Merced is a cakewalk with what you got. If you have a 4.3 GPA, you're gonna stomp the admissions.
>.>
Your mom is just too paranoid I guess. With a G.P.A. like yours, you can easily compete with those wanting to get into LA and Berkeley.
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you have no chance of getting into Berkeley with a B- on your chem test. i'm sorry but that just isn't going to happen. snap into reality and start checking out some state schools you failure
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On December 11 2010 11:09 Slithe wrote:
Am I correct in guessing that you are asian?
This really is a standard scenario, so you just have to learn the proper strategy and stick to it. I think your best bet is to just sit there and take the bullshit coming at you, in one ear and out the other. Emotional parents don't run on logic, so there's clearly no point in arguing against them.
I would think that you're pretty much a slam dunk for merced. Are you not looking at other schools like UCLA or Cal?
A) no
B) Yeah, then they make me sit there until I make some meaningful comments. Then they yell at me for not following through with these bullshit comments.
3) Hell yes. I think my mom was just trying to insult me. I'm looking at UCLA/Cal/Davis/privates.
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ALSO...
What should I spend $5,500 on lol. I've refereed a lot and I have a good amount of money built up. Dunno what to spend it on. I guess I could get some epic steelseries stuff but...
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On December 11 2010 11:09 Slithe wrote:
Am I correct in guessing that you are asian?
This really is a standard scenario, so you just have to learn the proper strategy and stick to it. I think your best bet is to just sit there and take the bullshit coming at you, in one ear and out the other. Emotional parents don't run on logic, so there's clearly no point in arguing against them.
I would think that you're pretty much a slam dunk for merced. Are you not looking at other schools like UCLA or Cal?
I kinda have this feeling too (OP is Asian descent)
This might add fuel to the fire, but maybe you could show them that "Too Asian?" article. There's too much expectation from the parents for the kids, so any little thing can set them off.
edit: ah, too slow. but maybe the second part is interesting
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Sorry for not liking your parents!
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hey whats wrong with uc merced
i go there
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On December 11 2010 11:50 Froadac wrote:
ALSO...
What should I spend $5,500 on lol. I've refereed a lot and I have a good amount of money built up. Dunno what to spend it on. I guess I could get some epic steelseries stuff but...
If you're looking for advice on what luxuries you should buy from people on the internet, I'd say you need to a get a reality check.
Honestly, why would you spend $5,500 on something that's unnecessary AND something you have no desire for? Just throwing money around?
Save, young people don't do this enough, just spend spend spend, and then wonder why they are in debt...
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If you have a 4.3 GPA your going to a joke school.
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On December 11 2010 12:17 tryummm wrote:
If you have a 4.3 GPA your going to a joke school.
i hope you enjoyed your stay on TL.net. 
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Wow man, your 'rents needs to take it easy on you. It's better to have less pressure and shit. What's she trying to do, make you one day SNAP!?
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4.3 GPA?
What year are you and how many APs?
I got through IB/AP 4.2 weighted I think (?), didn't try my hardest (haaaa) but hey I'm at UCLA so it can't be too bad  . College is tougher though, if you figure that APs are just intro material.
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Your parents just want the best for you, they're just awfully strict. My parents were so strict about my Internet access. Just remember, your parents love you and want to see you succeed more than anything. They can come off as harsh in the years of youth, but down the line you'll come to understand the things they do.
You might actually not get into Merced because you GPA is too high lol. Colleges have been known on occasion to reject people overqualified for the school But I digress.
Teenagers misunderstand parents too often. Your parents were your age at one time in the past, and although society has changed people have not. They know more than you'd think ;D
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I swear you get asked whether you're Asian in every blog.
You'll definitely do very well. If I could give you what I believed to be my best advice, I'd tell you to stick it out/work just as you're doing, to try your best not to argue to/lash back at your parents, and to smile during your first day at Berk as you look back on all of this and realize that you've made it.
Also, I agree 100% with dudeman :>
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Typical problem with parents is that "getting to college" sets you for life, but in reality, it's what you do during your time at college and beyond. Pretty much everyone that wants to get in college, gets into college. Being awesome gamers we are, we have quick wit and cleverness that allows us to get 90%+ on pretty much every test without studying much in high school. Essays and projects are different stories, but essentially, little effort = high marks in high school.
