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I've started my career and things are going really well, my fiancée has started her career as well and things are going equally good. We are moving from our small apartment to a town house and getting some new furniture, it's something I've never been so excited about before now. You see I am 24 years old and my fiancée is 28. We are engaged to get married next summer, probably the most anticipated day of my life. I can't wait, I'm ecstatic. The thought of standing at the altar, watching her walking towards me in a beautiful white dress brings tears to my eyes.
You see, I'm 24 years old and just starting my life with the woman I am sure I was destined to be with. I would lay down my life for this woman in a heart beat, I would do anything I possibly could to protect her from harm and provide her with anything she may desire. I want to have a baby, something I've never wanted before. I want to have not just a baby, but a baby with her. This is something that I think about quite often to be truthful.
Today we got a phone call from the doctor, I knew it wasn't good by the cold and shallow tone in my beautiful wife to be's voice. We may not be able to have that child, I may not even be able to have her for as long as I want and thought that I would. You see, I'm 24 years old and this can't be the beginning of the end of our lives....
Edit: Cancer
 
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This + your username = an eerie/sad story.
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You have my thoughts and prayers.
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But you've tried so hard and come so far
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On October 07 2010 05:10 Horrde wrote:
But you've tried so hard and come so far
But he has to fall to lose it all!
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On October 07 2010 05:03 ilovezil wrote:
This + your username = an eerie/sad story.
And don't forget the sig also... very eerie indeed. Though I hope everything turns out alright.
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Wow, that`s unfortunate. I can`t imagine wanting to have a child but I guess i can still sympathize somewhat. Hopefully it works out for you after all!
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Austin10833 Posts
This is pretty cryptic. Is this a real situation with your fiancee's health or something (or is this just fiction)? Can you tell us more?
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Why can't she have babies? Fertility issues?
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No, the phone call was from the doctor.. Yes, it's a real situation.
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You can always adopt. I can't wait to have children, but if for some reason I can't (or she can't) I'd adopt. It doesn't matter to me whether it's biological or not, I'll love it just the same. Plus, the child you're adopting you're most likely rescuing from having a horrible upbringing, and you're giving it a lovely home.
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I can deal with not having a baby with her, it's something I've wanted to share and experience with her, but its not the end of the world. Losing her isn't something I can deal with though..
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I saw you edited Cancer. Breast cancer? Cancer is not always a death sentence in todays world, and if you caught it early, chances are quite high it'll be OK.
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All I am is sadface right now
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It's not breast cancer, we go in on the 15th to discuss the issue with the doctor and then wait for an appointment at the hospital to see what they can see/do.
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Austin10833 Posts
Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. Best of luck to you both. They're making pretty amazing strides in medicine now, my Mom went through cancer and came out fine. It wasn't easy, but she's still here and strong as ever, so don't get yourself too down just yet.
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:/ That sucks. All I can say is I hope it'll be OK so you can grow old with the woman you love.
Oh and yeah, stay positive. Do not let whatever ails your future wife turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy of despair.
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I'm hoping for the best. I needed to voice my frustration and sadness, you see I don't want that being something she has to worry about. I have to be that rock, that shoulder that she can lean on and depend on through all of this. I have to be her light, I have to stay strong, for her. It's just frustrating, sickening and infuriating that someone so young, has to think about going through this.. I apologize for the emotional spill, I just needed to get it out somewhere.
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I hope everything goes well and she will be able to have a babe in the future. Never give up!
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Cancer isn't a done deal -- especially if caught early.
Continue as planned and pray like mad imo.
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Praying is one of the first things I did, I'm not overly religious but I was raised Roman Catholic and do attend Church from now and then. I believe in my faith and I acknowledge not everyone may agree or their opinions may differ. I pray that everything will be ok, I pray that if something is seen and nothing can be done, that he take my place for her health. 
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Have faith man, the fight against cancer is more in our favour than it was years ago. With that said, best of luck, I'm hoping for you guys.
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Thanks everyone, I truly appreciate this.
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Belgium6773 Posts
I wish you the most of strength. I'm sure you'll be a pillar of hope for her so just don't lose faith okay?
TL is always here to listen, good luck.
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Good luck. Thoughts and prayers are with you and her.
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oh man, one of the scariest things that could happen to someone. It's okay as well to spill your sadness, since TL is very good at listening to issues.
Man all hope for the best, as long as she lives there is still hope.
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I'm sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your fiancee.
Do you know what kind of cancer? Also, my dad's a doctor, and he's confessed that doctors often give patients the worst case scenario so they don't give people false hope and get sued down the road. So depending on the situation it may not be as bad as it's made out to be.
