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XiaoJoyce-
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
China2908 Posts
July 06 2010 11:06 GMT
#1
I saw a blog about IRC chat.
I want to understand what is going on.
There is a chatlog saved, but it was too long and I read halfway I felt dizzy. So I give up.

I remember one time teamliquid was down. There is a link for IRC chat channel. And I thought IRC chat channel is open temporary during Teamliquid maintainence.

Only after long time I found out actually there is a link for IRC chat channel at the very very very bottom of teamliquid webpage.

So I am curious again, I visit for fun. I login and...
Ah, it is different from Livestream chat. No spamming. But alot *Somebody has joined* and *Somebody has left* . So it is pretty annoying too.

There is only a little people chatting. I come to chat too, but I do not know how to chat.

I mean, I wanted to say hi. But I am scare nobody will reply back. So I try to blend in. That time there are 2-3 people talking about some slut. I am not sure what are they talking about. But I try to blend in anyway.

It goes something like this.

XiaoJoyce-:Which Slut?
Someone: You.
Someone: XiaoJoyce- the Slut.

I quit IRC chat soon after. Because I feel sad.
Sorry, wrong word. I feel awkward.
No, Actually I feel sad.
Ah, I am confusing.
I think I want to say I quit IRC soon after because
I feel awkward, little bit sad too, and pretty much confused.

-----------------------------------------------------------

Recently I play game with someone I know. We were in the same team, then we lost. I was upset, but I guessed he knew since I left the game few seconds before the game is officially over. I think I Rage Quit.

Then he went msn and talk to me

Him: ...
Me: Why didn't you help me? I am infront of you, enemy is infront of us. We can kill him if we worked together.
Him: Ah, I give up the match, lols. Can't win.
Me: Yea, if my ex is playing, we will win the game.
Him: Whatever...

And he signed out. At this moment I felt something was wrong. Maybe I said the wrong word. But it all happened too fast. So I thought next time we chat, I am going to say sorry. But we never chat after this incident.

I felt, if he talk to me, I say sorry. If he didn't talk to me. I am not going to care.

I think I should talk to him and apologized. Maybe if I do that, that means I have grown up. keke.

-----------------------------------------------------------

I remember during secondary school days, I have troubles blending in. Let me introduce my secondary school.

Boy: Talk about Wrestling, Card games, Playstation 2, and other stuff growing up kids talk about.

Girl: More complicated. Too much varieties.

Ah, 1 thing in common, Guys talk about Girls. Girls talk about Guys.

Then there is me.

Me: I am nicknamed Blur. Because everytime teacher ask a simple question I go Huh? or Hmm? or ??? . Sometimes there is alot of question mark floating above my head for no reason. So I get teased alot.

One day I am so upset during composition writing I wrote about my feelings. Teacher find it ridiculous and read my writing to every1. I got condemed ever since

You know, once u get condemed, it is a very bad situation. There is 1 lame guy in class like to bully me. Do stupid stuff like steal my pencilbox and say he didn't. I told teacher about it and I got scolded.

Ah, sad secondary school days. I should have managed it better.

****
Pew! Pew! Chitty Chitty Bang Bang!
TheAntZ
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Israel6248 Posts
July 06 2010 11:19 GMT
#2
I dont think the guy on irc even knew you were a girl. But anyway, i'd LOVE to socialize with you.
asl? hi.
43084 | Honeybadger: "So july, you're in the GSL finals. How do you feel?!" ~ July: "HUNGRY."
Megalisk
Profile Blog Joined October 2008
United States6095 Posts
July 06 2010 11:27 GMT
#3
On July 06 2010 20:19 TheAntZ wrote:
I dont think the guy on irc even knew you were a girl. But anyway, i'd LOVE to socialize with you.
asl? hi.


Lol Antz, I love your posts in XJ-'s blogs xD.

Tear stained american saints and dirty guitar dreams across a universe of desert and blue sky , gas station coffee love letters and two dollar pistol kisses from thirty five dollar hotel room stationary .
XiaoJoyce-
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
China2908 Posts
July 06 2010 11:30 GMT
#4
On July 06 2010 20:19 TheAntZ wrote:
I dont think the guy on irc even knew you were a girl. But anyway, i'd LOVE to socialize with you.
asl? hi.


ASL is Age, Sex, Location. Right?

Age= Guess.
Sex= Guess.
Location = Guess. kekeke
Pew! Pew! Chitty Chitty Bang Bang!
n.DieJokes
Profile Blog Joined November 2008
United States3443 Posts
July 06 2010 11:31 GMT
#5
On July 06 2010 20:19 TheAntZ wrote:
I dont think the guy on irc even knew you were a girl. But anyway, i'd LOVE to socialize with you.
asl? hi.

Smooth
MyLove + Your Love= Supa Love
TheAntZ
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Israel6248 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-06 11:40:11
July 06 2010 11:35 GMT
#6
On July 06 2010 20:30 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 06 2010 20:19 TheAntZ wrote:
I dont think the guy on irc even knew you were a girl. But anyway, i'd LOVE to socialize with you.
asl? hi.