Once you're in college, and especially a good one at that, things change...
Anyways, I'm pretty sure you'll get into whatever system you want. I'm Canadian (and I didn't apply to US undergrad schools) so I'm not sure exactly, but those numbers do look decent.
Oh, and I get about 5 hours of sleep per day... and 12+ hours between Saturday and Sunday. Sort of like a weekly recharge routine. I don't usually fall asleep in lectures, although I do need coffee for the boring ones.
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I really just don't understand....High school ISN'T hard. NOR is it important. Test scores are what get you into college, that and having your math done before you are a senior. (as in take the highest math offered at your school junior year)
But whats even worse is a parent putting worth into highschool grades >.<
Are you parents really just that fucking dumb? Did THEY go to college?
High school is such a joke it's just pointless. Over half the shit I learned in my 12 years of schooling before college was either half true or straight up false information. School doesn't teach anything anymore, even more so anything of actual use.
and for the record, I'm going to Colorado School of Mines. It's kinda a big deal. I honestly did pretty shitty in highschool grade wise (mostly cause I missed well over 30 days of school xD) and now I'm going to probably the best hard science school in the western half of the US, and pretty high up there on the world scale anyway.
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On December 11 2010 12:41 N3rV[Green] wrote:
Are you parents really just that fucking dumb? Did THEY go to college?
His mom graduated from UCSF and his dad got a 1600 on the "old" SAT.
LOL
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wtf 4.3? Are you kidding me?
You would get a huge scolarship if you applied to merced... They would literally PAY you to go there...
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i think your parents should be jailed.. seriously what they do is called abuse
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As for internet providers you should look into a Company called Clear. They are launching in the San Fran area later this month. They offer great speeds unlimited for unmatched prices.
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Also, if you are in anyway interested in engineering or geologic sciences, School of Mines would be one of the best choices you could make. Seriously good school for anything hard science related.
But then again thats ALL that they offer here. It's engineering, math, chemistry, drilling/petroleum, geology, and some other shit. Only non science degree is econ O.o
But ya, seriously look at Mines if you are into the science area.
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You're joking about merced right? I remember when I was applying for colleges, they accepted me even though I didn't even check their box.
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you gotta try harder.
you still got nothing on him.
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On December 11 2010 14:16 redtooth wrote:you gotta try harder. you still got nothing on him.
wow I knew the thread before I even opened it up haha
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Your family sounds poisonous. You really need to get out of that house.
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With all your intellect, why are you going to Merced? You know they pretty much have like 100% acceptance rate right?
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On December 11 2010 12:11 OpRaider wrote:Show nested quote +On December 11 2010 11:50 Froadac wrote:
ALSO...
What should I spend $5,500 on lol. I've refereed a lot and I have a good amount of money built up. Dunno what to spend it on. I guess I could get some epic steelseries stuff but... If you're looking for advice on what luxuries you should buy from people on the internet, I'd say you need to a get a reality check. Honestly, why would you spend $5,500 on something that's unnecessary AND something you have no desire for? Just throwing money around? Save, young people don't do this enough, just spend spend spend, and then wonder why they are in debt...
Err, the way FAFSA works I'd either spend it on college, or spend it now, on something I would enjoy. I actually haven't spent shit, and I have 9k in the bank. Still saving 4000 lol.
Also, the shit hits the fan I guess
SO my parents are always yelling about my amount of sleep blah blah blah.
So I talk to them and they are like do you agree to ahve a hard cap to go to bed at 11:00. I'm like hell no, why the hell would I want a hard cap. Like if I have a project or something.
Today, they use that and are like "you didn't cooperate you fucktard" (fucktard --> idiot) so now we're going to set up the router on a timer and it's going to turn off at 10:30.
At first I tried to be nice saying, well last three nights I've gone to bed pre 11:00, and had over eight hours of sleep. But NOOO they only magically jknow when I stay up til one, but they can't fucking know when I go to bed at the same time thjey do for THREE FUCKING DAYS IN A ROW.
