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You've placed her on a pedestal. She's no where as amazing as you think she is. Don't date her cuz then you'll force yourself to realize the awful truth of the world.

One could realize the "aweful truth" that they formed an ideal through some girl built up around infatuation and fantasy. But what comes next is realizing that it was you who turned yourself around, not her.

To OP: You should definetely talk to her. Just be yourself, even if it's absolutely terrifying. And honestly, I think you should tell her what she's done for you. Learning something like this can be really flattering and make her feel great. Learning that she caused that much inspiration would, in the very least, totally make her day!

minus_human

4784 Posts

June 28 2010 18:52 GMT

#43

You barely know Katie. The person you knew in middleschool has changed greatly over time, and surely so have you. It's natural to do so, it comes with growing up. You are not in love with here or anything, you just have a crush that is highlighted by the nostalgia of your childhood. It's an illusion, you've fallen for the image of a perfect girl that you just projected on Katie in the past.

You have now grown, and you can see this for yourself. If you do not drastically change your state of mind, any kind of relationship with Katie is doomed to fail. I tell you this from personal experience. If you still want to approach her you have to basically change your whole attitude towards her, and treat her like someone you don't know at all, and get to know her, for real this time.

And again, from personal experience, you have a 99% chance of failure, sadly. That's how it was for me, surely we're different persons, but I'm just saying. It's good that the thought of her can give you motivation, however it would be infinitely healthier and more productive if you forget about her and channel your energy into a real relationship, with a new girl that you will learn to genuinely appreciate for what she really is.

minus_human

4784 Posts

June 28 2010 19:01 GMT

#44

On June 28 2010 09:06 GGTeMpLaR wrote:
I was in a situation somewhat similar to yours, not exactly the same but here's my advice for what it's worth:

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If you really think about this girl this much, after this long, without ever really getting to know her, you need to talk to her

if you talk to her,
worst case scenario: she's not interested, you learn and move on

if you don't talk to her,
worst case scenario: you'll never be able to entirely move on and regret it forever

This is exactly the kind of advice I consider highly misleading, no offence.

If a relationship with her happens and you keep this OMG she's a goddess attitude you're bound to fail.

UdderChaos

United Kingdom707 Posts

June 28 2010 20:33 GMT

#45

Prepare yourself for failure, and then go in, that way you won't be a mess, and if she says yes then it's all good. As long as your prepared for it mentally you just need to muster up the balls and talk to her seriously. Although personally i had a bad experience with a similar thing. I knew a girl when i was growing up, and around about from ages 4-6 we were "going out" (of course to young to understand what that meant) but my dad and her mum were best friends from school and we were in the same class at school so we see each other a lot. I changed schools and moved away. Anyways when i was 18 i was invited to her mum's birthday, it was 40th or something, and i saw this girl there, and she literally didn't remember me at all, her mum was quite shocked as well, and it was so awkward. What I'm saying is don't be like me and assume she will remember you, just prepare for a fail and take it in your stride and go for it, have no regrets, i mean your an adult now right? stop acting like a 15 year old pussy and more like a baller! good luck

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