ASL is Age, Sex, Location. Right?

Age= Guess.
Sex= Guess.
Location = Guess. kekeke


Age = Age is just a number baby
Sex = Yes please. Not sure how we'd manage that over the internet though but for you, I will attempt anything
Location = Judging by your profile I'll wager that you're from Q-T town

so how do we do this? Like exchange messenger/email details or do we hop straight into pic trading?
Please be gentle kk, im sensitive
43084 | Honeybadger: "So july, you're in the GSL finals. How do you feel?!" ~ July: "HUNGRY."
XiaoJoyce-
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
China2908 Posts
July 06 2010 11:39 GMT
#7
The long chatlog...I pretty much give up after opening it

But I am so curious....ah....
Pew! Pew! Chitty Chitty Bang Bang!
Tyraz
Profile Blog Joined September 2008
New Zealand310 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-06 12:10:57
July 06 2010 12:09 GMT
#8
On July 06 2010 20:35 TheAntZ wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 06 2010 20:30 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
On July 06 2010 20:19 TheAntZ wrote:
I dont think the guy on irc even knew you were a girl. But anyway, i'd LOVE to socialize with you.
asl? hi.


ASL is Age, Sex, Location. Right?

Age= Guess.
Sex= Guess.
Location = Guess. kekeke


Age = Age is just a number baby
Sex = Yes please. Not sure how we'd manage that over the internet though but for you, I will attempt anything
Location = Judging by your profile I'll wager that you're from Q-T town

so how do we do this? Like exchange messenger/email details or do we hop straight into pic trading?
Please be gentle kk, im sensitive

NSFW! Make sure you spoiler the pics!
100% Pure.
]343[
Profile Blog Joined May 2008
United States10328 Posts
July 06 2010 12:51 GMT
#9
aww such a cute blog ^.^ just ... try more often to socialize and you'll slowly learn?
Writer
Happy.fairytail
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States327 Posts
July 06 2010 13:00 GMT
#10
+ Show Spoiler +
Then he went msn and talk to me

Him: ...
Me: Why didn't you help me? I am infront of you, enemy is infront of us. We can kill him if we worked together.
Him: Ah, I give up the match, lols. Can't win.
Me: Yea, if my ex is playing, we will win the game.
Him: Whatever...


Heh, does he like you or you like him? Mentioning the ex is kind of a no-no =P
niteReloaded
Profile Blog Joined February 2007
Croatia5281 Posts
July 06 2010 13:07 GMT
#11
lesson #1 - Not everything is about you.

You asked "which slut", and the standard response will probably look like that one did. It's teasing, it's what people do to play with each other and laugh as different scenarios occur in these verbal exchanges. It's nothing serious, it's like puppy lions paw-fighting, nobody gets hurt unless you're an oversensitive bitch, which you are at the moment, but that can change easily as you realize things.

So, you can't seriously expect anyone to respond with "Oh, hi XiaoJoyce, welcome to the chat, sunshine!! I assume you're enquiring about our topic of conversation? Well, we were discussing this promiscuous(...)"
FuRong
Profile Joined April 2010
New Zealand3089 Posts
July 06 2010 13:10 GMT
#12
IRC就是这样的,你最好别想得太多...
Don't hate the player, hate the game
XiaoJoyce-
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
China2908 Posts
July 06 2010 13:25 GMT
#13
On July 06 2010 22:07 niteReloaded wrote:
lesson #1 - Not everything is about you.

You asked "which slut", and the standard response will probably look like that one did. It's teasing, it's what people do to play with each other and laugh as different scenarios occur in these verbal exchanges. It's nothing serious, it's like puppy lions paw-fighting, nobody gets hurt unless you're an oversensitive bitch, which you are at the moment, but that can change easily as you realize things.

So, you can't seriously expect anyone to respond with "Oh, hi XiaoJoyce, welcome to the chat, sunshine!! I assume you're enquiring about our topic of conversation? Well, we were discussing this promiscuous(...)"


Maybe you are right.. sometimes I think too much.

I am sensitive, but not to so big extent..

Actually I already forgot about the incident the moment I quit IRC.
I just remember my IRC experience today because there is anoter blog about IRC and I just want to write about it.

Erm, ah, I don't know what to say to defend myself.