And then I'm like well arlgith, I'll go to bed that early, but leave the internet on. It's fucking retarded to not trust me with something that trivial. But they are like no, it shouldn't matter. Even though it isn't that important cause in ormally am off the comp around that time, it's just put me on tilt so bad. I mean, they think that staying up til 11:00 on a computer is fucking awful, when my best friend from fourth grade just got suspended for smoking in the bathroom. I mean, there is a hell of a lot worse stuff I could be doing, the only reasno I don't ahve a 4.6 is I panicked during two huge tests because of the pressure, blah blah blah. So then they say the stupidest bullshit: Well this isn't punitive or rewarding, it's just good. No, what the fuck. YOu're punishing me for not doing exactly what you wanted earlier. It's not a "good thing" It's fucking punitive action being taken against me.
Soon after this i just said screw this, took a shower, and I'm going to go to bed after this post at 9:30. But they are going to be gone tomorrow morning. It tempted me to unplug their harddrive, and just put it in my computer. They don't know enough about computers to figure it out, and they wouldn't suspect me because their computer is always beraking.
On the other hand the good person in me said that's an evil thing to do.
My bad side just said well, they keep on taking away priviledges, and then telling me that I don't have enough responsibilities, but I"m not responsible enough to have them. Then they ask me for help with their computer. So I should just even the deal by doing it.
I don't think I will, but I'm jsut so mad right now. Want to kill somebody.
In other news I had them watch Day[9] 100. Their reaction was basically: that LOSER went to Harvey Mudd and now he is doing this SHIT. What kind of an idiot is he, and his mother is a bad parent. And HOW THE HELL did he get into USC for postgrad. They then proceded to mock his weight, said that if I looked up to a guy like him I was delusional, and that Day9 should basically get a life.
@Mortality: I do but I don't know how. I don't really particularly want to be an emancipated minor, but I'm fucking up in school as a result of the pressure, and the family stuff.
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Oh, to clear things up
NOTE: I'm a junior, Merced would be my like last choice backup, and my mom was merely insulting me. I will apply to berkeley and LA, and if I get into LA I'll go there. In fact, although I've always wanted to go to berkeley it's too goddamn close to the house. I would go if I got in, but even if I got into a not as good east coast private, I think i'd go just to get the hell away.
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Froadac I feel really sorry for you
T____T;;
Just be confident that you're essentially in any UC bar Berkeley and LA.
Even then, you're pretty much guaranteed for Berkeley or LA as long if you don't fuck up your essays!
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Thanks Fraggles
I mean, my cum will hopefully be like 4.31 or something like that. But that's sort of optimisticish. I could drop an A, so then I'm at like a 4.2 :/ I mean, still guaranteed for berkeley.
Then there is my test scores.
And then there is the fact I've had a shitton of surgeries which make good essays and are good extenuating circumstances.
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oh god i laughed at their day[9] comments, these are the worst parents ever
you dont need to be awful parents to get your kid motivated
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Also although it might be awkward, I might bring you part 4 in video format? Their rants are super long, and generally occur in the area of my webcam. So I might be able to put to gether some epic clips.
I'll pull this image after a while, but for the sake of you guys
I bring you
Public enemies 1 and 2
censored
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btw, what do they do for a living?
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Dad is a civil engineer for caltrans.
Mom was a pharmacist, but now she spends all her time at home eating. In fact, she has ~= no friends, ans somehow spends all day at home, while the house becomes a wreck because of her crap, and then she blames it on my dad. And the rest of the faimly.
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Show some respect, get a job, ace that shit and move on. Bitchn' ain't gonna help son.
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Lol. I mean I"m having ridiculously tasty almond brittle right now, but a lot of her cooking is questionable. It is vary variant. I cook rkorean once a week, and it's almost always thought to bve the best meal.
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Reading through all this, I actually feel bad for you
In a few years you'll look back at all this shit you wrote, and realize how immature and stupid it is lol.
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Emperorchampion: My thoughts. Although I beg to differ on bitching. It helps me vent my stress.
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On my part and theirs probably lol
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Well I felt kind of bad for you, but the way you talk to your parents and then post their picture and mention possibly posting a video made me think otherwise. You are not always going to agree with your parents and sometimes they won't understand your situation, but they care about you and they are going to be your parents forever.
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Honestly bro, it's not really important where you end up for college as long as you're pursuing your interests and using your strengths and not being lazy. It's all about the work after college not streesing about where you or your parents might want you to go.
This is probably one of the most important things I learned in college.
Anyway, gl hf hope shit works out for you.
