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All of us have close friends/relatives. All of us have done something to alienate them at one point or another.
This creates tension / what I like to call "The Awkward Vibe."
I find this phenomally interesting because it's like a 6th sense. On a normal day, if no words are uttered between friend A and B, everything is normal. However, if A did something to antagonize B, then the silence feels totally awkward, like being suffocated.
What is it about us ( body language / tone of voice / ?? ) that creates this "tension/awkward vibe".
We all know when it exists as well as those around us, yet I just can't put my finger as to why we can realize it so easily. Or is this all just in my head and I'm imagining things?
 
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i live in a house with 4 other college students, and this happens to me all the time... and i always consider talking about whatever started it but i always think that could just make things worse.
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Uh, your brain causing a natural reaction to the current situation you're in?
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On January 14 2010 15:46 HuskyTheHusky wrote:
Uh, your brain causing a natural reaction to the current situation you're in?
HuskyTheHusky - Breakin' it down, but not really.
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because there is a problem that is unresolved and both of you are aware of it but dont want to be the one who confronts the other because if you do it leaves you vulnerable.
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whenever that happens (with close friends anyway) is to do one of the following:
a. fart very loudly
b. slap someone
c. yell something VERY awkward, to cause a laugh.
d. start imbibing alcohol
e. be a pussy and talk about shit.
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It's weird people always say to me, "well this is awkward" when it doesn't feel awkward for me at all
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On January 14 2010 16:24 Ludrik wrote:
It's weird people always say to me, "well this is awkward" when it doesn't feel awkward for me at all
"For one of us"
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I hate how alot of people are uncomfortable with silence. Personally I don't have that pressure to keep conversation up, but so much people spew bullshit because they're afraid to let it lapse into any silence.
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I only hate silence when eating. Usually isn't a problem with a friend because you talk about everything and don't care -- but silence at like a dinner table with several people where you can only hear chewing and silverware, for some reason it forces me to laugh =/
cant help it, but i guess it gets people talking again
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well, im positive it's a fear to compromise, and become vulnerable; we're all essentially animals.
i've gotten over this and only communicate to another person just to stimulate myself, or by absolute interest.
also, silences are boring; move onto another person. :\
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I'm sure that there is some sort of awkwardness there, but one person probably perceives it much more than the other. Sometimes the person who you thought you antagonized may not even care about what you did, but you think they do so you feel "awkward"
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awkwardness is relative, live care free and then don't worry about this worthless emotion/stigma trying to convince you to do something.
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Our thoughts affect our body language. When someone's watching you, you get a vague disconcerting feeling that you're being watched. And when you can see someone, you can get an idea of what they're thinking based on their body language. If it's awkward, you probably show it by coughing, avoiding their eyes or whatever.
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On January 14 2010 18:05 keepITup wrote:
I only hate silence when eating. Usually isn't a problem with a friend because you talk about everything and don't care -- but silence at like a dinner table with several people where you can only hear chewing and silverware, for some reason it forces me to laugh =/
cant help it, but i guess it gets people talking again
when I'm with people who aren't really close it's awkward if no one talks. but at home my family usually eats in silence. it's actually kind of nice, being alone with your thoughts but also having company... and eating delicious food at the same time =D
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On January 15 2010 05:58 ghostWriter wrote:
Our thoughts affect our body language. When someone's watching you, you get a vague disconcerting feeling that you're being watched. And when you can see someone, you can get an idea of what they're thinking based on their body language. If it's awkward, you probably show it by coughing, avoiding their eyes or whatever.
It's very interesting you say this. There have been multiple times when I'm in the library. And I'll randomly turn around and make complete eye contact with a random girl. We'll look for like 2-3 seconds, then both turn away at same time.
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There should be a science of awkwardness.
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