Maybe next time I will share more nice experience on blog instead of bad things..
Pew! Pew! Chitty Chitty Bang Bang!
love1another
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
United States1844 Posts
July 06 2010 13:27 GMT
#14
Well.... your 2 solutions to your problems.
1.) IRC is full of jokes like that. As persons before have said, just don't take it personally. It's a place where people joke around constantly.
2.) Don't mention your ex, and it's ok if you lose a game. Even if the other guy doesn't try... That's life
3.) TheAntz is a high templar. You should take him up on his offer.
"I'm learning more and more that TL isn't the place to go for advice outside of anything you need in college. It's like you guys just make up your own fantasy world shit and post it as if you've done it." - Chill
TheAntZ
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Israel6248 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-06 13:49:08
July 06 2010 13:46 GMT
#15
ah xiao, why do you ignore my love?
If only baller were here, he could explain my love for you using charts and bars.
Since he is not, I will try it myself

[image loading]

Please accept my moist offering, kk~
43084 | Honeybadger: "So july, you're in the GSL finals. How do you feel?!" ~ July: "HUNGRY."
ayababa
Profile Joined May 2010
Australia347 Posts
July 06 2010 13:51 GMT
#16
bahahahahahah @ the ANTz... hes a star for effort. nice graph.

XiaoJoyce - this is a pretty cute post.. (you probably dont think so though ) ... although i haven't ever had a problem with fitting in social environments be it online or offline... can i suggest...

if its on an online enviroment... just relax. your safe and sound behind that monitor and keyboard.. same goes for phones... if someone is low enough to pay you out, it just means there a complete loser, cos if they really new you i doubt they would call you a slut etc.

but yeah.. just try and relax a bit. you have nothing to lose when on the phone / messenger / chat etc etc. .. you can always just change your nickname haha.. OH wait... i had a good idea.. maybe create a fake nickname first... pretend that your someone else until your comfortable in chat rooms... then go back to being XiaoJoyce.

my 2 cents. best of luck.
Well done is better than well said - Benjamin Franklin
alffla
Profile Blog Joined November 2005
Hong Kong20321 Posts
July 06 2010 13:53 GMT
#17
blurr ni hao ^___^
Graphicssavior[gm] : What is a “yawn” rape ;; Masumune - It was the year of the pig for those fucking defilers. Chill - A clinic you say? okum: SC without Korean yelling is like porn without sex. konamix: HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMY!
Polemarch
Profile Joined August 2005
Canada1564 Posts
July 06 2010 13:56 GMT
#18
Joyce, a strange thing about the social world you're in right now is that the less you care about what people think about you, the more they'll like you. Everybody is struggling to seem confident and independent. Being self-conscious or getting upset is a sign of weakness. This is especially true for teenage boys in groups, and over the internet.

When you get older, more people around you will feel secure enough about themselves to want to take care of and encourage others. But you can't rely on this, you need to build up your confidence and independence to be able to stand on your own too.

Here's a good female role model for you:
http://celestinechua.com/blog/2009/02/how-to-increase-your-self-confidence/

Good luck! You can PM me if you want to talk more!
I BELIEVE IN CAPITAL LETTER PUNISHMENT!!!!!
December12345
Profile Joined July 2010
40 Posts
July 06 2010 14:10 GMT
#19
I think your attempts to make friends is wrong, because you are not familiar with the culture in the US. Let me explain. (I've gone through a lot of trouble as well, being a first generation immigrant, so I feel your pain.)

In China, the accepted way to make friends is to be nice, to be kind and respectful, and with lots of personality and unique and cute things to say.

In the US, the way to make friends is also that, but there are 2 stages. Second stage is where you can be unique, cute, personable, etc.

But first stage, you need to show no weakness!! You don't even know them yet. Everyone will be mean to you. If you ask "who is the slut", the answer will be you "you are the slut". If you ask, "Why are black people stupid?" they will automatically say "Because you have no brain". You get the idea.

I think this is because psychologically, between age 12-16 is when people are the meanest. US students learn to do this in high school and middle school. In China, high school and middle school is too stressful to socialize much, so Chinese students don't have time to develop the mean side of their personality.

Also, starcraft is only for nerds, and nerds already have very limited social skills. Secondly, starcraft is very competitive, so only competitive nerds play starcraft, so they are also very mean nerds. For example, if you go on a forum that discusses The Sims, the people there are much nicer of course. But of course, they are also much dumber, because mindless games attract mindless people (I guess mindless people are nicer?).
TheAntZ
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Israel6248 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-06 14:12:29
July 06 2010 14:10 GMT
#20
Xiao, dont pm Polemarch! Hes a bad bad man and he doesnt deserve your love like i do kk?

look I gave evidence

On March 27 2008 03:45 Polemarch wrote:
i think a limited amount of disrespect livens up the forum.


from this thread: click

HE WANTS PEOPLE TO DISRESPECT OTHERS. Do you see what kind of man he is? No? ok here is more evidence


On June 19 2007 16:37 Polemarch wrote: I think also be perfectly fine and interesting to play a variant where allied mines are allowed.


From here: click

He wants to allow allied mines! He likes cheating in starcraft! So bad...omg omg very k

YOU SEE? He is undeserving of being graced by your angelic PMs kk?

[image loading]

我爱你 <3
43084 | Honeybadger: "So july, you're in the GSL finals. How do you feel?!" ~ July: "HUNGRY."
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