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On December 11 2010 15:24 Shatter wrote:
Well I felt kind of bad for you, but the way you talk to your parents and then post their picture and mention possibly posting a video made me think otherwise. You are not always going to agree with your parents and sometimes they won't understand your situation, but they care about you and they are going to be your parents forever.
Both rash. Going to remove both. Just angry doing stupid things
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So I dunno, justn eed to put up with this shit.
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what classes are you taking by the way? i just don't know what to say other than to hope for the best
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5 weighted
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In time, you will realize that you're in one of two situations: your parents have a terribly distorted way about caring about you or that they are irredeemable jackasses.
If truly conclude its the latter, ask yourself this question: do I stand to gain financially if I don't destroy my relationship with them?
If no, burn away. But I highly doubt this to be the case, which means you'll need a way to dissipate your reflexive anger at what you perceive to be unjust in semi-productive fashions. Pick up writing or something. Besides, internalizing anger is one of the most important life skills. Its not just now you have to put up with irrational shit.
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I think it's just distorted.
I've internalized it for 4 years
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which five :O. i like bbq's idea of writing o.O. i mean obviously you're writing here but you could do more
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Hey, when/why did your icon become a goon? I remember a marine or something when you were <500 posts. XP
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Ok, I really hope you listen to this- pretty much everyone here has been through the same situation. It's not as bad as you think. Just keep a level head, and don't do anything you will regret later- which honestly will be pretty drastic! Parents are pretty forgiving people, you can't expect everyone to be perfect, especially young people lol. I remember I had thoughts of moving into an apartment for quite a few months, don't do anything like that lol xD. It kinda sucks until you move out, shit happens, ect. Just keep that in mind. Maybe try getting out of the house more idk? Also, everything has a way of working out in the end.
le sigh...
and yes living on your own is as awesome and stressful as you imagine.
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Thanks emperor. My parents aren't that forgvign in the short term, but maybe long term...
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Hello, Asian guy with same SAT score here...
Your blog post makes your parents sound really ridiculous... it seems that they don't understand the college process very well at all. Even as an asian guy (SENIOR -_-), my parents don't give me much crap about grades, because they understand the situation quite well and understand what I'm doing. The battle you're fighting here is ignorance, not attitude. As long as you keep that in mind, things will go much smoother.
Comparing someone with a 2300+ and 4.3 to someone who dropped out of high school is really fucking ridiculous though... Do you go to a particularity rigorous high school?
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Well, it's a public, but it's a real rigorous one for a public.
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Meh, advice never helps much. Life it too much of a learning experience. You'll figure shit out as you go along.
gl
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So... real anticlimactic.
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On December 11 2010 15:49 emperorchampion wrote:
Ok, I really hope you listen to this- pretty much everyone here has been through the same situation. It's not as bad as you think. Just keep a level head, and don't do anything you will regret later- which honestly will be pretty drastic! Parents are pretty forgiving people, you can't expect everyone to be perfect lol. I remember I had thoughts of moving into an apartment for quite a few months, don't do anything like that lol xD. It kinda sucks until you move out, shit happens, ect. Just keep that in mind. Maybe try getting out of the house more idk? Also, everything has a way of working out in the end.
le sigh...
Great post.
Been in the same experience (you probably studied harder than I did, OP)... a lot of ugly gnashing of teeth and clashing involved, haha. Because we're a family of incredibly stubborn people, we took years to reach an acceptable compromise which included both study and social life.
I guess I'm saying you need to stand up for yourself and offer a little resistance, but do try to be as level headed as you can and don't enter a debate if you know you're gonna blow up at them. Because you don't want to be looking back in a couple of years and regret the things you said/did.
As for strategy, IMO, you should take the high road first and sit them down calmly to discuss your situation, line out your thoughts and make sure to show that you understand their point of view by saying it out loud.
If they refuse to compromise at all, which may be very likely because they might simply not be used to it, offer up some non-violent resistance. I don't just mean physically, I mean don't get into a shouting match because it helps no one when emotions run high and there's just no sense wasting energy by arguing with a mug. Do something to show you will stand up for yourself and will stand your ground, maybe by staying out late a couple nights a week, etc. You will know what the most effective strategy is, it's the one that's gonna majorly piss off your parents and show you're serious, lol. Anyway doing this is bound to result in further punishment but stick to your guns at this point! You have to be willing to take the blows.