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May the cis-platin insert neatly into the DNA of all her oncogenic cells.
Best of luck.
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We go in the 15th to find out all the details.. I'm not going to lie, I'm nervous. I've never been so scared of something in all my life. I can't stand the thought of potentially losing her, I'm praying so hard that it's good news..
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believe in the power of positive thinking/prayers from the TL people, we all prayed for Anna to win Miss Oregon and look at what happened! Good luck and Godbless with the results
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On October 07 2010 06:12 LonelyIslands wrote:
We go in the 15th to find out all the details.. I'm not going to lie, I'm nervous. I've never been so scared of something in all my life. I can't stand the thought of potentially losing her, I'm praying so hard that it's good news..
I'd suggest assuming that it's not going to be a very bad case until you hear otherwise. No use in giving yourself unneeded stress or heartache by assuming the worst. It's easier said than done, but if you start looking at all of the worst case scenarios you'll drive yourself crazy.
Once again, my prayers go out to you and I hope that the visit on the 15th brings good news, relatively speaking.
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On October 07 2010 05:57 Xeofreestyler wrote:
I wish you the most of strength. I'm sure you'll be a pillar of hope for her so just don't lose faith okay?
TL is always here to listen, good luck.
Dont lose your hope ! keep you head up!
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I hope everything goes great, man. I really hope that your fiancee gets cured. Cancer sucks but it's not a death sentence anymore, especially if it's caught early. Keep hope
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On October 07 2010 05:00 LonelyIslands wrote:
You see, I'm 24 years old and just starting my life with the woman I am sure I was destined to be with. I would lay down my life for this woman in a heart beat, I would do anything I possibly could to protect her from harm and provide her with anything she may desire.
dont trip on your leash bro
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Lost 2 relatives to cancer already, my mother had breast cancer and survived. Don't give it up. Times might be tough, but afterwards you'll appreciate her even more.
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I'm 24 and feel similarly about my older girlfriend. Strange how your expectations and goals can change almost overnight. Kids weren't on the agenda for me, at all, until I met her. I hope things aren't as dark as they seem for you and your fiance. Good luck, I hope it all turns out for the best.
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If I could somehow take your wifes cancer on myself I totally would.
-truth
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I feel for you man, that really isn't good, I hope it works out who knows it could be a false positive or something. Got to always think the positives
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I always have trouble coming up with something genuine to say in these situations that doesn't end up coming off as very callous.
I guess I just wish you the best in dealing with whatever happens, and hope that it works out well. Life can be hard and that's especially true if you get attached to things.
Anyways it sounds like you don't really know what is going to happen yet, so don't overworry yourself.
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Oh boy, that really sucks. Hope you both make it out off this with minimal stress and one day leave it all behind and never look back.
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My absolute best wished to you and your wife. I know quite a few people that have survived different types of cancer, so the chances that this will be ok is definately there.
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Thank you everyone for your kind words, very much.
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I wish you the best, sincerly.
Don't forget that majority of cancers get cured today. Medicine has done incredible progress, and we are able to deal with a majority of cancers today.
Life is hard; hard but fantastic. Keep faith. When it turns out fine, you will enjoy every second of your common life as much as most people enjoy their whole marital life.
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Best of luck to the both of you, you really have someone special and I hope it works out.
Since your appointment isn't til the 15th, I would say that is good news, if the cancer was bad, the meeting would be much sooner. Don't worry yourself too much, she's young and they likely found it early enough.
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I'm sorry to hear that. Hope for best but prepare for the worst, since cancer at younger age will develop faster. Best wishes to you both.
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Singapore66357 Posts
Wow, I really pray that it's early stage. My mom had cervical cancer but luckily it was detected early so she's all fine now. I understand how you feel, it's the same way I felt when my mom was getting to see if she's going to live or not. I'm not religious or what, but I'll be praying for you anyway. Wishing all the best.
On another note, I saw this TV show where lung cancer or something was cured in Korea, I forgot the name of the show but I'm checking around if I can find the show's name. With the medical advancements, I'm sure there's much higher fighting chance here. Never lose hope!
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Hey good luck man, I just lost a really close uncle to cancer so I understand the anticipation to find out what they can do. Best of luck keep a positive attitude.
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Jesus Christ I am so, so sorry.
I'm of a similar age and situation and I'm not sure I'd have the strength to cope with something like that. I hope you're a better man than I.
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Never say never. I'm rooting for you and your fiance
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Things are going to be ok...I knew this guy named Walter and he was diagnosed with lung cancer. With some chemotherapy and a desire, he came out of it fine....for now. Sure the medical bills are going to add up, but he found a way to pay them.
There is always hope.
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