After a couple weeks, tensions have kind of simmered down because your parents have something that came up at work or just life in general and are sort of preoccupied with that, and you ask for another negotiation session. This time they're not the only ones holding cards. If this still doesn't work then go back and make a slightly bigger change that's gonna piss off your parents, a slightly bigger sacrifice in terms of punishment.
This is a process that may take more than one go around, but it's how life/nature teaches us to assert ourselves. I believe it's a natural process for a child to have to put up resistance a bit against their parents, it's basically a life stage =). When you show that what they can do to reprimand you doesn't work in achieving their end result, you've taken away their big weapon, you've taken away their leverage and they'll realize eventually that they need to engage in a mature discussion. They'll also realize that you have matured.
Anyway, through it all, don't get pissed off and act out, don't blow up and don't get into a shouting match. Stick with your guns and be respectful, classy and always take the high road so your parents are forced to treat you as a maturing teen/young adult. Remember you weren't always a teenager, you used to be a darling who did everything they were told but times change and from what I've gathered it's always hard for parents, even the most understanding ones, to accept that change. Your parents are only human after all, and sometimes they're overbearing but they're your parents, dude. They don't have the right to push you around like they are, but they do deserve that respect.
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Just curious, how long did typing this up on an iTouch take you? that kind of shit would take me an hour >.>
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Oh. Half itouch. Half computer. When I typed it on the itouch I decided it would take too long, so wen tout.
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I got into every UC school except LA and Berkely with a 4.3 gpa but a really average SAT score. Applied under bio, don't even know why - I switched to a diff major. You'll be fine in your college admissions. Parents can be insane - they're supportive now that I'm away from them but I remember when I lived at home they drived me up the effing wall. Like everyone says, just stick to it, take the bs, and sooner or later you'll be out and you can study in peace. gl
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Tell them that if they want to discuss percentiles, your internet speed is in the bottom 15% in an internationally-conducted survey (meaning that it's compared to very cruddy isps in remote and/or technologically-inferior countries).
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The sooner you learn to listen, ignore, and manipulate the happier you'll be. Here's a hint to help you along: the brute force approach never works and usually makes things worse.
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On December 11 2010 11:50 Froadac wrote:
ALSO...
What should I spend $5,500 on lol. I've refereed a lot and I have a good amount of money built up. Dunno what to spend it on. I guess I could get some epic steelseries stuff but...
If you're asking a forum what you should spend money on, then you probably shouldn't be spending it in the first place. Wait until you actually want something.
And ignore your parents, I guess =/. Mine are the same way. I just ignore them. There's really nothing else I can do.
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On December 11 2010 11:50 Froadac wrote:
ALSO...
What should I spend $5,500 on lol. I've refereed a lot and I have a good amount of money built up. Dunno what to spend it on. I guess I could get some epic steelseries stuff but...
Get your driver's license and get a car, if you don't have those already.
As far as everything else in this thread: I'm way too stubborn to have put up with the shit you've gone through. I have in the past given my parents right back what they threw at me. Granted, I was wrong most of time, and didn't know it. If you're telling as an unbiased story as you can, then pretty much at this point you should be telling your parents to fuck right off. Or you could be a real shithead and tell them if they keep giving you crap that you really are going to drop out of high school and be a loser like your cousin. I wouldn't recommend that, but man do I love doing stuff like that for giggles.
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6 Hours! What is wrong with TL people.
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Osaka27130 Posts
evilteletubby is a manager at comcast, shoot him a PM.
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I dunno man, you sounded like someone who's bit full of himself and is complaining over nothing serious.
Need some growing up.
Take some hard classes in college, that'll pound the pain into your growing up to a man!
good luck!
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On December 11 2010 19:39 ThunderGod wrote:
6 Hours! What is wrong with TL people.
Iono for me it's coding :p
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On December 11 2010 21:33 evanthebouncy! wrote:
I dunno man, you sounded like someone who's bit full of himself and is complaining over nothing serious.
Need some growing up.
Take some hard classes in college, that'll pound the pain into your growing up to a man!
good luck!
Holy shit. I was reading this this morning and I'd ahve to agree.
Worse things have happened to me, but I just got really upset last night. I'd have to agree that it really isn't that painful, but it is quite frustrating.
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Hello,
Barring true child abuse, which I don't think is happening in your case,
Here is my advice and I wish I had followed it. Understand that parents are very human. Be compassionate despite their outbursts or irrationality. Have you never been irrational in your life? Adults have a long history behind them; they have years of experience that have shaped them in deep ways for better or for worse, perhaps embittered them or caused them to have strong convictions about certain things. Do not be so presumptuous to assume that you know everything about them.
Sure they are probably not doing an ideal parenting job. But how often do you try to show kindness/respect to them? You mentioned that your mom stays at home all day and the house is a wreck. Why don't you try cleaning the house once in a while? How often do you ask your parents how they are doing/feeling?
Don't get me wrong, my experience doing kind things will still get you yelled at. But overtime, it can forge a stronger relationship that is not based purely on fighting and conflict.
As for academics, I think everyone knows how well they could be doing and how much they are trying. If you are trying your hardest and this is your result, then be proud of it. If you have other priorities besides school that trump grades, then that is fine. But if you are playing too much starcraft/spending time being emo a ton then maybe you should just man up and tough through school for a while.
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I suppose in the long term you're right. Even though when I clean around the house I get yelled at for not doign a good enough job, it's still probably a favorable ting to do.
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On December 11 2010 14:38 Froadac wrote:Show nested quote +On December 11 2010 12:11 OpRaider wrote:On December 11 2010 11:50 Froadac wrote:
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ALSO...
What should I spend $5,500 on lol. I've refereed a lot and I have a good amount of money built up. Dunno what to spend it on. I guess I could get some epic steelseries stuff but... If you're looking for advice on what luxuries you should buy from people on the internet, I'd say you need to a get a reality check. Honestly, why would you spend $5,500 on something that's unnecessary AND something you have no desire for? Just throwing money around? Save, young people don't do this enough, just spend spend spend, and then wonder why they are in debt... Err, the way FAFSA works I'd either spend it on college, or spend it now, on something I would enjoy. I actually haven't spent shit, and I have 9k in the bank. Still saving 4000 lol. Also, the shit hits the fan I guess SO my parents are always yelling about my amount of sleep blah blah blah. So I talk to them and they are like do you agree to ahve a hard cap to go to bed at 11:00. I'm like hell no, why the hell would I want a hard cap. Like if I have a project or something. Today, they use that and are like "you didn't cooperate you fucktard" (fucktard --> idiot) so now we're going to set up the router on a timer and it's going to turn off at 10:30. At first I tried to be nice saying, well last three nights I've gone to bed pre 11:00, and had over eight hours of sleep. But NOOO they only magically jknow when I stay up til one, but they can't fucking know when I go to bed at the same time thjey do for THREE FUCKING DAYS IN A ROW. And then I'm like well arlgith, I'll go to bed that early, but leave the internet on. It's fucking retarded to not trust me with something that trivial. But they are like no, it shouldn't matter. Even though it isn't that important cause in ormally am off the comp around that time, it's just put me on tilt so bad. I mean, they think that staying up til 11:00 on a computer is fucking awful, when my best friend from fourth grade just got suspended for smoking in the bathroom. I mean, there is a hell of a lot worse stuff I could be doing, the only reasno I don't ahve a 4.6 is I panicked during two huge tests because of the pressure, blah blah blah. So then they say the stupidest bullshit: Well this isn't punitive or rewarding, it's just good. No, what the fuck. YOu're punishing me for not doing exactly what you wanted earlier. It's not a "good thing" It's fucking punitive action being taken against me. Soon after this i just said screw this, took a shower, and I'm going to go to bed after this post at 9:30. But they are going to be gone tomorrow morning. It tempted me to unplug their harddrive, and just put it in my computer. They don't know enough about computers to figure it out, and they wouldn't suspect me because their computer is always beraking. On the other hand the good person in me said that's an evil thing to do. My bad side just said well, they keep on taking away priviledges, and then telling me that I don't have enough responsibilities, but I"m not responsible enough to have them. Then they ask me for help with their computer. So I should just even the deal by doing it. I don't think I will, but I'm jsut so mad right now. Want to kill somebody. In other news I had them watch Day[9] 100. Their reaction was basically: that LOSER went to Harvey Mudd and now he is doing this SHIT. What kind of an idiot is he, and his mother is a bad parent. And HOW THE HELL did he get into USC for postgrad. They then proceded to mock his weight, said that if I looked up to a guy like him I was delusional, and that Day9 should basically get a life. @Mortality: I do but I don't know how. I don't really particularly want to be an emancipated minor, but I'm fucking up in school as a result of the pressure, and the family stuff. [/spolier]
lol, ok I'll add some new feedback because your parents are a lot like mine with the Internet shut off charade. (By the way, if you can figure out the password to the router you can change the times as you see fit, it's wonderful ;D)
First off, you are a teenager. You're young, you're in what may be the most relaxing part of your life. But there's one immutable fact you have to remember: you depend on your parents. Their attitudes won't change. They'll continue to expect straight A's, compliance with all their wishes, etc. It sucks, believe me I know, but now you get to play one of (what I think is) the greatest games a teenager can play: psychologically defeating your parents.
Their strictness on classes and such can't change. That's a fight you shouldn't enter. You also can't stop their judgmental tendencies (i.e. Day[9]. What they said about him was a clear indicator that your parents are just judgmental assholes, sorry :/ Their line of thinking comes from an older generation that simply cannot relate to Day). But the fight you can win is the Internet shut off time. NEVER try to argue to them that you need it longer. There isn't an argument that exists that'll work. But you can change their minds by using selective nights to change their minds.
What I mean is this: ask them to turn on your Internet for longer for one night, telling them you have a project that you'll need it for. Your parents may be stubborn, but they care more about your grades than your Internet time so they'll change it. (If they don't, you don't chew them out about it. Just accept their decision and go about happily pretending you just failed a project. Instant win np.) Keep up asking them every now and then, make up different reasons. As long as you show yourself to be trustworthy when you ask for Internet, eventually they'll question you less and just extend your time. If you're lucky, they'll take off the ban altogether and hoorays all around.
This is a game of time and patience. Your parents have all the time in the world, because your Internet time doesn't matter to them. MAKE IT matter to them, by making Internet time influence your grades. One card you have is that school now is nothing like it used to be, so play that card as subtlely as you can.
Appease your parents. Know what they want, make it synonymous with what you want. You're obviously smart, get creative and own some face.
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My parents are using one of those plastic timers for the outlet to shut the power off for the rouer at a certain time. If at any time I wanted to use it I could just press a button and its' off. Plus I have the pass to the router: I'm the one who set it up.
So you are saying win individual fights?
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On December 12 2010 05:45 Froadac wrote:
My parents are using one of those plastic timers for the outlet to shut the power off for the rouer at a certain time. If at any time I wanted to use it I could just press a button and its' off. Plus I have the pass to the router: I'm the one who set it up.
So you are saying win individual fights?
I'm saying manipulate them into thinking that letting you keep your Internet on will help your academics. You know your parents best, formulate a plan that'll work best in your case and then act it out. But influencing strict parents takes time, especially ones as hard-headed as yours.
Also lol shut off button. That's so much simpler than what I was thinking
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Yeah. Rofl. They told me they'd turn it off. Then they disconnected the router to set it up, so I went in to investigate. Theyr'e using something labeled a "christmas tree timer" rofl.
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Update on internet: mission has failed. Evidently 43 usd/month is waay too much
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Your posts have a lot of ADD going on and it's no brained that this probably represents the way you act in real life. If that's the case then it's no wonder your parents treat you like they do and I can't help but take your stories with a grain of salt because every person your age exaggerates the amount they go through.
Btw I live in the east bay too Pinole area.
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On December 12 2010 16:03 Froadac wrote:Update on internet: mission has failed. Evidently 43 usd/month is waay too much
you've got $5500, why not pay for it yourself?
you'll be going to college in less than a year anyway
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On December 12 2010 21:37 adeezy wrote:
Your posts have a lot of ADD going on and it's no brained that this probably represents the way you act in real life. If that's the case then it's no wonder your parents treat you like they do and I can't help but take your stories with a grain of salt because every person your age exaggerates the amount they go through.
Btw I live in the east bay too Pinole area.
I'm not ADD, but I admittedly got pretty mad, which made me impulsive, but I'm not ADD
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